What's love to you ?
Don't you think it's subjective ?

For me love is just one of those things you need to stay one place. Others could include self respect and discipline.

Love encompasses a range of strong and positive emotional and mental states, from the most sublime virtue or good habit, the deepest interpersonal affection and to the simplest PLEASURE

An example of this range is that, the love of a mother differs from the love of a spouse, which differs from the love of food.

Most commonly, love refers to a feeling of strong attraction and emotional attachment that hits our sensory organs. This could come from different people.

Our sensory organs report to our brains, and our brains interpret the data and send the report to our hearts. So, if we see a loving smile, hear loving words, or feel a loving touch, the brain processes this information and makes conclusions.

In short, love is not an abstract thought or feeling, it’s concrete and evidenced. So the big question is "Is it possible to love just one person "spouse" ?

Let's bring back King Solomon and ask him these questions....

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xynerise:


True, and it is funny when married men tell their side chics " I love my wife"

Honestly , to the best of my knowledge the ''i love my wife line'' is just at the lips and nothing else, but again a philanderer is always a philanderer and a cheat always a cheat. I have come to realize that cheating has to do with our mindset and beliefs.

Love and sex are relatives, if you love alot , you are likely to cheat alot because you can love many people at a time.

1miccza:


Honestly , to the best of my knowledge the ''i love my wife line'' is just at the lips and nothing else, but again a philanderer is always a philanderer and a cheat always a cheat. I have come to realize that cheating has to do with our mindset and beliefs.

If it has to do with the mindset then why do people feel guilty when they cheat, especially when they are caught or something close to that?

Here

yourgistpartner:
Love is never enough. self discipline is key to stop cheating


let's take the smoking scenario for example; they know smoking is bad but they still do, not because they don't love themselves but because they can't discipline themselves appropriately

bro I doff my cap for you .. you're very very very intelligent....





Now how do you use ^self discipline ^ knowing fully well you are addicted.. I await your response

xynerise:


I guess Love doesn't exist in many marriages today.

Not just marriages, love is seemingly non-existent in the world we live in today. For he who shall love the other, first must have loved himself. How then does he say he loves the other when he hasn't loved himself since he has no grounded knowledge of himself?!

"Man, know thyself" - Trismegistus

-Lloyd

dulux07:

I hear you veteran. It's the fact!!! you can't manipulate the word because you think you are in love and still cheat.

Be patient

Love is a good foundation but people don't live in foundations. Anybody who wants to build a strong marriage has to add a slew of other attributes to love to make that marriage strong, durable and beautiful. Those attributes include patience, consideration, thoughtfulness, willingness to compliment, etc.

sylve11:
Not all, I actually met an Igbo man in Lagos some years ago. He told me that since he got married to his wife for over 47 years,; he has never cheated on the wife.

Whenever there's misunderstanding, they make sure the children aren't aware. They settle it in their room.

That's true love.


My shock absorber almost burst. 47 years!

One mentor of mine I really respect is also like this

U can't tell me u love someone and u still cheat on that person, that's not true love

Only what can prevent human from cheating is the fear of God,if you love and fear God, you will not even think about it, when you remember that God's is watching over you and his spirit that is in you will make you hate such acts.

WELL I THINK HUMAN DESIRES ARE LIMITLESS.... ITS JUST LIKE A VIDEO GAME IF YOU PASS ONE STAGE YOU'LL WANT TO PASS THE NEXT.
IF YOU LIKE MARRY THE FINEST BITCH ON EARTH AFTER ROCKING HER LIKE IROKO YOU LIKE ANOTHER YOU MIGHT NOT GO OR RUN FOR IT BUT ONCE THE OPPORTUNITY PRESENTS ITSELF MY BROTHER NAH VOOM! E DEY INSIDE.... FOR ME I'LL SAY ITS ONLY GOD THAT CAN KEEP A MAN OR A WOMAN TOGETHER FOREVER. AMEN?

Oluromantic:
When the sizzle fizzles, cheating tendencies set in. Familiarity is a major problem in marriages. Dying fantasies, tying wrapper around the home, absence of breastfeeder bras during nursing causing heavyweight slam down of the boobs, absence of romantic compliments, etc. The love would be there, but doesn't hinder cleverly concealed cheating .

Lol

Well said!

dulux07:
What we call love most times isn't love, most people are in a relationship because of societal pressure, mutual benefits, religious belief.....etc
Love is enough to stop you from cheating, when you truly love someone you try as much as possible to avoid hurting them.

dulux07:
What we call love most times isn't love, most people are in a relationship because of societal pressure, mutual benefits, religious belief.....etc
Love is enough to stop you from cheating, when you truly love someone you try as much as possible to avoid hurting them.

As much as possible? There's potential failure in that phrase.

seanwilliam:
bro I doff my cap for you .. you're very very very intelligent....





Now how do you use ^self discipline ^ knowing fully well you are addicted.. I await your response

Self-discipline often means putting off your immediate comfort or wishes in favor of longterm success. Self-discipline, like everything else, is a practice. Not every day will be perfect, but each day -- with its failures and small wins -- is progress, and that’s what self-discipline is all about.

it takes work to have a great relationship or overcome addiction

Epunch1:
WELL I THINK HUMAN DESIRES ARE LIMITLESS.... ITS JUST LIKE A VIDEO GAME IF YOU PASS ONE STAGE YOU'LL WANT TO PASS THE NEXT.
IF YOU LIKE MARRY THE FINEST BITCH ON EARTH AFTER ROCKING HER LIKE IROKO YOU LIKE ANOTHER YOU MIGHT NOT GO OR RUN FOR IT BUT ONCE THE OPPORTUNITY PRESENTS ITSELF MY BROTHER NAH VOOM! E DEY INSIDE.... FOR ME I'LL SAY ITS ONLY GOD THAT CAN KEEP A MAN OR A WOMAN TOGETHER FOREVER. AMEN?

MY REMEDY FOR ALL Y'AL MAN OUT THERE TO STOP YOUR WIVES FROM CHEATING IS FLOG HER VERY WELL WHEN THE OPPORTUNITY PRESENTS ITSELF MY BROTHER SHE WONT EVEN DARE IT I PROMISE YOU THIS! BUT FOR WOMEN WELL JUST BE FLEXIBLE WHEN ITS TIME TO GET DOWN YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN NAH ABI?

Diligence4life:


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U don't know what love means. What u said is lust. U can deceive yourself if u want.

How can lust after a woman and remains with her for the rest of your life? That's not the definition of lust. Lust quickly disappear the same way it appears

Nn3muka:
Imagine being in love with a man and not cheating on him. I think he should understand that women are polygamous and can cheat easily that doesn't mean she does not love you.

Feminist approach. Lol. Haven't we seen a wife who cheated and the husband still forgave her? Cheating is not only the men's affairs now, it cuts across

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dulux07:
What we call love most times isn't love, most people are in a relationship because of societal pressure, mutual benefits, religious belief.....etc
Love is enough to stop you from cheating, when you truly love someone you try as much as possible to avoid hurting them.

Even if a man marries because of the factors you listed above, he still needs to be with someone he loves. Otherwise, the relationship won't last at all.

BTW: are you married or you're just a theorist?

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MrBrownJay1:


there is no such thing as "no other option but to cheat"... the last option is to leave that person.

many will be quick to say that you can knowingly HURT/DISRESPECT your partner, HURT/DISRESPECT yourself and HURT/DISRESPECT the relationship you guys are in.... and you probably can, but that certainly hasnt got anything remotely associated with love. thats one of the most selfish thing to do.

a man is willing to be deceitful/dishonest/untrustworthy/unfaithful/hurtful and disrespectful to the woman he supposedly love, just because of some 30mins sex... and you actually believe that this is love, really?!

Leave? Just like that? It doesn't matter to you if two or five kids are already involved? Not that they quarrel or fight or something but a man needs to quit the marriage of many years if he has to cheat. That's funny

politicsng:
It's self discipline that can stop you

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frozen70:


Love is absolutely enough to prevent one form cheating especially women

But for men, they are serial cheaters and can love their wives and love their girlfriend and still have a lover

I don't know why they where wired so

They just don't want to stay one place

Yet don't want a woman to do same as if they don't like varieties

Hmmmn

Acidosis:


Hmmmn

Lol

Chii59:

It is completely true

That is to you and I dont know if you are married but for a man, it is not love my sister.

Love is the energy that fuels commitment, You can't commit yourself to what you don't love, except there are benefits and if the benefits disappear, your commitment disappears. Love should be independent but I doubt humans could practice such love, its extreme and deep.

na2016:

That is to you and I dont know if you are married but for a man, it is not love my sister.

Story. You don't cheat on someone you love.

dulux07:

You can't claim you love someone and you hurt them "intentionally". It's understandable when it happens unconsciously.
Its just like claiming someone is your best friend, and you are doing stuff that could hurt them behind their back. That is deceit.

You are looking at it from the moral aspect of it.

But in reality, it can happen.

And I have just explained a psychology behind it.

You may read about compartmentalization of sex and love.

Chii59:

Story. You don't cheat on someone you love.

Story, you dont know what you are saying.