Danhumprey:


Mayapop?

bruh you found me what’s good? Omg

purplecoco:
bruh you found me what’s good? Omg

dreaizy:
Hello fellow introverts, how do you deal with this billing culture?
To make people like me, I use to give. I gave to the extent that I lacked. In 5 years at the University, I had this friend (from a poor background) that I spent most of my money on transportation and feeding for both of us. Later, I won't have money to buy handouts at the right time. Sometimes, I had to borrow his handouts and this affected my results.
During NYSC, I got into this cooking together/brotherly stuff. This guys would spend their money on sometimes good (responsibility at home) and sometimes bad (women, clothes, alcohol) stuff and they will end up depending on my money.
In dating too, the only 2 girls I have ever dated just wanted my money.
My point is, I am too nice and I hate asking for money/help.
Most of these people don't really like me, and I will never ask them for help (help that I usually need because I am doing Mr Nice Guy).
Now I am trying to build my self and not ask anyone, including my parents for help. I don't have a regular job but I am making a little money.
Yet, people still bill me, and those who borrow never pay back.
1. I need every Kobo I make, how do I stop people from billing me?
2. How do I choose better friends?

dreaizy:
Hello fellow introverts, how do you deal with this billing culture?
To make people like me, I use to give. I gave to the extent that I lacked. In 5 years at the University, I had this friend (from a poor background) that I spent most of my money on transportation and feeding for both of us. Later, I won't have money to buy handouts at the right time. Sometimes, I had to borrow his handouts and this affected my results.
During NYSC, I got into this cooking together/brotherly stuff. This guys would spend their money on sometimes good (responsibility at home) and sometimes bad (women, clothes, alcohol) stuff and they will end up depending on my money.
In dating too, the only 2 girls I have ever dated just wanted my money.
My point is, I am too nice and I hate asking for money/help.
Most of these people don't really like me, and I will never ask them for help (help that I usually need because I am doing Mr Nice Guy).
Now I am trying to build my self and not ask anyone, including my parents for help. I don't have a regular job but I am making a little money.
Yet, people still bill me, and those who borrow never pay back.
1. I need every Kobo I make, how do I stop people from billing me?
2. How do I choose better friends?

Danhumprey:
You sneaky, sneaky one!

I thought I had come across this your new moniker sometimes ago, but it didn't occur to me that you're the one. So I just let it be. But something was telling me that purple font was your signature style of typing here on Nairaland.

Girl! Come on!


DM!

lol I kinda saw yours one time, but I felt you’d have forgotten about me. But it so good to see you tho haha. Lemme check my Dm real quick

dreaizy:
Hello fellow introverts, how do you deal with this billing culture?
To make people like me, I use to give. I gave to the extent that I lacked. In 5 years at the University, I had this friend (from a poor background) that I spent most of my money on transportation and feeding for both of us. Later, I won't have money to buy handouts at the right time. Sometimes, I had to borrow his handouts and this affected my results.
During NYSC, I got into this cooking together/brotherly stuff. This guys would spend their money on sometimes good (responsibility at home) and sometimes bad (women, clothes, alcohol) stuff and they will end up depending on my money.
In dating too, the only 2 girls I have ever dated just wanted my money.
My point is, I am too nice and I hate asking for money/help.
Most of these people don't really like me, and I will never ask them for help (help that I usually need because I am doing Mr Nice Guy).
Now I am trying to build my self and not ask anyone, including my parents for help. I don't have a regular job but I am making a little money.
Yet, people still bill me, and those who borrow never pay back.
1. I need every Kobo I make, how do I stop people from billing me?
2. How do I choose better friends?

purplecoco:
lol I kinda saw yours one time, but I felt you’d have forgotten about me. But it so good to see you tho haha. Lemme check my Dm real quick

Xzbit91:


Don't you have ambitions in life?

The major reason why you give out all your earnings, even to the point of lacking is because you don't have anything to do with it.

A man with clear cut aspirations and goals will never be a 'yes man' to every request from every Dick and Harry in his life.

You better develop a spine before you're squeezed for all you're worth and run into the ground.

Set reasonable and clear deadlines for your goals and you will see that the money you're giving out isn't even enough for you.

If you're waiting for people to stop billing you, you are in for a long ride. They'll continue to bill you as long as you make yourself available to be billed.

Remember if you were to fall down and die today, life will go on and they will survive. So don't kill yourself because you want to be liked. People who will like you, will like you, you don't have to pay for it.

Think of all the people you like, did they pay you to like them? The relationships with the strongest bonds are not built with money.

You can deny someone's request without severing the relationship. It depends on how you go about it. For example, when someone requests money from me and I have it but don't feel like giving it away, I tell the person I've already given out money and what's left with me is for my upkeep.

Now unless such person doesn't mean well for you he /she will leave you alone. Other times, I give what I can afford so when they don't pay back, I'm not hurt much.

But most of the time I give to people who are credit worthy. That means I only give my colleagues and other people I know are working and who have the means to pay back.

Sometimes people who are working too disappoint, but before that I test the waters by giving them what I can afford to lose that way even if they fail to pay back they won't have the gall to ask me for help again.

You have to assess all your relationships one-by-one and be honest with yourself what has each person added to your life. It doesn't have to be monetary value. It can be companionship, the one who gives advice, the one who gives you listening ear etc.,

Anyone that has been a net negative, cut them off. They're parasites. Make friends with like minded people. Especially those who can help you achieve your goals in life.

dreaizy:

WOW guys great replies, I have found myself saying a lot of "No" recently. That's one of the reasons why I realise that I didn't really have any true friends. My birthday was last week, and I realized that most of these guys don't even know my birthday or care to send their wishes. They know nothing about you, yet they are always ready to bill you.

dreaizy:
Hello fellow introverts, how do you deal with this billing culture?
To make people like me, I use to give. I gave to the extent that I lacked. In 5 years at the University, I had this friend (from a poor background) that I spent most of my money on transportation and feeding for both of us. Later, I won't have money to buy handouts at the right time. Sometimes, I had to borrow his handouts and this affected my results.
During NYSC, I got into this cooking together/brotherly stuff. This guys would spend their money on sometimes good (responsibility at home) and sometimes bad (women, clothes, alcohol) stuff and they will end up depending on my money.
In dating too, the only 2 girls I have ever dated just wanted my money.
My point is, I am too nice and I hate asking for money/help.
Most of these people don't really like me, and I will never ask them for help (help that I usually need because I am doing Mr Nice Guy).
Now I am trying to build my self and not ask anyone, including my parents for help. I don't have a regular job but I am making a little money.
Yet, people still bill me, and those who borrow never pay back.
1. I need every Kobo I make, how do I stop people from billing me?
2. How do I choose better friends?

4lorunsho:
Introvert.... You will need this. Its 4k

Ajibel:
Introverts dont have a lounge.

CeezMedia:
this is a complete falacy

Ajibel:


That was my opinion 6 years ago

This thread still dey sef

mrsteel:

What is it with u & Python?

Ajibel:


Lol I'm a Python programmer

Python is a programming language

mrsteel:

Okayyy thought as much

Ajibel:


Are you into programming too?

mrsteel:

Just basic html & java

Ajibel:


Oh cool. You intend using Java (Spring?) as your backend for web development?

mrsteel:

Hopefully sir

whocares1:
Boredom is killing mpe

sheepheart:

You shouldn't be on this thread then cos only people who are enjoying their boredom laidat are here. What are your expectations?

Ugmama:
I have been indoors going through my life, and seeking a breakthrough which I hope to create through business exploration.

Fellow Introverts, any business ideas you know of that a 8 to 5pm civil servant could do as a side hustle.

NB: Forex, MMM, bitcoin, multilevel marketing please back off

dreaizy:
Hello fellow introverts, how do you deal with this billing culture?
To make people like me, I use to give. I gave to the extent that I lacked. In 5 years at the University, I had this friend (from a poor background) that I spent most of my money on transportation and feeding for both of us. Later, I won't have money to buy handouts at the right time. Sometimes, I had to borrow his handouts and this affected my results.
During NYSC, I got into this cooking together/brotherly stuff. This guys would spend their money on sometimes good (responsibility at home) and sometimes bad (women, clothes, alcohol) stuff and they will end up depending on my money.
In dating too, the only 2 girls I have ever dated just wanted my money.
My point is, I am too nice and I hate asking for money/help.
Most of these people don't really like me, and I will never ask them for help (help that I usually need because I am doing Mr Nice Guy).
Now I am trying to build my self and not ask anyone, including my parents for help. I don't have a regular job but I am making a little money.
Yet, people still bill me, and those who borrow never pay back.
1. I need every Kobo I make, how do I stop people from billing me?
2. How do I choose better friends?