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[quote author=life_style]Good but Does First Class guarantee success in Life ? [/quote]it certainly doesnt guarantee failure! Why spend hundreds of thousands on obtaining a mediocre grade! Aim for the best in everything you! it will never go unrewarded!

as to the advice, the rules to obtaining a first class is no secret. Common sense should tell anybody how and why they can pass with flying colours. Obtain the discipline needed to follow through all your intentions, avoid distractions and keep brilliant friends. It also helps to have a genuine interest in what you are studying, or at least be curious.

the funniest thing about this is the way muna rolled the word opinion off her tongue. Nigerians try too hard! lmao!

It's not her fault she read the job description wrong, someone along the line told her her or-pin-yorn counts!

It's hard to feel sorry for women in this position. It is, I'm sorry for being harsh. You are meant to plan and cater for the future and the future of your children. People just go about popping babies willy nilly without giving it a second thought! One person was posting for a girl to have a child with her husband out of love, what arrant nonsense. Is love going to pay the childs school fees? Will love put food on table? Can you buy school sandals with love? People are soo foolish.

Some even go as far as have children with men that do not have it together in any way, is having a child a walk in the park? What on earth is wrong with women nowadays?

Being married and having children is going to be a major stumbling block for you, but only at this point in time. You might have to wait for your kids to grow older. Or you can work towards a better job so you can break even after a nanny. You can make things work for yourself nothing is impossible.

juleze: I beg to disagree.
A man who is TRULY following the bible would help his wife.
The man's role, according to the bible, is tougher than the woman's being that he was instructed to love his wife the way Christ loved the Church, and sacrificed His life for it. Christ served the church by loving her so much that He gave His life up.

The man's role is to ensure his wife isn't made uncomfortable even if he has to give up his personal comfort to ensure this.

For the woman not abuse this privilege, she was admonished to submit to her husband, in the hope that he loves her more than he loves himself. But trust those Nigerian men who attend church to warm the benches, or who are hopelessly selfish to quote only "wives submit into your husbands" without getting an indepth understanding of their major duty.

I was only responding to what Ninapha said. Apparently its a justification to state 'well the bible says so' as a reason to a man not doing any chores. The Christian sentiments do not help anybody. *eye roll*

taryour: i am not suprised at all,its obvious u lack manners,dats y u can talk to a maried woman like dat,am sure u av elder sisters os brothers at home n am sure u woukdnt tok to dem as such or even ur parents d way u are toking to me. I gues u should b btwn 18 - 20yrs. Every oda woman has come here acting maturely with their own opinion and thier point was noted. I would advice u go back home n learn ur manners or betterstill face ur studies.

By your own admission we are not equal, you are inferior to me. I don't have to respect you since you are below me. i am your master and you are the doggy

[quote author=tpia@]yes, you're a rabble rouser just like i thought.



explain this:



(I have a ) Stubborn girlfriend



https://www.nairaland.com/276584/sturborn-girlfriend#3925417


are you seun by any chance, or just one of his the usual touts around here.

silly question, i know. Isnt the answer obvious.[/quote]I should have known ,the poster is a bloody fool.

A woman is as responsible as keeping the home as a man is. An educatec woman will not take bulllshit from a man, hence why im yet ot hear nonsense from a married friend. Keep
Ypour mond thinking rubbish, women are going further than ever before!

Gaggi: A woman is not subhuman. I have very lovely women in my life whom i adore and respect. A woman is and never will be equal to a man though. A woman is a helper. As per women producing s.em.en and urinating straight without spilling urine all over her legs, dat was a joke. If u can do dat, then u are a she-male.

Your wife married a man who believes she is inferior. Well done to her she did well.

Kayyy: On another note, you see u women are just impossible and God i wish i could understand how you lot think, when asked one of the qualities you want from your husband, you often get 'he should be able to protect me and my child' you even expect this from your bfs, so i ask why would someone my equal need my protection, why should i protect someone whom we're the same if he/she is not protecting me in return. the day i chose to be equal to my protector i dont need him to protect me then, so why do you need the person whom you're equal to to protect you big question.

Protect me and my child from what?? Dinosaurs? Please let us not continue to use this argument. Only a paranoid woman will sincerely believe a man can protect her from anything. Women without partners raise children do they not? LEts not pretend this is important in a family.
I do not expect my boyfriend to drive from his house down to mine because i heard bump in the middle of the night.

People only form relationships because they want companions! Nobody is thinking ' i need a man to protect me from crimnals' when they get into one! they certainly do not use this as an excuse to get married! And it absolutely doesn not now make men superior! Msher

dayokanu: What I expect from an equal is for us to be equal that I can do to you what you do to me.

Many women would argue that they should be treated specially and differently from a man.

Phrases like "She is a woman" are commonplace

You would expect to be treated equally with someone you consider yourself equal with

If a fellow man slaps me, I should be able to hit him back without any recriminations. Thats what equals do.

And God expects the man to be the head. He stated that categorically

We have had this argument before, i have told you many times in civilised societies 'she is a woman' will get you fired!

God stated what? Did you hear that from Gods mouth? Do you have it on recording? And who wrote this book where God stated this thing you say? Was it a man?

sally bonne: No society alludes anything or else the society is nigeria or africa,we can see what is happening in other countries like Germany,uk,and the us I tink we need 2 change our thinking and stop blaming everything on society,who makes up this so called society is it not u
and I.that excuse is lame please

Please nobody wants any concession it depends on the kind of women ur meeting,if at all men are doing this is because they grew up in families that have respect for women abd do not derogate or abuse women.its called being gentlemanly and having etiquettes and y is it always all about men,if u treat women well as a a gentleman they will reciprocate by being lady like and would do or conform 2 wateva u want,which includes not acting unabashedly in public.


And this is not an inferior class traits ,treat som1 the way u would want ur mum,sisters and daughters to b treated

Am sure when God created man and woman ge wanted us all 2 b equal am not sure he ever wanted anyone 2 b higher or lower than each other


Ur last analogy am still trying to make out sense from this ,it does not rhyme @ all people please,let's b human here like I said b4 such as I said in bellanaija one time the derogatory remarks that come out from our mouth considdering this is a site were even younger ones not up to 12 years old come to,wat dey see or read would end up shaping their lifes,most of u here are causing more harm than good,funny enough I discoverde this site from a 14yr old my cousin a boy he even had 2 ask if this are adults or kids commenting,

Please do me a favour and ask him how many doors he is opening in Nigeria. If a man does not open door what pressure will society now place on him? Can he come to nairaland and claim his wife abused him because he didn't open a door?
His argument is beyond nonsense ,im no longer entertaining nonsense on this thread.

jennykadry: ^^Dayo does not support abuse Dayo's problem on this forum is chasing women and believing 50-50 exist in marriage.

You cannot be soo sure, men that reason this way always abuse thier wives. Be it byt mental manipulation or physical abuse. they do it because they believe they are superior.

dayokanu: Yeah for those who dont believe in equality, they deserve the concession Definitely.

The post is at the hypocrisy of those who claim equality yet demand certain social concession

If you are equal then you should compete fairly and equally

Lol you are full of sh*t, are we in the 1920s? Who expects anyone to open a door. When you open doors do you do so because you she expects it from you or because you expect to get laid? Don't confuse your desire to impress using false chivalry as a demand from women. 2 different things!
We are exactly the same, science proves we are even smarter! They contribute the same to the economy and to the family so why should any one believe this bullshit?
The only reason things are still like this esp in Nigeria is because men are still selling the idea that women are worthless ,which explains the horrific replies given on this thread! No men are not superior and no women should not worship them! men do not take bullcrap from thier wives soo why should women from thier husbands?

Chuks84: Thanks a lot! You couldn't have said it better. They shout continuously about equality but expect to be treated differently because of their sex.

Please understand this, you are an animal and need to get in tune with human civilisation. Do not attempt to use futile arguments to back up your nonsense. Are you now trying to say you open doors? Which door do you open? What have you done recently that no woman can do? What have you done that allows you to abuse your wife? Abeg!

maryini: It really amazes me that in this day and age MEN still think they are superior to women.

THese men are animals ,we thank God women have opportunities like never before its now up to us to train our children correctly to make sure they don't grow up thinking they can beat thier wives.
Most of the time it really is women that cause this line of thinking in men.

dayokanu: The society as Well as women allude to the fact that they are the inferior sex either overtly or covertly.

Women want some concession based on their sex, they expect a man to open door, allow them sit first, not engage in any struggle with them, attack the man and not expect him to retaliate etc

These are traits shown by inferior classes.

You cant ask me to give you concessions and at the same time claim we are equals.

Its like in a 100m race, you ask me to give you a 40m gap/head start, yet claim we are equal.

Inferior classes of what? Alien females? You having a laugh mate? And this now gives reason for abuse? Well done dayo.

[quote author=chuks84.1]You can rant all you want but the fact remains that you are a bitter shell of a woman who probably has no one to love so you've decided to take it out on men. You can keep on deluding yourself that women are equal to men, keep on deceiving yourself that no abuse is acceptable, continue living in that false bubble of a life you've created for yourself, just remember that there is a clear difference between fantasy and reality. wake up![/quote]Abuse is acceptable? I'm sure thats what most men here think, anyways that is why i'm here. To try and teach civilisation to you monkeys.
I will try my best but i make no promises, soo long as women realise this before they marry the likes of you!

Chuks84: Like I said, you are just a selfish person. Did the poster say her husband was physically abusive? From the tone of your posts it seems you are a victim of an abusive relationship but that doesn't mean you should go advising ladies to run for the hills when they encounter difficulties. You talk as if men are always at fault while the women are faultless when in truth most men are in emotionally abusive relationships.

Nigerians dont even know what abusive is, since its blended in with thier everyday lives. Did somebody tell you physical abuse is the only form that hurts?
Why are you shivering in your panties at my advise? Are you scared of your partner reading the truths about people like you? Are you afraid of being a better person?

You need serious help if you think abuse is justified...EVER! There is no reason to abuse someone! Whatever that person does! You cannot exonorate the mans behavior! So since the wife is now upset is she allowed to abuse her husband? Can we call it reason for the wife to rain insults on him morning and night? Please get over yourself! You treat people the way you want to be treated! Women are not doormats! Mshew

@Chucks Feel pity for yourself. The problem is most men here believe they speak for men around the world. Actually they don't. Like i keep repeating, many men care love unconditionally and fully respect their wives. Save the pity for the women breaking their arms and legs for the abusive husband.

Only foolish men hate the idea of feminism. Its about time you all realise we are equal and were not placed on earth to take bull crap from men! There is no reason a woman needs to take abuse from her husband, absolutely none! And men like you try to keep women in bondage by making them think they need to serve a man with all the energy they have, for what exactly? Trade in your sanity, dignity esteem and pride for an illusion? That does nobody any good.

Maybe the women here are all in hopeless marriages but times have changed, they don't need to put up with it. If no one will say it i will. It's a shame people reason in this way, at the same time it's fantastic some of us realise how things should be!

Tgirl4real: queensmith,

would you quit all these nickpicking. Everyone has the right to suggest whatever they think is right. Please stop picking on people's post. This thread is long enough, we don't need more E-fights. Get it

Has the meaning of forum changed?? Is it not a platform to discuss opinions? Is nairaland an exception? I am not looking to fight anyone ,nobody hates an e-fight more than i i am simply challenging the soo called pastors claim that the wife warrants abuse because she is ordinary. Am I at fault for this??

ebosed: I am glad you want us to discuss now.

Men like Women can be very annoying no doubt.

Any failed marriage is the result of failed compliance to the word of God.

There are no such things as Church, Mosque, Court or Traditional Marriage.

Men and Women get married because God wanted it and instituted it.

So its is God's Marriage and not Blue or White Wedding/Marraige.

Men and Women in marriage have responsibilities.

Divorce doesn't solve failed marriage, it is just the begging of the continuation of a failed marriage with lots of consequence on the children,

friends and relatives of the couples and even their immediate community and the nation.

Is part of youe evangelical training to not answer questions? I didnt ask for any of this? And i don't see any biblical scriptures written....hold on lemme check once more.......nope, none of what you said contains proof this is word of the lord. I didnt ask to discuss what marriage or divorce is. I asked you to explain why you think the woman deserves to be disrespected by her husband and why you have assumed she is an ordinary wife? Many well respected and reputable pastors have divorced so we cannot make assumptions without solid biblical backing. That is what i am asking you for.

ebosed: This explains just why your life is in this shape. Think about it, Think about it again.

Your life would definitely be better than what it is if you can change. Yes you CAN.

Lol, did you get a spiritual vision on my life? Oya tell me what is happening. Try the envangelical pitch on me lets see what you got!

But not before you pin point exact places in the scripture where it says a ordinary women warrant disrespect from thier husbands, and where it then says men should disrespect thier non super wives and abuse them to gain super status. And then where it details non super women should be called into councilling and the husband left to his bad attitude.

Oya!

^^ is this also the word of God? The superior productivity of the almighty? Please tell me i really want to know, are you going to provide the op with scripture examples of where the bible says it is fine for a man to abuse his wife? Or do you have places marked in the bible giving super wifely activities for women not super enough to earn respect from thier husbands? Have you concluded from the Holy Book that a disrespectful husband is the product of an unsuper wife? Please tell me these places i completely miissed the memo!

Did you read from the bible rebels live in the jungle? Last time i checked rebels rule libya but younno, the bible you read probably doesn't cover that!

^^ WOW is this what the church is now telling people? Dear lawd end times are definitely coming. So she is the cause of her husbands attitute because she is just ordinary? WOW im actually speechless, this is a new one, even from RCCG!

[quote author=Kevin_II]the dogs are here! what is all that rant about? makes you look really dense. funny how it is those that cannot find a man that are the first to offer advice. and one does not have to be a seer to figure out why they are half brained confused feminista wannabes being out on the street shouting divorce divorce at the slightest oppotunity. you are a sadist and a fool of epic proportions.
rabid dog. you and your type have been found out and i will personnaly see that i derail any attempt to mislead other women to being sad like urself.
find a man first and then you can qualify to offer advice until then shut up ur gutter mouth. puzzy like you may amadioha seal your anuss with hot cement. ode[/quote]Omg! your deranged! im here arguing with a deranged lunatic! what has nl done to my life, im ignoring you too bebe! Hope you find your medication soon enough!

jennykadry: With all due respect sir, can you please quote where I told the OP to divorce her husband?

Maybe when you answer my question by quoting my post, then I will reply Your other lines as well

You havent come with 'please beg and pet your husband because men are like babies they are not responsible for thier actions' that has automatically enrolled you into the 'divorce him' club. Kmt

Sagamite: Wait o!

Walrus, are you reetarded?

Are you insinuating FOR A SECOND that I am interested in you blubber?

You lost yamind, morrofcker?

With all the women open to me on this Earth, I will go for a smelly, morbidly obese hoodrat with even a more stinking personality?

Is your diabetes affecting your brain?

Im not insinuating anything, i am stating that you need to f*ck off. I have no time for you. If you have an argument state it if you don't go do one!
I am not going to spend all my time on nl backing and forthing with you, i do not roll with gays, i have little patients for f00ls like you.
This is the last, I will help you like I helped david and ignore you from now on, I will not be reduced to your level. Kmt

[quote author=Kevin_II]the dogs are here! sniffing for divorce. gawd. smh[/quote]Are you stewpid? Did the spirit of stupidy take over you this easter? Were you born stewpid or did nl make you that way? Are a f00l? Did your parents make the right atonements when you were born? Is there reason you are here chattin shyte? Were you sent to be a pest? Does the senseless trolling provide you deeper inner satisfaction? Does it take place of a girlfriend? Are you sad? Suicidal? Do you need prayers and psycological help?

Please use google to find solutions for your sad pathetic life. This conversation is not for the moronic.

Sagamite: With your rolls of blubber, you think you are gorgeous.

Kai, abeg make I laugh for a minute.



Ye! Ye! Ye! My belle o, my head o.

You see now. You know how i look and have counted the blubber. The obsession as daunting as it is slightly flattering. Just be careful i don't want your boyfriend to get jealous.
Nl should know I have openly rejected you several times. You refuse to fall back. I cannot fight with any man over his plonk of a lover. I have no strength to fight with gays. Mind yourself i am warning you. P#ss off politely and allow adults to talk. If you disagree state why or forever f*ck off. I am not here for you. Oloshi.

minute: Sounds to me like he needs to grow up. He is verbally and emotionally abusing you.

You need to somehow communicate with him how he's making you feel and stop allowing

him to treat you with such disrespect. If he doesn't want to change his behavior

then maybe it's time to re-think your marriage. Do you want to continue for the

rest of your life feeling the way you do? You deserve to be happy and to have a hus-

band who knows how to show you how important you are to him. He is the equivalent of

a school bully and sounds like he doesn't feel good about himself so he finds pleasure

in making you feel beneath him so he may feel better about himself. The decision is yours-

continue to accept this painful self-defeating behavior or stand up for yourself.

And this is it. One has to understand it will be terribly difficult to accept and I do pity the op. Her husband is a school yard bully. It's a real shame to see someone you've loved and held in high regard tear everything down because of his insecurities or problems. We are not talking about children, full grown men that destroy their own marriages because of childish sentiments. Sad but real. I hope for the op and her childrens sake she makes the right decision otherwise 10 years down the line she will regret the time she wasted on a man that clearly doesnt love her. Thats if he stays around and doesnt find someone else to bully before then sha.