chic2pimp:


Absolutely!. Age is included too Bro.

The White Couples are not just couples in their 60s. The Vast Majority are in their 20s-40s. Unless those are now referred to as "OLD" now?

No narrative being pushed Here Donny. Whether you are being Rushed or not is what we are trying to ascertain here.

What clubs? What Malls? You need to come with receipts not just throw things out there G.

Again No one saying Racial Mixing is not becoming more and more prevalent in today' Society. The Bone of contention here is whether you are being rushed or not.

However, not whites,asian or latinoes on account of being Nigerian. We have little social capital

RuudVanNisteroy:

It takes time for the Nigeria freshies to jack the swag and accent of the British,American or Canadian blacks and start pulling. That strong Akwa Ibom and Onitsha accent does not do the job, they find it difficult to understand most Nigerians

RuudVanNisteroy:

Audio rushing!-They rush only the black Brits,black Americans and black Canadians. If you can pass for one of the three then they will rush you.
I wish Nigeria was in the equation, but we nor join. Only African girls from Kenya,Zambia,Eritrea,Ethiopia and Sierra Leone rush Nigerians.

However, not whites,asian or latinoes on account of being Nigerian. We have little social capital

iPopAlomo:



You gerrrit... Accented English get problem... Me sef no even know my accent... I no go lie...

lefulefu:
one thing about white girls is they dont really care weda u black american,jamaican or black canadian.as long as u black and u goodlooking and presentable they will still hit on u

RuudVanNisteroy:

I agree as long as your goodloooking, have swag,game and are not creepy and aggressive you will pull.

They rush black Americans though, I see it at the clubs, when they pull up. Most of the Americans look like basketball or NFL players.

chic2pimp:

That's not How it works Bro. Now Let's delve into these figures further.

Since We have both firmly established that over 60% of Charlton's Population are White, let's look at the Resident of Charlton by Age group.

Age 0 to 4 8.2
Age 5 to 9 6.4%
Age 10 to14 5.9%
Age 15 to 17 3.5%
Age 18 to 24 10.6%
Age 25 to 29 8.7%
Age 30 to 44 25.8%
Age 45 to 59 16.6%
Age 60 to 64 4%
Age 65 to 74 5.4%
Age 75 to 84 3.4%
Age 85 and over 1.5%
Mean Age 34.6

I could use the Mean Age to drive Home my point but to make this debate fair, I'll use another Stat. Let's use the Age Most couples in the UK tend to form Relationships. That is around the ages of 18-40. The percentage of Charlton's Resident that falls into that category is 43-44%. Combining point 1 and 2, We can say quite a chunk of Charlton's Population are in the Young category.

Finally Let's have a look at Interracial Relationships in the UK. The rate of Interracial relationships amongst the General population in the UK is 9% with white People the least likely to be involved in an one(4%). In other words, only 4-9% of Charlton's White Population are likely to be an Interracial relationship. If that is the case, where do you get your 10:1 ration in favour of interracial relationship?



Bro the Only Set of Men Chinese women are rushing are those of European Descents(Westerners to be Precise). Amongst those interested in Relationships with Black Men, Nigerians are not at the Top of their Wish List. Black Westerners top that list too(Black Brits,African Americans, Black French dudes etc)

We are not in the same boat though. I was Born and Partially[mostly] raised in the UK(I say partially as I spent a good few years in Naij). The mostly certainly are not falling over themelves to have you. The term "Aff Uncles" is rampant for a good reason.

RuudVanNisteroy:

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They rush black Americans though, I see it at the clubs, when they pull up. Most of the Americans look like basketball or NFL players.

lefulefu:
if u goodlooking,clean with no body odour(as in armpit odours) they will cling to u..dats white girls for u.if u go to places like germany u will see nigerians with very attractive german girls.its no big deal having a white girl that is attractive falling for u but the most important thing is for u to look presentable.u cant be scraggly looking with body and mouth odour and not well dressed and u expect a white girl to be attracted to u .

Praxtech:

That's a beautiful country... The experience is wow

lefulefu:
i get u ..they like black men who are fit as in muscular and toned body and tall yes i agree to that..especially the young white girls.

RuudVanNisteroy:

Which girl of any race does not like men that are muscular and toned?That is the ultimate formula for pulling girls of any race.

lefulefu:
really? so what of nigerian girls who run after men with big stomachs

RuudVanNisteroy:

Money is power! If you're not muscular or toned, then have money.

whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.


I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me


What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear


If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.


Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.


Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.


White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department

In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.

Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.

All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.

Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.

There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.

A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is a honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.

I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today

Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely

whizqueen:

Thank you!

I’ve been on Nairaland long enough to know how these people reason. None of the responses so far moved me. If I’m confident in my looks enough to go on YouTube, who them be??

Shibaraba:
Op simply justified the first thread. Like your gaptooth though

And it made front page. Let me use this opportunity to pass a message .Do you know that when you give you actually receive? People dey hungry for this lock down. Some you go see outside dey laugh but Owu Don blow dem. Please pick your phone, call that your family and friend. This is an opportunity to make people smile. Yes scammers dey...But even if you're scammed while doing good the blessing remains the same. Even if na 1k give. You just might save a life. Hunger bad

(Miss you Hungerbad. Rip)

mikkyangel3:
As a software developer working remotely for a US tech company, I am paid well (circa $5k) and I live in Nigeria. Do I wish to immigrate to Canada? the thought used to cross my mind but since I got my remote job, my people I perished the thought. I even used to watch @whizqueen videos on YT (she used to be my neighbor in Surulere so I know am reach house) but not anymore.

Baba I aint going to any Canada or any foreign country at least permanently. if I want to collect fresh air , I can travel briefly and return or I go on company expense during our yearly retreat which is most times in Europe. Visa issues for me is the only time I hate my nationality and the green passport I carry.
$5k in Nigeria is not beans with $1 == #420 now and likely to increase.
Brethren just keep praying make oil fall on your head and you make it anywhere you are. Clearly Canada isnt heaven. I prefer heat (I can put on my AC) than subzero cold.

To each man his own.

Peace.

olujastro:
This is my experience abroad...

Nigerian girls after settling into their professions abroad are only looking at guys who are doing as well or better than them professionally and financially.

A white woman who is a Doctor will fall in love with a cook, cleaner, clerk, etc.
But materialism is a big problem with Nigerians so people love what someone is (what they have) rather than who they are (their personality), hence the reason most career girls abroad are yet to find Nigerian men of their dreams, not until they start getting older and desperate before their eyes clear.
A lot of single Nigerian girls in Norway are in this category.
The same story in Canada, where I hadn't even landed at the time and my friend was already trying to hook me up with her single friend who is a nurse.
Local man quickly declined her offer

RuudVanNisteroy:

I wish Nigeria was in the equation, but we nor join. Only African girls from Kenya,Zambia,Eritrea,Ethiopia and Sierra Leone rush Nigerians.

However, not whites,asian or latinoes on account of being Nigerian. We have little social capital

ibkayee:

You have put it perfectly, 'on account of being Nigerian' and 'little social capital'. Lol I get weak with laughter whenever I see some of them claim it on here, ain't nobody checking for Nigerians like that lmao

ovielistic:


tell them the truth..how much tax will you pay back from that money when you file tax..you are creating the impression that is awoof money.

ibkayee:

You have put it perfectly, 'on account of being Nigerian' and 'little social capital'. Lol I get weak with laughter whenever I see some of them claim it on here, ain't nobody checking for Nigerians like that lmao

cooltola:
My own observation from reading this post
1, Even in marriage whether in Canada, Nigeria, Japan , USA, UK, SA or anywhere, you can still be lonely. Yes people get lonely in marriage and that is why some women or men cheat.
2., Do not generalized that most Nigerian men or most Nigerian women are this or that. There are some Nigerian men who support women's' right and have no problem with the Canadian laws that protect women and not all Nigerian women in Canada are lonely
3. Having a gf/bf or marry someone does not solve life problem, but it helps if you have the right person by your side
4. Whatever works for you only depend on the Grace of God, I have some people who migrated to overseas, work hard or not so hard and are doing very well and I have some Nigerian who work very hard and are still struggling in overseas. Some owe debt of $10000 in credit card, loans but you cannot never tell until they tell you.
5. Loneliness is not permanent - Just because you have a lot of friends today or you are not lonely today does not necessary prevent loneliness tomorrow.
6. Always draw near to God because He cares for you

Ayohbk:


LOL..... I see reason why girls like her would rather be lonely than go for guys like you, if you think typing a few paragraphs is so much work.

here:
Both threads are wrong although have valid points. In all the real intentions are destroyed when you read the comments that follow. The generalizations on all single women and “Nigerian men” on both is just clear show of bitterness. However I advice ladies migrating even interstate in Nigeria to consider their love live as every aspect is important more so abroad. For the part that clearly seem to attack both gender in the threads or imply superiority/dumbness to a gender is completely unnecessary. Every article is meant to discuss both views and offer a way forward, I find that lacking in both and completely suggest the mods to delete both threads as they encourage hate.
My opinion