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deewhydoski:
Op, I can see that some people are saying you should go and make money to impress your babe family, like say money is easy to make especially in this Niger. Op dont go and do pass yourself
Leave the girl, it is obvious that her father don't want you. Upgrade yourself and look for someone else.
Ladies full for town

silento:
Wetin happen to ur dick give her belle and relax they will call u to sort out things

stuffs4me:
OP. even you have discriminated against polytechnics people because I'm very sure you have met countless poly girls but chose to go for a university graduate with masters sef.

No poly guy or girl wants to marry a polytechnic leaver yet you guys are the first people who complain about discrimination. Same discrimination you poly leavers are guilty of

My advice to the OP is to look for a fellow polytechnic girl and date as that girl he is chasing is way beyond his level in all ramifications.

stuffs4me:
True talk bro.. The OP is a gold digger and the lady's dad saw his conny tricks from a mile away. Ordinary factory worker with a diploma wants to marry a lady with B.Sc and masters that works in a big company in Lagos.

The OP should go and eat his mumu love.

humilitypays:
The reason the man rejected you is not that you are a HND holder, it is how you presented yourself plus how you sold yourself to her father when he asked about your parents and job.


Everybody in Nigeria is scared of poverty, including President Buhari that was why he hurriedly married his daughters out to sons of billionaires cos even as a President he was scared of the future of his kids lol


I can boldly tell you that most of my close friends are HND holders and they earn far more than most master degree holders, most have built their own houses, some building second houses for rent and driving their dream cars and married to ladies with far greater profile than your girlfriend.

For those screaming Masters Degree, what is a masters degree in present day Nigeria and the world when there are no jobs She's only lucky she has a connected father that helped her get a job after her Msc if not, her Msc cert would have expired in her clothing box like thousands of people in Nigeria and even outside Nigeria.


In the US for instance, if you like have 2 Msc in all those yeye courses they study in Nigeria like Marketing, Accounting, Microbiology, Biochemistry, Geology, Business Administration, Public Administration, etc, people with ordinary certificate in Nursing, and other STEM courses will earn far more than you and even get employed before you will ever get a job, so what's the fuss about


Most IOCS and top FMCGs employ mostly HND graduates; especially the engineering guys and they grow faster than most other graduates and fields.


Dangote Refinery, Fertiliser, P&G, Oil Test, Shell, Mobil, NLNG, NBC, etc employ mostly Engineering graduates with HND and most of them earn far more than Bsc and Msc graduate s, so op don't let the man's action push you to depression, it is not about your HND certificate, it is about what you are currently earning, about your financial status now; probably you went to the man's house on a taxi, and dressed like an Oshogbo man, just upgrade yourself because the whole world is afraid of poverty that is why everybody is running away from poor people, not that poor people are poisonous.


Repackage yourself, there are far better ladies ahead to meet, the girl profile is not even that high to warrant the father talking nonsense, ordinary Babcock and Covenant university, what will he say about those that trained their daughters in ivy League schools in UK, US, etc He couldn't even afford to send her abroad to study where she would have met sons and daughters of Queens and Kings yet he is discriminating, life sha.


Op you are a man, man no get bad market when it comes to marriage, a man is always a good market when it comes to marriage, the only problem a man has in life is to get money. Go and get money, you will meet far better ladies with higher profile than the ordinary Babcock graduate of a girl with valueless Msc from Otta farm school....focus on moving to a better company that pays better using your work experience and once you start earning higher and start packaging yourself better, you will meet even foreign ladies with royal family background, for a man, it's all about money and your packaging. The man is only doing his daughter not you. He should visit big organisations in Nigeria and outside Nigeria and see ladies in executive positions with even PhD being used and dumped by Gigolo boys who didn't even finish secondary school....some are begging guys for marriage with all their PhD and wealth, it will soon clear from his eyes, I hate irrational people


If the yeye school his daughter attended and the yeye Bsc and Masters was that special, why couldn't his daughter use them to secure a wonderful job on her own with her father helping her to get a job Of what use is her schooling to obtain Bsc and Msc if she couldn't secure a good job on her own without her Father's help Yeye people

123papas:
i understand your plight but how you guys travel from one state to another because of kpanshing is unbelievable

PureGoldh:
Bro....see eeh,just be urself....No dey worry urself over dx issue.

If the girl in question was designed for you by God.... something extraordinaire wey pass Zeeworld go happen between the two of una...even her family go turn up for you.

There is a man for every woman and there is a woman for every man.

I wish you all the best

damesilver:
Ladies full for town? Really? As if it is that easy. you know how many of us looking for girlfriends, for many years? To even find someone who matches you is not easy. Please look for another consolation.

stuffs4me:
Read what the OP typed in his story and you'll find out that he is just a factory worker with HND while the girl has first degree and a masters and works in a big organisation in Lagos.

Habba! The two of them no be mate na. If not for NYSC, they would never have met at that kind of social level.

The OP sounds to me like a gold digger. that wants to use the girl to escape poverty and the lady's dad was wise to his conny tricks

OriOko88:
Your last sentence is senseless

DontBullshitMe:
Another sponsored post.
How much do they pay you guys?

landmark86:
I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree.
She also graduated from Babcock University.

We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.

It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.

After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.

After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.

Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.

12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.

He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house.
I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern.
Should I call it quit?

Please your advise is needed, what should I do?

seniormallam:
The problem is that you don't have a good job, the school thing is just a easy way out for the Dad.
I'm also an HND holder, if not for genotype issue, my fiancée then has Msc. And she's a daughter of one LASU acting HOD then.
My uncle has HND, working with first bank, he earns above #300k monthly on his grade level, I'm sure the Dad won't say NO with such salary.
Adekunle Gold finished from Lagos state polytechnic while Simi his wife graduated from covenant university...... Will the Dad had said NO too.
You don't have a good job, yet you didn't say your Dad too is one chief or a politician....... Hustle Bro.

Ningen:
Are you implying he rather gives his blessings to a poor and jobless degree holder than to a rich and successful school dropout?

You are totally naive to believe it's all about your educational background, its your Bank Account!



Your options —

1. She can find her voice and convince her dad that you are success and marriage material.

2. You can go back to school for a degree.

3. Elope together without his blessing.

4. Get rich quick, google 'Robbin Banks' for tips.

5. Quit and move on. ( Preferred option!!)

Sometimes I wonder the kind of sand God used in creating some people's brain, in your case God did not use sand He used refined milk butter and honey. Well done bro

customstreet:
Honestly, the education gap was too obvious. The father was emotionally looking for good future for his daughter. In fact, both are not compatible. If they don't know now they would know in future

landmark86:
I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree.
She also graduated from Babcock University.

We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.

It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.

After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.

After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.

Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.

12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.

He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house.
I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern.
Should I call it quit?

Please your advise is needed, what should I do?

Liliantalks:
i agree with a lot u said but that part is a full blown lie . Do not be decieved. As an HNd holder u must further or it will take many years to get a promotion, people who hire HND holders want cheap labour . So u futher to be promoted. Same with bsc but their start up pay is not as low as Hnd holders

jaxxy:
Lol i didn't say her father bt there is nothing wrong with that if he can. There are many promising guys out there bt its just lack of opportunities. That's my point.

If a guy genuinely loves ur daughter and has prospects there's nothing wrong with fixing him up.

rayobaba:
Mmhmm, some people say give her belle. Still may not work and l don't support that. Some parent wl stl force their daughter to abort the pregnancy which is automatic the end of the relationship. I think the dad not after your HND, he has weighed it and felt you below her daughter educationally and that maybe you not rich.
If you are so rich with your HND, papa may not think of HND.
Continue with the relationship, be a man, don't be timid or weak, don't feel inferior, be caring and understanding to the girl, and lastly chase the cheque and continue to work hard and smart legally.
Time will tell.

openmine:
You are going too far with these futuristic questions of yours!
The OP never said he was rejected because he doesn't have a good job(most private companies pay very well) or he wasn't financially stable....he was rejected by the lady's dad,according to him,because of his 'POLY CERTIFICATE'! SIMPLE!
This is why i advised you to go back and peruse his post instead of adding what isn't even there!
Are you very sure you read his post or you just responded to the title?

menix:
Which one concern the school wey son of Man attend with blissful marriage

Some of this our end time parent dey even surprise d devil..

Robisky001:
Her dad wasn't even concerned if you can actually cater for daughter but your Educational level. Smh

pasol4real:
This mentality you displayed here would ruin you if you don’t change. From this your comment I can deduce you are one of those girls after flashy things n sparks.
Your type will rather sacrifice their future for immediate gratifications.
My point? Always look out for potentials n not the immediate sparks.

meetme01:
Op, to be sincere, if you don't upgrade before you get married to that lady if eventually things is sorted. You would have issues in your home.

See, it's not a curse. Married folks can attest to this.

Her standard is much higher academically, financially etc than yours. You have been seen as a gold digger. She would want to reside in Lagos due to her job. Not mainland Lagos but on the island. Can you afford accommodation in Lekki or or VI.? She would have much say in the home because her income is much higher and her parents would be supportive. If you're not careful, your home would be dictated by her parents. Before you know, you would turn to their houseboy. At the long run, a hit or foul language on the lady will end the marriage.

Please, yoruba would say, ile ola niyonu. Another says, iyawo burku se fe, ano buruku o se ni (You can mange a bad wife but the in-law should not be harboured).

If you like yourself, make her your best friend and remain best of friends. She would love it that way and any request for support or assistance, she would be glad.

Marriage is not only about love o.