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AwkaetitiBabe:
Hey! I was referring to this Op who is SS and marrying AA man! Don't freaking jump into my mention if you don't know where I'm coming from. Wtf

Still it’s not right. We know if they get married, they wouldn’t give birth to SS, but for the sake of trust, she should have told him. Imagine if the husband later gets to know from her anyone outside? Don’t you think that would make him look like a fool? You know that even a harmless lie is enough to break a trust? It’s not even about the kids they would bring to life here, it’s about her husband’s trust she would lose should he get to know. And the thing once you can’t trust you me partner, the love you have for them keeps decreasing. Or what if later she gets to have a crisis and because the husband isn’t even aware of her status, he doesn’t know what to do? You know there are a lot of things at stake here, not just about the kids.

abelswife:
I'm sorry if the post sounded insensitive.
I'm not the owner of life. No one can guarantee tomorrow my dear, but its not a nice feeling at all spending days in the hospital back to back and not knowing if your loved ones will survive this time or not. You will not understand until you have been in that shoe.
My grievieance is the lies and forgery that came before the marriage which is the same thing poster is trying to do.

Your post isn’t insensitive sis, so don’t be sorry. You have nothing to apologize for.

Fountainofyouth:
There is a difference between long life and health lies, her story is very apt and a lesson to others, maybe when your would be husband lies about his genotype and being HIV, you'd know how it feels....

I’m telling you. What’s long life if you don’t have a health life? People pray for long life and good health not long life and bad health. Having a good health is part of long life. What’s long life if you spend half of it on a hospital bed?


May God grant us good health and long life

Mariangeles:

This your comment is very insensitive.
What is the guarantee that you'll live longer than her, or your brother's wife ?
Nonsense!

You are the insensitive one here. she never said she would live longer than any of them, neither did she pray any of them should die. She’s simply stating the obvious fact which is all the trouble the family is going through would have been avoided if the wife had been truthful from the beginning. It’s either they don’t end up getting married to save their unborn kids or they find a way to give birth to AS and not SS with medical
help. Love sometimes requires sacrifice. What foolish love will make you get married to your partner when you know you both risk bringing forth SS kids to life? If you don’t think about yourself, ain’t you supposed to think about the poor kids that would have to deal with ill health and the stress that comes with it. You think it’s easy surviving on drugs?

bukatyne:
Very true.

Last I remembered, love is not selfish.

And again people who lie about genotype. I don’t know if they don’t have any thought of their unborn kids. I mean in this world where even an individual with no terminal illness is falling sick, why would you intentionally want to bring a child that would have to survive in on drugs into the world. A child that won’t be able to enjoy a very good health? It’s stressful for both the parents and the kids.

AwkaetitiBabe:
She didn't lie but withholding information. Yes, people in love Lie to keep that love.

Of course, telling him she’s AS when she’s SS isn't a lie, it’s simply withholding information, a very vital one at that. May God help you.

“People in love don’t lie to keep that love,” in case, you might need this in future. Now you wonder why people who seem so much in love end up breaking up. Because they lie to keep the love and so their love wasn’t based on the truth and when the truth comes out, they fail and fall. But people who don’t lie to keep their love end up growing stronger, because there’s nothing to bring them down anymore, their love was based on the truth right from the very beginning.

bukatyne:
@bold:

What of thing is this?

This love we are parroting, does it go one way?

As in if she loved him, would she have lied to him?

I didn’t want to comment before but it’s annoying to see people talking about love here. I mean how in the world do you keep something that could make or destroy your future from someone you claim to love?

Who said if she had told he truth, the man wouldn’t have stayed with her. I wouldn’t blame the man if after knowing he decides to call off the marriage or maybe divorce her if it happens after their marriage. I mean, more than love, trust is very essential in a relationship. I’m very sure if the man gets to know, the trust he has for her would go down just like that and I don’t know what can restore it.

If she had told him, she has a very fat chance of the man staying with her, especially since he’s AA but right now even if the man didn’t leave, I’m not sure he won’t doubt any word that comes out of her mouth.

loswhite:
sorry for the "mad ppl everywhere" I know you are not mad...I admire your response tho

Lol, it’s fine and thank you. Good evening

loswhite:
so after 50 years you come and tell us rape without evidence and you want us to just accept simply because you said so....lol. Instead of telling ladies to speak up immediately and investigation carried out immediately and the guilty one sent to jail immediately you are advising them to wait and just get justice from social media...mad ppl everywhere

You know I actually wanted to ignore before, but then sometimes you have to help people out of their ignorance. I never asked anyone to wait and get justice from social media. All I said was that if she couldn’t speak up immediately and it took her 50 years to find her voice, no one should shut her down simply because it has been long or whatever. My post is actually encouraging everyone to speak up, regardless of the sex. Be it a male or female. So next time, don’t be so eager to type something, read and understand. And I’m not going to reply rudely to your “mad people everywhere” ‘cos it actually got me annoyed and I won’t want to give a reply that would cause issues. So FYI I am not mad and you are the one who should read and understand instead of giving a reply even a patient with BAD wouldn’t give. Thank you