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omotohdarajugbogbolo: Lol at my username. I love been unique. hope you have found someone to talk to

Yes i have made few friends but .........

otodeluxe: Basically, if you have a laptop you can either use Microsoft Picture Manager to Optmize it. Just right click the picture, goto open with and choose Microsoft Picture Manager. On d right hand side of the window. Click on resize and select d Webpages options or email messages.

If u r a pro computer user u can download a trial version of Adobe Photoshop. then open the picture in photoshop, goto edit and select "image size", make sure d constrain proportion is ticked, then change the size to somefin like 300, when done save it from d file menu. Make sure u save as .png to make it more portable. Hope dis helps!

Thanks so much for the tips on how to resize image on laptop. Will try it out. Thanks once again.

@enoquin, please share your recipe with me. I like to try out new recipes. Thanks.
@akpunwa, please don't be angry o. I haven't bought the leaf yet. As soon as i get it, will fulfil my promise.

Op, isi gi dikwa gi nma?

Congratulations on you wedding. Happy married life.

@cotton101, seconded!
@topic, you have enough reasons to walk out of that marriage. What am i even saying? its not even a marriage! When it comes to physical abuse, once is enough. You don't have to wait and see if it will happen again because it always does. No one on earth maltreats someone they love how much more your husband or wife! Pick up the pieces of your remaining life and move on.

My dear please stop being negative. Why won't you get married? The only reason you are not married is because you haven't met your husband. Don't let anyone make you feel its because you have a child that you are not married. You will get married sooner than you think! ............and please its high time you start seeing your daughter as a plus rather than a hindrance.

A big congratulations to the Sienas. Baby Ufuoma you are welcome in Jesus name. May you be a source of more light, more peace, more happiness and more blessings to your parents in Jesus name, amen.

Nice arrangement but is this not incest? Someone please......

Double post.

Op i feel you because i have been there (and i thank God for the gift of being mother). After reading your opening post, i laughed so hard that my baby started staring at me in a funny way.
Labour to me is the most painful thing on this earth but the beauty of labour is that it stops immediately the baby pops out and the Joy is being alive to hold your baby, your flesh. With proper care, any tear or cut heals within two weeks. My baby weighed 4.0kg, he was quite big and tore me to pieces (lol) but with the medications i was taking and constant hot water (and salt) treatment, by the second week of delivery, my woman was as good as it was prebirth.

Op, second baby and subsequent once aren't as painful as the first. The labour with its associated pains will not last provided you don't have any kind of complication. I will encourage you to be positive minded and work towards having a normal delivery. A CS is only recommended by Doctors when there are complications. You choosing it yourself just because of labour pains kind of makes you look like a "chicken" (lol).

INFORMATION: A woman that delivers via cs is in no way less a woman. Edogram my brother please get it straight ok. 99% of women who delivers via cs didn't opt for it and their babies (and that of those that opt for it) are well celebrated because they are all God's gift after all its still God that gave Doctors the wisdom to save the lives of mother and child through cs in cases of severely complicated labour.


Poster, another option is to befriend a fulani woman (if its possible) and let her give you the herbs they take during delivery. The herbs makes you experience zero labour pain.

I will go for enriched pap (dawa/akamu + soya beans + formula) anytime anyday. I bought cerelac cereal for my baby but i just hate the sandy/garry-like texture. Even after mixing well with water, it still looks like soaked garri. God! I hate it. The one tin i bought is just there, my baby doesn‘t like it. He prefers pap due to its smooth creamy texture.

Tough one for you op. You just have to be matured in handling the situation. He betrayed you quite all right by not telling you about them before you guys got married. Well, they are his kids and he us your husband so that makes them your children. Accept them ok but let your husband know how you feel.
You said you have caught him with CCCT three times; abeg wetin be CCCT?

The decision to keep a baby should be made by both of them. But unfortunately for the man, the woman has the upper power because its her body and she can manipulate her body however she wants. If she doesn‘t want to keep the baby but the man wants otherwise, she can abort the baby and later feign miscarriage. If the reverse is the case, she will successfully carry the pregnancy, deliver and take care of her baby with or without the man.

If you ask me, i think its total irresponsibility on the part of anyone whether male or female to engage in s.exual inte.rcourse without any form of protection knowing fully well that you are not ready to be a father or mother. Its better to prevent the pregnancy than committing murder. Believe it or not, from the moment conception takes place, a human has been created.


Talking from my own experience, me being the woman and my womb being inside my body + mercies of God played a major role. I was pregnant at the point of seperation fom ex husband, he told me flat out to abort the baby since we were seperating, i told him NO. He proceeded to physical abuse/battery to achieve his aim but i didnt miscarry. What am i saying? The bulk of the decision lies with the woman. If a women doesn‘t want to keep a baby, she has the (selfish) power to do anything she wants with her womb. Likewise if she wants to keep a pregnancy and is determined to do it, she will except extreme (wicked) measures are taken by the man. .......sorry for the long epistle........

There is every possibility that your friend tried to seduce your husband but he didnt fall for her or nothing of such happened. Still there has to be an explanation for his actions.
Well, i will choose my husband and my family over a friend any day. Am sure she is aware of your husband‘s hostility towards her so she would understand.

Be loyal and truthful to your husband, don‘t behave like Gabby in desperate housewives who choosed her friend Bree over her husband.

Akpunnwa, ok. I exhausted the bundle of leaf i bought yesterday. I will buy a small bunch maybe tomorrow or next and give you a detailed description with pictures.

Eh yaaaa, nbia da hun tailor e bi martins by okwuijen ogen efi nai tan. Enjoy yourself bro.

Na wah 4 wire road. Funny story. I wonder what their children will be thinking of their dad, mum and step mothers. If someone asks them what killed their dad, what will they say? If someone should ask the women what killed their husband, what will they say? Heart attack; i guess.........

The man must have been starving the remaining 5 of his wives for them to resort to the action they took.
What can i say? Marry one wife, live right with her and have peace of mind. Shikena!

Hahaha. Nki la ekwa de ye tailor nokume St Joseph Catholic church kiken. Egim no, nke ma kpoi. Ya hun ale thread n kpo pu, nno deye kewe no eshi ukpo oka?

Missy you are welcome. i saw your old post on this food. In yours, you add eggs and corned beef/canned fish........ Hmmmnnn well, the traditional recipe does not include all that orishi rishi ooo. If you want to enjoy corn pudding, just make sure you add plenty onions, crayfish and prawns. Any other other thing like egg, meat, fish will ruin the taste. If you have access to crayfish and prawns (the type pictured above) where you are, you can comfortably make it and enjoy it all the way.

Instead of using foil, why not use white cellophane since you cant get the leaf.

More pics .........

More pics

Hi all, i want to share this recipe with my nairaland peeps. Ukpo Oka is also known as Corn pudding. Its a very special delicacy of the Ika - Ibo people of Delta state. The food is more common during the corn season because its made with fresh corn and absolutely nutritious, delicious and filling.
If you have any questions on the preparation, feel free to ask.

INGREDIENTS
Fresh corn
Small crayfish
Big crayfish or prawn
Fresh pepper
Onion (lots)
Palm oil
Seasoning (star or knorr)
Salt
Water

PREPARATION:
1) Peel off the husk of corn and remove all strands.
2) Using a sharp knife, slice down the seeds from the corn.
3) Add the fresh pepper, onion, small crayfish and blend. When blending, blend the onion, crayfish and pepper to a smooth paste while the corn will not be smooth. The corn should have a very rough texture and feel after blending.
4) Transfer to a container with wide opening and stir with a spatular for about 5minutes. If its too thick, add a little water.
5) Add the washed prawns, seasoning, salt, palm oil and stir further till all the oil is well incorporated.
6) Wrap in leaf (the type used for wrapping moin-moin or nylon if you don‘t have access to leaves.
7) Steam on high heat (same way for moin moin) for about 1 hr to 1hr 30mins. You will know its cooked when the content of the leaf or nylon becomes solid.

I encourage you to try it and please let us know if you enjoyed it.

P.S: This food is eaten with clean hands straight up.

Elebe ke iri Agbor? Nmewan ri Agbor.

@Ifyemma, why don‘t you try and make your baby‘s food by yourself? Apart from the fact that it saves you lots of money, you know what your baby is eating and its quite fun. All you haver to do is blend to ensure it creamy and free of lumps. If you are interested in making your baby‘s food, there is a thread in food section on varieties of baby foods and how to make them. I think the topic is “cerelac versus nutrend“. Am typing with a phone so i cannot paste the link here.

Moderator please kindly paste the link of the thread in food section where ways of making homemade baby food was discussed. Thanks.

@Ify, you can still google “homemade baby food“ to get more recipes.

@chytai, please do not give your baby adult milk. Am talking about cowbell, dano, peak and the rest. Use infant formulas such as Nan or SMA or any other to mix his pap/dawa/cereal/pudding. You can start adding peak or dano or any one of your choice to his pap when he is over 1year. ## some of the makers even write it on their milk containers##.

chytai: My baby is 3months old, i want to know when to introduce other foods to her like ( akamu, dawa and tea) some people said i should continue exclusive breast feeding till 6months to avoid diarhea. Pls am a first time mother, i need some advice.

Lots of advice have been given here already. Try and read through.

There is no law that states that you must exclusively nurse your baby. The decision to do it should be made by you not anyone else. The only thing i would suggest is that you do a little bit of research on the two (or ask your Doctor).
Personally i did exclusive for my baby and i have no regrets and will do same for his siblings when they are born. If i am working, i will express the milk for my baby.
Lady, don't let anyone pressure you into something you don't want to do. If you want to introduce baby formula or dawa or pap to your baby, by all means do so but if you want to exclusively feed your baby on your milk alone, please ride on.

If you decide to continue with brea.st milk for your baby and you also work, the only option will be to express your brea.st milk into clean and sterilized feeding bottles and who ever will feed the baby must do so under hygienic conditions. For more informations on how to preserve brea.st milk, google is there for you.

By the way, exclusive brea.st feeding is new. Our mothers didn't do such for us neither did their own mothers and yet amongst them are the greatest and most intelligent mind.

jaymdee: Nka bia izu-uka nanani

nsongbu aria. Ike wen ijen oma.

I am sure the man is regretting his actions and he would have been scolded by the people he told. He shouldn‘t have broadcasted their dirty laundry. He acted immaturedly.

The lady on the other hand should have been able to predict her husband‘s reaction before confessing to him. She messed up big time and she should face the music. A woman may easily forgive her husband even if she catches him red handed but men don‘t forgive, not easily. Next time she should learn to close her legs.

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Wow! What a story. Hmmmnnnnn this one critical oooooo!

Anyway, i feel the man will definitely kick her out sooner or later.
Now she will be known as the lady who cheated on her husband. She has certainly lost her respect before her family, friends and her church.

Tell her to beg God for forgiveness and observe the man closely. But in the meantime, prepare for anything that will happen to her and the children (i mean divorce).

One sure way of being “carried along“ with the happenings in you baby‘s life is to google his age; for instance if your baby is 2 months and 1 week old, google “2 months and 1 week old baby“. You will get lots of information on what milestone to expect, why your baby is acting the way he is etc. You can even google ahead. That way you won‘t be taken unaware or thrown off balance when he does something “weird“ or doesn‘t achieve a particularly expected milestone.

I did this during my pregnancy days, i was never bothered one day over anything or tricks pulled by my then womb hijacker. I knew ahead of time what to expect and why such should happen and what organs were growing weekly. My pregnancy was fun.