Samofamo:
this is how Eve your mother destroy this world by partnering with the devil,eating the forbidden fruit and giving it to Adam,look at the mess the world is in now,you daughter of Jezebel in the name of slay queen,slay mama and olosho in modern day.

Please just go your own way and have a great 2020. I simply just posses a greater wisdom than you can comprehend because if not, you’d see where I wrote up there that I equally didn’t support what the lady did

Samofamo:
we are not judging but let's together condem bad and wayward behavior in our society so that we can make Nigeria better,condem the act if u are not advocating for evil,there is nothing to justify here ......stop saying she was set up,and if she was, she didn't pass test,how can some one get drunk until she was ganged bleeped,common,that is not the xteristics a virtueous woman,and if u don't stop this advocating u are doing,I will use the most dehumanizing words on u,that u will never forget in ur life....

Now I feel you have a problem. Saying how I feel and you saying yours shouldn’t lead to using dehumanizing words, but it’s few hours to 2020 and I don’t have the strength to carry this on to next year. Yes, we are both condemning what she did, no one is supporting her for cheating, we are talking about judging her. Because I don’t support you doesn’t mean I should judge you, And you should see the part I said she’s a dimwi.t who didn’t have common sense because it’s common sense to know you shouldn’t drink without care at a party. But yes I also did not support what she did. But any which way. Happy new year in advance, I wish you a glorious 2020.

Lmao and what you dog know is that you can’t use a dehumanizing word I will never forget on me. Why? Because I know me and whatever you say doesn’t define me and if you actually are not in the category of people I’m very eager to know or get close to, I really don’t care about your opinion of me.

So don’t stress yourself and prepare for your beautiful 2020

Samofamo:
the lady is wayward,and not fit to build a home with, na God save the guy,and I know u the advocate will do the same,yeye dey smell.

You still don’t get it, you need to grow up. I’m not advocating for the lady, neither do I say it’s okay to cheat. I’m saying what if she really was a victim of circumstance considering the fact that it was written up there that she was drunk and pictures were taken(you will agree someone about getting married won’t allow another guy take nudes of her during sex if she was really cheating) and I’m not asking for the husband to take her back, because he’s definitely going through emotional turmoil also and might end up hating her. I’m saying we the public should refrain from judging.
And no, thank you I won’t do the same cos there’s more to relationship than se.x and there are only few intelligent men out there and I won’t jeopardize my chances with the one I’m lucky to get with cheating.

Samofamo:

Wetin dis one dey talk,any decent lady na go put mouth 4 dis matter,birds of a feather

Excuse me, you don’t know me and I would be glad if you refrain from using such words about me. Yes any lady would put a mouth in this matter because she’s human and she has a right to her own opinion and we all view issues from different angle and you don’t see me up there praising what the lady did or condemning the man.

So please read and read with common sense so you can comprehend and if you can’t, kindly run along.

Korllami007:


You will use the first two sentences to blame her and then use the last two sentences exonerate her from the blame.
This was your last two sentences of the first post I quoted you.

The lady might not be wailward like you said up there, she might just be devoid of common sense and thus becoming a victim of circumstance. After all it wasn’t said that the husband has caught her cheating multiple times

She had sex with her man's friend, but you are saying she might not be wayward. Maybe you will see her waywardness until she has sex with every male in her man's family or see her in a brothel house.

Get it, not her man’s friend. Is English that hard? She said “her friend invited me to a party and she got drunk and had sex with another friend, a mutual friend.” Her friend and her own mutual friend not her Fiancé. Really? I didn’t know English is this hard. And again, let’s say it was her fiance’s friend, ain’t we talking about the fact that she was devoid of common sense and simply do not know not to get drunk at parties? If we are going by this, it doesn’t make her wayward, it only makes her a victim of circumstance. And no one said the husband has to marry her, we are saying not to conclude she’s wayward due to what happened. And it’s said one learn from experience. If we are going by her being a victim of circumstance, she would have learnt her lesson not to get drunk at parties anymore to avoid a repeat of such unfortunate incident.

And what I mean by she hasn’t been caught cheating multiple times is that with her story(the getting drunk and picture part) and coupled with the fact that prior to the incident, it hasn’t been said that she has cheated on her fiancé before, but of course that’s for us. I’m not saying the fiancé should have her back because it’s not easy seeing pictures of someone else on your wife and it’s even better he let her go than getting married to her and hating her. I’m talking about we the public that we should give her the benefit of doubt and refrain from judging her.

Korllami007:


You mean the guy should have waited till she gives birth to another man's child for him to take care.

Why do you people read and chose only the part that’s suitable for you? I said I didn’t excuse the Lady’s behavior neither did I say the guy isn’t right about cancelling the wedding. I’m simply saying you might be wrong with the fact that the lady is wayward. I’m saying you shouldn’t judge the lady based on what happened. Some people are dimwi.ts and simply lack common sense, it doesn’t make them bad or wayward, they just do what every human being with common sense won’t do. Even a prostitu.te with common sense won’t get drunk in a party. I’m not blaming the guy for cancelling the wedding. While someone might chose to forgive her, another might not. They are both right in their decisions, your decision depends on you and you alone. I’m saying don’t judge the lady because of this, don't be quick to conclude she’s wayward, she might simply be a victim of circumstance, what I said has nothing to do with the guy, we are talking about the lady here, the guy has done what he think is best for him and which w wall respect, why? Because he’s the one getting married to the lady and it’s better to call it off than marry the lady and start maltreating her because of this particular incidence and the fact that his ego was crushed. The lady is who I’m talking about here that the unfortunate incident shouldn’t lead to wrong conclusions about her, she might be simply just really be a victim. Rather she should be encouraged to grow up mentally and emotionally so she wouldn’t find herself in such unfortunate situation some other time.

Samofamo:
The marriage would have been dead on arrival,because that bride will not stop been wailward after marriage, According to the Bible if a woman is found cheating (adultery) divorce is allowed.Na wa o..... This one just destroy her own life by her self...

It’s wayward and you people just talk. Didn’t you people read up there that she was drunk and it was even a set up? Cos pictures were taken and sent to her fiancé. I’m not saying that excuses the girl because why would you get drunk in a party that’s not yours? What even if the party is yours. You simply don’t get drunk in a party involving multitudes. It’s common sense. But some people are dimwi.ts, they simply do not have this common sense, the lady might not be wailward like you said up there, she might just be devoid of common sense and thus becoming a victim of circumstance. After all it wasn’t said that the husband has caught her cheating multiple times

Davesaves:
u were created with a single rib from a man..a single rib.. how many ribs do we have again? yet u want to drag equality with the men.. SMH

It’s common sense, not dragging equality with men. And if we are to be logical, we are created out of a single rib from your many ribs, yet we have the same one head like you, two hands and only our private parts are different. We have the same 24 hours, isn’t it a shame that although we have are created from a single rib out of the many you posses, yet we have the same qualities and hours in a day with you when it’s obvious you guys should have more?

Besides, the post was about your negative words and not about dragging equality with men. Stop using words to cover your negative attitudes and bitterness. The post wasn’t about dragging equality with men, the post was about common sense. You don’t go about wishing people evil

maclawrence02:

It's alright

Davesaves:
they are bashing only d lady so go hang urself..

I’m sorry to disappoint you, I still have a lot to do on this earth by God’s grace and I’m not ready to die and I’m not going to die by God’s grace. Since you people live a bitter life such that the only wishes in your heart, that comes out of your mouth and those you type are only of evil, you might want to take to your own advice with the same laugher you typed it.

maclawrence02:

Then why is she the one crying and begging?

Because she hasn’t figured it out yet. I didn’t say she wasn’t hurt or the guy wasn’t hurt. I’m saying even in that hurt, they still gained something and that’s them becoming better partners to the people who comes their ways again. When you are hurting, you don’t think or see clearly. By the time the hurt reduce, they would both sit down and think about it and how it affected them and how they could be better.

maclawrence02:

Don't you think she would have thought of tomorrow before sleeping with someone just two months to her wedding?

Because the lady didn’t think of tomorrow two months to her wedding? Does that means the guy should throw away his own tomorrow? If he had called of the wedding immediately and be as wise as Joseph when he found out about Mary’s pregnancy, it would have save him all this unnecessary stress and the pity with which people would look at him. While thinking of ways to hurt someone, don’t forget to think about how it will come back to hunt you. Now he’d just be going and people would be discussing about the groom who cancelled on his wedding day just as we are discussing it now on Nairaland, how do you think he would feel? It’s not even about the lady or the next lady he would come his way, it’s about him.

maclawrence02:
The man cheated and got away with it.
The woman cheated and lost everything.
Lesson : Those claiming that the man also cheated, now that the chips are down na who loose? Don't fight a battle that you are sure to loose.

The lady didn’t lose or let’s say they both lost. Who told you if the lady hadn’t cheated and they got married, he wouldn’t have cheated in the marriage? They isn’t lose, They both learnt a lesson and now they would both strive to be better partners to whoever they end up with again. Because the guy no doubt even if it’s once in month think the lady cheated on him cos he has once cheated on her also and so he would try to be a better partner to his next partner and the lady would know her cheating cost her what would have been her home and strive to better to the next man she meets. They both learnt a lesson.

Davesaves:
she chose to forgive during her own time, that's he own choice..no body forced her to forgive him.. d man couldn't forgive her, what's ur problem with that? I hate it when u people bring up this line of "he also cheated and she forgave him" that's her choice.. mtwww

I never said he should forgive her. Please read what I quoted before hissing upandown. I said if he has high standards/morals like the guy said, he also wouldn’t have cheated in the first place. I never said he also cheated and she forgave him, stop twisting my words. I said they both have no morals and both deserved to be bashed.

People saying the lady wasn’t trained properly or something, If the guy was equally trained properly, wood he cheat? Because she forgave him doesn’t change the fact that he cheated. So to the home training experts, I’d say the two are not trained properly but it’s a lie, it’s not totally about the training your parents gives you, it’s also about the one you give yourself and the one you give yourself is the greatest. I’m not saying the guy was wrong in his judgement, I’m saying his judgement wasn’t based on him having high standards/morals, his judgement was based on the fact that this ego was crushed.

I have no problem uncle, you are the one giving yourself problems where there’s none.

kingreign:

Yen yen yen!

go and upturn his decision if you're so pained and stop wailing at my write-up.

I never said he made a bad decision. I’m talking about those talking as tho guys are saint here forgetting the part where he cheated also. Didn’t you see where I wrote up there I can’t judge him for the decisions he made cos we all have different ways of reacting to stuffs? I said they both deserved bashing cos they both cheated. I never told you I’m in support of what the lady did or something. I’m saying if he has high standard/morals In the first place, he wouldn’t have cheated also. They both have no morals.
His judgment wasn’t based on having high standard/morals, It was based on the fact that his ego was crushed.

Besides, you really need to do something about this your bitter lifestyle come 2020, cos only bitter people thinks everyone who says something is wailing.

kingreign:
This is a good one by the man. He has standards and morals which he holds in high regards. What would make a person looseguard dangerously like that?
Imagine a wife to be drinking to stupor and getting knocked out senseless and to even humiliate the man even more, she claimed(s)
She got drunk and slept with a mutual friend of theirs (sic). This is the height of indicipline and waywardness.


Ladies of easy cheap virtues.

Tueh

As much as I would have supported what the man did, it’s annoying you guys conveniently ignored that part where it was said that the guy also cheated. I mean I’m not saying the guy did the wrong thing or not, I’m not judging because we all take things differently. I’m saying you should stop ignoring the part where it was said that the guy once cheated also. They both deserve the bashing. He has high morals but he could go around cheating also, high morals my foot!

sassysure:

That guy is not married. Don't disturb yourself.
Most of the guys here are single and some are below 20 yrs.
Let them make the money first, then marry.
After 2 yrs, we can have reasonable debate with them.based on experience

Oh, okay. But chronological age and Maturity age does not go hand in hand. I’m not married myself. It’s just this issue is one of the basic things one must understand before marriage. It’s not about the age, one needs to attain certain emotional intelligence level before getting married.