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MaxVee:
I Am Losing My Mind, Could This Be Love Or Foolishness?

Okay, I'd be quick and brief as well.

So about 6 months ago, I met my girl on facebook, And after months wooing her to date me, she finally agreed and we started dating..

Like everything was perfect and indeed I fell deeply in love with her even before I met her.

So along the line in our relationship she told she had a best friend who is a guy and they have know each other for like 4years..and that they talk very well (calls and chat) and that they tell each other they love themselves, but if I wasn't cool with it,I could break up she would understand.

As a guy I knew I had fallen for her and I embraced her telling me about the guy after a strong assurance from her that they were not into any sort of relationship with each other.

So my girl called me like let's say a month after we started dating that there was this her friend who she hadn't met and that wanted and she was going to see him, and I was like fine, she should just be fine.

P.S:- I hadn't met with my girl even till the point she went to meet the guy...I was in the west and she was in one of the states in the East..more like a long distance relationship.

Fast forward to days after they met I became uncomfortable with the relationship between my girl and the said new guy she met..I talked to her severally about it and she was at some point swearing not having anything to do with the new guy she just met.

Fast forward to the festive season I came back and I met my girl for the first time..indeed she was everything I imagined and we flowed amazingly well.

Long story cut short in the midst of one of our long conversations I discovered she have at some point had sex severally with her said best friend...so I was like since it was before we met I forgave her and we moved on..

yesterday I asked her if she has anything with the new guy and she swore again not having anything with him that the guy has been asking her out and she refused dating him.

She said plenty of things that convinced me into believing that nothing was going between them.

P.S:- before yesterday I told her to tell the new guy she has a boyfriend and she promised to..(from the actions of my girl I could tell she loves me.) She later told me that day that she told him and she had blocked him and stuff..and trust me I did believe her.

So this morning while she was sleeping I reaching out to her phone and went straight to her WhatsApp.. opened the chat with the guy and what I saw broke me..

She was reconciling with him over the break up she instigated of which was caused by something totally different not even because she told him she had a guy..what killed my spirit was a message she wrote to the guy saying "she left me for him even though I was far much a better option"..I confronted her and she has been pleading saying she loves me but she likes him and that they haven't had anything except kissing and caressing..that she loves me so much..that she started liking him when she started talking to him more frequently and I was far away. She hadn't know me..so she got fond of him and she likes him.

I love this babe so much, I told her I forgive her..but please I need your opinions..am I blinded by love or am being foolish..

How would you handle the situation. If it was you..
La La.. please help move this to front page
Am breaking every hour.

After reading this your line "that they tell each other they love themselves, but if I wasn't cool with it,I could break up she would understand"


I'm sorry to tell you that you're not a real Niggggar!

You're just a low budget Bob Risky.

jarrot:
HAPPY BIRTHDAY BROTHERLY
May you never experience what OP is going through , he never wan wake up from him sleep

Thanks so much brother..

sorry to be this blunt.but i must tell you the truth; you are nothing but a "BIG FOOL" a "CHILDISH FOOL" for that matter.almost like a "SIMPLETON". So you want me to say like johny drille and simi "i think see loves you HALLELUYAH!!". but "NO" i wont say that.become that would mean sharing in your foolishness, of which i want no part of,at all, at all.

The fast forward, the long story short and yet the story kept going. Well I think you are being foolish.

Bondinus:
Why do I feel she wants to plant so many fruits in one plot of land.
What does she do and did you tell her what you do for a living.
P.S. I have my reason for asking.

Software developer working with a tech firm in lagos and she is yet to start serving hopefully March..of which we have concluded plans on she coming to stay with me during her nysc

Beedude:
The Bae is a professional olosho. But how a guy can be so foolish beat my imagination.

don't blame him, he is jus coming up, too much of romeo and Juliet film and expecting a perfect world caused him dat.

You mean we still have such foolish guys, any woman that cheat we continue to chea it runs in the veins,I was a victim of this your episode when I was still a single guy, yours was even good on my own case about more than a decade back I took this babe to another state just to change normal location cos she was my regular babe and I so much love her then we stayed 2 days in that city and it was regular sex throughout the 3rd day we came back to our base I took her home and I went home so we talk on phone,the 4th day I decided to visit her unannounced at about 9p.m behold she was stark naked with another man on the bed hmmmmm I make sure I dealt with her that night and the man ran away my whole world crumble that very day, after the incident she send her sisters to come and beg me and foolishly I accepted her back that was the beginning of my downfall because I was blinded by love............. Story too long I will find time to tell the story of my life.

MaxVee:
I Am Losing My Mind, Could This Be Love Or Foolishness?

Okay, I'd be quick and brief as well.

So about 6 months ago, I met my girl on facebook, And after months wooing her to date me, she finally agreed and we started dating..

Like everything was perfect and indeed I fell deeply in love with her even before I met her.

So along the line in our relationship she told she had a best friend who is a guy and they have know each other for like 4years..and that they talk very well (calls and chat) and that they tell each other they love themselves, but if I wasn't cool with it,I could break up she would understand.

As a guy I knew I had fallen for her and I embraced her telling me about the guy after a strong assurance from her that they were not into any sort of relationship with each other.

So my girl called me like let's say a month after we started dating that there was this her friend who she hadn't met and that wanted and she was going to see him, and I was like fine, she should just be fine.

P.S:- I hadn't met with my girl even till the point she went to meet the guy...I was in the west and she was in one of the states in the East..more like a long distance relationship.

Fast forward to days after they met I became uncomfortable with the relationship between my girl and the said new guy she met..I talked to her severally about it and she was at some point swearing not having anything to do with the new guy she just met.

Fast forward to the festive season I came back and I met my girl for the first time..indeed she was everything I imagined and we flowed amazingly well.

Long story cut short in the midst of one of our long conversations I discovered she have at some point had sex severally with her said best friend...so I was like since it was before we met I forgave her and we moved on..

yesterday I asked her if she has anything with the new guy and she swore again not having anything with him that the guy has been asking her out and she refused dating him.

She said plenty of things that convinced me into believing that nothing was going between them.

P.S:- before yesterday I told her to tell the new guy she has a boyfriend and she promised to..(from the actions of my girl I could tell she loves me.) She later told me that day that she told him and she had blocked him and stuff..and trust me I did believe her.

So this morning while she was sleeping I reaching out to her phone and went straight to her WhatsApp.. opened the chat with the guy and what I saw broke me..

She was reconciling with him over the break up she instigated of which was caused by something totally different not even because she told him she had a guy..what killed my spirit was a message she wrote to the guy saying "she left me for him even though I was far much a better option"..I confronted her and she has been pleading saying she loves me but she likes him and that they haven't had anything except kissing and caressing..that she loves me so much..that she started liking him when she started talking to him more frequently and I was far away. She hadn't know me..so she got fond of him and she likes him.

I love this babe so much, I told her I forgive her..but please I need your opinions..am I blinded by love or am being foolish..

How would you handle the situation. If it was you..
La La.. please help move this to front page
Am breaking every hour.

Nonsensical write up, even a mad man knows for sure fire burns, you knew there is fire there you allowed the fire, now that the fire is burning you are looking for solution, foolish mehn very foolish

jaxxy:
I’m sorry to tell u this bro bt here are the reg flags and even worse. The fact she slept with her best friend severally and still remains or calls him best frnd shows she has no sexual boundaries,

She just met a guy and they kissing and caressing, whilst u were away? She can’t handle a long distance relationship. She lies a lot, she’s sleeps around easily also.

My submission Ure inlove with a hoe. U better enjoy urself and run. That’s not a serious gf material ok. Enjoy. Love ko, love ni

NB: she might change later in future or u might be able to change her bt u can’t do that while I’m a long distance relationship, u can’t monitor her real progress in changing. U will be deceived again and again. Have this at the back of ur mind. Cheers.

Intend bringing her down to the west for her Nysc to close down distance..

Guy you need to upp your ante this year by being an alpha male. Common, I hate it when women are outsmarting fickle men. And please remember every woman is replaceable. Love is an illusion. Don't fall for it.

If it is possible for boys of these days to hack into their girlfriends phone n c what is going on behind their back some of dem will commit suicide.

MaxVee:
I Am Losing My Mind, Could This Be Love Or Foolishness?

Okay, I'd be quick and brief as well.

So about 6 months ago, I met my girl on facebook, And after months wooing her to date me, she finally agreed and we started dating..

Like everything was perfect and indeed I fell deeply in love with her even before I met her.

So along the line in our relationship she told she had a best friend who is a guy and they have know each other for like 4years..and that they talk very well (calls and chat) and that they tell each other they love themselves, but if I wasn't cool with it,I could break up she would understand.

As a guy I knew I had fallen for her and I embraced her telling me about the guy after a strong assurance from her that they were not into any sort of relationship with each other.

So my girl called me like let's say a month after we started dating that there was this her friend who she hadn't met and that wanted and she was going to see him, and I was like fine, she should just be fine.

P.S:- I hadn't met with my girl even till the point she went to meet the guy...I was in the west and she was in one of the states in the East..more like a long distance relationship.

Fast forward to days after they met I became uncomfortable with the relationship between my girl and the said new guy she met..I talked to her severally about it and she was at some point swearing not having anything to do with the new guy she just met.

Fast forward to the festive season I came back and I met my girl for the first time..indeed she was everything I imagined and we flowed amazingly well.

Long story cut short in the midst of one of our long conversations I discovered she have at some point had sex severally with her said best friend...so I was like since it was before we met I forgave her and we moved on..

yesterday I asked her if she has anything with the new guy and she swore again not having anything with him that the guy has been asking her out and she refused dating him.

She said plenty of things that convinced me into believing that nothing was going between them.

P.S:- before yesterday I told her to tell the new guy she has a boyfriend and she promised to..(from the actions of my girl I could tell she loves me.) She later told me that day that she told him and she had blocked him and stuff..and trust me I did believe her.

So this morning while she was sleeping I reaching out to her phone and went straight to her WhatsApp.. opened the chat with the guy and what I saw broke me..

She was reconciling with him over the break up she instigated of which was caused by something totally different not even because she told him she had a guy..what killed my spirit was a message she wrote to the guy saying "she left me for him even though I was far much a better option"..I confronted her and she has been pleading saying she loves me but she likes him and that they haven't had anything except kissing and caressing..that she loves me so much..that she started liking him when she started talking to him more frequently and I was far away. She hadn't know me..so she got fond of him and she likes him.

I love this babe so much, I told her I forgive her..but please I need your opinions..am I blinded by love or am being foolish..

How would you handle the situation. If it was you..
La La.. please help move this to front page
Am breaking every hour.

Go and make money.... And you will get the LOVE FRANCHISE you are looking for. Make money and let your pocket give instructions.

Wetin me no go see for nairaland!

Op,You urgently need to check your psychiatric status 'before you naked enter market!...

Infact, you're semi-mad!

I have come across some mumu guys in my time, but your foolishness is on another level. The girl is obviously a chronic liar, i guess you guys are perfect for each other since you are a chronic mumu. Don't you ever leave her, this is a match made in heaven.

MaxVee:
I Am Losing My Mind, Could This Be Love Or Foolishness?

Okay, I'd be quick and brief as well.


As a guy I knew I had fallen for her and I embraced her telling me about the

yesterday I asked her if she has anything with the new guy and she swore again not having anything with him that the guy has been asking her out and she refused dating him.

She said plenty of things that convinced me into believing that nothing was going between them.

P.S:- before yesterday I told her to tell the new guy she has a boyfriend and she promised to..(from the actions of my girl I could tell she loves me.) She later told me that day that she told him and she had blocked him and stuff..and trust me I did believe her.

So this morning while she was sleeping I reaching out to her phone and went straight to her WhatsApp.. opened the chat with the guy and what I saw broke

I love this babe so much, I told her I forgive her..but please I need your opinions..am I blinded by love or am being foolish..

How would you handle the situation. If it was you..
La La.. please help move this to front page
Am breaking every hour.

You are both being blinded by love and both being foolish. Question answered, and we move!

seangy4konji:
The year is too early for nonsense. I can only imagine the amount of best friend she has slept with in her life
..

Am sure she never reach 21...

Different guys go don knack her and she will still be claiming g innocent girl.

Ur head have scatter. They are frying plaintain chips in your head.

24 by march

MaxVee:
She would be 24 by march

Bro, my advice is this, she have too much baggage for her age. Tell her u need her to sort herself out from all the baggage she is carrying, when she finally decide what she wants ... She should let u know.

Give her 3months to sort all this out, because from ur write up, u tend to want to be serious with her.

U don't need all this complications with someone u want to be serious with.

In this 3months, access the situation ur self, if after 3months u still see all this complications, walk away

MaxVee:
Intend bringing her down to the west for her Nysc to close down distance..

Ok if u can take that risk. Fine bt be careful she has many weaknesses.

Op,are u out of ur sense? She has a best friend a guy,the had sex and u think is in past.has she break up with the best friend? And now she has another new boy friend,I just hope u are using protection when having sex wit her.or go and check urself.

Op just have your fun and fvck the hell out of her don't have anything serious to do with her

dont be a fool...that girl is not settled she is still having fun and trying to discover what she really want...right now she will keep adding to her list of boyfriends she is at the stage she believe she has to taste all b4 she can decide what is best for her...do not be a fool but from ur narration so far you have been a fool so far but allowing ur foolishness to continue can only be decided by you...good day

Bro,the truth is just that you can't handle the lady because she is already out of control
She will keep repeating the same scandal and later will beg you because she already knew the kind of person you are
Use your head abeg

If were to be my brother, i for break ur head. Blinded by love ke my brother nor vex u said it all already u're FOOLISH.

MD2080:
First with her best Friend(sex) though before you meet her.
Now with new guy(kissing and caressing).
Bros,use your head
This is grade one foolishness

So on point

I respect you bro....at least you get mind agree say na ' you' the thing happen to unlike those other clowns wey go say e happen to their ' friends or neighbor'. My advice.....
marriage no be beans oh, if you marry the wrong woman, woman wey no dey faithful, wey go dey give you heart attack and headache, na your grave you dey dig oh.

Ur not only a fool but a FOOLER.

Ur girl is probably confused. And u my guy is intrusive. Y check ur bae's chat history without her knowledge. Quit if cant cope

You already know the truth. And you already know what to do.

But I doubt if you have the balls to do it.

You already know the truth. And you already know what to do.

But I doubt if you have the balls to do it.

daddytime:
You couldn't have lost a mind you never had bro, na your mind lost you.

Now to answer your question of " if this is love or foolishness"..

The answer is " Foolishness", and you are the lead actor..." Person siddon wear jersey wey dem write "Foolish 001" on top as striker come still dey ask yeye question.

It's my birthday today fam....pray for me guys...

oil dey ur head and u will not be foolish like this OP ...many more prosperous years