Code650: Hey Guys, i just joined yes!! after so many readings. Name’s Arianna and i live in Usa.. I’m a native American and Josh is Nigerian. We have a boy and he’s 5. We both work and i always leave my kids at their grandma’s (My mom)..recently i had a closer look on my kid and i can see tiny cuts like dots on my child's back.. they look so tiny but a closer look they stand apart within that space. He’s got 12 of those tiny cuts on his back and he says papa did it.
So since this is a Nigerian forum (at least his addiction to this site made me read too) can that be voodoo? I’m gonna post a pic but no for privacy reasons.. totally i do not onow how to explain this.
Why in the name of God are you not asking your husband this question, instead you choose to ask a bunch of strangers?
Even though this had been coming and going as side talks, it got to a head last December when mama called me for an "important talk" only for her to delve into the marriage sermon. Thank God a someone visited and interrupted that session, everyone got busy and we never had that time till I ran away from home.
Now almost every elderly person I have a little discussion with, marriage must enter am. Nobody dey even ask me whether I done see food chop na to go pay ogbenge list come carry woman wey fit they tell me everything wey the neighbour do for him wife wey I no dit do.
Girlfriend I no kwukwuma get.
Please this can't be just me passing through this, who else is in my shoes and how do you survive?
To the elders, tell them you will let them know when its time.
To your peers, Tell them its none of their concern.
IamCookie: You are the ignorant one sir/ma. She(op) gave an account of what transpired and thereby asked a question bothering her, and you expected everyone on this thread to give 'your kind of advice or response? If she is so sure and confident of the promise she made to herself , then why bothered and feeling regret of her actions? Smh
Very perceptive, thats why the Op opened this thread because there are hints of regrets.
Lyydia: There's this guy that we have been dating for 6month, we love each other very well and we plan on marrying each other.. Here is the deal, we plan on no sex before marriage due to personal reasons... I don't ask for money also, we do cuddle and kiss sometimes.. But not sex! Of recent, he is been acting strange and want to go beyond our normal cuddle level.. I cautioned him about this and he promised to change! But he still does this. Yesterday it happened again as I got furious and asked him to leave.
Did I overreact? I called, he has not pick up since yesterday.
No you did not, Its obvious he now wants sex and you don't. Call off the relationship. If you still want the relationship be prepared to have sex with him.
Gina2019: Lol...A lady will never give you her cookie as long as she's not collecting money from you. She has alot to lose if she tries it.
You want the guy to have the cookie then leave her afterwards? She's a wise girl if you ask me...Now the real intention of the guy is now showing.
And how do you know the guy will leave after having sex? It doesn't matter if the guy has sex or not, what matters is if the guy has good intentions. And no sane man will want to end up with a woman that uses sex as a bargaining chip, its a complete turn off.
The guy could agree to the no sex thing but he is having it elsewhere, now since he is not "disturbing" for it, does this makes him a good guy? You guys dont have any strategy that can decipher a man, even if there is this is not one of them. The only thing is you should pray you come across a good man, but then again you will push him away with your "strategy".
Besides how do women loose by having sex in a relationship? Or you leave everything to chance and hope you guys are sexually compatible?
When you start a relationship you either go all the way or you dont bother at all.
thorpido: You are incompatible like he said.It is no fault of yours,it is just who you are.You're an introvert while he's an extrovert.
Don't ever make the mistake of dating an extrovert again.It will wear you out.You'll forever be dealing with trying to catch up while he's seeing you as inadequate.
Just because one is an introvert it doesn't mean they are dumb, quite and hollow. This has nothing to do with being an introvert - far from it.
Michellekabod2: I have washed my hands clean from having any discussion on relationship or gender issues. To each his own way. If someone give you peace of mind,love and you both connect,and you chose to spend your life with him or her,you are called loser or foolish for a petty reason. All I asked is not to tag others because of their choice,because he/she may have reasons for it, and it turns me into someone that likes argument or someone that argues with fact. Everyone can call something from their own lens fact and if someone doesn't agree to it the person is called names.
Marriage is now reduced to a contract of buying a female body(especially if she is dumb), if you chose to marry for reasons beyond sexual or monetary games a tribunal of judges will give you tags like foolish or loser. A simp with a mind of his own is better than an alpha male who succumb to trends or live by stereotypes(called facts/common sense)
Saggy breast is caused by breastfeeding, wearing unfitted bras,etc and not a sign of promiscuity. Let us assume it was a sign of promiscuity, With surgery's like breast uplift/augmentation a ladies past can be hidden. How about kegel exercises that tighthen the vagina or putting a leech in the Labia to produce blood on the wedding night. People will marry for wrong reasons and start opening wailing threads on how their wives are demons.
I guess this will be the last post I will make on such issues. Let everyone create his/her own path in life. With time,pure wisdom will find us- I hope it wouldn't be in a bitter way though
Hahaha, pls dont make me laugh. Most will grow old and die stupid, cos their ego tells them they are never wrong.
Another shallow minded lot, without spiritual inclination. You must be one of those people with a debased sense of reasoning, who wakes up abruptly from slumber to make irrational and illogical decisions that will in turn lead to your catastrophic end.
Till you learn to be mature to apprehend the essence of accountability to people that oversee you, the purpose for your life will ever be a mirage to you.
Anybody that declares herself beautiful to the public are always the average or ugly looking ones, the beautiful ones are already sick of being told how beautiful they are, hence they don't bother themselves about this anymore.
Ladylite: Dangerous to who? She may be too devoted to her pastor but as a Christian anything that threatens the devotion to God that she knows....has to be stopped.
Would you say she was wrong if she was a Muslim? Well I blame Christians for how shabby they have made Christianity in Nigeria because it sounds like slavery but the tenants of Christianity must never be overridden for any reason not even marriage.
Funny how you ignore the fact that Christianity has already been overridden,
pastors making more sex tapes than celebrities,
more false prophesies than an outdated oracle,
more false doctrines than a drunk Atheist,
Do you guys ever for once read the whole Bible or you only read the verses given to you by your pastors to only support their point of view?
Am sure 90% of you "devoted" Christians don't understand the story of the good Samaritan.
Jewessgratitude: Y ask? Just start rough play before you know e don shele. But if oga de sleep ;, just dey trowey body dey touch am small small until he stirs and wakes up. Then you can tell him to help you scratch your back. Dem no born that man well at that wee hours not to know what to do ...
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Nice, But I would prefer the more direct and explicit version.
Jodha: Nigerian men are mostly boring in marriages....they know nothing else apart from going to work, coming back, eating , having sex , sleeping and the cycle repeats itself again and again and again....till infinity. ...
Women are bored and tired of that shit...a woman will work...still cook...still wash clothes..plates ..take care of the house...clean...still muster the strength to engage in sex...for as many rounds as a husband pleases...
Women are tired of that shit.... that's the result yhure seeing up there and nothing else..
So what do you think the guy taking these married women to vernice offer these women?
[quote author=Jodha post=85559580]Nigerian men are mostly boring in marriages....they know nothing else apart from going to work, coming back, eating , having sex , sleeping and the cycle repeats itself again and again and again....till infinity. ...
Women are bored and tired of that shit...a woman will work...still cook...still wash clothes..plates ..take care of the house...clean...still muster the strength to engage in sex...for as many rounds as a husband pleases...
Women are tired of that shit.... that's the result yhure seeing up there and nothing else..[/quote
So what do you think the guy taking these married women to vernice offer these women?
Michellekabod2: exactly, much emphasis is placed on marriage. Many people in developed countries are OK as partners. Marriage is never on their agenda initially . There is so much pressure on females to marry,if she is not married early what will you guys call her?evening newspaper. Did Ubunja your mentor not counsel you guys against marrying a girl above 25? Or refer to older ladies as leftovers? So don't blame ladies that place emphasis in getting the ring above every other thing because its the men that offer "Shiloh threats" or remind them constantly of how their biological clock is ticking.
It is very disheartening for a guy to date a lady for a decade only for you to breakup and after 3 months you want to marry someone else. Ladies dread this like a plague,so they rather date you shortly. I am speaking from experience. Had a suitor who was out of a long term relationship (8+ years) and when he saw me in less than two months proposed marriage. The lady was so devastated,like she was an AIDS patient,albeit I didn't proceed with him because I didn't want to eat where another woman sowed and some other stuffs about him .. Tell me,after investing almost a decade of her life to him and no ring do you think she will date subsequent men long?
Many ladies date for marriage and not to experience love.
Women are always wary of where a relationship is headed,and careful not to sow into a man life if she isnt guaranteed the ring,thus your gf that loves you may leave the instant a man she doesn't love ask for her hand in marriage.
I didn't create any principle for anyone,I just gave my advice based on my experience with ladies and how they view things. Most girls of marriageable age tell me they can't date a man for more than a year if he hasn't said anything about marriage,so my post was in reference to the time ladies have given themselves. It doesn't apply to every lady.
So in a case whereby a lady is interested in marriage and the man insist thinking that direction,instead of cheating or forcing him into marriage or "waiting and hoping",is walking away not the best option?
If all woman have this line of thought, then they are obviously marrying for the wrong reason. Finding the right person should be the number one priority, not marriage. They are countless married people both men and women that are living a life of regrets. Some are strong enough or too ashame so they try hard to hide it. Others walk out. these are the same people that felt they are flying without wings on their wedding day.
Too many kids from broken homes, yet women still focus on marriage, focusing more on the snivel instead of the stake (the right partner).
But I think it's all about preference, some people value their life and their happiness so much that they won't entertain any form unhappiness that will limit their life. While the others are so shallow that they think it's either they follow the crowd or they are nothing, makes you wonder how they happily settle for less.
The ideal thing should be finding a good partner first, before marriage. But do you ladies even think about the person or it's only marriage that you want? And to who? Just anyone that is ready to get married too? We have ritualist, drug dealers, rapist, arm robbers etc, that are also ready for marriage.
Rapmoney: I have already done that in my post because I clearly stated that such a man should leave such lady and let her forge her way. I never said that the man should hold tightly to her even with such situation on ground.
But which sane man will want to marry a lady that is obviously cheating, because she doesn't want to put all her eggs in one basket?
Romance › Re: My Husband Is Nigerian And He Does This by pryme(m): 10:02am On Jan 14, 2020
. Lemme school you