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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by BlackSwan: 5:34pm On Jan 16, 2020
I don't think I will marry him again.
Ungrateful, selfish, stingy, argumentative, sex is all about himself, not caring at all. Just an all round negative person. Only thing he is good at is conversation and gisting, he can't do good for others without expecting something back.
I am 8 months pregnant and was vomiting and rolling on the floor yesterday and he heard from pallor where he was pressing phone, he didn't want to leave his precious Facebook and attend to me so he just sat there and did nothing. After like five minutes he brought our two years old baby to drop with me in the room and returned to the sitting room to continue pressing phone.

This is someone I have passed through all manner of inconvenience to make him comfortable, I spent all my savings from when I was working before marriage to furnish our house after we got married because he didn't have much. My parents sponsored everything about our marriage and all he did was show up and go home, they were even willing to pay for our flight ticket back home but as of today he doesn't talk to them or even call them, just cut them off th totally. They are the ones assisting me with money now that I don't have s job and am pregnant because he doesn't like to give. Last time I asked for money to buy new clothes he came from work that evening and started venting all his anger on me and saying very insulting words because he didn't like the idea of giving me money.
But his unemployed friend outside was receiving monthly stipend of 20000 from him before the guy got a job, his friend that was living with us for 6 months was receiving daily transport fare and recharge cards from him. While the only thing he gives me is market money and that is after he had complained that the money is too much.

I made a big mistake thinking if I started small with him and helped him grow he will appreciate me and treat me well. He is just a very ungrateful and entitled person.

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by ImaIma1(f): 5:37pm On Jan 16, 2020
BlackSwan:
I don't think I will marry him again.
Ungrateful, selfish, stingy, argumentative, sex is all about himself, not caring at all. Just an all round negative person. Only thing he is good at is conversation and gisting, he can't do good for others without expecting something back.
I am 8 months pregnant and was vomiting and rolling on the floor yesterday and he heard from pallor where he was pressing phone, he didn't want to leave his precious Facebook and attend to me so he just sat there and did nothing. After like five minutes he brought our two years old baby to drop with me in the room and returned to the sitting room to continue pressing phone.

This is someone I have passed through all manner of inconvenience to make him comfortable, I spent all my savings from when I was working before marriage to furnish our house after we got married because he didn't have much. My parents sponsored everything about our marriage and all he did was show up and go home, they were even willing to pay for our flight ticket back home but as of today he doesn't talk to them or even call them, just cut them off th totally. They are the ones assisting me with money now that I don't have s job and am pregnant because he doesn't like to give. Last time I asked for money to buy new clothes he came from work that evening and started venting all his anger on me and saying very insulting words because he didn't like the idea of giving me money.
But his unemployed friend outside was receiving monthly stipend of 20000 from him before the guy got a job, his friend that was living with us for 6 months was receiving daily transport fare and recharge cards from him. While the only thing he gives me is market money and that is after he had complained that the money is too much.

I made a big mistake thinking if I started small with him and helped him grow he will appreciate me and treat me well. He is just a very ungrateful and entitled person.


Hey fisher007...it's not everyone that has a good story. I guess this is the bad story you have been looking for.

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by migeoart(f): 5:38pm On Jan 16, 2020
Yes yes yes i cant imagine being with another man, he is not only my lover but my best friend!in the next world if we both come as women i will be a lesbian grin grin grin

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Bahamas95(m): 5:39pm On Jan 16, 2020
Baba God please bless me with a virtuous woman when am ready to settle down o. I don't wanna get married today and divorce tomorrow.....

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by morpheus24: 5:44pm On Jan 16, 2020
BlackSwan:
I don't think I will marry him again.
Ungrateful, selfish, stingy, argumentative, sex is all about himself, not caring at all. Just an all round negative person. Only thing he is good at is conversation and gisting, he can't do good for others without expecting something back.
I am 8 months pregnant and was vomiting and rolling on the floor yesterday and he heard from pallor where he was pressing phone, he didn't want to leave his precious Facebook and attend to me so he just sat there and did nothing. After like five minutes he brought our two years old baby to drop with me in the room and returned to the sitting room to continue pressing phone.

This is someone I have passed through all manner of inconvenience to make him comfortable, I spent all my savings from when I was working before marriage to furnish our house after we got married because he didn't have much. My parents sponsored everything about our marriage and all he did was show up and go home, they were even willing to pay for our flight ticket back home but as of today he doesn't talk to them or even call them, just cut them off th totally. They are the ones assisting me with money now that I don't have s job and am pregnant because he doesn't like to give. Last time I asked for money to buy new clothes he came from work that evening and started venting all his anger on me and saying very insulting words because he didn't like the idea of giving me money.
But his unemployed friend outside was receiving monthly stipend of 20000 from him before the guy got a job, his friend that was living with us for 6 months was receiving daily transport fare and recharge cards from him. While the only thing he gives me is market money and that is after he had complained that the money is too much.

I made a big mistake thinking if I started small with him and helped him grow he will appreciate me and treat me well. He is just a very ungrateful and entitled person.

Madam you and your husband need counselling asap. You have a lot of pent up anger and unresolved issue, better come to a finality in your marriage or else one day you will bust as most women end up doing.

Decide if you are ending this marriage or if this can be resolved. Do not live a half life or manage manage life, it will destroy you eventually.

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by ImaIma1(f): 5:46pm On Jan 16, 2020
BlackSwan:
I don't think I will marry him again.
Ungrateful, selfish, stingy, argumentative, sex is all about himself, not caring at all. Just an all round negative person. Only thing he is good at is conversation and gisting, he can't do good for others without expecting something back.
I am 8 months pregnant and was vomiting and rolling on the floor yesterday and he heard from pallor where he was pressing phone, he didn't want to leave his precious Facebook and attend to me so he just sat there and did nothing. After like five minutes he brought our two years old baby to drop with me in the room and returned to the sitting room to continue pressing phone.

This is someone I have passed through all manner of inconvenience to make him comfortable, I spent all my savings from when I was working before marriage to furnish our house after we got married because he didn't have much. My parents sponsored everything about our marriage and all he did was show up and go home, they were even willing to pay for our flight ticket back home but as of today he doesn't talk to them or even call them, just cut them off th totally. They are the ones assisting me with money now that I don't have s job and am pregnant because he doesn't like to give. Last time I asked for money to buy new clothes he came from work that evening and started venting all his anger on me and saying very insulting words because he didn't like the idea of giving me money.
But his unemployed friend outside was receiving monthly stipend of 20000 from him before the guy got a job, his friend that was living with us for 6 months was receiving daily transport fare and recharge cards from him. While the only thing he gives me is market money and that is after he had complained that the money is too much.

I made a big mistake thinking if I started small with him and helped him grow he will appreciate me and treat me well. He is just a very ungrateful and entitled person.


What was your dating like? Was he this selfish? Maybe he has gotten used to you handling all the expenses that it is now hard for him to release his money.

Guys will complain that women do not support. A woman supports and it becomes a major problem.

It was probably never about having much or not but not having the willingness to spend his money on a lady. It's a mindset thing for many guys.

Please look for ways to make him committed in terms of finances. There's always a way wink

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Kemight15: 5:47pm On Jan 16, 2020
I'm single and there's no marriage written in my dictionary. I know how my parents ended cry
I'm having fear of marriage... Let me just face my career and married to it.

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by onlyforchrist: 5:47pm On Jan 16, 2020
KingSatan:


I knew I would meet your kind.

This is not a thread to breed competition or promote hypocrisy.

You woman are good at dropping lines like these in order to portray the luckiest woman on Earth.



I have been married for over 3 decades and I can say "Marriage is beautiful if both of you love each other truthfully" and are determined to make your marriage work. Though it's not a smooth sail but with a determined spirit, you will conquer all.


You will sometimes fight your extended family because of that woman you love and cherish. Marriage is not for the feeble heart.

I remember one time, I looked straight in her eyes and I saw a helpless woman. I stood up to my late uncle's and told them never to insult my wife again or I stop bearing their surname and cut ties with them forever.


I could remember when i slumped, my wife was crying like I child. I woke up to her screams and tears.

I love my wife and I am without any doubt that she loves me too. I married her because I couldn't imagine living so far away from such beautiful soul. I wanted to have her all to myself and I succeeded.

Today, I don't see the curves (Of course I wasn't interested in all that when I married her) and she isn't seeing the albs, afro hairstyle etc but she is still my "Sexy Amigo".

I will marry her over and over again if given a chance.


PS: Don't even think money brought us together. I was still trying to find my place in this world when I met her. She told me "I believe in you"

After my mother, no one else except her said those words to me.

I held on to those words and today, it's all history.

I'm really encouraged, you are a legend sir. You shall grow to see that joy in your children home too. blessings!!!!
Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Mercy2006(f): 5:48pm On Jan 16, 2020
Well, I will still want to marry my husband simply because no marriage is perfect.
We are all pitching in to make it work.
He is a good man and he respects and cares for me.
He is also good in bed,lolz
What more do I want again?
Despite the fact that we are from different tribes,he couldn't have treated me better than men from my own tribe.so,I can say boldly that I would still marry him again if there's anything like reincarnation.

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by ImaIma1(f): 5:52pm On Jan 16, 2020
pocohantas:


Women that brag about their men are being hypocritical.

Women that complain of their men are manhating feminist that need love from the same men that shouldn't be bragged about.

There is something very wrong with you and your kind. Confused entities.


We will always have "Thomases".

Let's just welcome them as they display their ignorance.

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Noblemarce: 5:52pm On Jan 16, 2020
Vyolet:
When you are with a guy who is handsome facially with good physique, beautiful eyes, well behaved, not stingy, respectful, overall sexy and most importantly crazy in love with you. You will never want marriage with any other guy even if you come to this world ten times over.
So I will choose mine over and over and over again. wink
the question is for married spouse. Its all about your current husband not boy friend ( or as you wrote ''.....when you are with a GUY....."wink
Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by CSTR2: 5:57pm On Jan 16, 2020
See lies everywhere.

Una weldone o.
Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by victorian(f): 6:02pm On Jan 16, 2020
KingSatan:


I knew I would meet your kind.

This is not a thread to breed competition or promote hypocrisy.

You woman are good at dropping lines like these in order to portray the luckiest woman on Earth.



I have been married for over 3 decades and I can say "Marriage is beautiful if both of you love each other truthfully" and are determined to make your marriage work. Though it's not a smooth sail but with a determined spirit, you will conquer all.


You will sometimes fight your extended family because of that woman you love and cherish. Marriage is not for the feeble heart.

I remember one time, I looked straight in her eyes and I saw a helpless woman. I stood up to my late uncle's and told them never to insult my wife again or I stop bearing their surname and cut ties with them forever.


I could remember when i slumped, my wife was crying like I child. I woke up to her screams and tears.

I love my wife and I am without any doubt that she loves me too. I married her because I couldn't imagine living so far away from such beautiful soul. I wanted to have her all to myself and I succeeded.

Today, I don't see the curves (Of course I wasn't interested in all that when I married her) and she isn't seeing the albs, afro hairstyle etc but she is still my "Sexy Amigo".

I will marry her over and over again if given a chance.


PS: Don't even think money brought us together. I was still trying to find my place in this world when I met her. She told me "I believe in you"

After my mother, no one else except her said those words to me.

I held on to those words and today, it's all history.






Relax!

In Vyolet eyes ,her husband is the most handsome with the most beautiful eyes. Hes the best to her . Shes simply saying how she sees her husband and feel about him.
I bet your wife in her own eyes, you will certainly be the most important and most georgeous man to her .if we were to ask your wife .

So chill. smiley

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Nobody: 6:05pm On Jan 16, 2020
Probably. Better the one you know than the one you don't know.

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by motherfucker: 6:09pm On Jan 16, 2020
Vyolet:

Counter what I wrote, don't resort to being petty smiley, you should know I probably rated you judging by your submission , reason I gave you a response.
I was only interpreting o. U said u don't understand the man and I tried to help out.

Please don't kill me before I meet my future wife. Na epp I epp, I nor kee person o.

Na una marry, me haf nor marry... embarassed

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by victorian(f): 6:10pm On Jan 16, 2020
BlackSwan:
I don't think I will marry him again.
Ungrateful, selfish, stingy, argumentative, sex is all about himself, not caring at all. Just an all round negative person. Only thing he is good at is conversation and gisting, he can't do good for others without expecting something back.
I am 8 months pregnant and was vomiting and rolling on the floor yesterday and he heard from pallor where he was pressing phone, he didn't want to leave his precious Facebook and attend to me so he just sat there and did nothing. After like five minutes he brought our two years old baby to drop with me in the room and returned to the sitting room to continue pressing phone.

This is someone I have passed through all manner of inconvenience to make him comfortable, I spent all my savings from when I was working before marriage to furnish our house after we got married because he didn't have much. My parents sponsored everything about our marriage and all he did was show up and go home, they were even willing to pay for our flight ticket back home but as of today he doesn't talk to them or even call them, just cut them off th totally. They are the ones assisting me with money now that I don't have s job and am pregnant because he doesn't like to give. Last time I asked for money to buy new clothes he came from work that evening and started venting all his anger on me and saying very insulting words because he didn't like the idea of giving me money.
But his unemployed friend outside was receiving monthly stipend of 20000 from him before the guy got a job, his friend that was living with us for 6 months was receiving daily transport fare and recharge cards from him. While the only thing he gives me is market money and that is after he had complained that the money is too much.

I made a big mistake thinking if I started small with him and helped him grow he will appreciate me and treat me well. He is just a very ungrateful and entitled person.






Madam,you are a great woman .

Women like you are rare .

Even me, thats most of my friends feel im a good woman .i can never ever date or marry a man who cannot bring out his money and spend on me no matter how little .i can never ever date and marry a broke , poor or i will feel alright guy.
Honestly you have mind .
Because u love him more than he loves you thats why hes behaving like that.
I cant stay one second with such man. God forbid.

You try abeg!

Make God help you , amen .

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Nobody: 6:14pm On Jan 16, 2020
Vyolet:
When you are with a guy who is handsome facially with good physique, beautiful eyes, well behaved, not stingy, respectful, overall sexy and most importantly crazy in love with you. You will never want marriage with any other guy even if you come to this world ten times over.
So I will choose mine over and over and over again. wink
Am not married but I know this your comments is not what marriage is about. U don't sound like a married person.

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by godblessuyirich(f): 6:19pm On Jan 16, 2020
NEVER NEVER NEVER EVER. WORST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Iamvetlander(m): 6:20pm On Jan 16, 2020
Bola146:


Same here... but I pray for my own bone
Shot grin
Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Iamvetlander(m): 6:21pm On Jan 16, 2020
godblessuyirich:
NEVER NEVER NEVER EVER. WORST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE
I'm so sorry ma'am. I hope you're not in such relationship anymore?
Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by midnighter(f): 6:21pm On Jan 16, 2020
RisenPhoenix:
Probably. Better the one you know than the one you don't know.

Lol you made me laugh out loud. Ever the cynic!

At least you're consistent hahaha
Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by godblessuyirich(f): 6:28pm On Jan 16, 2020
MY DEAR U HAVE SAID ALL. THE WORST MISTAKE A WOMAN WILL EVER MAKE IS TO MARRY A POOR BROKE GUY AND USED UR MONEY TO MAKE HIS COMFORTABLE. IN MY NEXT LIFE I WILL LOOK FOR A VERY RICH MAN AS HUSBAND. IF I DONT GET ONE I WILL BE A SINGLE MOTHER. I WONT REPEAT THIS MISTAKE WHERE I SPONSOR MARRIAGE, RENTED AND FURNISHED APARTMENT COS IT RUINED ME.HUBBY TOOK IT FOR GRANTED. AFTER 11 YEARS OF MARRIAGE I AM STILL THE ONE PAYING RENT AND TAKEN CARE OF MYSELF AND CHILDREN. I CANT BE SO HAPPY AND ASK FOR EVEN 1000 FROM HUBBY TO MAKE MY HAIR. VERY STINGEN AND SELF CENTERED PERSON. GOD WILL SEE ME THROUGH COS I KNOW IT WILL END IN PRAISE
victorian:







Madam,you are a great woman .

Women like you are rare .

Even me, thats most of my friends feel im a good woman .i can never ever date or marry a man who cannot bring out his money and spend on me no matter how little .i can never ever date and marry a broke , poor or i will feel alright guy.
Honestly you have mind .
Because u love him more than he loves you thats why hes behaving like that.
I cant stay one second with such man. God forbid.

You try abeg!

Make God help you , amen .
Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by pawesome(m): 6:29pm On Jan 16, 2020
no no no no no no no no


no

nonononononono


nope
Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by flakesy01(f): 6:31pm On Jan 16, 2020
Yes lawd! Initially though our marriage was a bit rocky in the begining it was rough but now it is smooth. Thank God. smiley

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by godblessuyirich(f): 6:36pm On Jan 16, 2020
MY DEAR I AM STILL IN IT OOO WITH A VERY BROKEN HEART COS OF MY KIDS. BUT PLANNING ON HOW TO CHANGE MY LIFE FOR GOOD. I HAVE TOLD MY GOD I MUST EXPERIENCE LOVE IN THIS MY LIFE TIME. NOTHING IS BETTER THAN LOVE. I DID ALL I DID FOR MY HUBBY COS OF LOVE BUT HE FEELS I AM A FOOL. I DONT WISH WHAT I AM GOING THROUGH ON EVEN THE PERSON THAT KILLED MY PRECIOUS MOTHER. I AM ALWAYS SAD, ALWAYS DAYDRAMING, FILLED WITH REGRETS AND WISHING I COULD TURN BACK THE HAND OF TIME
Iamvetlander:

I'm so sorry ma'am. I hope you're not in such relationship anymore?

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by LotusFan: 6:39pm On Jan 16, 2020
Greatdre:
The little research I made also showed that many people are not happy in their marriages but will come public to display their marriage or spouse as the next best thing. A woman can be receiving consistent beating from the husband on a daily basis but would still display her husband to the outside world as the best man on earth. Thats the kind of society we find ourselves. Nobody wants to be ridiculed for having a bad spouse or union.


The worst part is that people will praise her and call her a good wife for covering up and enduring and forgiving etc. Forgetting that she’s only trying to get public validation of her marriage and the admiration of the singles...

If you know you know...
Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by alexola20(m): 6:39pm On Jan 16, 2020
Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by alexola20(m): 6:41pm On Jan 16, 2020
Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by alexola20(m): 6:42pm On Jan 16, 2020
Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by BlackSwan: 6:44pm On Jan 16, 2020
godblessuyirich:
MY DEAR I AM STILL IN IT OOO WITH A VERY BROKEN HEART COS OF MY KIDS. BUT PLANNING ON HOW TO CHANGE MY LIFE FOR GOOD. I HAVE TOLD MY GOD I MUST EXPERIENCE LOVE IN THIS MY LIFE TIME. NOTHING IS BETTER THAN LOVE. I DID ALL I DID FOR MY HUBBY COS OF LOVE BUT HE FEELS I AM A FOOL. I DONT WISH WHAT I AM GOING THROUGH ON EVEN THE PERSON THAT KILLED MY PRECIOUS MOTHER. I AM ALWAYS SAD, ALWAYS DAYDRAMING, FILLED WITH REGRETS AND WISHING I COULD TURN BACK THE HAND OF TIME
My sister are you also in the same shoes!!!
Hmm, I will make sure my daughter doesnt make the same stupid mistake I made of helping to establish a man.
Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by alexola20(m): 6:46pm On Jan 16, 2020
Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by BlackSwan: 6:49pm On Jan 16, 2020
ImaIma1:


What was your dating like? Was he this selfish? Maybe he has gotten used to you handling all the expenses that it is now hard for him to release his money.
)
Our dating was 2 years, one year long distance and the other year occasionally spending time together in the same house. I didn't used to ask for money then because he was struggling, I was even saving my own for after marriage and not spending on myself because I saw a bright future ahead of us.

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