Enugupikin:
Some families do that though

Yeah I know a family, they have 3 girls.. They're seventh day adventist church members..when the first daughter was getting married..the father said they can't live together until after their wedding in seventh day adventist church.. After traditional marriage.. I just wonder what the other two girls would face when it comes to their own marriage.. Well they don't marry outsiders so he no go hard the husband to be

West2019:
where in the Bible that say you must do white weeding I only know about paying of bride Price that's the most important thing .is that not many of the girls doing Whit weeding after spending so much money . within a couple of a year trouble will started .

Where is it written in any book that one must stand before the traditional system and elders before it becomes marriage. If you can answer this, then I'll answer you

BusinessCity:
The father is the father until after the marriage.. That's in God's presence, He that giveth the blessing in the marriage. Not in front of some ancestors in a traditional system. If some traditional elders are honored by presenting the intending couples before them, should God not get even greater honour?

You collected dowry you say make I no carry wife? For what? Mind you I am Christian. Tell me one wedding that was done in the church in the Bible. You can also educate me by quoting a scripture to back what you are saying.

Tell your friend to propose the white weeding till 2030 I hate rubbish .

BusinessCity:
The father is the father until after the marriage.. That's in God's presence, He that giveth the blessing in the marriage. Not in front of some ancestors in a traditional system. If some traditional elders are honored by presenting the intending couples before them, should God not get even greater honour?

This is foolishness in case you're not told

thatigboman:
after paying bride price, is the woman his wife or not? Forget church

Why will I forget church? I'm a church person. If church did not certify my marriage, it's forbidden for me to act and behave married.

Kuku marry your daughter naw.

I know churches that practice such DOGMA.

Let me ask you all, the wedding that Jesus Christ was recorded to have attended (when he turned water to wine), was it in the synagogue, church, mosque or in the father of the bride's father's house?

Africans, na yeye de worry all of una

mezico96:
Good day cuties and gentlemen of NL

Lemme just go straight to the point

I attended a friend's traditional wedding last year December and after all the stress and struggles to settle the bride price, the father of the lady forbade she stays with the husband until after their church/white wedding which is two months from now

So guys, is he right to say that?
What is your opinion?

Our opinions don't really count if we tell ourselves the truth.

The girl is a Christian and I want to assume the boy is which is in doubt given that this topic is in front page unless op is swallowing paracetamol on others' businesses.

That is why believers are told to not be unequally yoked with those that don't understand.

Sixfeetbelle:
Preachers of the Bible but lovers of the world are here again. You claim you're a Christian but when it doesn't suit you, you become a traditionalist.

Instead of your friend to arrange only traditional marriage and carry his wife home, or better still, marry the daughter of a traditionalist, he carried his leg to go to the house of a Church goer and look for wife. Now that he's been requested to follow the directives issued by the church, he suddenly remembered he has a tradition.

Tell your friend, your self and everybody who agreed with you that you're all loosing a neurone or two in your brain.

You've said it all
The only meaningful comment

The father dey Bleep the girl ni ?

emerged01:

You collected dowry you say make I no carry wife? For what? Mind you I am Christian. Tell me one wedding that was done in the church in the Bible.

Who collected your dowry or bride Price. The traditional system or the Lord. The Lord doesn't collect, neither is it about feasting, it's just standing before Him to honour nothing more. It's for select few who know their God. You can have a marriage without going before God. Ba da mu wa. But for his select few, marriage starts from standing in His presence before Him to honour Him.

The father is not wrong here. After I did my traditional marriage my wife church Redeem told us, we cant live together until after the church wedding.

I will not justify what her father did, but I urge your friend to tow the path of peace. Clearly, they both have different perspectives on the matter and so your friend can take a mature stand by not interpreting in terms of who is right or wrong. He is going to be his father-in-law for a long time by God's Grace and so two months is a little sacrifice to start well with his father-in-law. Be the peacemaker and let it be as her father wishes for the sake of future relations with him and your wife.

Saao:
The father is helping the groom and the bride to have a clean marriage without sex. Let him hold body small

Ticket wey go cut go cut. Leave that thing. Jesus attended a Traditional wedding not white/church wedding.

mezico96:


How do you mean please?

He has collected dowry, the rest should be between the couple

You lie. Did you buy the daughter or you think dowry means buying?

Is she a goat?

Blackbody20:

This is foolishness in case you're not told

Spiritual things are indiscernible and foolish to the worldly. You'll be fine.

BusinessCity:
The father is the father until after the marriage.. That's in God's presence, He that giveth the blessing in the marriage. Not in front of some ancestors in a traditional system. If some traditional elders are honored by presenting the intending couples before them, should God not get even greater honour?

I whose presence was the trad done ?

BusinessCity:
The father is the father until after the marriage.. That's in God's presence, He that giveth the blessing in the marriage. Not in front of some ancestors in a traditional system. If some traditional elders are honored by presenting the intending couples before them, should God not get even greater honour?

Ticket wey go cut go cut. Leave that thing. Jesus attended a Traditional wedding not white/church wedding.

In want to ask a question.
If God is really everywhere, do you think they have to go inside a building for Him to actually witness the wedding?

Humanoid01:
Two months, just two months and he's already losing patience? Tell that friend not to let two months sabotage a possible lifetime of happiness.

Sixfeetbelle:
Preachers of the Bible but lovers of the world are here again. You claim you're a Christian but when it doesn't suit you, you become a traditionalist.

Instead of your friend to arrange only traditional marriage and carry his wife home, or better still, marry the daughter of a traditionalist, he carried his leg to go to the house of a Church goer and look for wife. Now that he's been requested to follow the directives issued by the church, he suddenly remembered he has a tradition.

Tell your friend, your self and everybody who agreed with you that you're all loosing a neurone or two in your brain.

In a word , the white man's wedding is superior to our traditional wedding? Isn't that part of your insinuations? Remember both are traditional and one was introduced by the white man and it's NEVER SCRIPTURAL. The man is only being a slave to the white man and religion.

The part where I agreed with you was the part where you mentioned he should have married someone who shares his view. He could have saved himself from all this brouhaha.

naijadrivablog:


Ticket wey go cut go cut. Leave that thing. Jesus attended a Traditional wedding not white/church wedding.

He was the institution. One doesn't cry when one has His father around. Different strokes

Hehehe...

I wanted to skip but lemme comment...

It's very common that some spouses stay a year or more than that after the traditional marriage..

Without doing the white wedding..

And the society we are now has been conditioned to think that there is more permanence in white wedding than in the traditional one...

It's is easier to send a wife packing when only traditional marriage has been done...

But it's somewhat hard to do so after the white wedding...

Some churches like the roman catholic offer marriage courses to couples intending to wed in the order of holy matrimony..

So if you wanna play a fast one and throw your wife away, you have to deal with the church, the reverend father and might even be suspended from taking the holy communion....

Most ladies are becoming wiser now..
Now its marry me officially or I won't born for you...

Men love challenges so they are always ready to seal the deal to reinforce their ego and respect...


I personal know if someone who did white wedding after 20 years of marriage...

But they're old folks...

If you tried that now in this generation, you would be socially and mentally criticized and crucified...


Needless to say....

The bride's father is just acting out of love to make sure his daughter is seen as a prize..

All parent are not thesame.
the guy really went to the family that has principle.
if he has money he should do the wedding either in a big or minimum way, or give up the marriage cause i see the father of the lady to take any challenges if the guy want to mess up.

Softboy001:
What are you guys even saying self. The marriage has already been done. Bride price has already been paid and as far as anyone is concern she is already his wife.

White wedding is only the traditional marriage of the white man.

Wetin dey do Africans self. Who do una like this?

Am even surprised at people’s comments , my question to those people is , is there anything called white wedding in the bibble?

Africans sabi make things difficult for themselves

Yes oooo na true talk oooo. This is what bring problem the time of my sister and her husband. Na tradition for our place ooo.

zedegit:


Our opinions don't really count if we tell ourselves the truth.

The girl is a Christian and I want to assume the boy is which is in doubt given that this topic is in front page unless op is swallowing paracetamol on others' businesses.

That is why believers are told to not be unequally yoked with those that don't understand.

What has traditional wedding get to do with the issue of unbeliever? As a Christian if I decided to do a traditional wedding does that mean I have gone against the law of God?

palsenator:



In a word , the white man's wedding is superior to our traditional wedding? Isn't that part of your insinuations? Remember both are traditional and one was introduced by the white man and it's NEVER SCRIPTURAL. The man is only being a slave to the white man and religion.

The part where I agreed with you was the part where you mentioned he should have married someone who shares his view. He could have saved himself from all this brouhaha.

Nobody said any was superior to the other. It's a matter of preference. I prefer white wedding over traditional one and if the church didn't certify me married, I'm not. Simple.

Nazgul:

It is very important to know the village traditions of your wife to be before proceeding further with the marriage. For her dad to make such statement, it clearly means that such is the custom/practice in their village.

On a softer note, she can always visit him so I don't know what he's ranting about. Whenever he wants her, they can both chat on social media and fix an appointment, enjoy themselves and she'll go back under her father's roof pending with the two months gap would elapse then they can have their white wedding and begin to enjoy legal sex.

So you mean they should be enjoying illegal sex, abi?

What's your religious inclination?

BusinessCity:




Where is it written in any book that one must stand before the traditional system and elders before it becomes marriage. If you can answer this, then I'll answer you

an driving I will reply you later

I think the father of the bride is just trying to teach them a lesson which will help, PATIENCE!

emerged01:

What has traditional wedding get to do with the issue of unbeliever? As a Christian if I decided to do a traditional wedding does that mean I have gone against the law of God?

You don't get it. Every Christian believes in church wedding before conjugation or intimacy.

Not that they don't do traditional wedding. Comprehension is your problem.

Sixfeetbelle:


Nobody said any was superior to the other. It's a matter of preference. I prefer white wedding over traditional one and if the church didn't certify me married, I'm not. Simple.

Chill bro/sis. The man obviously made one superior which was why we are all here. Hence, my initial assertions