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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by Elineska: 9:57am On Aug 03, 2020
...and you...what are you bringing to the table. Hope it's not only kpekus

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by proclinician: 9:58am On Aug 03, 2020
5 Guys To Choose: 1 Genotype Issue, 2 No TV & Fridge, 3 Great, Arrogant, 4 Only HND. Lol


Buy TV and Fridge for number 2 guy na. I wonder what these guys want with you and how you can be useful to them.
Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by stillmaticOG(m): 9:58am On Aug 03, 2020
Olosho. All this men only u

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by blesskewe(f): 9:59am On Aug 03, 2020
damoceile:
Why don't you just take this confusion of urs to ur ancestors,they should know better.......


cos me I refuse to be confused biko undecided undecided
.
Savage

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by Ilaumoh(m): 9:59am On Aug 03, 2020
Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by droidview: 9:59am On Aug 03, 2020
lol. This is a serious decision issue.



Meanwhile, with just 3k, I can teach you how to design ecommerce website by friday.

See: https://www.nairaland.com/6028411/ecommerce-website-training
Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by careytommy37(m): 9:59am On Aug 03, 2020
Organise a Group Intimacy with all 5 guys. Marry the last man standing

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by SavageResponse(m): 10:00am On Aug 03, 2020
Stylekay:
Even me sef is confused. Ask Lalasticlala

grin
Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by DigitB: 10:00am On Aug 03, 2020
The Bright guy, what's his financial status like?

His level of education?

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by Angelfrost(m): 10:01am On Aug 03, 2020
konkonbilo:
shocked them suppose use this your story for Nollywood movie. I'm as confused as other readers. Best of luck in your search for your missing rib wink

Isn't she supposed to be the 'Missing rib'??!... undecided
Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by Kobicove(m): 10:01am On Aug 03, 2020
Bleep love!

You know in you heart love doesn't exist!

Go for the Victor guy

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by jendhorlee(m): 10:01am On Aug 03, 2020
na like this aunty Helen take do till she clock 40

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by gift2xl: 10:02am On Aug 03, 2020
You are in a cross road, consult your heavenly maker, at least your still...

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by xynerise: 10:02am On Aug 03, 2020
I believe you must have had sexual intimacy with all of them?

Different dicks can make a woman confused grin grin

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by cray91(m): 10:03am On Aug 03, 2020
if you have the patience to read all these stories and understand trust me nothing again can scare you in real life

cuz yo already have the patience to deal with life lol
WomaninherPrime:
Good evening house. Kindly read patiently. I promise to be as honest as possible.

I'm a young woman in her mid-20s. I've been in three relationships so far... two were sexual, and one was purely celibate, though it didn't last beyond 6 months.

I recently got out of a 2-yr relationship with Dubem when we discovered our genotype isn't compatible. But the problem is that we're still doing a lot of back and forth. Dubem wants the relationship to continue because he's working on how we'd have our babies via IVF or chorionic villi testing to first determine the sex of the baby.

This has put me in a very confusing situation because I'm unable to move on while he's still holding on for us... and at the same time, I just keep thinking about how life would be a lot easier if I'd just marry a genotype compatible man and have children the regular way without the stress and huge financial cost of an IVF.

To fully move on from Dubem, I started seeing other people..

Nedu is a very great guy... has everything I want in a man, but he's having some financial challenges right now. He's cute, godly, very intelligent, good humour, communicates very well, respectful, sound family values, neat, and seems to me like someone who can take charge of his home. But his financial situation gives me cause for concern... he doesn't seem like he'd be comfortably ready to start a family in another 2/3 years. But that aside, his condition just dampens my enthusiasm to even visit him or start a committed relationship with him. No TV or fridge in his apartment. I feel embarrassed/sorry for him when he has to go watch TV at his friend's or neighbour's... Or I'm thinking of cooking stuff to take to him... but no fridge to store. Joykiller. Or the fact that he can't be a support system to me at the moment...

There's also Victor who comes off as a great guy but I've refused to pay him enough attention all these months because I'm still entangled with Dubem. Victor is doing quite well, and is passionate about his job, but he likes to talk about himself way too much, and seems a bit arrogant. The vibes I get off him is that he tries to be at his best behaviour when he's with me, just to impress, but maybe he's real. While I don't like like him at the moment, I feel if I gave him a chance, I'd see some other aspects of him that would make me love him.

There's Denver on the other hand. Denver is an absolute gentle man... and doing fairly well with his business. I almost said yes to him, but I felt it was coming from the place of pressure. He was putting me under a lot of pressure to say yes... he wants to get married in a minute, but I'm still not resolved on marrying him. Plus he's from a polygamous family, and his plan is for us to live in his disputed family house if/when we get married, and I feel that comes with a lot of drama. Also, he's a bit lackadaisical about his wellbeing. He doesn't seem very tidy. His car always has things strung about. I worry, too about his level of education. He has just a HND and is not in the corporate world whereas I have serious plans to get either a double masters plus lots of certifications or a Ph.D I fear there might be some sort of incompatibility years down the line. Other than these concerns, Denver is a great guy.

Then there's Bright... I've known Bright since I was in uni... he was planning a surprise engagement once, when we weren't even dating. He's the most inconsistent and confused man I've ever met. He's consistent for a aweek or two, then goes off-radar only to resurface again after a few months. But somehow he seems to believe I'm the one who's never agreed to take him seriously. But how do I take a man who's inconsistent seriously? Ideally, he shouldn't be on this list because I long cancelled him... but he called this morning and we had a very long conversation... which was short of him pleading that I calm down and take him seriously so we can move to the next level.

Now the reason I created this thread. I like having a linear focus when I'm in a relationship, but I'm unable to leave Dubem because all these other guys have one issue or the other. No, I'm not looking for a perfect guy. Dubem isn't perfect, but we've come a long way, and we love each other, and we've come to accept and understand each other as we are.
I've become impatient... I feel like I'm at the prime of my life as a woman, and I have other suitors to choose from but I'm holding on to a very precarious relationship. Dubem might as well just wake up one day and decide that our genotype incompatibility is a big deal and we should see other people... at that time, one year of my life would have gone by...these great guys would have probably moved on, too. A woman's hotcake period is fleeting. For my personal plans, I'd love to be married by next year.


Ohh. I mentioned the thing about my two sexual relationships because I made a hasty vow to God once that I wouldn't have sex with more than two men before getting married. I don't know ...God is a merciful God, yeah...But that vow still pops up in my mind now and again. So I can't go into any careless relationship, and now I can't choose.

I'm honestly confused �.
Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by na2016: 10:03am On Aug 03, 2020
WomaninherPrime:
Good evening house. Kindly read patiently. I promise to be as honest as possible.

I'm a young woman in her mid-20s. I've been in three relationships so far... two were sexual, and one was purely celibate, though it didn't last beyond 6 months.
I'm honestly confused �.

marriage is not about certificate. if your man has HND and you have PhD, there is nothing wrong. All it requires is submission and true love.

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by maestroferddi: 10:03am On Aug 03, 2020
Just an upcoming content writer trying to strut his stuff...

Let me fire a bullet into the sky...

Maybe this your lazy "love" of yours can take a struggler in the streets of Lagos and transform him into a Dangote...

Ironic that a lot of females and immature people, in real life, place a twisted value on this so-called love...

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by Bullhari: 10:03am On Aug 03, 2020
WomaninherPrime:
Good evening house. Kindly read patiently. I promise to be as honest as possible.

I'm honestly confused �.

Shiloh this year may be a virtual praying conference.


Go build that man you want by yourself

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by lalasticlala(m): 10:04am On Aug 03, 2020
Dayoebe:
Nice story!
Change the title to a more attractive one, call Lalasticlala to help you move it to FP thereby you can get large audience

Narrow it down to three or less. Remove the one with IVF patapata, delete ''family house'', avoid the ''arrogant''. Also, Buy TV and Fridge for other guy and modify him to your taste

Then lets talk about the rest
Thank me later


Guys between Quantum Physics and this issue, which one is harder??

grin

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by Salt06(m): 10:05am On Aug 03, 2020
Yoighaman:
@OP:
This your matter na real case study, couldn’t help but smile whilst reading other people’s comments but it is a serious matter that should not be swept under the carpet; at least that is why you have spoken up, so I’d try to give my little cent briefly.

Guy 1- Dubem: Let go of the relationship, the incompatibility in your genotypes will always rear its ugly head; why go through unnecessary stress?...and like you rightly mentioned, he could wake up one day and make a big deal out of it, citing his family as an excuse.

Guy 2- Nedu: To me, this seems to be the right guy for you and I’d like you to give him a chance. You see, a man that does not have money today can have tomorrow as long as he is ambitious and not lazy, forget about the hallucinations of other ladies, saying that they cannot date/marry a poor guy, blah, blah, blah. You can make money at any time; you can also have money today and lose it tomorrow but you see, those other qualities he has, my sister, they are very hard to come by.

Guy 3- Victor: This guy is arrogant; you will have issues with him later in future should you become more successful than he is. I can see you have great academic ambitions; this man will be intimidated and might make your life miserable. The misery would quadruple if you dare make/have more money than him.

Guy 4- Denver: I don’t have an issue with him having just an HND or not being in the corporate world, he is a businessman and can ‘blow’ tomorrow but my concern with him is that he is putting you under pressure; please take a walk, never marry anyone out of pity or pressure, you will regret it.

Guy 5:- Bright: Leave bright out of the picture, he is an unserious serial cheat, more of a playboy roaming around probably looking for whom to devour, such people can be on a revenge mission for rejecting their previous advances.

These are just my opinions, please pray to God if you believe in him, I do anyway; he (God) knows your future, I don’t, he is therefore in the best position to guide you.

Wish you all the best.

I agree with this too. Op is focusing on very shallow things. Imagine rejecting a good person just because he has no fridge/ tv. Something one can stroll to the market and buy in a few minutes once Money comes in

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by thaoriginator: 10:05am On Aug 03, 2020
Juliusmomoh:
Instead of looking for CHRIST, u are looking for a man..
Jesus Christ is lost eh?? cry
Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by drsibz66(m): 10:06am On Aug 03, 2020
No man can see tomorrow ie there is no manual to life. All na risk . Just choose the man witg qualities you can cope with and also ignore and stick with it. And make a decision to put in your best. And hope for tge best.
Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by INCREDIBLE007(m): 10:06am On Aug 03, 2020
Very confusing
Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by payloader(m): 10:06am On Aug 03, 2020
[quote author=WomaninherPrime post=92386437]Good evening house. Kindly read patiently. I promise to be as honest as possible.

I'm a young woman in her mid-20s. I've been in three relationships so far... two were sexual, and one was purely celibate, though it didn't last beyond 6 months.

I recently got out of a 2-yr relationship with Dubem when we discovered our genotype isn't compatible. But the problem is that we're still doing a lot of back and forth. Dubem wants the relationship to continue because he's working on how we'd have our babies via IVF or chorionic villi testing to first determine the sex of the baby.

This has put me in a very confusing situation because I'm unable to move on while he's still holding on for us... and at the same time, I just keep thinking about how life would be a lot easier if I'd just marry a genotype compatible man and have children the regular way without the stress and huge financial cost of an IVF.

To fully move on from Dubem, I started seeing other people..

Nedu is a very great guy... has everything I want in a man, but he's having some financial challenges right now. He's cute, godly, very intelligent, good humour, communicates very well, respectful, sound family values, neat, and seems to me like someone who can take charge of his home. But his financial situation gives me cause for concern... he doesn't seem like he'd be comfortably ready to start a family in another 2/3 years. But that aside, his condition just dampens my enthusiasm to even visit him or start a committed relationship with him. No TV or fridge in his apartment. I feel embarrassed/sorry for him when he has to go watch TV at his friend's or neighbour's... Or I'm thinking of cooking stuff to take to him... but no fridge to store. Joykiller. Or the fact that he can't be a support system to me at the moment...

There's also Victor who comes off as a great guy but I've refused to pay him enough attention all these months because I'm still entangled with Dubem. Victor is doing quite well, and is passionate about his job, but he likes to talk about himself way too much, and seems a bit arrogant. The vibes I get off him is that he tries to be at his best behaviour when he's with me, just to impress, but maybe he's real. While I don't like like him at the moment, I feel if I gave him a chance, I'd see some other aspects of him that would make me love him.

There's Denver on the other hand. Denver is an absolute gentle man... and doing fairly well with his business. I almost said yes to him, but I felt it was coming from the place of pressure. He was putting me under a lot of pressure to say yes... he wants to get married in a minute, but I'm still not resolved on marrying him. Plus he's from a polygamous family, and his plan is for us to live in his disputed family house if/when we get married, and I feel that comes with a lot of drama. Also, he's a bit lackadaisical about his wellbeing. He doesn't seem very tidy. His car always has things strung about. I worry, too about his level of education. He has just a HND and is not in the corporate world whereas I have serious plans to get either a double masters plus lots of certifications or a Ph.D I fear there might be some sort of incompatibility years down the line. Other than these concerns, Denver is a great guy.

Then there's Bright... I've known Bright since I was in uni... he was planning a surprise engagement once, when we weren't even dating. He's the most inconsistent and confused man I've ever met. He's consistent for a aweek or two, then goes off-radar only to resurface again after a few months. But somehow he seems to believe I'm the one who's never agreed to take him seriously. But how do I take a man who's inconsistent seriously? Ideally, he shouldn't be on this list because I long cancelled him... but he called this morning and we had a very long conversation... which was short of him pleading that I calm down and take him seriously so we can move to the next level.

Now the reason I created this thread. I like having a linear focus when I'm in a relationship, but I'm unable to leave Dubem because all these other guys have one issue or the other. No, I'm not looking for a perfect guy. Dubem isn't perfect, but we've come a long way, and we love each other, and we've come to accept and understand each other as we are.
I've become impatient... I feel like I'm at the prime of my life as a woman, and I have other suitors to choose from but I'm holding on to a very precarious relationship. Dubem might as well just wake up one day and decide that our genotype incompatibility is a big deal and we should see other people... at that time, one year of my life would have gone by...... Hahahahaha! Madam you think say relationship na Nairabet abi? You wan eat ya cake and have more? The kind of husband you dey find is not yet born, or na angel for heaven. Nb: angels no go forgive you if you take a false step, sha.
Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by thaoriginator: 10:07am On Aug 03, 2020
phorget:
This would make a good movie script though. Then best title should be "The cinfusionist" undecided
grin grin grin
Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by God1stson(m): 10:07am On Aug 03, 2020
Stylekay:
Even me sef is confused. Ask Lalasticlala
I am enjoying ur writing style, it looks more of a good plot. If u're for real, then start by narrowing ur choices to two. U can become good friends with Dubem, but marrying him will come with a lot of trial as regards to giving birth to kids although not impossible. Above all, u need to keep ur self pure b4 marriage and enquire from him who the best suitor is u

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by joyandfaith: 10:08am On Aug 03, 2020
WomaninherPrime:
Good evening house. Kindly read patiently. I promise to be as honest as possible.

I'm a young woman in her mid-20s. I've been in three relationships so far... two were sexual, and one was purely celibate, though it didn't last beyond 6 months.

I recently got out of a 2-yr relationship with Dubem when we discovered our genotype isn't compatible. But the problem is that we're still doing a lot of back and forth. Dubem wants the relationship to continue because he's working on how we'd have our babies via IVF or chorionic villi testing to first determine the sex of the baby.

This has put me in a very confusing situation because I'm unable to move on while he's still holding on for us... and at the same time, I just keep thinking about how life would be a lot easier if I'd just marry a genotype compatible man and have children the regular way without the stress and huge financial cost of an IVF.

To fully move on from Dubem, I started seeing other people..

Nedu is a very great guy... has everything I want in a man, but he's having some financial challenges right now. He's cute, godly, very intelligent, good humour, communicates very well, respectful, sound family values, neat, and seems to me like someone who can take charge of his home. But his financial situation gives me cause for concern... he doesn't seem like he'd be comfortably ready to start a family in another 2/3 years. But that aside, his condition just dampens my enthusiasm to even visit him or start a committed relationship with him. No TV or fridge in his apartment. I feel embarrassed/sorry for him when he has to go watch TV at his friend's or neighbour's... Or I'm thinking of cooking stuff to take to him... but no fridge to store. Joykiller. Or the fact that he can't be a support system to me at the moment...

There's also Victor who comes off as a great guy but I've refused to pay him enough attention all these months because I'm still entangled with Dubem. Victor is doing quite well, and is passionate about his job, but he likes to talk about himself way too much, and seems a bit arrogant. The vibes I get off him is that he tries to be at his best behaviour when he's with me, just to impress, but maybe he's real. While I don't like like him at the moment, I feel if I gave him a chance, I'd see some other aspects of him that would make me love him.

There's Denver on the other hand. Denver is an absolute gentle man... and doing fairly well with his business. I almost said yes to him, but I felt it was coming from the place of pressure. He was putting me under a lot of pressure to say yes... he wants to get married in a minute, but I'm still not resolved on marrying him. Plus he's from a polygamous family, and his plan is for us to live in his disputed family house if/when we get married, and I feel that comes with a lot of drama. Also, he's a bit lackadaisical about his wellbeing. He doesn't seem very tidy. His car always has things strung about. I worry, too about his level of education. He has just a HND and is not in the corporate world whereas I have serious plans to get either a double masters plus lots of certifications or a Ph.D I fear there might be some sort of incompatibility years down the line. Other than these concerns, Denver is a great guy.

Then there's Bright... I've known Bright since I was in uni... he was planning a surprise engagement once, when we weren't even dating. He's the most inconsistent and confused man I've ever met. He's consistent for a aweek or two, then goes off-radar only to resurface again after a few months. But somehow he seems to believe I'm the one who's never agreed to take him seriously. But how do I take a man who's inconsistent seriously? Ideally, he shouldn't be on this list because I long cancelled him... but he called this morning and we had a very long conversation... which was short of him pleading that I calm down and take him seriously so we can move to the next level.

Now the reason I created this thread. I like having a linear focus when I'm in a relationship, but I'm unable to leave Dubem because all these other guys have one issue or the other. No, I'm not looking for a perfect guy. Dubem isn't perfect, but we've come a long way, and we love each other, and we've come to accept and understand each other as we are.
I've become impatient... I feel like I'm at the prime of my life as a woman, and I have other suitors to choose from but I'm holding on to a very precarious relationship. Dubem might as well just wake up one day and decide that our genotype incompatibility is a big deal and we should see other people... at that time, one year of my life would have gone by...these great guys would have probably moved on, too. A woman's hotcake period is fleeting. For my personal plans, I'd love to be married by next year.


Ohh. I mentioned the thing about my two sexual relationships because I made a hasty vow to God once that I wouldn't have sex with more than two men before getting married. I don't know ...God is a merciful God, yeah...But that vow still pops up in my mind now and again. So I can't go into any careless relationship, and now I can't choose.

I'm honestly confused �.

dating someone for 2 years without knowing each others genotype?
please marry no-2 or 4.
Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by lifeagain22: 10:08am On Aug 03, 2020
Juliusmomoh:
Instead of looking for CHRIST, u are looking for a man..
. So na Christ go give am Belle marry her Abi ...You are funny how are you even sure she has not given her life to Christ oh! because he has 4 Guys interested in her makes her a sinner abi ,SU and Saint U be, She has to make a move not to sit down in the Church waiting Earnestly for His man to come ,Na advise like this dey make some women not married even at 50 Years

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by Tflex01: 10:08am On Aug 03, 2020
cheesy grin

No be small work marriage counselors dey do ohh

Damn!!! may God help you sis.

This prayer is from the bottom of my heart. cool


Modified: The traffic on this thread is scary though. cheesy

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by Nobody: 10:09am On Aug 03, 2020
Hmmn
Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by DominionGreat: 10:09am On Aug 03, 2020
This op is a jobless lazy ass bitch who is entangled with too many men for her selfish reason... How can u confuse our brain with this trash on a Monday morning when we are trying to start the week with a productive hustle..


madam set your priorities right biko.. you really don't know what you want.. You need the holy spirit for direction and answers cos its clear u are deeply confused

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Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by tenderjunkie: 10:10am On Aug 03, 2020
WomaninherPrime:
Good evening house. Kindly read patiently. I promise to be as honest as possible.

I'm a young woman in her mid-20s. I've been in three relationships so far... two were sexual, and one was purely celibate, though it didn't last beyond 6 months.

I recently got out of a 2-yr relationship with Dubem when we discovered our genotype isn't compatible. But the problem is that we're still doing a lot of back and forth. Dubem wants the relationship to continue because he's working on how we'd have our babies via IVF or chorionic villi testing to first determine the sex of the baby.

This has put me in a very confusing situation because I'm unable to move on while he's still holding on for us... and at the same time, I just keep thinking about how life would be a lot easier if I'd just marry a genotype compatible man and have children the regular way without the stress and huge financial cost of an IVF.

To fully move on from Dubem, I started seeing other people..

Nedu is a very great guy... has everything I want in a man, but he's having some financial challenges right now. He's cute, godly, very intelligent, good humour, communicates very well, respectful, sound family values, neat, and seems to me like someone who can take charge of his home. But his financial situation gives me cause for concern... he doesn't seem like he'd be comfortably ready to start a family in another 2/3 years. But that aside, his condition just dampens my enthusiasm to even visit him or start a committed relationship with him. No TV or fridge in his apartment. I feel embarrassed/sorry for him when he has to go watch TV at his friend's or neighbour's... Or I'm thinking of cooking stuff to take to him... but no fridge to store. Joykiller. Or the fact that he can't be a support system to me at the moment...

There's also Victor who comes off as a great guy but I've refused to pay him enough attention all these months because I'm still entangled with Dubem. Victor is doing quite well, and is passionate about his job, but he likes to talk about himself way too much, and seems a bit arrogant. The vibes I get off him is that he tries to be at his best behaviour when he's with me, just to impress, but maybe he's real. While I don't like like him at the moment, I feel if I gave him a chance, I'd see some other aspects of him that would make me love him.

There's Denver on the other hand. Denver is an absolute gentle man... and doing fairly well with his business. I almost said yes to him, but I felt it was coming from the place of pressure. He was putting me under a lot of pressure to say yes... he wants to get married in a minute, but I'm still not resolved on marrying him. Plus he's from a polygamous family, and his plan is for us to live in his disputed family house if/when we get married, and I feel that comes with a lot of drama. Also, he's a bit lackadaisical about his wellbeing. He doesn't seem very tidy. His car always has things strung about. I worry, too about his level of education. He has just a HND and is not in the corporate world whereas I have serious plans to get either a double masters plus lots of certifications or a Ph.D I fear there might be some sort of incompatibility years down the line. Other than these concerns, Denver is a great guy.

Then there's Bright... I've known Bright since I was in uni... he was planning a surprise engagement once, when we weren't even dating. He's the most inconsistent and confused man I've ever met. He's consistent for a aweek or two, then goes off-radar only to resurface again after a few months. But somehow he seems to believe I'm the one who's never agreed to take him seriously. But how do I take a man who's inconsistent seriously? Ideally, he shouldn't be on this list because I long cancelled him... but he called this morning and we had a very long conversation... which was short of him pleading that I calm down and take him seriously so we can move to the next level.

Now the reason I created this thread. I like having a linear focus when I'm in a relationship, but I'm unable to leave Dubem because all these other guys have one issue or the other. No, I'm not looking for a perfect guy. Dubem isn't perfect, but we've come a long way, and we love each other, and we've come to accept and understand each other as we are.
I've become impatient... I feel like I'm at the prime of my life as a woman, and I have other suitors to choose from but I'm holding on to a very precarious relationship. Dubem might as well just wake up one day and decide that our genotype incompatibility is a big deal and we should see other people... at that time, one year of my life would have gone by...these great guys would have probably moved on, too. A woman's hotcake period is fleeting. For my personal plans, I'd love to be married by next year.


Ohh. I mentioned the thing about my two sexual relationships because I made a hasty vow to God once that I wouldn't have sex with more than two men before getting married. I don't know ...God is a merciful God, yeah...But that vow still pops up in my mind now and again. So I can't go into any careless relationship, and now I can't choose.

I'm honestly confused �.
I don't see you as someone who's ready for marriage.
If your reason for wanting to get married is because you think you're in your prime, my advice is for you to get yourself together first.
You have educational goals you want to achieve yeah? Why not focus on that?
Marriage nr be childs play oooo. Forget the hype about marriage, most married people will rather have been single if only they knew better.

I'm not saying marriage is a bad thing or you shouldn't get married, but marriage shouldn't be rushed into or placed on a time scale. Anything worth doing is worth doing well. Take your time, achieve your goals so you won't be a liability to the lucky man you eventually choose.

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