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Igbankpa:
My younger brother is dating a married woman.

I've tried talking him out of that unholy relationship, whenever we have such conversations, he retracts for a while and then goes back to her.

He thinks he is in love, But I keep reminding him that what ever he feels about her is all bolllocks and can put him in harms way.

I sincerely understand why he feels the way he does towards her, considering the love and affection he gets from this woman. No stress, no drama. just attention, care and good sex and she also spoils him with gifts as well. she is a business woman and her husband lives and work in a different continent and only visits once in a while. This days he is barely around, as all they do is go from one hotel to another having fun.

I'm scared for him. The other day at work, I and my colleagues where having a conversation about African traditions and repercussions for cheating in marriage and my boss who happens to be from the same region as the woman was telling us about the punishment for cheating as obtainable in their culture which puts my brother in grave danger.

He is my immediate younger brother and he is closest to me, I'm the only one in the family that knows about this relationship, I'm thinking of informing my mum, maybe that will help in putting a stop to their affair, But that would be a breach of trust. I don't know what to do!

Let me also add that he is just 24 and she is 40

iampeterben:
No one is above the law, he must be invited and if found guilty prosecuted according to the full arm of the law.

Dickeyrider:
what is the business of these Americans with #EndSars? Can nigerian senate also convene on matters affecting Americans? They better be careful so they don't see the anger of President Buhari. As far as I'm concerned the end Sars nonsense was a blackmail on the nigerian government. No one was killed as been alleged.

Nigeriabiafra80:
Fear ke
The worst mistake herders will do in south east now
Is to attack any community
Then is over for them
They are just crying for routing them out of the bush
The next madness if they try shit will be disastrous
We are not agatu
Let me rephrase
Routing out fulani bandit from our forest is solely the job of ESN
But if they attack any community in east
It will become our collective fight
And I promise you
Fulani will disappear from the east totally
Since they want to set Nigeria ablaze
We igbo youth have the gas and �
We will help them

Kosiso12:
https://igberetvnews.com/1383375/gov-ikpeazu-calls-enforcement-anti-open-grazing-law/

kingdman:
when they always dress to kill, they are now shouting harassment... nonsense

Islie:
Three Herdsmen Arrested In Ogun With Bloodstained Cutlass, Caught For Burning Houses, Injuring Residents



https://saharareporters.com/2021/02/21/three-herdsmen-arrested-ogun-bloodstained-cutlass-caught-burning-houses-injuring

BOLLDD:



Why all this one dey over take themselves with money, me dey overtake cars in traffic.....


God no go shame us

Shortyy:
You don't need peace of mind, you just need a slave. Someone that will do anything you ask for without questioning you. And only a very poor and dumb woman will do that. A woman who knows what she wants won't oblige to every bullshit you tell her.

Oluromantic:
What I see is incompatibility. I say so because what he did was wrong and your reaction also was mean. See lemme tell you one secret. When your partner does some extremely annoying things, it always wise not to obey your instinct of revenge because at long last, people won't see his wrong but blame you for your extreme reaction. That's the formula most men use to avoid physical abuse of their women.

You shouldn't have cut the call on him. And from the story, you seem to have had him in mind over his lack of support in previous times which was what pushed you to react that way, because if that wasn't the case, your conscience would strike you to call back and apologize for hanging up on him...that's the normal thing when in love.

Besides, waiting a whole week to call him back, truth be told, you seem to be emotionally stable than him and you're using it as strength against him. He seem more emotional, that's why he wanted to year you say something affectionate about taking his little offer of support for the car. If you had joked about it and gave him a tender feeling that you'll take his offer, that would have puffed up his masculinity and he'll feel honored. You need to study his psychic to know what response will soothe him.

You both need to open up to each other more. That issue of asking him for money because you have been the one supporting him was probably presented as a sudden rise of intelligence which he's not been used to from you. You shouldn't have presented it like "I can't afford it, I need your help". It would have been better if you had presented it like "I can afford it but I want ur support so I can remember you and brag of you" Not like a revenge strategy now but like I want your influence and aura in my things. That will not only make you wify but will also make him feel you believe in him. Wish I could advice you privately

slimtoney:
Make an entrepreneur out of your self, young man. be an accomplished and proud indigene rather that a proud foreigner.

Ajakaiye83:
I need your advice on above subject matter

I am married but no kids yet.
I have 3m cash with me now.
I am a graduate of engineering discipline with over 10yrs experience.
Never travelled out before.
I am in my late 30s

Thanks

mosegifted:
How are these guys doing this thing self, because man pikin don hustle ooo, still we never break any record, abi their own hustle carry tag from heaven come?

Bull098:
The number no complete