ReluctantAdult:
I wasn't talking about cheating in particular. What I'm saying is, our nature as men encourages polygamy. By nature I mean our testosterone and our general attraction to females. This is also prevalent in the animal kingdom so it isn't out of place.

That doesn't suddenly disappear when men get married. Therefore staying loyal is a fight against our urges and longings and since they are inherent in us, we will always be defeated from time to time.

Our Old men dem,also do it..... so no be here he starts. But taking a lady to your matrimonial Bedroom,dem suppose talk to the bro’s...

When you can play away,why play Home ?

Marriage be like acceptance letter, U greeee or U no Greee... if you no gree JappaaaaaA

The ones that agree and accept us... Na dem be the real ones,the beautiful ones wey dem say,are not yet born.
I swear PMB get crush !

Dear OP, you have three options:

1. Forget about marriage. It is one institution that will never work for all parties. Most people just endure marriage and try to keep a good public image of their marriage situationship. It is a parasitic institution that is not worth the stress in my opinion.

2. Let’s normalize polygamy. The idea that someone will become committed to another person forever after marriage and will never develop the urge to have a sexual relationship with another person is a mirage. Marriage doesn’t stop people from developing feelings for another person. Our ancestors understood this point and encouraged polygamy.

3. Accept monogamy with whatever comes with it. If we are going to stick to the monogamy that we learnt from white folks, we must learn to leave with infidelity and high rate of divorce that comes with it. There is no two ways about it. We all want to cheat one way or the other. Some find a way to do it, others don’t due to some factors majorly economic and public image. It is what it is, we all need to deal with it.

Really sorry your sister find herself in this kind of situation. But walking away isn't the best move. Mind you, at every incident of cheat by a man just know that a woman/lady has also cheat on another man. You can hardly find a man who cheat with a lady that has no man. In most cases she also is cheating on another man she called her fiance or husband. Cheating is not peculiar to men only. Both gender are guilty.

Jemiwizzy:
I don't know why men have this habit of cheating. Why must you cheat when you have a wife?

My big sis left her husband's house today because she caught her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.

Sometimes I think being single is the best way. All this cheating here and there is too much, can't believe my sister has to go through all this pain now.

mkpurumma090:
Seriously its high time cheating trend should stop...

Its destroying peoples relationships especially ones who don't have mind in cheating

You think say na trend .

Cheating has been happening since there were more than one man and woman.

We have just had more chances to hear about it because of the Internet.

I feel we should just be honest with ourselves, if people can't stay in one place just say so and find their spec.

Jemiwizzy:
I don't know why men have this habit of cheating. Why must you cheat when you have a wife?

My big sis left her husband's house today because she caught her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.

Sometimes I think being single is the best way. All this cheating here and there is too much, can't believe my sister has to go through all this pain now.

It's not only men that cheat. Both men and women do cheat.
Stop making it look like men's thing.

Ur sister should not leave the house for other women to come and enjoy the fruit of her labour.
She should stay there, give the man psychological torture for cheating on her.
She should not fight, don't talk much. Just be doing as if nothing has happened.
She should avoid any discussion with the husband. No s*x. Cook and give him food if he brings money but never eat with him.
If he wants to apologize tell him, "I'm fine."
By the time she does this for one week, the man will start losing weight by force.

Her Sister found her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.
My questions are
1) were they naked.
2) What position did your sister found both of them. Is it sitting position, lying position, praying position, Jubilee position, Flyover position, Eko Atlantic Position, Romantic position, penetrating position, on top of each other, 69 e.t.c.

One of the interesting things about Nairaland is the way people make bold categorical statements about matters that they have little understanding about.

I won't bother to drop a counter statement from a highly reputable source because you will attack it or find a way to justify your error. Or even worse deny what you just posted.

I will only encourage you to research some "facts" you think you know to ensure you are correct especially if they are supposed to be scientific

baralatie:

there is no relationship between testosterone levels and promiscuity in the animal kingdom. the testosterone levels in the blood stream is to fight or flight.that is why the big cats can fight but yet the females with less testosterone are the more successful hunters because of the instinct to keep the pride alive.

thesicilian:
Why do you people keep emphasizing this matrimonial bed issue as if the ones they do outside is better? Cheating is cheating no matter where it is done and I condemn it in all ramifications.

It is a bigger slap on the face if it happens on the matrimonial bed (especially for women).

A bigger slap on the face if it happens in the house, irrespective of which bed (especially for men).

Cheating is a slap on the face. But to have it on the matrimonial bed is an even bigger slap on the face. The height of disrespect and total disregard for one's spouse.

those who cheat are not different from a dog

Men are polygamous in nature

Abeg, don’t come wailing when you find out a POLYGAMOUS man is dicking your wife or girlfriend. Or when your wife carry another man pikin, come house. It is all for the brotherhood and we can all live as one.

The world population is not enough to guarantee one man, multiple women. So, it has to be someone’s LOML.

As we are so understanding with cheating men, let’s be understanding with women who help these men maintain a balance. Keep up this energy, I no wan see “these hoes ain’t loyal”.

nwaezeemmanuel:
There are successful monogamous homes.

Cheating is not in any man's gene, it is borne from a lack of self control and is just infidelity at its finest.

It would shock you to know that some of the homes you talking about look seemingly successful because somebody has not been caught....!

livinbygrace:



A real man is not meant for one woman.Women are meant to take care of their home and children because at the end they gain more than the men and that’s why you see children taking care of their mothers more than their fathers despite all his struggles in bringing up the children.So let the men be

and it's the man's duty to handle the family's financial responsibilities alone, right?
If a woman should endure cheating cause it's her duty to be a wife and mother, can she walk out on a husband who can't provide for her? Since that is his responsibility... From your logic, cheating is defined according to each individual's purpose in the marriage.

Tell your Sister to return back to her husband home, let her try and build her marriage n God will help her

Jemiwizzy:
I don't know why men have this habit of cheating. Why must you cheat when you have a wife?

My big sis left her husband's house today because she caught her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.

Sometimes I think being single is the best way. All this cheating here and there is too much, can't believe my sister has to go through all this pain now.

Your sister should not have left. The concubine has achieved her goal

Sympathize with your sister but at the same time please tell her to go back to her husband. Leaving her husband's house is not the best way to resolve this issue. Is she leaving her husband for the side chick?

As a christian one wife one husband it is only death torn them apart, if wife or husband had another person, committed adultary which against God's sixth commandment and christ teaching, some people taked this sin as notting without knowing they are offending God by disobeying him.

I don't support cheating and as a matter of fact, I don't. But,cheating is everywhere, being committed by both sexes. Women are even making the moves now. My point, why would a woman leave her matrimonial home because her hubby cheated. Ego or something? Isn't the cheating a symptom of a badly working marriage? Isn't it an opportunity to address the root cause of the problem?
You now left your home for the cumcubine to become the lord of it. Very funny.

Just my thinking.



uote author=Jemiwizzy post=94838348]I don't know why men have this habit of cheating. Why must you cheat when you have a wife?

My big sis left her husband's house today because she caught her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.

Sometimes I think being single is the best way. All this cheating here and there is too much, can't believe my sister has to go through all this pain now.[/quote]

Jemiwizzy:
I don't know why men have this habit of cheating. Why must you cheat when you have a wife?

My big sis left her husband's house today because she caught her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.

Sometimes I think being single is the best way. All this cheating here and there is too much, can't believe my sister has to go through all this pain now.

Just because of that.... That your sister has been watching too much zee world and telemundo

ePoster:
Same as corruption, ritual killings, kidnapping...doesn't make them right though.
Cheating might be common, but it's not an aspect of marriage. Your 'if you can't handle the heat, leave the kitchen' ideology is quack.
Few men would tolerate a cheating woman.

Nonetheless anyone nothing OK with being cheated on as right to divorce. That is the best you can get under the law so make your choice. Cheating doesn't call for beheading of the guilt party so you lot should make too much of what is a norm.

Jemiwizzy:
I don't know why men have this habit of cheating. Why must you cheat when you have a wife?

My big sis left her husband's house today because she caught her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.

Sometimes I think being single is the best way. All this cheating here and there is too much, can't believe my sister has to go through all this pain now.

Cheating is one thing bt on their matrimonial bed is disrespectful and disgraceful.

lefulefu:
his wife is probably not his spec
most of these married men u see who cheat on their wives get married to women they dont find sexually attractive.They might get married her based on the fact she was recommended to them as a good woman or a pastor prevailed on them to marry from vision he got but then the fact still remains when no sexual attraction is there the man must always go out to get his spec.

Dude i've seen men with really hot wives cheat with less attractive women.

And no matter how attractive a woman is, there's someone out there more attractive than her.

Variety is the spice of Life

Kekereekun123:
cheating is not new. you cant be complaining of heat inside kitchen. As your sister don leave over 10 ladies will be fighting to replace her

that does not justify the fact that the man is foolish for bringing another woman to his matrimonial home..
For goodness sake he doesn't have respect for the woman..

Abouwaza:
The question is not about why are men like this
The thing is common with both sexes (ladies cheat too) and don't generalise, not all men cheat
Now ask your sister to reconcile with her hubby and pack back cos if she doesn't she will regret for the rest of her life
She will still get bleeped and before you know it, she will loose count of how many guys pounding her if she remains separated

PS who knows if your sister is also cheating, she just managed to catch the husband

Almost everybody don mad now oo

I agree advise her to go back on the long run she will Be happy she did, as her husband Have seen the pain He put her through he will not do it again, most of the times men do not think and think well.

She should have cut off his head

WOW! i think this is disrespectful.

Udoewah:
Tell your Sister to return back to her husband home,
let her try and build her marriage n God will help her

I wonder why she left. Why should I leave a cheating Nigerian husband? I’ll remain inside that marriage to ruin his life. When I am done with him, let me see how many of those side-chicks will find him attractive. Pffttt

ReluctantAdult:
The reason I don't support monogamy or marriage in general. It's not a man's nature to stay with one woman.

True.

Some mornings we just wake up and we wanna fvck a light skinned chick so bad, the next day we want a dark chick with a big ass.

For us Men, a new day comes with a new desire for a different woman.

fattprince:

Its you who needs a brain. I'm serious, just ask your sister if she has ever cheated. Don't hear what she says its her reaction you should look at. She wouldn't want to tell you the truth cos apart from cheating keeping it a secret is what females are good at. Of course you wouldn't believe cos you are female.

it just a pity there is no real Africa man in this generation anymore,I must confess we men's are polygamous in nature and no sane woman should put ourselves in comparison with a man even in Europe where they practice one woman one wife the story is still the same! cheating here and there,the earlier our female realize this is better,a man can marry as many as he likes if he so wish and have the capability financially.what I hate about this yeye female be say if you build house and buy car for them and open big store for each one of them you will not hear fem.

Jemiwizzy:
I don't know why men have this habit of cheating. Why must you cheat when you have a wife?

My big sis left her husband's house today because she caught her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.

Sometimes I think being single is the best way. All this cheating here and there is too much, can't believe my sister has to go through all this pain now.

OP I love you and I promise I won't cheat on you like other men.

Jemiwizzy:
I don't know why men have this habit of cheating. Why must you cheat when you have a wife?

My big sis left her husband's house today because she caught her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.

Sometimes I think being single is the best way. All this cheating here and there is too much, can't believe my sister has to go through all this pain now.

If you love your sister please tell her to go back to her husband except her husband was the one who asked her to leave without her instigating it.

I have written several threads to educate you ladies but your emotions will never allow you all to see reason.

Please tell her to read these threads of mine so that she wont be making the biggest mistake of her life.

1. https://www.nairaland.com/2618513/before-divorce-adulterous-hubby


2. https://www.nairaland.com/5492915/present-day-woman-misplaced-priority-marriage this particular one is so important but lalasticlala is yet to do the needful.

3. https://www.nairaland.com/3859494/moment-mrs

4. https://www.nairaland.com/4511865/man-love-woman-dearly-still

5. https://www.nairaland.com/4065809/10-realistic-steps-lady-should

6. https://www.nairaland.com/4303658/does-god-permit-polygamy

7. https://www.nairaland.com/3384570/does-god-permit-woman-divorce


Each of these threads will change her perspective and possibly save her marriage.

If you like ignore this, i bet you will run back to read them but i hope it wont be too late by then.

Hmmm....The truth is that some of this men don't actually have the intentions of cheating but when some thing free comes they have low resistance to the pressure... Men generally are friendly to pretty women, so if it happens that out of friendliness the ladies unlocks for him the pressure of resisting porting is low at that moment.. so my advice is they should see a therapist and sort their issues out..

Jemiwizzy:
I don't know why men have this habit of cheating. Why must you cheat when you have a wife?

My big sis left her husband's house today because she caught her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.

Sometimes I think being single is the best way. All this cheating here and there is too much, can't believe my sister has to go through all this pain now.