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*rolls eyes* i see your just looking to throw words about and im not in the mood. Come back tommorow i may have a respnse,

ronkebp:
I think married couples should know where their strengths lie and help eachother out. If the women enjoy cooking for their hubbys' everyday without help, by all means let them do, if she does not or cannot cook everyday then there should be mutual understanding between the couple, Even if i want to personally cook everyday with my job and family needs, am sure the third day, they will be rushing me to the hospital, only because i do not have the strength and body for that type of stress.

God bless you. I believe this is what alot of women need to admit before claiming superwoman all the time. there is no glory to being enslaved in a marriage. I have personally watched women wear themselves out every blessed day all in the name of being married to a nigerian man? In ldn its not even a joke ,the woman will work look after the child pay extortionate amounts for childcare, cook for her husband clean the home and God forbid she forgets to do her hair nails and toes so her husbands eyes does not wander, love cannot be that strong! Lmao

@Harakiri- being able to cook isn't a special trait. Its nothing to announce or be proud of. Its like someone announcing they can brush thier own teeth, and so? And this is the problem, if we didnt have such a nuiscance culture the little that cook won't feel the need to boast about it.

2ndly david was asking whether my observation is a case study, please go an re read the post i dont want to be explaining things all night. Carribean men do cook, i was pointing out that fact. They arent like your typical nigerian men when it comes to looking after your family. They cook they clean they braid thier childs hair, their culture is different to ours long story short. The women are not enslaved in the kitchen
. The men help at home the women also work its 50/50.

^^ it has everything to do with cultural illiteracy? Educated cultures allow females to be empowered, letting them know they have choices beyond having too many children and cleaning the kitchen? These are cultures which don't see women having to cook everyday. This isn't the only issue i stress, i just use the cooking as an example.

nobody is genetically better equipped I was being sarcastic!

here we go david, taking things personal again, tis not the 'western way' to wait on a man hand and foot, we are speaking of cultural characteristics. Not of the odd mad women you know with their nuiscance habits.

Carribean men cook, i can say I know as many carribean men that cook for their families as I know Nigerian women that slave in the kitchen for their husbands. and im not glorifying them here I'm emphasizing the fact that our culture is a backwards one.

davidylan:
we really shld be comparing apples to apples here. I dont think believing that a woman shld be the primary home-maker is equivalent to believing it is ok for men to cheat.
Oh please not again. I mean seriously? Its almost a given in VIRTUALLY all cultures the world over that women are seen as more involved in the domestic issues around the home. Does that mean the entire world has a culture of illiteracy? There is no reason a woman shld carry out all domestic duties correct but that is DOWN to individual marriages and not cultures. Each couple chooses how best they want their home to run.

Then we agree to disagree- I cannot see a sensible argument to why a woman will claim such nonsense.  Either way it’s not justified for men to cheat and equally unreasonable for a man not to contribute equally to the chores around the home. Nobody has genetically advanced capabilities of washing dishes or cleaning toilets. lol
No not virtually all cultures around the world that is far from the truth, western cultures are not so? British women do not work full time only to rush home and cook dinner like an obedient animal. Neither do Caribbean’s and they are black (well most of them are)!! as a matter of fact, jamaican men tend to cook more than the woman do (from what I’ve observed) meaning a man will go to work, come back home and cook for his family. Now how many Nigerians do that?

lmao! roki ur too funnay! lol.

'i feel like trey songz is gonna sexx me'!!

if only!

davidylan:
actually i know some women who see nothing to household chores and even prefer to do it alone with no help from their husbands. The fact that you cant see yourself doing that does not make it wrong. We are all guilty of extrapolating our own ideas to someone else's lives.

I also know some women who believe its fine for thier husbands to cheat, the reason few women will claim such nonsense being the same for both. Accepting the burden and learning to live with it. Thats what definitely doesnt make it right.

davidylan:
that's outright nonsense. I know women who GENUINELY love to cook and could literarily do it all day, all week. Its nothing to do with "culture". I know nigerian women who can barely cook an egg and american women who would rather sleep in the oven. Lets be objective here.

Thats a possibility thats not reserved for any gender? To now claim we collectively love to cook being the reason most women carry this burden is absurd. It's down to having a culture of illiteracy carried down to this day. There is absolutely no reason a woman should lone carry out all the domestic duties, yet it still continues and it continues at the demand of most of the men!

^^ that should have been your response in the first place. Everything is wrong with a man not contributing to the household chores. How a woman can be working during the day and again during the night without help is beyond me.

and to it being 'the passion' for a woman to cook, i havent heard such bullshit- try the burden her culture has placed on her. Aint nothing fantastic about being a slave.

here we go david *rolls eyes* probably not buried as deep as you are in denial. Highlight where it was stated the activity is exclusive to Nigerians? Do yourself a favour and try not to take everything soo personal.

we're not speaking of the danish the sweedes, or the ghanians, we are talking about Nigerians. I dont care for either of the former.

Most typical Nigerian wives cook for their husbands everyday. I know many men that have never seen the insides of their own kitchens. You can debate it all night long this will remain a fact. and yes, its cultural!

Not even the genralization its the nuiscance assumptions.

Im suprised at this discussion actually ,are u now trying to deny that most 'typical' nigerian marriages doesnt see the wife working and cooking every blessed day?

And in addition to that most men do expect women to work and cook every blessed day?

Or maybe its not nigerians ive been seein wit my korokoro eyes sha.

Gonna watch the preachers wife and try to avoid tears,

The thing alot of people dont understand, good women dont stay in such relationships, stup!d women do!

If you've ever lived the village life you'd appreciate fresh stew, haha!
[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=859170.msg10176369#msg10176369 date=1328998691]who da hell has time to be cooking everyday?. . . . unless he agrees to cook every other day.

Nigerian men and their unnecessary conditions. mtchewww[/quote]God bless you. Was beggining to think i was alone in this. I will never understand it!

Im not married but thank God for my life im surrounded by inspiration and hope. By people in perfect marriages living perfect lives and not subjected to such toture from their husbands. Thats the same intention for my life. I will never marry someone that will do such to me but every woman her own.
People shouldnt bother getting married if their expectations are to suffer. The woman is suffering and your telling her to remain married? For what?

Suffer and smile there, the nigerian way of life. Such a shame

WHat channels this on?? Cant find it

Dear lawd almighty. To the 2 posters above me. I hope this is the same advice you will give to your child or loved one.
I dont pray for anybody to sit in a marriage of deceit and disrespect. I don't see why any woman should endure. Such at the hands of her husband. And i dont understand why Nigerian women will continue to advocate that they suffer.

These times were the best times on nl! Overfamiliarity made everything go pear shape i still miss it tho

priest2u:
I dont stalk women, in fact I dont add people on fb I dont know.But I could not resist this babe, physically shes my type and if she doesn't respond to my msg I wont bother her again. Thats me, I am highy principle when it comes to that.I dont think I have done anything wrong so far.

I heard this exact quote this morning, exact! 'I dont normally do this' yea right!

Andromida is not right dear woman abeg, free yourself before that man rips your heart to pieces and your integrity to shreds.

There is a special dustbin for men like your husband, its called the curb I suggest you don't hesitate to throw him in it. Unfortunately this website and Nigerian culture dictates that you will but I will speak anyway.
This man has been cheating on you since 2010, he is not only sleeping with this woman he's in a 'emotional' relationship with her. He probably believes he loves her and is having second doubts about you. This relationship has carried on for over a year now, he refuses to leave her and is blatantly showing you he is not willing to lay aside his infidelities or make sacrifices for your marriage.

I need to ask what exactly your clinging onto? Your pulling at straws madam, one can only hope he doesn't leave you to elope with this woman.

Do you not love yourself enough to realise that this man isn't worth the drama? The heartbreak? The suffering? Why will you subject yourself to such when you are faithful? Do you not believe you deserve more?

IMO you have two options, you can sit down and have a talk with you husband about a)divorce b)making it open season.
If i were you i will have his bags packed and ready to be thrown in the nearest river, it's not a marriage your in, its shambles.

you havent met if you found her on fb? u were simply trolling for women and now need further assistance with stalking her. . . . .

i will NOT be a part of it! :p

so is the op going to be paid? just wondering. . . . . . .

i dont believe the story, but lets imagine it's true.

Violence is no way to go. Instead can the women not simply avoid marrying these nuisance men and save themselves the misery?

O God!!

thats two words. . . . . . . . .

so they know where he is? pickin him up as they like huh? Nigeria is truly a disturbing country. I won't be surprised if there is some sort of relationship between BH and the president.

some women are more intrigued by men that can be 100% natural.

that may be the best way to her falling for you.

when she realises that you dont hold anything back and your completely honest

try not to be pretentious thats irritating!

vescucci:
Lol. Spirit is total nonsense. I thought it'd be like Sin City. It's not just poo compared to Sin City, it's poo all by itself.

But Unbreakable? Well, to each his/her own sha. M. Night is a director and writer. Totally lost his mojo though. I didn't totally hate Devil which he made recently but it was just ok.

I think it was because the movie was too slow. It could have been 10x more exciting. I like the twist at the end, but that was all.

Vieira:
Are you serious? One Of the best superhero movies ever. This was Night at his peak.
Easily 9/10

Omg! what of the dark night? the xmen which i LOVE! lol. Superman? you have to love superman! the incredible!

Officially gotten everyone hooked to drake!

Underground Kings Drake