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I smell a rat.Cant conclude though but these days, terrible things are happening. Sons marrying their mothers, daughters marrying their fathers so sister sleeping with brother wont be any news.

The most painful thing to ever happen to me but yet the best and sweetest experience!!! @op if you are pregnant, just prepare your mind.

Rats Rats Rats all the way cos they are more difficult to get rid of. The other two can be easily killed with insecticide spray but rats? difficult except u use rat gum which works by chance, also if you use rat poison, they may die in hidden places where it will be difficult to get to them till they start stinking. Worse is the horrible noise they make when you are trying to sleep! ugh!!! i hate them all.

Op take it easy eh. be patient with her. Some people have said meaningful things you should consider. You need to sit her down and talk to her or the both of you should go see a marriage counselor who will make her realize that she is now a WIFE, no longer a girlfriend. you can change her line all you want or even seize her phone, that will only worsen things and make her start hating you. You need to handle this situation maturely else you will drive her into the arms of this ex boyfriends. Goodluck!

Na wah for wire road... the story goes on and on. Young married women being treated like 7th class citizens by their own husbands!
Your friend should use wisdom to handle her case.

Can't say am suprised. Any man who abuses his wife deserves whatever gets to him. Let him rot in hell where he will have plenty of time and space to fight with idiots like him.

Lol at Efemena. Op is there no other option? Have you exhausted all means to bring back peace into your home? Anyway to your question, i don't think its ok. You should probably look for a place to be putting up for now till when the divorce is finalized before you break each other's head.

@edogram what an advice! Thanks all the same.

Confilass: @ Pretty Cindy

I took time to go thru. ur mail and other genuine advises. It is great and lovely.

It's only one who hasn't been there, dat won't know it. 've been there and I can tell u dat time heals wound, in less dan some months u'll be so happy u took d decision. With ur son u'll be d most happiest person on earth.

Don't lower ur standard, be yourself. A man who will appreciate u will come. Bible says "Be wise as serpent but harmful as dove". In d next relationship, just set ur standard and learn from ur previous mistakes. LUV U

Thanks. Love you too.

Wislet is right in her assumptions but it doesn't apply to all men. My former neighbour, a family man with 2 children buys every single thing in the house. If they want to make soup, he buys all the ingredients and hands them over to his wife. If for any reason he gives his wife money to buy stuffs from the market, he must, i mean must collect the change from his wife. How do i know all these, whenever they quarrel, which they did alot, they always blabbed about it and the woman never fails to express her displeasure with the man always going to the market.

Honeycity: @ poster

you were very desperate in your first marriage

it also appeared you lowered your standard for the wrong man

You are totally right.

I second what chaircover said. But like Jenny said, has it occured to your that "someone" else could have used the man's phone to send that sms? Women are more desperate than men. I won't be suprised if you come back here with a post saying your girlfriend admitted to using her dad's phone to send that message thereby making it look like its her dad.
Anyway i would suggest you don't reply that message so you won't end up roping yourself.

Doube post.

Jenny thanks.
@Coogar, the honest fact is that i would love to be married someday to a deserving man and be the best wife i can be. Haven't said that, being a Mrs is not the ultimate in life (experience taught me well). I won't go to heaven if i am a Mrs but full of sins. I would rather i make heaven being single than being in a marriage that frustrates one to the point of suicide and end up in hell! Everyone have their individual lucks and destinies. That two friends started medical school together does not mean that they will both graduate. One may be withdrawn along the line. That is life.
I am very much aware what its like out there for singles both male and female. What matters most to me is what God says about me and his will for me. For all i care let there be only one bachelor in the whole of africa..............if he is that deserving man that God is sending my way, then he is mine (lol). I didn't let God guide and direct me before but now, no matter how long it takes, he is in control. That being said, i am soooooo happy, living my life and having the best, i mean the very best of time with my baby.

Jenny thanks.
@Coogar, the honest fact is that i would love to be married someday to a deserving man and be the best wife i can be. Haven't said that, being a Mrs is not the ultimate in life (experience taught me well). I won't go to heaven if i am a Mrs but full of sins. I would rather i make heaven being single than being in a marriage that frustrates one to the point of suicide and end up in hell! Everyone have their individual lucks and destinies. That two friends started medical school together does not mean that they will both graduate. One may be withdrawn along the line. That is life.
I am very much aware what its like out there for singles both male and female. What matters most to me is what God says about me and his will for me. For all i care let there be only one bachelor in the whole of africa..............if he is that deserving man that God is sending my way, then he is mine (lol). I didn't let God guide and direct me before but now, no matter how long it takes, he is in control. That being said, i am soooooo happy, living my life and having the best, i mean the very best of time with my baby.

Jenny thanks.
@Coogar, the honest fact is that i would love to be married someday to a deserving man and be the best wife i can be. Haven't said that, being a Mrs is not the ultimate in life (experience taught me well). I won't go to heaven if i am a Mrs but full of sins. I would rather i make heaven being single than being in a marriage that frustrates one to the point of suicide and end up in hell! Everyone have their individual lucks and destinies. That two friends started medical school together does not mean that they will both graduate. One may be withdrawn along the line. That is life.
I am very much aware what its like out there for singles both male and female. What matters most to me is what God says about me and his will for me. For all i care let there be only one bachelor in the whole of africa..............if he is that deserving man that God is sending my way, then he is mine (lol). I didn't let God guide and direct me before but now, no matter how long it takes, he is in control. That being said, i am soooooo happy, living my life and having the best, i mean the very best of time with my baby.

Jenny thanks.
@Coogar, the honest fact is that i would love to be married someday to a deserving man and be the best wife i can be. Haven't said that, being a Mrs is not the ultimate in life (experience taught me well). I won't go to heaven if i am a Mrs but full of sins. I would rather i make heaven being single than being in a marriage that frustrates one to the point of suicide and end up in hell! Everyone have their individual lucks and destinies. That two friends started medical school together does not mean that they will both graduate. One may be withdrawn along the line. That is life.
I am very much aware what its like out there for singles both male and female. What matters most to me is what God says about me and his will for me. For all i care let there be only one bachelor in the whole of africa..............if he is that deserving man that God is sending my way, then he is mine (lol). I didn't let God guide and direct me before but now, no matter how long it takes, he is in control. That being said, i am soooooo happy, living my life and having the best, i mean the very best of time with my baby.

@stillwater, believe it or not i didn't harangue him. Of course 45k is small thing. I stated it in my story for clarity. I gave in to pressure from my mum who wouldn't let me be in the name of "i am old enough to be a grandma". And yes as hard as it is to admit, i acted foolishly and was desperate which he saw and took advantage of. Thanks all the same. Lesson learnt.

@Lewis, i sat on the passenger side. No be my car oooo! My own de com in Jesus name, amen.
@mrbrownjay, thanks. I married him because i was in love with him and thought i had a future with him. You probably missed the part where i said i was ready to start from scratch with him. I made alot of mistakes in my "desperation" and it landed me where i am now.
I don't expect everyone to believe my story. Anyway thanks for your post. Got a few things from it.

@Lewis, i sat on the passenger side o. No be my car oooo! My own de com in Jesus name, amen.
@mrbrownjay, thanks. I married him because i was in love with him and thought i had a future with him. You probably missed the part where i said i was ready to start from scratch with him. I made alot of mistakes in my "desperation" and it landed me where i am now.
I don't expect everyone to believe my story. Anyway thanks for your post. Got a few things from it.

Thanks alot Kulye. I learnt my lessons the hard way. I was trying hard to make my marriage work but only i was in the wrong marriage. You know, my ex used to boast that i will never be able to leave him no matter what he did to me. When i finally seperated from him, he told me i was lucky he haven't 'tied' me yet. Well, it is well.

@army, i think its because the corn was not matured. If the corn seeds you peeled off the corn were soft and watery, it would definitely result to watery pudding. In such case, what you would have done would have been to mix it with very strong corn like the type used for roasting (oka akankpo). When next you want to prepare, make sure the corns are fresh (straight from the farm), peel off a single seed and squeeze with your hand. If it burst easily, then its not matured enough, if its too hard to the point that you have to use your teeth, then its too strong and would result to tasteless pudding. The one for corn pudding shouldn't be too hard and should have a fair quantity of juice inside the seeds.

Ha! Interesting. Will definitely try it. Am just trying to imagine what it will taste like but i can't. If you use a nokia phone, you can reduce image size by shrinking. I had similar problem before but i got solutions right here on nairaland. Now i can take shots with my phone or camera and get high quality image with weight as low as 30kilobyte.
If you succeed in shrinking the picture, please post it. I will like to see what it looks like. I will make mine this week and post the picture here.
By the way, which tribe makes this food and what is the name of the food abi. Thanks alot.

Thank you all for your honest thoughts.
@efemena, i was 26years while he was 33years old and i don't look older than my age. We dated for 3 months. He is an orphan and from a polygamous home where they are 26 children. He is a graduate............and no, your questions are not offensive at all.

@claus, i will certainly be more careful and observant next time.

@Ihedinobi, i laughed when i read your statement "hunting for husbands". Abeg i am not hunting for husbands ooo! I may have been desperate before but now, i can assure you that i am not. And my son is the sole occupant of heart, he has all my love, energy and my all. He is my life, light and happiness.
Presently am searching for a good job but in the mean time, i'm using this opportunity to start my business. I have always had a passion for baking. I used to do it for fun but now i have started baking cakes (birthdays and weddings) for business. Till i get a job, this business will help keep me busy.

@mpmp, thanks for your "brutality". I used the swearing words because on the other thread, some persons said i was lieing and making things up just to make ex look bad and make people pity me. Well i guess i wanted everyone to know that all i have said here are true.

@debrief, congratulations on the delivery of your baby any. We thank God mother and child are ok.

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@op, I WISH I WERE IN YOUR SHOES!!! Since you want unfaithfulness, maltreatment, lack of care, constant verbal and physical abuse, then you need to hook up with my ex husband ASAP. .............and oh he is very much available.

Double post.

Interesting. Nice one op.

Hello, i searched for you on face book using your yahoo email and lo and behold, you are engaged. So what gives?

Konnektions146: take it easy while yu sshine yur eyes wella.

always de best are my wishes

Yes o, you are right. I need to shine my eyes wella. Thanks anyway. Hope you had a nice weekend. Have you e - recieved my Ofe onugbu with fufu? Lol.


@Mac, thanks for your prayers. I strongly believe God will make things right for me.