₦airaland Forum

tivta:
Yet there are so many single working class ladies, where as lots of ladies that have finished service are getting married...

Do you have figures to back up this claim?

sickstars:
Its sounds like one but its d bitter truth!

Working class doesnt make u a good wife

But ur whole package which includes character mind set nd all nd all

I completely agree with you but no need to demonise the hard working women especially in this sexist society.

sickstars:
For ur info sissy m a female!

Then why are putting females down comparing them to dogs. Why can't a woman freely express her sexuality?. Why are you pushing back women rights.?

Your post about female bankers sleeping around, do you have proof or this is what you heard? Perpetuating harmful and destructive stereotypes.

The female doctors, lawyers, hairdressers, business women, shop-owners are also working class women. If a man chooses to marry a non working woman there's no problem, but we should encourage women to be independent.

I don't necessarily agree with Op's post, but your response is just worse.

sickstars:
We av working female bankers stil sleeping arond like dogs

Just cos u jealous school girls are gettin married doesnt mean u vent ur fustration

I av seen several working class women still sleeping arond for money ur point is??

And dose who are students wont dey mature one day to start working?
Or is it not d certificate to work dey tryin to acquire

Will dey b students for ever?

Are workin class ladies not students at one point

A student can manage a home better

Cos i av arond me alot of married students .nd dey doin fine!

Lol.. What a Joke.
Beta male who cannot handle a strong, independent woman.

So inspiring

Nov 2014 was already too late to make this statement.

Women should beware, do not go to a male's house if you don't know him properly. That's all.

sweetgala:
Stop deceiving yourself, I can't stop you from using corsets or waist trainers, God knows many women who desire a good shape as is pampered in media these days feel under pressure to comply with what now seems beautiful.

Just know the medical consequences are confirmed and real. I can get why soo many ladies feel like a flat belly and wide as5 is necessary

So no evidence to back up your picture. I didn't see you were wrong about prolonged usage of corsets , I only said prove the picture.
All this essay, just post proof that's all

banmee:
There is no difference between a Nigerian/African woman and a slave. Some will come out and say vehemently that they are not but their actions proves otherwise.

For sure, a lot of Nigerian women go through hell in their Marriage, but once you point it out, they tag you a Feminist or marriage destroyer.

Is it not this same website that advices women to stay with cheating men because ' time is not on their side'. You think this man was not cheating before marriage?
Just a shame all around.

EggovinMma:
A woman with 5 children is physically, emotionally and mentally abused by her husband, a church worker and a fuccking mistress and all you had to do is blame the poor wife? If she Is that bad a wife, why did he knock her up the 5th time? Infact what kind of useless church is that? So she should help a ministry that glorifies sexual immorality and slavery?


You're not a serious person.

To me, anyone using the word nagging to justify abuse is not a serious person. It's probably best to ignore him.

chinoify:
Madam... I have followed this case from the first thread and have deduced the following.
1. You are the cause of ur problems.
2. You come here to seek what you can't have.
3. You are a prayless mum.
4. You are not fit to be a pastor's wife, you where never in support of his ministry.
5. I see you as some1 who gossips slot.
6. I see the whole problem as you. Until you change, this whole mess remains.
7. I see a nagging wife.
8. I see a woman who assumes (falsely)a lot.


In Africa, they say there's no smoke with out fire. Making ur story incomplete. You have lived with this man for some years, you alone knows where it went wrong, what went wrong, how it went wrong and who went wrong.


All the people asking you to leave your home will still insult you tomorrow for not been patience.

Finally my recommendations...

1. Have a personal retreat, retrace the whole saga. Search to seek where you missed it.
2. Seek to get back the heart of your husband, you know him better, you know the man you married, he has not changed and won't change.
3. Pray to God, to give you a heart to accommodate his calling. Using the term 'his church' makes me believe you are far from his calling... And this man needs people he will work with, so people including ladies must occupy ur position and have less regard for you.
4. Pray for your home.. When a problem arises anywhere, there are basically two things to do, pray or complain. You have done the later, I guess it didn't work. So try the former. Spend more time with God than man on issues. It gives more results.
5. When 4. Is ongoing, begin to participate in church activities... I don't want to hear ' he won't let me', if it happens you have disbelieve in your prayers.. So pray and participate in church activities, reclaim your position as pastors wife. Though it will take some time.
6. Practice what I call Advance Forgiveness, before he or anyone offends you have forgiven.
7. Pray pray pray pray...
8. Come back here in some weeks to testify on the new heart God has given your husband.
Selah.

Even when a self proclaimed man of God is being abusive and unfaithful in his marriage, you still turn it somehow to her fault.. You even bring up nagging.
What a Joke.

My one major deal breaker for a relationship/friendship is the word 'nagging'. Whenever I hear a man use it to justify abuse/cheating, its a complete turn off.
I can't take anyone who uses that word seriously at all.

.Lol!

Where are her parents? Probably somewhere deep in the Village having more children.

After this news cycle, what is going to happen to this poor girl? Will her parents take her, will the government put her in a home, will she go to another madams house.?

My best bet, a young man will come and take advantage of her, she will probably get pregnant and be left with no one. out of frustration and depression she may dump or sell the baby and maybe arrested

Seun will put it on front page again and we will insult her and call her names. It's an endless cycle.

The African girl child is suffering and nobody cares

AlPeter:
and ruin the young man's career that as not even started. #annoying

Complaints do not ruin doctor's careers. Doctors get complaints and malpractice cases thrown at them a lot. The hospital will investigate properly and due action will be taken. If he was right, he will not be fired or dismissed.
Hospitals do not joke with their doctors.

AlPeter:
ok, am feeling insulted by your comment now should I report you to the MODs. If everybody starts acting on 'feelings' alone, society will end up in chaos. She was already prejudiced towards the guy and am sure the guy was just smiling at her arousal and didn't even take it to heart. Nice time she should ask for a female or ask her husband to do it for her. Lubbishes.

If you are feeling insulted by all means go ahead and report. Your own feelings does not invalid her own feelings too. She was the one there and she knows how she was touched.
Most doctors use mammograms nowadays fot breast examination and those machines are almost exclusively operated by women, so it's even raising eyebrows already.

sweetgala:
Are you having a laught ! , Google is your friend

I'm sure you are joking

I have googled and I didn't come up with anything this is why I'm asking you

Whether the doctor was right or wrong, the fact is that she felt sexually violated.
My advice would be for her to change doctors and report to the hospital management if she wishes .
Doctors usually get a lot of this kinds of complaints from patients, if he is in the right, there will be no problem at all

sweetgala:
That picture in infact a scientifically confirmed result of corset use and the new fad of waist training. It is not a new knowledge as doctors dating back to the 1800s knew this.

You can not squeeze fat away, your organs are a certain size in relation to your body mass, height and size. By squeezing your organs and internal core in one direction the muscles would waste away, your lower ribs would contract and the organs would be pushed lower into your waist and higher into your chest cavity.

The consequences include fertility problems and difficulty during birth. Among other health issues which are uncountable. I can envisage a health epidemic rising from this new extreme use of corsets in the next decade as the long term effects take hold

Can you post a link or research that backs up that illustration.

quivah:
Well, what different does it make??
Waist trainers are bad...
Maybe the op's illustration will scare the sense into their brains..

Difference is that the image is false... Misinformation is bad.

Fake illustrations.

Prolonged usage of waist trainers are bad but OP's image is false.

If possible futher restrictions should apply. We don't need to import some certain things. We need our manufacturing industry to grow.

It's either the business men find other things to import or start another business.

RichYoungNigga:
Do you have them ??

Yes.

She obviously doesn't give a damn..

Me personally, I think she has nice boobs and nothing wrong with stretch marks on breasts. It's very very natural.

kinglekan:

Rayah

My king

My ass.. Does it count?

ColinAdua:
No 18
Is she a nurse? A nurse can do that.
I prefer kissing money/90% of Nigerian women gives horrible love making.
My smartphones and internet is keeping me company perfectly.

Well thanks all the same for not cussing.

Lol.. Where are you meeting this girls that are bad in bed?
Or are you the one bad in bed?

Pwhitelaw:
...Thanks dear.I just got a job and was told to go and learn how to drive using manual.was given just two weeks to do that.

Two weeks is enough time to learn about driving. The more you drive, the more you learn. So dont worry, you'll be fine!!

Your house cannot born children for you.
You house cannot hold your hands and take care of you when you're ill.
Your house cannot kiss/make love to you.
Your house cannot keep you company.

Manual transmission maybe a week, automatic 2 days.

Just kidding, for driving, practice makes perfect! once you know the basics like driving straight, applying brakes, turning, and reversing, you should be fine.

lxyrul:
They'll tell you job vacancy for a person between the age of 22 to 26, and need 10 years experience. Na which experience they expect?

If to say pure water selling fit add to Cv, e for better

This is hyperbole

A company asking for 10 years experience is not looking for entry level workers, it is looking for the stated- people with experience over 10 years or more.

OP, if you are a graduate and current job-seeker you should know this stuff.

Secondly, an entry level might require some experience in a particular industry - You can prove this with internships during university, groups you have been a part of or academic projects undertaken in the university.

Its their nature!