Serene123:


I have gone as far as secretly getting access to her WhatsApp. I didn't see any single chat with her and the guy nor another person. But the calls just keep pisisng me off.

I realised I shouldn't have gone that far. I should have just be calmed and let her do her wish

Obviously u r very, very naive!

Serene123:
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Thanks. Your submission has been concrete without throwing tantrums.
I wonder why many can't give advise here without name calling.

I have decided to let her be with her thoughts. I will get myself engage with something else.

If she is ready, she will call me and I will give her my terms and conditions. Call the guy there and end it. If she agree, good, if not I move.

Thanks again brother

Why struggling with you for her phone if there's nothing incriminating there? She just learned to cover her track because she noticed you're getting suspicious of her relationship with the guy and don't be surprised if there's a secret wattsapp or another avenue she's communicating with the guy.


The fact that you can't even see his chat on his WhatsApp despite the numerous calls should tell you they have another route for chatting

Dog wei go lost?? Mtcheew

Serene123:
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Thanks. Your submission has been concrete without throwing tantrums.
I wonder why many can't give advise here without name calling.

I have decided to let her be with her thoughts. I will get myself engage with something else.

If she is ready, she will call me and I will give her my terms and conditions. Call the guy there and end it. If she agree, good, if not I move.

Thanks again brother

Is this what you'll be doing to every guy friend she makes? Ask her to end the friendship because you're not comfortable with it? Will it always be about your comfortability?

Serene123:


I have gone as far as secretly getting access to her WhatsApp. I didn't see any single chat with her and the guy nor another person. But the calls just keep pisisng me off.

I realised I shouldn't have gone that far. I should have just be calmed and let her do her wish

Lol... Typical of a guy in love with a cheating babe...

Youre trying so hard to make urself bliv shes not cheating... Now ure defending her after ahe muat have cleared her chats and left no traces...

I pity you...

Believe me, girls easily Bleep a male friend they've been close to for a while once they have a break from their relationship... If they werent already fucking before then sef

Serene123:


Not chat. I can attest to that. I secretly had her WhatsApp on my phone for like a month without her ntoitce.

I saw other chats, but not that of the guy

Bro, you seem like a good man and normally I will usually read post like this and get one or two points from commentary then move to the next but I'll share my quarter. To be truthful, she may like you and she's only with you because you are the next available guy for marriage to her, that guy she calls and talk to everyday is who she really love. Forget the sacrifice you think she has done for you and even if she has had sex with you or you even disvirgined her or she bought things for your future home, it doesn't mean a thing to her. You are probably a relationship she's waiting to fall apart. Its just like a lady I did everything for, spent on, made comfortable but she has a friend that is always telling her, I'm only spoiling her to get under her pants, im too nice to her because that's how people pretend, nice people eventually change in marriage, she may even say you were pretending before and it's now she knew your attitude, thank God she didn't rush into marriage. Now whatever you do, she's only seeing the ulterior motive, the guy is probably brain washing her and using her to pass time, she went out with him on a special occasion and she lied about it to you is enough sign for you. Pls move on, she doesn't feel the same thing again and the truth is she never felt anything from the start. Pls if the second lady is someone you like, give the relationship a chance and trust me, she will use this second lady as another reason to break up with you that you were cheating on her that u were only seeing what you are doing.

All she's looking for now is a reason to break up with you without becoming her fault.

Pls if you are looking for a long term relationship with a lady, let her be the one to want you, let her be the one to want marriage, don't force it down her throat. Make sure you likes you with no reason and be wary of ladies that has lots of female friends or a lady that has a guy they call their best friend and pls don't date kids, its not about age, make sure the lady is matured in the mind.

God bless, you don't need to thank me, I look forward to your marriage post with someone that deserves you

Guy...if u like listen to nairaland guys advice.....they will make u end ur relationship and u might end up with someone worst. Be sure of any accusations b4 making a drastic decision... Thanks

Serene123:


Not chat. I can attest to that. I secretly had her WhatsApp on my phone for like a month without her ntoitce.

I saw other chats, but not that of the guy

This action ain't cool. Why on earth would you hack her account. If you can go this far during courtship, I can imagine what you would do when you eventually get married to her. It's natural to be protective of what you cherish, but there is a thin line between love and obsession; between being moderately possessive and destructively jealous. Suspicion ain't healthy in any human relationship. The foundation of every relationship should be built on mutual love, respect and trust.

I also fault her though. Since she is committed to you and plans on getting married to you, there is a limit to what she should allow the opposite sex do.

If i say what I think you should do, this thread will be derailed.

Wish you the best.

Serene123:


I have gone as far as secretly getting access to her WhatsApp. I didn't see any single chat with her and the guy nor another person. But the calls just keep pisisng me off.

I realised I shouldn't have gone that far. I should have just be calmed and let her do her wish

When you meet presh my ex bro you cannot see a thing just take her friend (best female out) as her out for a date Asin to date her and discover your fuckery secret.

Solzate:



My Man from what you wrote here it clearly indicates she's cheating on you,but let's not Rush into conclusions yet.
first things first don't let love blind your eyes or blind your sense of judgement.
Call your woman sit her down and tell her your mind let you guys settle .one of the best ways to win a battle is by keeping your enemies close (not saying she's your enemy ooo),
Now she believes you guys have settled,now make sure you try as much to monitor her every movement.
always check how many minutes she spends on a call with that guy.now make sure you give her no reason to suspect you are monitoring her,let her believe you are a fool.
With time you will get all the evidence you need..
Then it is Left you to take the best action you dim fit.

But if you ask her for reconciliation and she still decides she wants some time to think,my man just leave her alone let her think till eternity.

Now let's be realistic she's really cheating on you with that Guy,like that Guy is really banging her cuchi real good..most women in relationships nowadays tend to have backup guys just pray you not the backup guy.

My Man all road still leads down to her cheating on you, cause for her to put up this behavior she's getting real close to that other guy. Na person wey like person dey call steady..so just try your possible Best to move on with your life so when she finally decides to break-up you would gladly accept majestically.. but no long Cap you can equally break up now ..
I am sure that Guy just wants to play her and chop puna meat last last it Will end up in sweet tears for her just break up with her

You said "let's not jump into conclusions" but you're already reached conclusions before dishing out your advice.

Serene123:


Have u hacked someone WhatsApp chat b4?


If u haven't, then keep calm bro.
Whenever she is online, I get notified and read everything she is typing

I am yet to see any evidence between her and that guy.

Sorry for derailing , how do u hack one's WhatsApp without having access to the phone

SocialJustice:
Lol, you're forming James Bond but she's a Charlie Angel that's way ahead of you.

I'll never invade a person's privacy in the name of whatever. You're also a terrible person.

I wish you the best.

Guy, you get wahala oo��

Avoid ladies who are engaged but having male bestie.

ogashman:


I have been there before..... ur girl knows she is about to be caged by marriage, so this is the last time she has to test another dick, before living with urs forever.


if you can, call it quits with her or better still warn the guy to keep off ur woman....take her phone and call the guy to leave ur wife alone. if she still continues, then u know what to do

very stupid advice!


Only agberos and motor park boys like MC Oluomo and co do that nonsense.


Nothing concerns him with the guy, he should deal with his unfaithful fiancé and not the guy.



The girl is cheating or can't the mumu op see it Next 5 years now he will come back here to disturb us with DNA problem, mumu boys that refuse to learn.

Sometimes I wonder what some guys see in girls that make them want to die on top. Girl. Honestly a guy really need to taste different chicks while single so he won't be acting foolish and idiotic because of one girl

ogele:
If you eventually marry her, na that guy go born her first child. Guy hold onto the new girl and move on....

You are wicked

I have gone as far as secretly getting access to her WhatsApp. I didn't see any single chat with her and the guy nor another person. But the calls just keep pisisng me off.

I realised I shouldn't have gone that far. I should have just be calmed and let her do her wish

Lolz! Are you a learner? Operation delete messages after chats. You be serious Jew o

Serene123:


Have u hacked someone WhatsApp chat b4?


If u haven't, then keep calm bro.
Whenever she is online, I get notified and read everything she is typing

I am yet to see any evidence between her and that guy.

Be consoling yourself, I understand

Broken relationship is better dan broken marriage. I feel ur pain bro, it hurt.

That girl is already cheating on you, don't trust women this days. Just move on with ur life bro. Summary just forget her and move on with ur life because she don't know what she want

Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

Ur fiancee seems a smart type, a male bestie is a bit dangerous. Be cautious before you marry her

Xtabellah:
Hey hi, I know how you feel, but just take a chill pill, first I would advice you inform her parents of these developments so they could talk to her.. And yh someone was right when he said she and the guy might not be chatting, there is something I would like you to know about ladies, one way to get to a lady heart is attention, which is not by chatting, its by constant calls till she grows very comfortable ,and no call from you in a day could make her heart beat faster.. But I am not saying she is cheating please note.... Talk to her and let her know with the way things are going you might be forced to call off the engagement, ask her would she be comfortable if you are also calling a girl like that?
Lastly, don't answer those that said you should call the guy, he is not your problem, if your babe is loose to allow him, he is enjoying himself.. Work on your babe.

Cc: serene123

I don't think she's cheating on you, at least not yet. But she might if you let your insecurity get the better of you. You need to talk with her and both of you need to decide on the way forward.

Happy2020:
Yet another cheating Nigerian HOE.

WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM 90% of these females here?

Then they complain when Nigerian men look and marry abroad. I would never ever marry a Nigerian women. They don’t have morals typically.

I thought you were a female? Are you now a lesbian?

Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

that lady you proposed to. I think you should let her go. She might come back with a new story, ladies are very manipulative. Just let her go. In marriage, you don't take things at face value. Another big mistake you are making is jumping into a new relationship. You are not thinking straight and you are actually not seeing things well. All you are interested in is feeling the big void. I think you should be careful how you go into any relationship this moment

Serene123:


Her chats, sms, messenger all clean.

Someting happened and her WhatsApp was showing on my phone for months without her knowing. I didn't see a single chat with the guy.
Not one.

What happened please?

Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

Sorry bro, this girl has gone. I mean she is in love with someone else and has decided to go with the other guy. Brace up for a breakup.

Serene123:


I have gone as far as secretly getting access to her WhatsApp. I didn't see any single chat with her and the guy nor another person. But the calls just keep pisisng me off.

I realised I shouldn't have gone that far. I should have just be calmed and let her do her wish

omo see brother
brother wey mumu

Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

You people just like fooling YOURSELVES.

You claimed to trust her, yet you're bothered about a guy (probably her sex mate or ex) she refused to let go.

Let me say this to you, and it's the blunt truth.

THAT GUY IS NOT JUST A FRIEND

SHE DOESN'T RESPECT YOU

SHE HAS MANY THINGS THAT SHE'S HIDING

IT WILL DEFINITELY END IN TEARS...

so long as she want her phone not to be accessed by you,then she is hiding something from you.Dont dwell your mind on her if you dont want to be heartbroken.

Serene123:


Confuse

Haven't seen tangible evidence against her and the guy despite hacking her phone and reading all her chats for months.

Just the call that put me off. And the call have continued for months

I am torn between believing her or just calling it off.

Tell her if she don't cut off with that guy, that it is over between u two.

She's taking your love towards her for granted... She's painting you the evil already..... She ain't really in love with you again, she is in love with the other guy, but it's also difficult for her to tell you... She's just looking for an excuse to throw you into the bin and that she just did.... A very strong red flag.... You will regret it if you go ahead.

I was in ur shoes 2years ago. Was making plans to settle with the nicest and most supportive babe ever, unknowm to me she was fvcking a guy in the next compound.
Got to findout he wasn't even the only one dicqing her. Nah so i for marry community kpekus that year.

An engaged biatch that could wrestle her fone from her fiancee is not worthy of marriage to the said guy.
The things she did that made you think you have found the one does not mean shes the best u could ever have.
Reaching out to her to resolve issues is you playing into her hands.
Entertain yourself with the company of the new girl (she might even be the one for you) u never know.
Consider yourself single fam. But shud incase you choose to ignore all the warnings,, we will all surely gather like this to read more threads from you..
Adios