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murphyibiam15:
that guy is only interested in banging the babe, he's only pretending.. he's being emotionally cunning claiming not to want the gal.. LMAO

murphyibiam15:
LMAO, you're playing emotional game with her, I know your type..How can u be a best friend to her? how?

her cries mean nothing and you know this

OladimejiRufai:
This matter is really simple, I think.

Isn't relationship meant to be fun? Isn't one's partner meant to make one happy and fulfilled? Isn't it appropriate so as to avoid infidelity and problems that one should seek a partner that his/her heart feels strongly connected to and finds delight and solace in?

So if someone makes a mistake in fulfilling the above criteria, and the relationship is still at "relationship" stage, shouldn't the person correct it before marriage?

If the girl doesn't like the guy, it's very simple. Let her break up with him. Let her explain to him in the simplest and most gentle terms and manner. Let her make him realise that she wouldn't be happy neither will she commit to the relationship If they carry on because her heart is not with him and the guy wouldn't be happy either and eventually the relationship will still hit the rocks or will be filled with problems till the end.

Then let her go for who she loves.

But why did she accept to be in the relationship with him in first place? Girls can be funny ehn

No wait, guys do it too. in short, human beings can be funny

MrBrownJay1:
we all know that you didnt.... because thats what a REAL man would have done.

Sunisonflex39:
[s]do u prefer I rejected her all together and see her depressed?[/s]

Sunisonflex39:
I met this girl two years ago,to cut long story short she told me that she is in a relationship.i respected the fact that she have a guy And I stopped making advance as a gentleman. but I call as much as possible just to check on her.
then one night her boyfriend chatted me up on whatsap and as gentlemen, we talked about it like matured people and I told him I am not gonna stick around that he should talk to his girlfriend. I asked how he got my number, he said he secretly took it from her phone because of the many calls and most times I call, both of them are together.

I asked him what has the girl been telling him about me, he told me she is saying we are just friends and nothing much.
II apologized to him and said I will watch my limits that he should talk to the girl himself about it.

two days passed, I have stopped calling the girl like I used to, then on the third day she called and asked me why did I change all of a sudden that I no longer chat her up or call like I used to,she was being emotional, and as a good friend, I love her and wouldn't want to see her sad.

I opened up to her about what transpired between me and her guy and I begged her not to confront him. she was so mad at the guy for chatting me up after she has told him many times that I am "just a friend"

I told the girl that for the sake of her relationship, I don't want to stick around and I don't want to be the guy that breaks people relationship.

the girl started crying and said I should not leave her, that I should at least be her best friend that she can't loss me..
I agreed to be the bestfriend so as to make her feel happy..

fast forward to this week, the girl said she loves me so much and didn't know how to tell me before and she is kind off confused to chose between her guy and me.I told her that I love her too but she should not leave anybody for me that we should just continue being friends and see what the future holds because no one knows tomorrow.
few days ago, the girl said she want to have sex with me.. and even going as far as telling me the style she wants..

I respect the fact that she is in a relationship and I even told her about it, but she was having non of it.

please nairalanders, what should I do.

Sunisonflex39:
not that bro. if I wanted to sleep with her,i would v done that long ago..

Sunisonflex39:
I never for once imagined a case like this would come up.. even after the chat with the boyfriend and she confronted him.. they were still good after then.. it's just recently she told me that she loved me and didn't know how to tell me then.. I then called her over and talked to her in her face about me respecting the fact that she has a man.. that she should not consider leaving him for me..

MrBrownJay1:
bro...for the last time.... you gotta be HONEST with your own damn self. all these lies you are bringing are making NO DAMN SENSE!

ok lets go back again:
A) you meet a girl, you like her, chat her up and want to be with her and make advances. then she tells you she has a boyfriend.
COMMON SENSE: any normal man with common sense would simply back down and let this woman be..... oh but not you! you instead decided to back down and "call her to check up on her as much as possible"
the important question IS: why exactly?! what were you checking? her temperature? the weather? or simply putting yourself in a strategic position where you will be able to attack the minute there issue in her r/ship?!?!?!?!

B) her man notices you and asks you to back down, because you are in the way of his r/ship with the babe.
COMMON SENSE: any man with common sense would have back down for good... oh but NOT you. the minute babe called you , you instead ratted the dude out and further damage their r/ship.
the important question IS: what did you expect would happen when you run your mouth to her ?!?!?!?!?

C) the babe now come to you and say that she wants you to be her bestfriend as before...and you agreed because " you make her happy".
COMMON SENSE: come on bro, come on!!!!! how old are you to be telling us that much BS. you have NEVER planned on leaving this babe and have been sticking to her (like glue) since day one expecting her to fall so you can be there to catch her on the rebound...which is exactly what is happening.
the important question IS: what kind of "friend" are you to prefer destroying her r/ship so that you can be happy together?

here is the main question that you need to answer: put yourself in her man's shoes and tell us all (with a straight face) that there is absolutely nothing wrong with your actions

MrBrownJay1:
bro...for the last time.... you gotta be HONEST with your own damn self. all these lies you are bringing are making NO DAMN SENSE!

ok lets go back again:
A) you meet a girl, you like her, chat her up and want to be with her and make advances. then she tells you she has a boyfriend.
COMMON SENSE: any normal man with common sense would simply back down and let this woman be..... oh but not you! you instead decided to back down and "call her to check up on her as much as possible"
the important question IS: why exactly?! what were you checking? her temperature? the weather? or simply putting yourself in a strategic position where you will be able to attack the minute there issue in her r/ship?!?!?!?!

B) her man notices you and asks you to back down, because you are in the way of his r/ship with the babe.
COMMON SENSE: any man with common sense would have back down for good... oh but NOT you. the minute babe called you , you instead ratted the dude out and further damage their r/ship.
the important question IS: what did you expect would happen when you run your mouth to her ?!?!?!?!?

C) the babe now come to you and say that she wants you to be her bestfriend as before...and you agreed because " you make her happy".
COMMON SENSE: come on bro, come on!!!!! how old are you to be telling us that much BS. you have NEVER planned on leaving this babe and have been sticking to her (like glue) since day one expecting her to fall so you can be there to catch her on the rebound...which is exactly what is happening.
the important question IS: what kind of "friend" are you to prefer destroying her r/ship so that you can be happy together?

here is the main question that you need to answer: put yourself in her man's shoes and tell us all (with a straight face) that there is absolutely nothing wrong with your actions

Sunisonflex39:

Sunisonflex39:

Allsingles:
If she break up with her boyfriend because of you, she will break up with you because of another guy.
Also, Don't create enemity between you and her boyfriend, give up on her even though I know is not easy but you can do it.
Go for another girl is better than being the cause of another man's sadness.

Sunisonflex39:

MrBrownJay1:
bro...for the last time.... you gotta be HONEST with your own damn self. all these lies you are bringing are making NO DAMN SENSE!

ok lets go back again:
A) you meet a girl, you like her, chat her up and want to be with her and make advances. then she tells you she has a boyfriend.
COMMON SENSE: any normal man with common sense would simply back down and let this woman be..... oh but not you! you instead decided to back down and "call her to check up on her as much as possible"
the important question IS: why exactly?! what were you checking? her temperature? the weather? or simply putting yourself in a strategic position where you will be able to attack the minute there is issue in her r/ship?!?!?!?!

B) her man notices you and asks you to back down, because you are in the way of his r/ship with the babe.
COMMON SENSE: any man with common sense would have back down for good... oh but NOT you. the minute babe called you, you instead ratted the dude out and further damage their r/ship.
the important question IS: what did you expect would happen when you ran your mouth to her ?!?!?!?!?

C) the babe now come to you and say that she wants you to be her bestfriend as before...and you agreed because " you make her happy".
COMMON SENSE: come on bro, come on!!!!! how old are you to be telling us that much BS. you have NEVER planned on leaving this babe and have been sticking to her (like glue) since day one expecting her to fall so you can be there to catch her on the rebound...which is exactly what is happening.
the important question IS: what kind of "friend" are you to prefer destroying her r/ship so that you can be happy together?

here is the main question that you need to answer: put yourself in her man's shoes and tell us all (with a straight face) that there is absolutely nothing wrong with your actions

MrBrownJay1:
from the beginning you want this babe, the only reason you stayed around is to be with this babe... you were willing to disregard r/ship common sense and stick around even after her dude asked you to back off, and most importantly, YOU are the reason why they are having difficulties in their r/ship..... and now that you have succeeded in your evil plan and the babe decided that she wants to give you a shot at her coochie, you want to pretend holier than thou coming to NL asking what to do?!?!?!?!? really?!?!?!?!?

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charleff512:
Nna! You know what to do. Why asking?
All you want is approval and validation.No be so?

sweetonugbu:
You are just a fallback, oche ndabere

Sunisonflex39:
I never said they are having relationship issues bro.. they v been good

but what I don't subscribe to is the babe wanting me to sleep with her which I even told her in her face that I have always respected

the fact she has a guy and that this is not part of our friendship..

bro try and reason my case

Sunisonflex39:
explain bro.
I just want to see her happy all the time that's why I agreed

MrBrownJay1:
good how?! the bf asked you to back off for the sanity of their r/ship, and you are still around... now she wants to fukc you... is that your idea of "good"?!?!?!?



if thats was remotely true then you wouldnt have come to NL asking us what to do....and instead would tell this women to SHUT THE FUKC UP!



that would be true if you didnt know what she wanted...but now that you know (and you still want to be around her) makes you SUSPECT... i would even say DISGUSTING (if you put yourself in her man's shoes).
what do you want exactly? you want friendship (supposedly) she wants sex... so you only have 2 options here: you go ahead and fukc her or get the hell out of her life, but dont come her with this "i care for her" BS.



there is NO sense in everything you write.... answer these 2 simple questions truthfully:
1) is that the type of woman that you desire in your life (aka dishonest deceitful disrespectful untrustworthy woman)?
2) put yourself in her man's shoes and tell us exactly how you would view your actions?

Sunisonflex39:
bro u understood me better, I didn't plan for any of this.. it was just normal friendship.

and I she demanded to know why I changed at first.. as the close friends we were, and I really don't have anything to hide, I told her why.. and said am all good with it.. the young girl begged me to be her best friend cos over the years we have got closer which I agreed on..

Sunisonflex39:
question 1.NO
question 2.i would feel bad

Sunisonflex39:
i told her I wouldn't be sticking around anymore,but she was crying and begging that I shouldn't cut my self away from her.
she asked me to at least be her best friend which I agreed on. everything was going on well until recently she started this behavior.

Sunisonflex39:
I never said they are having relationship issues bro.. they v been good but what I don't subscribe to is the babe wanting me to sleep with her which I even told her in her face that I have always respected the fact she has a guy and that this is not part of our friendship..bro try and reason my case

Sunisonflex39:
bros I backed off. I used my mouth to tell him I will know my limits.. he even said I can still stick as a friend and watch her be happy but I should know my limit.. I said no problem.it was just recently this lady changed and heaven knows I have talked to her about it. I am honest with myself... i take some of the blame

Sunisonflex39:
bro u make me laugh

Sunisonflex39:
bro u make me laugh

MrBrownJay1:
thus the above is the answer to your initial questions... EOD

Sunisonflex39:
I met this girl two years ago,to cut long story short she told me that she is in a relationship.i respected the fact that she have a guy And I stopped making advance as a gentleman. but I call as much as possible just to check on her.
then one night her boyfriend chatted me up on whatsap and as gentlemen, we talked about it like matured people and I told him I am not gonna stick around that he should talk to his girlfriend. I asked how he got my number, he said he secretly took it from her phone because of the many calls and most times I call, both of them are together.

I asked him what has the girl been telling him about me, he told me she is saying we are just friends and nothing much.
II apologized to him and said I will watch my limits that he should talk to the girl himself about it.

two days passed, I have stopped calling the girl like I used to, then on the third day she called and asked me why did I change all of a sudden that I no longer chat her up or call like I used to,she was being emotional, and as a good friend, I love her and wouldn't want to see her sad.

I opened up to her about what transpired between me and her guy and I begged her not to confront him. she was so mad at the guy for chatting me up after she has told him many times that I am "just a friend"

I told the girl that for the sake of her relationship, I don't want to stick around and I don't want to be the guy that breaks people relationship.

the girl started crying and said I should not leave her, that I should at least be her best friend that she can't loss me..
I agreed to be the bestfriend so as to make her feel happy..

fast forward to this week, the girl said she loves me so much and didn't know how to tell me before and she is kind off confused to chose between her guy and me.I told her that I love her too but she should not leave anybody for me that we should just continue being friends and see what the future holds because no one knows tomorrow.
few days ago, the girl said she want to have sex with me.. and even going as far as telling me the style she wants..

I respect the fact that she is in a relationship and I even told her about it, but she was having non of it.

please nairalanders, what should I do.

Sunisonflex39:
as a gentleman, I have talked to her about all of this..

murphyibiam15:
what's your business with what happens to her, are you her boyfriend?

if you need her just tell her to break up with the boyfriend, so simple