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[quote author=Mrs.Chima]No two younger women approaches older men alike and vice versa.

Everyone has a personal reason why they are attracted to, date, marry, and befriend someone that is younger or older than them.

Generalization isn't the truth.[/quote]Mrs Chima lets be honest with ourselves, will you benefit a pedophile by saying he simply has his own preferences? Somewhere the line needs to be drawn. As a female (i'm hoping normal) you shouldn't be attracted to an older man, when you look at an older man do you see a potential mate? An older man should be seen as a father figure, not a partner. It's perverted to view older men in any other way. It's a perversion.

Pennywise: Nigerian female hypocrisy. Classical and on-point. They never disappoint. I wont be surprised if she is married to an older man or dating one

Sexual pervasion is an issue when a man is sexually attracted to an under-aged girl (legally 18yrs to me 20). It is unfair to regard the late Ikemba a sexual pervert just bc of the age difference with Bianca

Don't take it personally, for one in Nigeria the perversion is allowed so you are wrong for slating my views as Nigerian female hypocrisy (especially given most of them are probably married to older men).

Sexual perversion is when someones interests deviate from societal norms or is considered unacceptable. I don't understand how fighting in a war suddenly discounts the fact that you were sexually perverted? I mean is it supposed to make up for it?
Please let us call a spade a spade and not get overly emotional on simple things, it's perverted.

I find myself having to mention that fact many times on this website, very very disturbing. . . . . .very disturbing. At least an old white man will know that he's disgusting or that he's a pervert. I don't understand why others feel the need to defend themselves.

I was reading an article about this today, some women are prostituting themselves legally and telling me nonsense. http://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/sugar-daddies-cover-debts-sugar-baby-dates/story?id=16623859#.T-SY9hfx0UU

Older men seek younger women because they are perverted, younger women respond to these perversions (mostly) for monetary benefits. #thatisall

of course, what else can you depend your happiness on?

lol- someone was asking the same question but in a slightly different context; erm queensmith so how long do you see someone before you date him?? Just gotta love British kids, gotta love em. . . . I love em anyways

I don't think anything is set in stone tbh but when I hear of problems between couples I always ask if they dated before getting married and for how long, simply because it's difficult to believe the attitude you suddenly taken a dislike to popped up out of no wher.

However I do believe you must do the following; a background check like i have advised on a previous thread, do all the necessary tests of infidelity and the likes, an aptitude test, situational judgement, psychometric testing and the likes. Then it wouldnt matter how long you court to tell if he/she is suitable for marriage

This is too dem hilarious!

6 Pacs straight up- Description of account. And they say i'm greedy! :p


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HbFv3pSZeBs

egbeman1: A got a pin of one chick through a friend,I added and chatted wit her,the next day she visited me and we had nice time...
Am actualy thinking of going on a serious date with her,but dnt know if its advisable,cos its possible she does dat to any other guy on her contact

your damned if you do, damned if you dont. what about you the guy that invited her to come to your house the next day? Should the woman be discouraged thinking you do that with all the girls on your contact?

When the women are rude and arrogant, they then start complaining that nigerian girls are rude, when the women are open and express themselves as they please they complain the women are too easy. I don tire for you these people.

Bad customer service. . . . only in Nigeria.

Now stop sleeping with hookers its bad for your cockus.

people are very stewpid, thats how the country has been run to the ground like this. They get overly sentimental at the mention of their useless dormant president just because he belongs to a particular tribe. They didnt vote for him on merit or asses whether the fool is capable they just blindly voted for the name they recognized. Terrorists have taken over the country and they are saying we shouldn't mention his name. What arrant nonsense, so what is he being paid for? To sit down and be shoeless? mshew. DPMO

Abeg please go, there are many Nigeria's there to keep you company. The bigger boys and girls are in the business school. Plus I'm tired of brainy Nigerian's wasting their talents in rubbish uni's. It's not much more than the other Unis. Scrape together the cash and go there! bless xx

kilokeys: * yawns*.. Do what u like.. Put ur joystick anywhere u want jare.. I dont give a hoot gaylover.. As long as u dont come close to any[b] male dear to me[/b].

Most homophobics are closet homosexuals.

mikuz: hmmm . . . This guy dey really make you kolo!!

even if he scored 20 own goals, he will still be my mvp

toba: your boateng was responsible for bth goals Greece scored just as he allowed Drogba scred against bayern

ehya, the pressure of being fine mounts up you see. forgive him. . . .. hmm hmm. He can never do wrong by me. . . . . . .

I've never seen soo much bullshyt concentrated in one spot before. Well done op. esp the nonsense about virginity, you must not know what you are saying. mshew

o wow, 6 goals, i should have watched this it will have been an interesting game. So did my sexy boateng play? He's helluva sexy, i'll look out for him on motd.

hmm hmm- how did i miss the sexy german brothers. . . . . . .damn!

Warwick is one of the best, go there!

http://www.thecompleteuniversityguide.co.uk/league-tables/rankings

^^ yes

In addition to that, you need to tell her when she's acting out. When she is throwing fits say 'you are behaving irrationally and I'm not going to continue until you calm down'

Then leave and let her think about what she's doing, it's pretty much the same as how you deal with children with bad behavior. You make them aware of it, and an opportunity to change.

This is pretty complex, the thing is I can imagine someone not feeling comfortable enough for other people to handle their phones or their personal gadgets. A phone is a very personal thing it could have your diary, personal text messages, passwords, things that are meant for you and you have every right not to feel comfortable sharing it.
On the other hand, I've always been skeptical of a man that is overprotective of his phone. Usually an indication that he's not the transparent type.

All in all I think you should be comfortable with your partner having your phone, at the same time you should respect his/her privacy.

In all honesty the whole card flowers chocolate what you have it doesn't phase me, what is romantic in my books is turning up to my house with some cheesecake and a tub of ben & jerrys. Now that is romance. . . . . . . .what is more romantic than cookie dough and cheesecake.

Amya: I tell you my sister, really pathetic!!! They have some sort of psycho depravity where they derive pleasure from breaking down the guards of innocent girls through lies and deceit. People like that are the first to call women whores, I really wonder what they'd call themselves.

#thatisall

DaRapture: How is it not ethical?

for one it will violate their privacy rights, sharing their genetic information between these scam agencies?

MRbrownJAY: you ladies are not hard to figure out, even though you make no sense sometimes....... dont flatter yourself and other women, lol!

there is an African proverb that says:"it doesnt matter how long a man stays in the river, he will never turn into a crocodile......but he sure will know how crocodiles behave!" (i just made that up o, lol)

right, you have a degree and a phd in 'women studies'. . . . .from staying in a river. . . . . .noted.

I will really like to know if there are nice places to stay in Ekiti (far fetched i know :p), I don't know how 'tourist friend;y' ikogosi is.

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]So they are basically saying the emails from people claiming to be Nigerians are more believable than the ones from other countries?

Oh we are such sweet talkers! No wonder all the other African Countries are Jeloxing us!! [/quote]No they are saying the emails look and sound ridiculous because the scam works regardless.

Isnt this how they work anyways? They just send the email out to millions of people- the number game.

MRbrownJAY: you've already committed a crime when you believed that there was a set rule that works for EVERY WOMEN. yes, you need the usual attribute such as care, honesty, companionship, trust, compatibility etc etc etc BUT some women would require MUCH MORE in a "best" husband, while others wouldnt even require that much.
here is an example:
- some women believe that the best husband is one that allows them to be free to do whatever they want, while others believe the best husband should be strong and decisive and in charge.
- some believe the best husband should be in charge of everything financial in the household while others think there needs to be sharing of responsibility in order to have respect and equality in the household.
- some believe the best husband need to have a job/house/and wealth while others simply believe he should be caring and loving to fit that status.

you are too greedy in wanting to please ALL WOMEN!

Seriously MBJ what do you read? Where the do you get all this information from? Do you moonlight as a woman?

Seriously I see alot of men dictate all these 'rules' and it just amazes me, how many times have these 'some women' been married in order for them to know what their 'best husband' is like?

dayokanu: OP

Its impossible. Women are the most difficult beings ever. Regardless of what you do, they find a way to complain about Something.

If you are responsible, dont keep late nights, dont cheat, financially stable, support her, and everything she would still find a way of complaining about something

She might say she doesnt like the way you look at her, Or she has a feeling inside of her that you like Beyonce more than her. Or she doesnt like the fact that you watch Sport instead of Africa Magic or "real housewife of Abuja". She doesnt like how you greeted her friend, She doesnt like How you did not greet her friend, She doesnt like how you spend money , she doesnt like how you dont spend money etc.

If your life is to make a woman happy, then you would be dead verry soon. Just do whatever you think its right And leave the rest

I've told you to stop picking girlfriends from the local mental institution, why didn't you listen?

And i don't think you read the op properly, he wants to be a good husband not a bad one.

andromida: I tell you something. That is why many rships are so wrong some men confuse poor self esteem with humility and a confidence with pride in the process they have used quality women as girlfriends and ended up with confused ladies as partners. It just goes to show such men themselves have issues. Both partners in a rship must be humble and inspire each other to be better people in every way. It is wrong to expect the woman to sacrifice her self and become a pretender just to keep a relationship. Good girl to many Nigerian men is the girl that swallows all the crap and pretends the guy is a good guy.

This is deep, #verydeep.

I just wonder

The men definitely have issues, no doubt about that.

masterpiecer: can u prescribe a link?

lol- should be uniformed dating.com

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]Damn you! I was sipping on my juice and read what you said and laughed so hard that I covered my whole shirt with juice!

Oooh lawd! You know you are going to be called a Nigerian hater right? [/quote]LOl- yes, i'm meant to love and appreciate the fact most of them exhibit bad attitudes. I refuse to. They can call me what they like.

andromida: The average Nigerian Man believes that he should marry a woman that can take all the crap he dishes at her. Never sacrifice yourself at the altar of love in a bid to win anybody the prize is usually not worth it.

EOD! GBAM GBAM GBAM GBAM GBAM!

#it has finished. finished. Losing yourself to save face or maintain this image that can only be a reflection of suffering and sadness (slaving off for a man).

Some will even make you believe they actually pursue relationships just to put their partners through trauma? What happened to the good old days when your partner actually made you happy instead of sad.
I missed alot of notes in Nigeria sha, so where is the light at the end of that tunnel? mshew

Lol, there's even a website for uniformed dating. I mean I thought it was nonsense until someone told me it includes doctors, nurses, pilots......yes please!

It'x official, i'm the only one. Wondering if the non-coons are in naija village square or something.. . . . .need to check that.

anyways.

y me:
Its not a must na, haba
I don't see anything wrong in popping into your man's house to cook

PS I never said that would make a man love a woman

It depends, does he also popping around yours to cook and clean and wot not?

If not then i see everything wrong with it. . . . .but i appreciate that you know it won't make a man love you. It will however, make you his bych.