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If you can afford to take care of your basic needs yourself, then move..

It's better to keep a peaceful distance than being together with incessant quarrels/misunderstanding... With the distance, everyone will be at peace (I hope) and you can visit them from time to time..

But you don't have to let your mum know you're moving out because of her; she'll feel hurt. You could find other 'valid' reasons..

Meanwhile, hope moving out won't attract negative distractions? As you seem to be doing fine at home, career wise. ..
Wish you the best..

tayo60:
He should get himself a lady dt will do dt for him now. If na to marry her, let him marry her to replace madam.

nawa oo.... Is the 'pu $$y business' that serious?

Hope you'll gladly offer yourself as his new wife?

"She says she's a grandmother now and sees no reason to still,'raise her legs up' "

^^^^^^

He knows what the woman loves, he can do those to entice her and she may come around. .

Congrats mompurity2 ... God bless your LOs..

@ dexterush , so flexible and cute.. Don't really blame those that ask whether na you born d twins
A wonderful birthday to your dh...

zionx:
Good Evening Mothers, Im so sorry to deviate from the purpose of creating this thread but I need help on how to cope. I just lost my husband... A gallant officer... He died an hero... He died while serving his fatherland. He gave his life for this nation.. .Boko Haram cut his life short.....Im so devastated right now.. .dunno where to start from.. .He left behind a 4 months old baby.. I dunno if there is anyone that has ever been in my shoe. I need advice on how to cope cos right now it is still like a dream to me. I cant believe this is happening to me. ***crying***

This is just so sad
Accept my condolences ma'am ... God's your strength.

Lynette2cute:
I've been following this thread silently, I've been booked for cs by August, please I need prayers for it to go successful. Thanks

Hi, don't be scared ok? It has no option than to be successful
Just envision yourself carrying your bundle of joy

bulunton:
Gd aftrn mothers.pls advise a JJC and FTM o.when is d best time to start buying baby things?and where in lagos is cheaper to buy?Pls whoever has a list for baby purchases should send to bolumedar@gmail.com.thank you.

baby list - edit as you wish

Clothing
8 one-piece outfits or onesies (mix of short-sleeve and long-sleeve)
5 nightgowns (for use until the cord falls off)
8 one-piece sleepsuits
5 pairs of pants/ dresses
2 newborn hats
12 pairs of socks or booties, to wear with nightgowns and outfits
2 pairs of mittens, to keep baby from scratching face
3-5 (or more) outfits for dressing up


Blankets
3 large cotton blankets
8 receiving blankets (also used as burp cloths)


Breastfeeding
Lots of bibs
Burp cloths
Breast pump (manual or electric)
Milk storage containers
Nursing pillow (not essential)
Nursing bras (if buying before baby is born, buy one cup size larger than your pregnant bra size)
Breast pads (disposable or washable)
Lotion or ointment for sore Tips (lanolin-based is best)
Breast pad. Lansino or tommy tippe brand.

Formula feeding
Lots of bibsml
Burp cloths
8 four-ounce bottles with Tips
6 eight-ounce bottles with Tips
Bottle and Tip brush
Formula (be sure to check expiry date)
Thermal bottle carrier
Thermal flask


Diapering
One box or two bags of newborn-size diapers (Don’t buy too many in advance in case your baby is large or grows quickly)
diaper bag
Changing pad
baby ointment or barrier cream to prevent rash
Disposable wipes or washcloths for cleaning baby’s bottom


Bathtime
1 plastic infant tub
1 cup or bowl to pour water
4 washcloths, not used on baby’s bottom
baby soap or cleanser
baby shampoo (optional)
Dettol or savlon (optional)
baby lotion/ cream
baby hair brush/ comb
3 soft-hooded towels
baby hair brush/ comb
3 soft-hooded towels


Sleeping
If you are using a crib:
Crib and crib mattress
3 waterproof mattress covers
4 fitted cribsheets
4 light blankets that fit in the crib
If sleeping with parents:
Firm mattress (not a waterbed)
3 waterproof pads to place under baby
Light blanket (keep away from baby’s head)


Other necessities
Infant carseat
baby rocker
Wrapper/wrapping cloth and Oja
Nail clippers or scissors (or just bite off baby’s nails as needed)
Bulb syringe for suctioning mucous
baby thermometer

AlphaNet:
Assume on a scale of 10

Good Character - 8
Beauty - 4
Hardworking - 9
Money management - 9
Entrepreneurial - 9
Respectful - 8
Reading Culture - 3
Internet Surfing - 7 but only when to view pictures

Her ratings are good if you ask me... for her unexposed/uncivilised attitude, she can always adjust if she's willing to learn afterall you were once unexposed or less exposed too...

But it depends on what you want in a woman shaa...

ayguru:
cant you just read and comprehend better? He stated that he can do anything apart from crime and you are here criticizing him.
you are just an asswipe

Guess I mistook the "can't" in his post for "can" .. Indeed I didn't comprehend well..

And that's why you're insulting me? Did I insult the op? Typical nairalanders...

Again, I wish you the best Op...

Dejiolaniyi:
I've gone thru thick and thin sir, I doubt if there is anything I can't do at this time except for indulging in criminal acts.
As have worked in so many offices before. My last job was a plastic moulding operator in a well established company before I quit to start my own business which crumbled, now to go back is problem. But sir I am ready to start all over again anyhow.

Why do a lot of people mention crime when things are tough? Like that's d only way? Try crime and see where it lands you na..mtcheeew

I understand things are hard but crime will make things worse... I wish you the best and hope things get better for you. ..

Even if practiced in Nigeria, I won't pull the rope because I can't bear to see my husband in pain ... Seeing him in pains will add to my own pains, so I better bear the childbirth pain alone jejely. ..

Besides, no be my husband cause childbirth to be painful, na nature. .. so??

A wonderful birthday Ferdyboss ... More grace

ElDeeVee:
Don't mind her jare. She's forming Adaeze Yobo for me....Thanks anyway and if you see another one (preferably lightskin), holla me biko.

lol.... oh lightskin, I see

Jamean:
The number you've dailed is not available on the MTN network. Please check the number. Thank you

Lol... ElDeeVee, you don hear na...
Sorry, my recommendation no work ... so you gat to find bae yourself..

TheSCRYPT:
Mom.

Uncle Scrypt ...

davide470:
Wetin i do na.

How far na?

You do nothing o

I'm good...thanks

ElDeeVee:
Recommend one for me biko, I trust your judgement

I recommend Jamean ...lol

ElDeeVee:
Ermmm PresVA, do you have anybody for me

Lol.. look around you, there are many of them

davide470:
Where?

.. you ehhh

ElDeeVee:
Lol! I wantu marry na

Lol.. good then

zaynie:
#we are hospital buddies niyen
So if the same Dr checked me and you, it means we have been fingered by the same Dr?
Doctor Snatcher

chaiii.. mama zaynie

ElDeeVee:
Mimzy is bae mehn

You no dey take eye see fine gehs

onyekachee:
thanks a lot
the other roomie is causing a scene already saying her rent cannot waste blah blah because she now stays with her boyfriend and she thinks the rent is wasting away
from my point of view I see that as being selfish

Her rent can't waste? Is anyone chasing her out of the house? She should go and meet the landlord for a refund; You contributed money together and paid to the landlord... hardly any landlord that will refund such money as she isn't being chased outta d house. . She can come anytime she pleases as it's still her house till the rent expires. .but about refunding her? Nah..
What if you don't have the money hence your need for a roommate from the onset?

As I said you can heed her request if she's a good friend and you can afford it... just for the sake of peace

She should neither accept the new person nor refund. ..
How could she bring a total stranger to live with you?

Then, about refunding her, why should you refund her? Did you chase her out of the house? She's leaving on her own accord so you don't owe her anything. ..

If she's a very good friend, you can consider either of the options. .but just know that you don't owe her anything

nkoyo13:
hello everyone!!! just bumped into this thread. wao its such a great thread. registering my presence too. expectant mum #team september#.wishing all expectant july mums safe delivery.

And team September keeps increasing ... team like no other... welcome nne..

The first job one gets after nysc normally 'determines' one's career path in Nigeria... Nigeria isn't a place you fold hands and wait for that choice/desired job or else when you pass graduate trainee age, your body go tell you
Nwanne, just take up that job and find passion in it, if you no find am, go buy from market biko.... just be sure to create passion or happiness in one way or the other, for your own good because idleness/hunger sure wouldn't provide a better 'passion'...

From the 'passionless' job, you could still land your dream job.. but just get busy first!...

Many people however have been lucky to get their choice jobs immediately after uni...

May God guide us right

Raising a family hinders or slows a lot of women from reaching their desired height (when due)... especially ones so passionate about their marriage/family. .

Most women are quite selective about what jobs/occupations/positions they take up just so that their families don't suffer..
But men are a lot more flexible. .

Men can leave their families for weeks/months in pursuit of career but women rarely do this without worrying about what's going on back home

So, it's not like the women don't want to get the top; difficulty in balancing life and career makes it hard... men on the other hand have more time to spare as regards career hence we have more of them at the top...

So are you saying most Nigerian men are rich?
And most Nigerian women poor prior to marriage? Smh

snowytee:
Difference in financial ideologies? Oh, sweetie I don't think that applies. It's the wedding and the expenditures am about. She understands partnership in running a home.
Or is there something you deciphered from my post? Kindly let me know, I can adjust.

Someone that's adamant about having a 'huge' wedding when you're against it, is likely to make such demands in the future.. it's always good couples are in sync when it comes to finance...

From your writeup, I thought maybe she's someone that likes having 'big' while you're a 'moderate' person hence my comment(s)... but guess I'm wrong. ..
Since it applies to the wedding alone, you can easily manage it by standing firm to your decision..

Again, wish you the best

You can always find a balance. You can have both

But if I must choose, then my family/marriage because I can't have a good career when I don't have peace in my marriage. ..

snowytee:
I recognized the subtle dig. Not cool. Can you not insult? You can see I said I want a beautiful wedding also but not ready to spend beyond reason. Thank you though for the first part of your talk.

Sorry, no insult intended really

As I said before, stick to your budget!. .. I hope your fiancee comes around..

However, hope you will be able to cope with the difference in your financial ideologies when you're finally married?

All the best..