₦airaland Forum

Gurgle:
interesting.

yes broken marriages are terrible for all involved. but I think if you just keep focus, be prayerful and try not to avoid problems that could be solved in the first place by the grace of God that marriage wont break

Timrho:
Thanks bro for your contribution. Appreciated. It's nice to have another point of view to consider. My not having a kid already at this time is as a result of my background. Growing up in a family with step siblings, step parents has motivated me not to consider that part for my kids. I intend to have all my kids with one woman I care about, hopefully. And fight tooth and nail to keep my family together and united.

My situation is not desperate, but I realize I need to put some works into it now before things become crazy. The idea of this is not to settle down for anything one gets but for me to expand my possibilities. If I get a diamond out of this, perfect. If I don't, it is what it is. And I'm well aware of possible games that might come up. I analyze things very carefully before I take actions. And I did give it a lot of thought before coming out with this piece.

Lots of crazy girls in this nairaland. But with every 1000 crazy girls, there is just that one that just might suit my purpose. If I have to be a big dunce to find that one, bro it is worth it to me.
I really thank you for your contribution. If there are other ways to look at it, or more things to watch out for, please feel free to contribute some more.

Gurgle:
LOL what a guy how do you know the woman will release the child to you

but why are you so bitter?? I don't think the situation is that bad

demoiselle:
Your last paragraph is interesting guy. Did you mean that?

Yomieluv:
My fiance called me on thursday that she's converting to a moslem.

Actually,she was a muslim,but when the mum was going through financial difficulties while growing up,she and her brother went to stay at her uncle's place,who happens to practice christian,which made her practice the family's religion.

She has gone back this year to her mum's place,because her place of industrial attachment is very close to her mum's place.

I thought she was joking,till she came to my side yesterday,and observed her prayer the muslim way.

I haven't made any comment,or taken any decision on that,but my fear is that

1. This is a lady I want t get married to in few months' time.

2. I practise christianity,and I know the importance of uniformity of religion to married couple,and children.

3. I have been worried since,am I over reacting to it?

4. Has anybody been in this situation before,whereby hubby,and wife practise different religion?

5. Should I be worried,or I insist on her to practice christianity?

I need contribution,and advice on how to handle the difference in religion,if eventually we get married.

CC: lalasticlala.

Timrho:
public enemy #1 I salute

Timrho:
Hello respected nairalanders,
An earlier thread got me thinking about young successful men who are still single. I won’t exactly call myself rich or wealthy but I have everything a man can ask for except for a wife and kids. Much tougher to achieve when you don’t have a woman in your life and live in a place where I don’t get to meet single Nigerian ladies.

It will be nice to meet a pretty and well mannered Nigerian lady who is willing to go the distance. Not a big fan of social media for meeting folks. So I’m here to see if there is anyone out there who is willing to meet and see if we have anything in common worth exploring.

I’m handsome, intelligent, responsible, a natural leader of men. I believe in treating women with respect and expect faithfulness / fidelity on both sides.

A little about the kind of lady I’d like to meet :
A lady with the fear of God
young (23 - 30)
Educated, smart
Social
Someone who is willing to work hard to build an empire together

I have found it tough to meet a woman worthy so far. Hence my coming out here.
I can be reached privately at the following email [email]timhr48@gmail.com[/email]
BBM 56A4AC6C




Fellow nairalanders, contributions (insults, laughs, referrals, additions, questions) to thread are welcome….Ideas on how or where to find such a woman would be welcome too

dosht:
You're a public enemy wickedt

Sapphire06:
Hello nairalanders, I've been around for a while but this is my first topic here. My bf of over 4years broke up with me April though we just graduated recently from the same university. His reasons being we can't end up together in the long run, there will be distance between us during service year, he is a man and has to hustle and he's not ready to plan his future with anybody so our relationship is just limited to school. He started calling this month and day before yesterday he said he had an interactive session with his mom. He wants us to sit down and review things, he misses me and wants me back. I can't deny the fact that I still love and want him but I'm scared and worried that he will find an excuse and leave again. Though we had series of breakups during the relationship and he kept coming back. Females in the house that might have been in my shoe before, would it be wise of me to accept him back ?. Males in the house, is he being serious and sincere ?. Please Advice generally, I don't wanna make a mistake.

Humorclux:
In reality, Freedom is one of the few things in life worth dying for. So i'll die for Biafra

Aspiregreat:
Who is there in your life that you would take a bullet for?

A question i was asked, and I'm still Finding the perfect match ....

So,Nairalanders who would you take a bullet for when you have to ?.... Would you contemplate taking a bullet for:

*Your Wife?
*Your Kids?
*Your bosom friend?
*Your Mother?
*Your father? Or
*Your Siblings ?


Earnest Truth Only...

ConfessionsNgr:
I am a 19 years old female law undergraduate in the University of Lagos. I am the last born in a family of five. My two elder ones have all graduated. Recently I noticed my father’s car in front of the girl’s hostel in my school. When I called him that day and asked him where he was, he told me that he was in my school and that he actually came to see me but he had ran into a friend. Eventually I saw him that day and he gave me some money. Two days later I saw his car again this time it was hidden in another part of the girl’s hostel. I was curious so I decided not to call him but instead wait to see where he would be coming out from. When I eventually saw him, to my dismal I found out that he came to see a girl in my school. I quickly left before he could see him. On further investigation, I found out the name of the girl and found out that my father has been going out with the girl for some time now. I was so disgusted and had to confront my dad. This girl will be of the same age with me and my father comes to my school every day to park his car and wait on her like a teenage boy in love while my mum is at home not knowing what her hubby is doing. On confronting my father he told me to mind my business and face my studies. He also said that if I should tell my mother, I will only end up hurting her and causing problem in the family because what she does not know cannot hurt her. I am hurting seriously because of the behavior of my father and I am of the opinion that my mother maybe suffering in silence because she will be left at home alone most times. Most times I am tempted to call her and tell her what my dad is doing. I spoke with my elder brother on this and he advised me against telling our mum, but I am seriously hurting inside and wonder if the reverse was the case that I was the one going out with an old man, old enough to be my father, if my father would have been happy with me. Please do you think I should let my mother know?


Posted anonymously on www.confessionsnigeria.com
http://confessionsnigeria.com/post/115/i-caught-my-father-cheating

sandrannna:
No sleeping on the bicycle. meaning there is no time.




Who will I consider the most handsome? U picture will tell.

Yungwizzzy:
You just carry the matter for like gala? shoorr??

MEILYN:
I feel like dying right now.

I use to complain of a peppery sensation in my anus after defecating and blood body guarding my faeces during defecation. These I thought were normal so I didn't bother about these problems.

I thought the pains I feel after defecating were severe pains until yesterday. I remember some days back that I ate enough Garri and Egusi soup. I kept on eating because the food was so delicious.

I went to the toilet yesterday and I spent hours trying to pass out something from my anus but I couldn't. I tried to force it out with all my strength but I had no luck. I wore rubber gloves, inserted my hands into my anus and I was able to remove some very strong faeces. I tried to force the remaining stubborn stool out but I had no luck. The pains almost killed me, so I gave up and I went on with my daily activities with stool ready to come out still in my stomach. I took about five Oranges yesterday but it hasn't helped at all. Stool Softners aren't working because the stool is ready to come out.

The problem here is that, my anus is in flames right now. I can't even force the stool out, I can't pressure my anus because the anal fissure is making it impossible for me to do that. I might die of pains if I try to push. I just sit in the toilet without trying to do anything. I sit for hours with no clue on what to do. I have tried applying vasline and kernel oil but it won't just come out. I can't force it out, the Anal fissure makes it a nightmare.

Please I need help on what to do.

Cc: lalasticlala

Rollyberry:
DO U EVER WONDER WHY U DREAM??
THERE IS SURELY LIFE AFTER HERE TAKE IT OR NOT

henrygoody:
Abeg bro, who u be ?

tinybody:
Gudevenin y'al. Am rili woried. Am in my cousin sister's place for holiday,since my school holiday is 2months I decided to stay in her place. She's married. Trouble startd today wen she told me me nd her husband wil b following her to a wedding in town..I told her am nt going because am an indoor person. She said I must go nd dt I can't disrespect her in her aous..she came to my room lyk 2 more times to tel me to get dressed inwhich I stil refused, d 3rd time she was fussing saying she wil foreva hate me if I dont follow her,I saw d seriousness in ha face so I quickly went to bathe. I culd hear her nd her husband shoutin @eachoda. She said he shuld let's go dat am nt follown dem again,bt her husband was lyk dey shuld calm down and wait fr me.hence the fight. They quarrelled ooooo infact d husband almost beat her up,I was so scared.she banged in2 my room gav me money for transport and orderd me out of her aous..accordin to her I was causin fight btwin her and her husband,she was angry because her huby supported me.she was talkin asif d man nd I are datin. We latr went for d program because her huby colctd d tp frm me. She and her huby is stil quarelin even til dis evenin nd she has stopd talkin 2me. I dunno if I shuld jxt pack my stuffs nd leave 2moro or stay maybe tins wil later get settled. am confused I dnt want to b lyk a home breaker

facealone05:
She claim to me that she love me so much but I know that she av a male friend dt dey av been close friends back in days of our institutions but dt guy his married now with kid but I discover dt dey always spend wkend together anytime am not around of which sometimes am around with my lady d guy always came around to visit us, but now I told my girlfriend dt she should minimize her friendship with dt guy from henceforth but I notice dt anytime I raise dt issue wit my girlfriend she always frown face 4me just yesterday she told me on fone dt she can't obey my instructions dt d guy is now like a brother to her. Pls advice me what to do cos I love my girl so much and I didn't want anybody to give her wrong advice thanks 4 ur contributions

icedbeatz:
nigga fuk outta here, I'm not a football fan. I barely watch football but basketball is my shitt. so if a nigga doesn't watch football then he's manhood is gone?! nigga puhlease

Etetejake:
I never believe I could fall in love again after 8years of lonliness until I met her two months ago. We started like best friends and ended up as lovers. Why I love her is because I have nothing but she love me so much. Whenever I tell her that I love her she always respond that she love me more. She has two other guys she is also dating which she told me of. Not that she is a bad girl, she is trying to make a better choice.
Our problem started last sunday. I went to the shop to work on something that took me almost the whole day. I called her to come see me but she said she is not sure, but she later came, well dressed as if going somewhere. After the work, she saw me off and went her way. She told me she was going out with her friend and the boyfriend. While still on my way home, she called me like twice to know if I have gotten home. But when I got home I called her many times but she didn't pick. when she picked up she told me the music was too loud for her to hear the phone ringing. That was 8pm. But I wasnt hearing any song. After that call, I called her again till 11 b4 she finally picked the call. Her excuse was that her friend was having issue with the boyfriend and she was settleing them. I know she was lieing to me. So on Monday I didn't go to shop. i wanted to retaliate. I pretended I was with a girl and she call and I didn't pick. On Tuesday again, I went to the market and close early. When she asked me where I was going I lied I was going out to chill. She wanted to know who I was going out with and I replied that I was going alone. When I got home I called her and lied that one of my female customer was having birthday and asked me to come if not she wunt enjoy the birthday.
On Wednesday, she came late to the market and was looking like someone that has not taken her bath for days. I asked her y she is not weari her make-up and she said nothing. I became suspicious and went straight to her bag. Behold, I saw two cloths. it looked as if she was sleeping out the night. I was bittered. We quarelled that day. But love couldn't let me rest so I sent her a message so we could make up. She came very late on Thursday to the market. When I tried to reason with her she said she was retaliting. We made up. But since then or should I say since Sunday she has not been the girl I know so in the evening of friday she she didn't call me as promised or pick my call when I tried to call. I waited till 12 midnight and sent her a breakup text. In the text I told her that I know she doesn't luv me again that there is no problem. And I asked her that we can go back to our best friends status. On Saturday when she came to the market she wasn't herself. She was sad. toward afternoon she sent me a text that She still love me and that I promised her that I will always make her happy, that y now am I making her sad. We made up again. But my worry now is that she is still not the girl I came to luv. She doesn't call or text like before. It's just as if she doesn't luv me again.
Should I leave her? am feeling she is just keeping as a spare. Or should i stay? I am the type that don't easily luv bit when i do I do so with my whole heart. This her new behavior is affecting me negatively. Am thinking too much. I couldn't even go to church bkx of this. I hate something bothering me so am thinking of calling her to quit the relationship right now. But first, brothers and sisters I need your help this time. I luv this girl so much but I wunt go on like this if quitting will bring me happiness. Thanks in advance.

Yungwizzzy:

I had a minute misunderstanding with my girl whom I was planning to get married to later this year
I live in asokoro area of Abuja working with this small IT firm. I met a pretty 30+ lady in a friends marriage last month. we exchanged cards and became friends.
she asked for a date which I obliged and we had fun that day. she's a pretty lady, fair, tall, curvy and has sexy eyes.
Later did she tell me she was admin manager of this huge oil coy here in Abj and she's 38 and single!!
I'm only 25 young vibrant IT goon with loads of potentials and esterinceicsus
So it happened that there was an opening in their company, she told me bout it and assured me I'll get it at the snap of her fingers. Entry pay was 400k with loads of benefits and allowances
Too good to be true I jumped up, me? with just a 60k salary. I hurried home and informed bae hoping she'll jump up too
Unbelievably, my fiancee hissed and said she'll not accept any offer from that my lady friend that she could have ulterior motive. I was so infuriated.
On the said day of the interview bae said laye, I wasn't going. we argued and almost fought but she won. I decided to give in to her because of my love for her and I lost the job!!
Not just the job I lost my friendship with my lady friend. She called me later that day, angry even insulted me saying that I missed the interview that there was nothing she could do If I still wanted the job
A day after that incident you cannot believe my fiancee broke up with me!!
And that's how I've been since last week. lost both women and a juicy job offer
*posted this to teach young folks*
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