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Proper training is nothing to do with your household hobbies? If the world was properly trained according to you we will have no einsteins, no astronauts, no doctors no nurses no lawyers no policemen no soilders no judges. The proof of this is the number of women doing the above jobs being very limited, all because of people like you that believe a womans proper training is in the kitchen.
Proper training is raising your child to be upstanding at home and in the community, giving your child ambitions and making sure he/she can be independant. None of these things are determined from cleaning. Unless of course your raising a maidservant = slave = Mutters example of a properly trained individual.

Just because you love doing house chores doesnt mean everyone does, thats why they are called chores, nobody loves to do it but it has to be done. I wasnt raised to be a housewife- I was raised to become a doctor. I wasnt even required in the kitchen until I went to university, then again cooking isnt rocket science so theres no loss there. I clean up after myself and cook for myself when I'm hungry. I redecorate the house when I'm bored and move the furniture around when I want a change of surroundings. I can go on till tommorow mentioning what I do without your military styled kitchen training. and when I marry I expect nothing to change. When I have kids there' will be two of us, tis not difficult washing extra clothes and changing diapers provided your partner helps.
If both Hbabe and her husband cleaned up after themselves and shared the chores together she won't have a problem. He problem isnt lack of training, her problem is the excessive responsibility. Unless one  is to turn herself into subservant of the year like taryour theres no reason the husband canot take care of himself. Esp if the wife has a career just like him.

why do nigerians use hard hats as crash helmets? I'm soo sure those things cannot save one from a crash? tis not actually designed for that purpose? hmmmmm

@post yes very funny! lol

taryour:
Op,honestly i assure you that wot u are facing is far from stresful compared to the chores that will be added when your kids start arriving,by then you will have to take care of your hubby,child,do d laundry,cook,sweep,e.t.c. You dont need a househelp yet as your marriage is still young beside you are still very young and have strong bones to go all d way. My advice is sit down and plan how to go abt you chores and make sure you go by the except situations warrant you do so. As for me since i had my son who is almost 6months,i now do most of my cookin n washin in d midnyt,most times i have to put him on my back while i work and i still have time 100% for my hubby,and tnk God for my hubby he as been so supotive and helpful. Best of luck.

I was about to sleep but i had to respond to this, and your happy in your marriage? Your happy mopping at midnight whhile you carry your child on your back? and your not tired after clamboring into bed hair smelling of cleaning products fingernails of onions with child slobber on your back and your husband is getting ready for wifely duties? and you still call your husband supportive?

Ok i've come to the conclusion that most Nigerian women are delusional, thats the only explaination for the HOT MESS the like to call marriage!

mutter:
Poster did you not grow up with responsibilities and chores you had to do? That might be why you are having problems now.
It`s just you and your husband so you are practically just cleaning up after yourselves.
The most important thing is not even the tidying but learning not to make a mess. [b]At the early stage of marriage you should actually be deriving pleasure from keeping a home.[/b]personally I do not see t big deal there are no kids involved. What are you going to do the day you get regnant and it all gets harder.
It`s called taking responsibility. If you are not good at it - learn.
You should not be asking how career women cope with domestic chores because they do. Look for concrete tips on how to get things done effectively.

As for the cooking and freezing - my family does not eat any food after the second day.

Thats not career woman talk, there are soo many things in life to derive pleasure from. I own a house- I dont derive pleasure from cleaning it! lmao! your post actually seems a bit like a joke to me!

I meant everything i wrote ooo. Jenny is winding you up just ignore her.

She is incredibly self righteous your better off not entertaining her nonsense.

ronkebp:
So Queensmith with all this your ''narative essay'' you want to say it is right for a married woman to sit in her husband house whose husband does not give a damn about her and can bleep anything in skirt infront of the woman and she dares not utter a word all because he is paying her bills.

and where in my 'narrative essay' was any of the above written?

i thought the us had a special prison for terrorists?

They better kill him or give him life because if they release him to naija he will be back in yemen sowing terrorist seeds in NO TIME!

a word is enough for the wise

mutter:

Queen can you please break down. I cannot understand you.

you probably won't, you've turned a mans cheating into a sick artform.

ronkebp:
Agiboma you are really suffering in this your marraige oooo, marraige no be by force by fire oooo, open your eyes, get a good paying job and be a responsible woman, this arse licking will not take you anywhere.

so tell me who is better off? A woman that found love and comfort she's not receiving from her husband or a woman that faithfully sits with a serial cheat? An open marriage is better than a nuiscance one. and it works for many.

ronkebp:
^^^^^^^^^So you are in your marraige for money and not love ? hmmm!!! wonders shall never end!!!

must everybody marry for love? you never heard everybody isnt the same? im more than 100% sure the op married for love, see where that got her!

I think alot of people here are sadists, how they will encourage a woman to stick with a cheating disrespectful husband but frown at the idea of her getting herself a boyfriend is absolutely beyond me.
Why alot of Nigerian women have an affinity to sadness is a mystery i'll never understand.

Carrying their bible about preaching forgiveness while their husbands hump everything about town, its true when they say misery loves company. If the husband now abandons her or hands her an std to remember they'll be talking nonsense. mshew

This thread made me vomit, and vomit again. Lemme quickly write this before i vomit once more.

You should have named the thread

'HELP ,how do i further send women back to the dark ages!'

Mshew

davidylan:
look in the mirror ma'am.

TOH is right about you. theres no need for me to waste my time.

Want to snuggle up with the mr and watch eddie murphys delirious.

ooo chika, i used to wonder what the big deal was about. . . . . denzel is THAT man. . . . . .THAT MAN. . . . . .lol

I think business law might be better, I just say that since it seems the background is required in most areas of management. not a profesh opinion sha

theres a yoruba saying 'olowo laiye mo' (if spelt correctly!)

so yes if you get the money you can block the road wella. people need to be inconvenienced by your celebrations. . .its the only way! lol

Columbo!!

seriously? I mean seriously? just seriously? kmt

Happy Vals day everyone!!

Davidylan your going to point out where I have rained unwarranted insults. and then your going to point out where I have raised an issue from two years ago.

And this is exactly what I mean, you don't have to turn soo bitter just because someone doesn't agree with you.

Simply because we don't share the same views, your now going to claim I've picked an e-fight with you? Seriously?

I'm not going to bother arguing with you, you say what you like- I was simply expressing my take on the situation.

Now continue your fight with whoever lemme go look for popcorn.

Italian! ravioli, rocket,salmon, rose, heavenly *drooling*

By the same token? Is it not obvious from the argument weve been having regarding the topic that you have a problem with women?

Well for starters, i dont have a problem with anybody. I simply argue ideas. Most of the men here seem to live by what they read on nl. Which is pretty sad. Hence a meaningful discussion turned into a series of insults.

Coogar, its yourself and the other gays on this thread that have decided to take the things here personal. On another thread we may agree on an issue and i forget the nonsense you posted here, i think thats what a forum is all about its a shame alot of you are soo sad desperate and pathetic that you must stoop soo low to grab attention. Tell me, is this the only interaction you get with women? Is the online abuse soo meaningful to you? Does it warm you on your cold nights with mr right hand?

Its just sad really, its sad indeed. Things almost always boils down to this on nl. Most of you are just terribly pathetic.

Lol. If your not stalking queensmith. How do u know she elevates herself like a prom queen? How did u notice she is self acclaimed 'hot girl'? And how have you come to realise her spelling?

Sure looks like stalking to me! Lmao.

Self acclaimed hot girl, you guys really are sad. Its not suprising your having problems with women,.,.,.,.,.,.,.,.not suprising at all.

In a normal world.,.,.,.,.,.,.,soo tru. Makes me wonder why im wasting time exchanging words with you.

#yourdismissed

Coogar, whats ur old nl id so i can decide whther or not to just ignore you from now on,.,.,.,.,.,.,.,.,.,.,.,.,.,.,.

And here i was saying nl was getting boring! Lol.

On a serious note what do *cough* certain members of nl constantly do to piss the women off soo much? Dayum! Lol
The same culprits seen to always be in some sort of scandal or the other.
Now can somebody gyst me politely, i will be greatful, or ill have to ping it out of somebody!

Mutters post was full of bull trash. Nothing but an apologist for disgisting behavoir.

There are actually many.

Not included i just love the gyst  

By goodness that's absolutely awful!! I hope no1 was injured. It will also help if there was liability insurance.

Omg!!!! TOH!!! HILARIOUS!

ThiefOfHearts:
and then they kill them.

lmao

lol soo tru ogaga, Justin Timberlake is goodlooking, . . . . . #thatisall!

@topic- Pirates of the carribean on stranger tides, or something like that sha- im going to watch it again.

you can be a slave to your culture- my words are not as demeaning as the expectations our culture still places on it's women.
Since your not a woman you probably don't understand where I'm coming from and with that you don't need to contribute. No woman wants to be a slave to anything, nobody is proud of an unhelpful husband.