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Eyeness:
The long and short of this article is written in bold.

Men spend money on the things they care about. If they aren’t spending money on you they don’t care about you!!.

That's the simple truth sweetheart.


The way they demonstrate that something is important to them is by putting money into it. They can spend money on bet9ja, on a suit, on PS5 and so on because that is what they care about. This is why so many fathers are completely emotionless with their children, yet they have no problem giving them money and gifts. That’s the only way they know how to display affection. Children of emotionally unavailable fathers grow up to be adults that complain about this in therapy.

If the reason is because he’s broke, you shouldn’t be dealing with him anyway. Stop worrying about broke men’s feelings and stop trying to explain your decisions to them. It doesn’t matter why you arent interested in them. The fact that you’re one less woman they can’t have access to will infuriate them, making them open lady bashing threads to vent their frustration. Regardless of your reason why. The fact that you have the agency to choose the better man for your needs will infuriate them, regardless of your reason why. E.g Ubunja Martinez39 Greatresearcher1 Kennedyiheme02 and the other so called woke guys of the REDPILL troupe.


Poor men hate women too and are not more likely to treat you any better than a man who has money and resources, just because he came from hUmbLe bEgiNnIngs. There are millions of poor men in both first and third world countries who abuse women. Their socioeconomic level has nothing to do with how much empathy they have for women. In fact, you’ll hear many poor men blame their mothers for their poverty. E.g childofdoom


Money is the only real security in the society we’re in and men know it, yet they like to tell women it’s not important but it is. Poverty has a way of making love take the backseat. It’s in men’s best interest to hoard wealth, it’s in their best interest to make sure women continue to be paid less than them. They don’t think your high paying career is “too masculine and therefore unattractive” simply because you are in the highest position in an office full of men and are wearing a suit. They know if you have a job that pays you well, you are much less likely to put up with their bullshit and bend over backwards for them. Men are turned on by women who show signs of socioeconomic instability, hence the “damsel in distress” trope that they love. A great example of this is the abundance of pornography where the Roleplay is all about how the woman couldn’t afford to pay for a service, so she used her body as payment.

All men know that deep down they are energy vampires and most women would have no incentive to put up with them if they didn’t need something. They want to be needed. They’ll even say it themselves sometimes. “Men like to feel useful and needed! If you feminists women don’t need us for anything what’s the point?” They don’t see a point in being romantic with you if you are self sufficient, but when you hold them to what they say and start asking for things, suddenly they have an issue with that too.

Sex is the easiest thing to get out of a man. They’ll give you plenty of sex and attention because it’s free, it’s the main thing they care about, and they don’t lose any of their wealth or resources doing it. What they don’t like doing however, is giving women security. I browse many forums and groups because I like to hear the perspectives of all sorts of women. I have seen women in the sugar baby/sex work game complain about how men have no problem giving them their allowance or payment in the form of physical gifts like a purse, a pair of heels, or a necklace. When the women stress that they want physical cash for their time so they can split that money up in ways that’s most beneficial for them, suddenly the “it’s too transactional” excuse jumps out. It’s bullshit. They don’t want you in a better financial position because that means you’re less likely to need them in the future. These same men are usually high rollers in the fields of finance, or they’re entrepreneurs. They understand why certain items are a bad investment and if someone tried to pay them for their time with a new suit instead of cash, they’d sue.

It doesn’t matter how much men tell you they care about you. If they cared they’d provide you with security whether that is through cold hard cash or investing in your business. Hell, maybe you do really just want expensive gifts, whatever floats your boat. Define what security means to you, define what devotion from a man looks like to you and make sure they’re giving it to you. Otherwise, don’t waste your time.


To all the broke blokes who might want to vent their frustration on my thread, pls go and hustle and mind the business that pays you.

I'm that elder sister who tells it to you as it is ladies without the politeness and eye service. I don't try to be politically correct.


Remember to put yourself first.


In my next post, I'll get around to how to get men to spend money on you.

Newbielearner:
Bro, I think I and you are both wrong for visiting this thread. I think the topic depicts that's for ladies only.
However, I think you and I were curious. So we visited.
I wasn't disappointed to see what I saw. Op was constantly using the word "spend." The word "invest" never occurred to her.
Who wants to harbour unproductive liability in a human vessel?
Someone with a creative mind would not have to ask before you invest in her ideas. If you spend on her, it should be by choice not the usual send me this and that.

If you want someone spending on you, he'll be spending on others as well, and wouldn't worry about how you feel when he does what he does to what he buys, not what he invests in. Some ladies no this. So they stun you by rejecting some of these things. Otherwise, in the end you'll end up a single mother.

You should know bro, the right woman that understands your ideology would come your way. Not the typical Nigerian lady that turns a billionaire to a millionaire.

Some Nigerian ladies are actually the best. They make you feel like they have a plan. How they even go as far as going against your business competitors, ask you how something even you have forgotten about played out. How they just blend with your life and make you even want to grow better.

The onos is on us to keep filtering through and avoiding leeches. A virtuous woman is hard to find. But when you do, you should know God has favoured you, and invest in her, pet her, and be faithful.

Eyeness:
70% of Nigerians are poor, and a number of them are broke men holding on to the pipe dream that they will be rich tomorrow.

It's 2020, we are still waiting for all of you to blow since 2008. But asking women to jeopardize their futures on your dream is pure selfishness.

onyegwu:
Men have been spending everything they have for women right from time immemorial even the one you call broke also has something he has offer at a point. The men know longer want to be those things or if I would say fools anymore. But all you do now is turn around and call them broke are you not also guilty of the shaming and calling of names that you frown against? Stop waiting for who will spend on u. You have brain, hand and leg. Blood is flowing through ur body so work and earn your dignity. The men are human beings like you who have to navigate through a lot so leave them and face ur self. You can go on a voyage for the kind of men you want is your choice and no one cares.

onyegwu:
Getting a rich guy is good but women empowerment is much more better. It emancipate you from any form of slavery.

Eyeness:
spend and invest. All euphemisms for the same term, putting money and resources where you see value. I just used the simpler word out of the two. I am not after political correctness.


I am not surprised by your response either, resorting to cheap blackmail and shaming telling ladies " you'll end up single at 30" "you'll end up a single mother" is no longer effective.

My threads give ladies the hard facts and the skills they need if they want to navigate the dating and relationship waters and come out with the best of both worlds.

Who says the ladies I speak to do not have a plan? Or are not virtuous? Women add value to men by simply being in their lives because they are multipliers. If the women you come across are giving you crap, it is most likely because crap is all you have to offer in the first place.

We don't want men who are all talk and no action, who can easily promise love but can't invest/spend on our business or our futures.

Women are not the liability, broke men are.


I encourage you to keep filtering leeches, since you were already anaemic to begin with.


Isn't it funny how the men that have come to this thread all make claims of having cash??

Genset:
Don't mind them ooo . Na only broke guys full Nairaland. It is very visible from the way they type . Broke men ain't shit . Una go weep tire especially that emmaodet that his wife feeds.

emmaodet:
Haa haaaaa

emmaodet:
Haa haaaaa,
Who is this again?
Seems emmaodet lives and sleeps in your head 24/7.
And who told you my wife feeds me? Are you that daft to jump to conclusion?
Please don't dare me or cross my path because you won't like my reaction. I will place you where you belong.
From my payslip, do i look like someone his wife feeds?
Are you that wretched that you think everybody is like you.
Why the sudden attack at me since yesterday from you stvpid women sef, abeg make una free me

Eyeness:
The long and short of this article is written in bold.

Men spend money on the things they care about. If they aren’t spending money on you they don’t care about you!!.

That's the simple truth sweetheart.


The way they demonstrate that something is important to them is by putting money into it. They can spend money on bet9ja, on a suit, on PS5 and so on because that is what they care about. This is why so many fathers are completely emotionless with their children, yet they have no problem giving them money and gifts. That’s the only way they know how to display affection. Children of emotionally unavailable fathers grow up to be adults that complain about this in therapy.

If the reason is because he’s broke, you shouldn’t be dealing with him anyway. Stop worrying about broke men’s feelings and stop trying to explain your decisions to them. It doesn’t matter why you arent interested in them. The fact that you’re one less woman they can’t have access to will infuriate them, making them open lady bashing threads to vent their frustration. Regardless of your reason why. The fact that you have the agency to choose the better man for your needs will infuriate them, regardless of your reason why. E.g Ubunja Martinez39 Greatresearcher1 Kennedyiheme02 and the other so called woke guys of the REDPILL troupe.


Poor men hate women too and are not more likely to treat you any better than a man who has money and resources, just because he came from hUmbLe bEgiNnIngs. There are millions of poor men in both first and third world countries who abuse women. Their socioeconomic level has nothing to do with how much empathy they have for women. In fact, you’ll hear many poor men blame their mothers for their poverty. E.g childofdoom


Money is the only real security in the society we’re in and men know it, yet they like to tell women it’s not important but it is. Poverty has a way of making love take the backseat. It’s in men’s best interest to hoard wealth, it’s in their best interest to make sure women continue to be paid less than them. They don’t think your high paying career is “too masculine and therefore unattractive” simply because you are in the highest position in an office full of men and are wearing a suit. They know if you have a job that pays you well, you are much less likely to put up with their bullshit and bend over backwards for them. Men are turned on by women who show signs of socioeconomic instability, hence the “damsel in distress” trope that they love. A great example of this is the abundance of pornography where the Roleplay is all about how the woman couldn’t afford to pay for a service, so she used her body as payment.

All men know that deep down they are energy vampires and most women would have no incentive to put up with them if they didn’t need something. They want to be needed. They’ll even say it themselves sometimes. “Men like to feel useful and needed! If you feminists women don’t need us for anything what’s the point?” They don’t see a point in being romantic with you if you are self sufficient, but when you hold them to what they say and start asking for things, suddenly they have an issue with that too.

Sex is the easiest thing to get out of a man. They’ll give you plenty of sex and attention because it’s free, it’s the main thing they care about, and they don’t lose any of their wealth or resources doing it. What they don’t like doing however, is giving women security. I browse many forums and groups because I like to hear the perspectives of all sorts of women. I have seen women in the sugar baby/sex work game complain about how men have no problem giving them their allowance or payment in the form of physical gifts like a purse, a pair of heels, or a necklace. When the women stress that they want physical cash for their time so they can split that money up in ways that’s most beneficial for them, suddenly the “it’s too transactional” excuse jumps out. It’s bullshit. They don’t want you in a better financial position because that means you’re less likely to need them in the future. These same men are usually high rollers in the fields of finance, or they’re entrepreneurs. They understand why certain items are a bad investment and if someone tried to pay them for their time with a new suit instead of cash, they’d sue.

It doesn’t matter how much men tell you they care about you. If they cared they’d provide you with security whether that is through cold hard cash or investing in your business. Hell, maybe you do really just want expensive gifts, whatever floats your boat. Define what security means to you, define what devotion from a man looks like to you and make sure they’re giving it to you. Otherwise, don’t waste your time.


To all the broke blokes who might want to vent their frustration on my thread, pls go and hustle and mind the business that pays you.

I'm that elder sister who tells it to you as it is ladies without the politeness and eye service. I don't try to be politically correct.


Remember to put yourself first.


In my next post, I'll get around to how to get men to spend money on you.

Theconglomerate:
cheee na soo.
Give them hot hot baba.
Broke girls is a no.

purples25:

Lol these guys that want to kill a woman with suffering have come. Okay, then men are also body diggers. I have never seen a woman who is less attractive say 'Manage with my current looks and age, when things get better, we will enjoy my beauty' and a guy will agree. The men always go for what they want, they get list and preferences.

But if a woman chooses, she is a LovePeddler.

Let me tell you the real truth, you will suffer with him, ask him for nothing, and he will ridicule you! You will be a foot mat that he rubs mud on!

Any guy that wants to summersault should do so! I'm only returning the savagery you guys lash out with here!

emmaodet:
Yes ooo bro
Any small thing broke broke broke, na poverty chase dem comot from heaven?

Logo,
I hail oo bros, abeg show ur guy way oooo bcus i dey learn for where you dey oooo.
And na my people talk am say pikin wey sabi wash hand na him go follow elders chop oo.
Show your boy way oooo bcus am tired of staying in Egypt and want you to hold my hand to the promise land.
I don tire for all dis small small changes wey i dey earn ooo.
Man sef wan drive bugatti, Lamborghini, Ferrari and Benz ooo. No be all these toyota man dey drive.
You know say anywhere you dey talk, dem no born me well to say pimppp!!!!
Bros, abeg help ur boy ministry to the permanent site

CAPSLOCKED:
LOL, WE DON'T DO THAT HERE. WE DON'T GIVE THEM A REASON TO STOP THE NAMING AND SHAMING. IT BRINGS THEM JOY AND ENTERTAINMENT, AND SINCE THEY CANNOT AFFORD IT IN REAL LIFE, WE LET THEM HAVE IT HERE AT OUR EXPENSE.

Eyeness:
The long and short of this article is written in bold.

Men spend money on the things they care about. If they aren’t spending money on you they don’t care about you!!.

That's the simple truth sweetheart.


The way they demonstrate that something is important to them is by putting money into it. They can spend money on bet9ja, on a suit, on PS5 and so on because that is what they care about. This is why so many fathers are completely emotionless with their children, yet they have no problem giving them money and gifts. That’s the only way they know how to display affection. Children of emotionally unavailable fathers grow up to be adults that complain about this in therapy.

If the reason is because he’s broke, you shouldn’t be dealing with him anyway. Stop worrying about broke men’s feelings and stop trying to explain your decisions to them. It doesn’t matter why you arent interested in them. The fact that you’re one less woman they can’t have access to will infuriate them, making them open lady bashing threads to vent their frustration. Regardless of your reason why. The fact that you have the agency to choose the better man for your needs will infuriate them, regardless of your reason why. E.g Ubunja Martinez39 Greatresearcher1 Kennedyiheme02 and the other so called woke guys of the REDPILL troupe.


Poor men hate women too and are not more likely to treat you any better than a man who has money and resources, just because he came from hUmbLe bEgiNnIngs. There are millions of poor men in both first and third world countries who abuse women. Their socioeconomic level has nothing to do with how much empathy they have for women. In fact, you’ll hear many poor men blame their mothers for their poverty. E.g childofdoom


Money is the only real security in the society we’re in and men know it, yet they like to tell women it’s not important but it is. Poverty has a way of making love take the backseat. It’s in men’s best interest to hoard wealth, it’s in their best interest to make sure women continue to be paid less than them. They don’t think your high paying career is “too masculine and therefore unattractive” simply because you are in the highest position in an office full of men and are wearing a suit. They know if you have a job that pays you well, you are much less likely to put up with their bullshit and bend over backwards for them. Men are turned on by women who show signs of socioeconomic instability, hence the “damsel in distress” trope that they love. A great example of this is the abundance of pornography where the Roleplay is all about how the woman couldn’t afford to pay for a service, so she used her body as payment.

All men know that deep down they are energy vampires and most women would have no incentive to put up with them if they didn’t need something. They want to be needed. They’ll even say it themselves sometimes. “Men like to feel useful and needed! If you feminists women don’t need us for anything what’s the point?” They don’t see a point in being romantic with you if you are self sufficient, but when you hold them to what they say and start asking for things, suddenly they have an issue with that too.

Sex is the easiest thing to get out of a man. They’ll give you plenty of sex and attention because it’s free, it’s the main thing they care about, and they don’t lose any of their wealth or resources doing it. What they don’t like doing however, is giving women security. I browse many forums and groups because I like to hear the perspectives of all sorts of women. I have seen women in the sugar baby/sex work game complain about how men have no problem giving them their allowance or payment in the form of physical gifts like a purse, a pair of heels, or a necklace. When the women stress that they want physical cash for their time so they can split that money up in ways that’s most beneficial for them, suddenly the “it’s too transactional” excuse jumps out. It’s bullshit. They don’t want you in a better financial position because that means you’re less likely to need them in the future. These same men are usually high rollers in the fields of finance, or they’re entrepreneurs. They understand why certain items are a bad investment and if someone tried to pay them for their time with a new suit instead of cash, they’d sue.

It doesn’t matter how much men tell you they care about you. If they cared they’d provide you with security whether that is through cold hard cash or investing in your business. Hell, maybe you do really just want expensive gifts, whatever floats your boat. Define what security means to you, define what devotion from a man looks like to you and make sure they’re giving it to you. Otherwise, don’t waste your time.


To all the broke blokes who might want to vent their frustration on my thread, pls go and hustle and mind the business that pays you.

I'm that elder sister who tells it to you as it is ladies without the politeness and eye service. I don't try to be politically correct.


Remember to put yourself first.


In my next post, I'll get around to how to get men to spend money on you.

Theconglomerate:
You still dey PHC?

purples25:
[s]So for a man to do good things for his woman, and[/s] for a woman to ONLY AND ALWAYS choose a man who can provide, she is being bought?

emmaodet:
Yes, am at Onne.
Anchorage and you?
I wanted to come to town at least for us to see and discuss but this virus is scaring the expats onboard and they don't want any crew to go ashore with the believe we will contract the virus to them.
But let's see next week, will try and come to town so that we can see, all drinks and ashii on you bro

Theconglomerate:
lol okay no shakes.
Just let me know when you are ready.

purples25:

Lol these guys that want to kill a woman with suffering have come. Okay, then men are also body diggers. I have never seen a woman who is less attractive say 'Manage with my current looks and age, when things get better, we will enjoy my beauty' and a guy will agree. The men always go for what they want, they get list and preferences.

But if a woman chooses, she is a LovePeddler.

Genset:
Don't mind them ooo . Na only broke guys full Nairaland. It is very visible from the way they type . Broke men ain't shit . Una go weep tire especially that emmaodet that his wife feeds.

crownedrookie:
Yes

Eyeness:
that is so dumb, it can't even qualify as logic

emmaodet:
Haa haaaaa,
Who is this again?
Seems emmaodet lives and sleeps in your head 24/7.
And who told you my wife feeds me? Are you that daft to jump to conclusion?
Please don't dare me or cross my path because you won't like my reaction. I will place you where you belong.
From my payslip, do i look like someone his wife feeds?
Are you that wretched that you think everybody is like you.
Why the sudden attack at me since yesterday from you stvpid women sef, abeg make una free me

sexylassie2:
Your payslip is fake.

You typed it yourself, looking very unprofessional and ordinary.

Who are you deceiving

emmaodet:
Lol, that salary is monthly and not yearly, why don't you check again

sexylassie2:
Your payslip is fake.

You typed it yourself, looking very unprofessional and ordinary.

My first time seeing a payslip without no tax reduction and other reductions

Who are you deceiving

sexylassie2:
Your payslip is fake.

You typed it yourself, looking very unprofessional and ordinary.

My first time seeing a payslip without no tax reduction and other reductions

Who are you deceiving

emmaodet:
Lol
I know it is a shocker for you now,
Ekuke
Abeg commot for my front make beta people see road
Dirty poor broke lazy ass

sexylassie2:
I have checked it and updated my comments.

It is fake, which company that is paying some one almost a million monthly use ordinary a4 paper as payslip.

Your fake payslip also does not include tax and pension reduction or even amount of allowances you will be collecting.

I believe you typed it yourself. You are liar.

Also what sort of man earning almost a million follow two jobless redpill boys around, praising them.

Another thought, let's imagine you are a 2nd mate/dpo , that means you work on a vessel, it also means your job is not permanent and can be 2 month contracts or 50 days contract or 7 weeks contract.

Since your contract was 2018, it means you are jobless now.