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cap28: Don't you mean top ten plantations owned by massa to work for?

Isnt it funny how no nigerian owned companies are on that list - Nigerians forever being used as cheap labour in order to amass huge profit for their european/american masters.

OMG! OMG! lmfao! *straight face* it's not actually funny

shymmex: @Queensmith

How would you rate yourself, since you sound very confident, brash, and cocky?

a) Very pretty
b) Good looking
c) Average
d) Normal
e) God's creation

What does any of this have to do with anything?

maclatunji: I will come back when my head is clear. Queensmith is just like you OP and I fear I am a more advanced male form of your persona.

Come again?

kingoflag: Its not just in London. Its everywhere. Studies have been shown and research proves it that with over time women seek maturity and a provider over immaturity and huge biceps.

Its not even in london, the 'sugar daddy' trend has just started growing. I don't know about women seeking old men in place of biceps. . . .. . LOL!

And it's this soo called preference I am debating, it is disgusting and #thatisall.

Being old doesn't mean you will be a better provider than a young man and the fact you are chasing women much younger than you raises a question of your soo called maturity. What happened to the women your age?

kingoflag: Don't take this as me being condescending, but, How old are you?

Not at all old enough.

kingoflag: But now your talking about 2 adults. CONSENTING ADULTS.

Ok tell me, what would you say of a 68yr old man that marries a 50yrold woman? Is he also a pervert?

Before nko? A whole 18 years? 18 years? He was her age 18 years ago? it nasty.

a free spirited person cannot have standards? what is this?

Is there a Nigerian version of the ftse? I'd like to see that.

And why is it only 10, why not 100?

and yes how was this list put together? Whoever paid most for advertising?

the boy is just soo horgly? kilode mehn,

shymmex: If you believe the bolded part, then you must be living on another planet... I have heard girls tell me they prefer older guys because they treat them better, and are more matured..

They also flaunt their older men everywhere, to prove their 'level' has gone up a notch... It's a norm in London but it seems you're living in denial..

OMG! OMG!

OMG OMG!

OMG OMG!

I cannot! for the life of me! HA!

shymmex: The question should be what's a 20 years old girl doing with a 30 years old man You should be asking girls that question not guys...

For example: All the girls of my age out here run after older guys because of "maturity", marriage, and financial security - leaving people like me at the mercy of younger/older girls.. It's just funny how all the girls that are attracted to me are either older, or younger than me...

If you think the older guys are perverts, then the younger girls are pervert seekers - it goes both ways, love.

Well I don't know any woman that intentionally pursues older men in the hunt of a sexual relationship. This is the reason these men must be asked, we all know what they use to entice the women (alot like when pedophiles use candy to lure kids eurgh). Women here do not intentionally chase older men if not, its disgraceful and embarrassing if anything you will keep your old man a secret, unless you are intentionally going out to rinse him.

[quote author=tpia@]Too many deviants trying to take over the thread, as always.[/quote]I'm defending my point allow me, you don't understand how sick this is and the fact it's acceptable is atrocious. It should never be entertained. Fine in Nigeria which is a relatively poor country and the women trade their bodies, but the 'sugar daddy' nonsense shouldn't be condoned. It's disgusting and ridiculous and this is how it starts.
We can entertain a man trying to relive his lost youth by dating a man 20 years his junior, why stop there? He may want to relive his childhood and start handling children. Abeg what is bad is bad lets not get over sentimental.

moHot: What if its love? But seriously should there be an age limit to this man/woman thing? Olu jacobs is 20 years older than Joke silver , Mathew s 10 years older than Omotola... Do we call these perversion too SMH

No of course, we call this normal. Going for your childs age mate is absolutely normal. In fact going for your child is both normal and acceptable. Absolutely natural to make sexual advances on your children. Is it not Nigeria? Carry on.

shymmex: I'm not against young girls seeking older men, and older men seeking young girls to prey on - but it becomes problematic when the two groups involved, do it for the wrong reasons...

don't come with that crap, what the hell is the right reason? What is a 30 year old man looking for in a 20 year old girl? You of all people should understand how disgusting this is, you are in an environment that is intolerant of disgusting behavior.

sexybaby22: Well my experience goes thus: when i was like 16 i dated a 29 yr old. He was so mature and cute and was someone that gives good advice when u need it. We separated due to circumstances though we are still close but Since then i always felt more attracted to older men, i consider someone who is not 8 yrs older than me young.

*smh sooo much*

[quote author=Ileke-IdI]Shattap there lol

I get you about Nigerian men. . . . such a pity for our Beautiful Nigerian women living in Nigeria [/quote]and the women are very beautiful, and very kind. If only they were exposed to men worth half their time.

Ghana isn't far. . . . . . . . just putting it out there. and some other countries too. . . . .where the men are even beautiful. SO even if you take crap at least you look forward to the beautiful face. . . . .rather than take crap from an ugly out of shape foul smelling man who believes the world revolves around his arse because he was born with a cock, , , , , ,nonsense. About she works too hard so i cheat. Why didnt he leave then do what he likes? fools and foolishness.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Don't generalize jorh. All Nigerian men are not the same[/quote]I will continue to believe this jare- for the sake of my sons.

I can go to a friends house and clean it if I feel its too messy because we can't hang around mess, i have a friend that's a really good cook so I call her whenever I want to eat proper African food. she cooks for me all the time
I have a (male) friend who can't cook to save his life, he burns noodles I always call him over to eat good food.
So on that level helping out isn't a bad thing, I will never cook or clean for a guy simply because he's my boyfriend. The title doesn't warrant nonsense behavior. But as friends if its something we do for each other then there's nothing wrong with it.

I will never say 'come and let me cook for you' why should I cook for him? Am I a paid chef? Did I tell him cooking was my hobby? Are my parents dry clean operators?

Michky: I have 1 perfect word 2 describe u: OLODO. I used 2 av a friend whose grandpa is only 3years older dan his dad, now in their eighties. Now, dis simply means ladies datin much older men did not start today. Besides, avnt u witnessd scenarios where kings, in theis sixties, marry very young wives, in their 20s? If no, Check out stories 4rm d bible. Ok? Pervert!

Outlining these sick sick scenarios now prove what??

Michky: Am guaranteein u dat 1 day, u'l look back @ dis posts of urs & wish u neva ran ur mouth like u'v just done. Were u harrasd as a child by a pervert or what? Y r u so hell-bent on dis pervert mata. Look, u cant eva compare intimacy btw 50-30years old man-woman and dat of 30-10years old man-girl. 4rm all indicatns dey r very different situatns. D 1st is btw 2 adults while d oda is btw an adult and a child. Ok? Please tink wel next tym b4 postin. D fact dat u tink upsyd-down doesnt mean oda ladies shd tink lyk u. 5years older=fatherly figure?! U definately nd help. GOD!!

We are all harassed here by Nigeria perverts. It's not a good thing, that's what I'm trying to make you people understand.

When the 50 year old man was 30 how old was the woman? How can you find your potential child sexually appealing or as a potential mate? Meaning you can mate with your child? It's sick!

Limaoscar: @queensmith,
I don't usually like jumping into topics like this because you're most likely to find the following people on the thread:

1. People who either are SO set in their own ways and become self opinionated and won't stop to hear and learn from others
2. People with a bad experience (and I can excuse you if you have a story of a crashed relationship that has to do with age difference)and cannot wrt the topic see a bright side to such story.
3. People who plainly do not know what they're talking about but pick up buzz words and start throwing them around on an online forum
4. Those who soon become too gender sensitive and emotional and thus allow that to obscure their sense of reasoning.

You use the words "PERVERSION"..."CRADDLE-ROBBER" so loosely I had to check my lexicon again to see if i was missing something.

The issue is not even about men/women craddle snatching...it's about younger ladies and older men or even the reverse. What we should have done was take the op to task and ask that He/She dcefines what range of age difference they are talking about. To assume that everyone older than whoever they are dating (by your standard 5 yrs)is perverted is to acknowledge your lack of understanding of the issues.

It's a perversion, #thatisall.

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]I can't help but to be real....if we are going to be technical....anyone that is even a few months older than you are "older" and vice versa. There many people who are trying to figure out how can a man love someone that has a disability, different nationalities, social class, and plethora of things.

It still fall back to their personal reasons why they are with such and such. It doesn't change anything because we have a personal opinion about someone's reason for such and such.[/quote]Seriously, Mrs China you are going to compare social class and age? Seriously?? Seriously now?

redsun: It is like a father figure thingYoung women always want to feel safe and secured,like a good father can make them feel.Same applies to young men loving to be with older,lively and independent women that will give them rest of mind.

While the reverse is that the older ones,wants to relive their youths and be joyful.The thought of death,makes one want to get the best of everything while he/she can.

You got it, but imagine seeing a father figure as a potential partner. That's just sick mehn

Lol will you rather just marry anybody and take their nonsense attitude? The right person will come along eventually, continue to use that spirit of discernment (which is actually a blessing) to filter good from bad.

awww look at their faces little rascals, their faces are saying 'errm it wasn't me'!

2 boys like 5 children! soo troublesome, theyve messed up the whole house I don't think i could ever handle this, good luck with it! lol.

Pennywise: That is resentful. Equally resentful is if u are a 16yr old girl having se.x with another 16yr old boy.

no thats natural, sexx is natural and kids are always going to want to explore. . . . . . .with other kids. . . .naturally.

But it's exploition when it involves someone older, wiser and more experienced. This is the reason why countries have legal ages because given the opportunity men (and women) will try and take advantage of younger (weaker) people for sexual gratification.

[quote author=Mynd_44]So what will you say in the case of Shade Okoya? Or Ojukwu and his wife? Abeg this thing called love sometimes id crazy and when it grabs you, you are in hot soup[/quote]I don't actually know these people- but I'm guessing they are both young women married to very old famous men. (I know ojukwu is dead). And in a culture where transactional sexx is rampant and sexx is often traded for anything but sexx you believe these women married for love because. . . . .

I really pity Nigerian women living in Nigeria, look at the men you have to marry. . . . . its a dem shame *smh*

Ghana isn't that far. . . . . . .

Pennywise: So 5yrs is what constitute your definition of a perverse rel bw the sexes. In other words a 26yr old asking a 20yr old out is committing a crime and ought to be jailed! That doesn't make a lot of sense now, does it?

Se/xual perversion is a serious matter. Maybe what u mean is that too wide an age diff bw couples is not a good idea and I agree. But perversion is a no and does not even come close to subject matter.

There are girls who consider all guys below 8yrs their snr retarded wanting to have nothing to do with them regardless of material benefit. These girls have got right too.

He probably doesnt need to go to prison but there is something very wrong. I mean would you allow your 16 year old daughter to date a 21 year old? Or even your 16 year old son? What happened to their age mates?

It's definitely a perversion to intentionally go after someone much younger/older than you. If it isn't a fetish it probably indicates some deep seated issues with childhood. The man may be trying to relive his youth? Now does that sound healthy?

Those girls have issues and need help! This is what i'm trying to say it's not normal, it's bloody weird and not in a everybody-has-their-preferences type way, in a these-girls-need-their-heads-checked-immediately way!

And material benefit is the number one factor- you will rarely find a young successful professional woman dating 500years her senior, you will rarely find an old poor man with young rich chick for a partner.

Pennywise: @queensmith
What u shld understand is that sex/ual pervasion is an irrelevant issue and a complete distraction from thread topic. If u are so keen to discuss sex and its many pervasions I am sure there is a thousand and one topics on NL for you.


The OP by thread title has assumed there are 2 consenting ADULTS. Why d fixation on sex/ual pervasion? Now if its abt age difference you offer no definition as to what constitute pervasion. Is it 5,10,15 or 20yrs. What if she is 40 and d man 60. What kind of perversion is that?

At d risk of sounding patronizing, I think ur posts are brilliant. But u clearly didn't think this one through bf u posted. I have a feeling u are going to meet an older man u will find irresistible. One u will never let go.

What are you saying, the op asked a question and I answered it.
Sexual perversion is definitely relevant, very relevant. The only reason men can get away this perversion in this day and age is because of the fact that we are mainly dealing with legal ages.
It's still very much frowned upon regardless.

Personally I find it incredibly disgusting, everything about it is just sickening and pointing to the fact that these men are potential pedophiles. SO if a 50 year old is chasing a 30 year old female, the 30yo male should be chasing the 10 year olds? or wait 6 years for them to clock legal age?
That to one side, a 30 year old man has had 10 years of additional experience, doesnt it make more sense for him to share that with a woman more near his age? What exactly is he doing with a (relative) juvenile? I think it's very weird. Apart from the fact that any man more than 5 years older than me I will regard as a fatherly figure- I will never see him in that way, it's sick.

wow in nigeria they will tell you when to get pregnant?

i saw my name being mentioned. . . . . warrisgoinonhere? I hope it's to collect money??

i just get excited when i hear that choone everywhere i go now, its too much of a choone, Don jazzy did well with that choone. . . . . . o we're meant to be talking about dbanj? sorry. . . . .

Whats the observer magazine?

401kk: No you don't.
I remember the story of Job in the bible, he was a happy man. He was wealthy and healthy, had children and servants etc. Then Satan struck! He lost his children, wealth and was inflicted with destructive disease.
He became sad, his happiness ( his health, wealth, and children) has been taken away from him. If you were in his situation, you wouldn't be happy.
Your happiness depends on two factors; internal and external.

Job is an interesting story, however i'm not too sure if he was saddened by the loss or because the loss indicated God has turned His back on job?

I mean, i've always wondered how on earth he could be comforted by getting a new family? You can't replace your family? One of the weirdest stories in the Bible. . . . .anyways
So I imagine, Jobs happiness could have been dependent on his relationship with God rather than the earthly pleasures he enjoyed.

fluid26: It is not totally true. People, events and circumstances have strong effects on your happiness.

The mind is an amazing thing. However, it does not stand alone. It feeds off a myriad of variables.

The mind is subjective no doubt, but it's subject to itself mostly. The way you perceive things is the main determinate of how you react to situations. You can chose whether or not you want to be happy regardless of what people events and circumstances throw at you this is the whole point.

People are in more control than they realise.