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Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 10:04pm On Aug 15 |
D1uncle: Sounds dodgy. Why would you suggest OP use a different name? Is the ‘use of a different name’ not meant for criminally-minded people? 4 Likes |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 9:55pm On Aug 15 |
[quote author=deept post=131516001][/quote] Many thanks deept. |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 9:55pm On Aug 15 |
dustydee: Thanks so much |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 9:54pm On Aug 15 |
giselle237: Thank you very much for this. |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 9:54pm On Aug 15 |
Autophys1: No letters needed. Just go to the website and register that you do not watch live tv. (I hope you actually, do not watch any live programming). |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 8:10am On Aug 15 |
Please, skip if this question seem a no-brainer. I have $1000 to send to mama at home. Should I change it to £, then convert to naira (via LemFi or Azimo or Moneygram or Nala - other BDCs exist) and send to her. Or Do I put the $ in an envelope, send through a friend travelling. Then mama can go to Aboki Mallam and change the $? Which one offers more value for money please? Thank you.☺️ |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 9:03am On Jul 29 |
justwise: The dangers of a one side story. MissJekyll here hasn’t bothered to watch the publicly available videos on the beating the police officers were subjected to by those thugs. That police office was clearly dazed and befuddled and kicking was the least he could have done in that situation. It’s a miracle he did not discharge any firearms (if any). |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 11:39pm On Jul 28 |
missjekyll: Just out of curiosity. Did you watch just the 1 video which was originally released, or have you watched the other videos, including the one released by the Manchester evening news? I still maintain that it is always best to have a complete picture before making decision on actions of the UK police. Policing by consent indeed…. So yobs and thugs can beat up the police, but the police cannot use force to restrain the unruly misfits. You could argue that the police officer who did the kicking was dazed and confused and terrified from the beating he received from that thug. He was clearly rattled and dazzled after that thug attacked him, and his colleague, in the 1st instance. 2 Likes |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 3:37pm On Jul 28 |
mayowa94: You mean your mother inlaw is planning to get a UK visitor visa to visit you. On your side, if you are writing a letter in support of her application, you need to be clear which support you are going to render. This may include air fares, local transport, Accomodation, visa application costs, feeding etc. Your wife should not forget to submit documents which clearly establishes their relationship. A birth certificate should suffice. On her (applicant’s) side, she needs to prove a strong ties to home country. The onus is o her to prove that she isn’t just wanting to japa, but that she only wishes to visit and will return. She could prove ties to home by: Evidence of full employment (it’s great she is actively working on Govt as a teacher). When my MiL was coming a couple of years ago, we got the Head master of the primary school she was teaching at to write a letter of introduction. We even got the local government education secretary to write too. We submitted her letter of 1st appointment, a couple of promotion letters and most importantly, her last appointment. We printed her 1 year bank statement, which had a closing balance of 8,00 naira. We highlighted every single salary transaction on the statement. That means every single salary credit into her account was highlighted. The aim was so that the ECO can cross reference and prove that yes, she is in active employment as a primary school school teacher. In our letter of introduction and support, we made it very clear that the whole visit was at zero cost to her. We proved that by showing our own bank statements - showing enough money. In our introduction letter, we made rough cost estimates: Air flight, train from airport to house, visa costs, transport cost for visa biometrics extra. Our letter had a near-real cost estimates, and our bank account statement showed we had enough to cater for that. Very importantly, we needed to prove our own legal residency status- we used our BRP for that. Mama got 6 months on that occasion. I will wait for others to share their expert. 12 Likes 5 Shares |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 3:23pm On Jul 28 |
I think it was Chimamanda Adiche that captured me with her speech about the Dangers of a one sided story. After watching more and more footages of the events at the Manchester airport, I have resolved further to always try and hear/see/watch the other side of a story before reaching conclusions. As an aside: Why do/would someone want to join the police in this UK? The way I have seen silly kids abuse and insult the police is crazy. And as a police man, if you want to carry out your lawful duty, people will just bring out phone and record full length videos but post 20 seconds clips on social media. I think the UK public needs to always wait to hear the 2nd side of any police issue story. Good afternoon my Naija people I’m the UK. 4 Likes |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 7:33pm On Jul 13 |
Goodenoch: Bro, are you the twin brother of Ms Kemi (the conservative MP)’s husband? Or you are simply the opposite? Thank you so much for this recommendation. You and Jedisco just helped me see clearly. The beauty of Nairaland. Thank you Goodenoch. Thank you Jesdisco. You guys rock. This is another reason for staying for this long on this thread, even after chopping ban previously for daring to call out Justwise on TV licence debate. Justwise, we may not always agree on TV licence issues, but I love you bro. Keep on the great job. This thread is a throve of information. Thanks to all people contributing positively. Cheers. 11 Likes |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 7:23pm On Jul 13 |
jedisco: Thank you very much. The very exact recommendation you made in this post was followed. I have chucked all the items in the donation point located at a big Sainsbury’s store near where we live. Guess who has N240,600 converted this afternoon via LemFi - (other apps are available)? That £120 is now in Naira. The crediting of different Naira accounts started this afternoon. The type of prayers me and my wife and children have received today, the goodwill will last a lifetime, I think. Thank you so much for that not-so-little suggestion. Turns out it’s a win-win for everyone. Thank you Jedisco. 17 Likes |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 9:48am On Jul 13 |
Help needed please. Who has any life hack on how to arrange used clothes for shipping? We just decluttered. Lots and lots of used clothes. Two huge Ghana must go bags. Both ours and the kids’. A lot are in pristine condition. We thought to package and send to Naija. Relatives & relatives kids will greatly benefit (we think). We have found a shipping company I east London which can ship 1 big Ghana must go bag to Abuja for £120. We think it’s probably worth the cost. Any suggestions or hack on how best to maximise space to fit in plenty clothes? Any other suggestions (including any alternative known cheaper shippers) highly welcome please Thank you for reading |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 10:19am On May 31 |
Lexusgs430: Thank you very much |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 6:00am On May 30 |
kumbhuru: Start here: https://www.gov.uk/health-care-worker-visa And jump in here: https://www.gov.uk/health-care-worker-visa/documents-you-must-provide 2 Likes |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 5:45pm On May 25 |
Hello people, Please, how important is No Claims Bonus? I have had 5 years NO claims. I am about to (painfully) renew my car insurance. Is the No claims meant to be building and building indefinitely? Or is there some time to cash out? @lexusgs430 @davechapelle @TheGuyFromHR @wonlasewonimi |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 8:37pm On May 18 |
Hello good people. Anyone got any plug for the Fury vs Usyk Bicing match tonight? Please… |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 5:48am On Oct 11, 2023 |
rayralph: What makes you think he isn’t ready? I think for him to put it out here means he is actively seeking help. No? 10 Likes |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 12:11am On Oct 11, 2023 |
PalestianIsrael: I hope you are not mixing up rayralph and RalpJean. Are you? Please we are 2 different people. |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 6:25pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
PalestianIsrael: You see why I always Insist that there are 2 sides to every story? From the ‘horse’s mouth’: Madam did not bring the knives to attack him. She brought the knives to give them to him to ququma kill her. In other words, she prefers him to kill her physically by stabbing her to death, rather than the pain of the emotional abuse (her thoughts) that he is subjecting her to. Bro. I am a man like you. I am not ‘siding’ with the wife. I kid you not, your story is similar, very similar to my experience 8-months after arriving the UK. And like I said, it’s >10 years and we’re still married. Don’t give up on her. That emotional support she craves, it’s within you to meet her at the point of her need. I sincerely believe you can still make things work, if you put your heart/mind/resources to it. I am happy to ‘unmask’ myself from this faceless forum, and share experiences with you. I am jus my a DM away. 13 Likes |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 4:01pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
rayralph: @PalestianIsrael: Hear! Hear!! Do an introspection. You are not faultless. Is it possible that you are the visa sponsor. You work. She works too. Your work is really energy-sapping, hers is (energy-sapping)^10…. (For those who hated maths (like me), that means Energy-sapping raised to the power of 10. You get home, you are tired. She is very tired too. She needs some help in the Kitchen, but you are in the sitting room, pressing phone and browsing internet . She painfully prepares the meal, still very fatigued. You are still pressing phone. She asks for help, you ignore…’Afterall I’m the husband, she is the wife. Then later in the night, you want to turn her into a construction site, for ‘construction work’. Because she is the wife, who is expected to be loyal, she succumbs. You get up, go on top. Your entire 70+Kg on her. You construct your construction. Discharge akamu. Snore off to sleep. 6:00 am, both of you go off to work. 9:00 pm, you return home. She is still carrying over the fatigue from yesterday. You too is tired. She asked for some help to prepare dinner. You ignore. You keep pressing phone. And smiling. And chatting with friends and well wishers. She is there, all very lonely. In a new country. No friends no mates. She asks you to please drop the phone and give her some attention. You totally ignore. 10:00 pm, she hasn’t served dinner. You are boiling within. But you still kept pressing phone. She let out her vexation, and tell you how wicked you are. …. And everything escalated. PS: The scenario above is mine. As someone who came to the UK a couple of years ago, the above is roughly my experience. I thought my wife had grown horns, because while we were newly married in Nigeria, she was always cooking diners making breakfast. Packaging lunch for me to take to work. When we arrived UK, she ‘denied’ me all those. It was rough at first. But (to the Glory of God), here we are today, >12 years in marriage. Understanding ourselves and progressing together, as a couple. 31 Likes 1 Share |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 1:55pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
PalestianIsrael: Dear PalestianIsrael, 1. To come on this forum to seek for help means you are not happy with the status quo. 2. Kindly note that a lot of folks on this thread who do not know anything, whatsoever about you (or your wife) will jump on your post to write different stuff, informed 100% only by your own (one-sided) story. 3. Whereas you have presented your side of the story, I hope you do know (and appreciate) that there is a second side to every story. 4. Again, I hope you appreciate that we’re your wife to create a fake name, on a faceless forum to state her side of the same story, it may not necessarily be the same as yours. 5. Kindly remember that Nobody, absolutely NOBODY writes his/her story and portrays himself/herself as the villain. That means your narrative is only 1 side. 6. Before you take any advice/suggestions/recommendations from total strangers (like myself), first ask yourself: What do you really want? Do you want the marriage/relationship to end? Or you would absolutely wish to Love your wife as the woman you knew & Loved before? 7. Have you considered that you are probably too engrossed in your phone & laptop that you have neglected your wife? 8. Can you (hand-on-heart) say that the phone/laptop activities that irks her are vital activities? Do you spend hours and hours scrolling and chatting on Nairaland (for example) while your wife is right there, seeking physical/emotional attention ? Etc… 11 Likes 1 Share |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 1:32pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
BuildingProject: Bro... I wan participate for this project ohhh my issh be say I have never taken alcohol in my life. And the Kolaq is alcoholic, right? ANy substitute? |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 11:37am On Jul 17, 2023 |
koonbey: That you, Koonbey (as an individual) do not hold those standards does not in any way mean we (all) do not hold those standards. You should rather use ‘I’ instead of ‘we’ in your last sentence. 3 Likes |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 11:33am On Jul 17, 2023 |
koonbey: So long as you want to justify British Policies, using NIGERIAN standards, you will never get it right in this debate. For you to suggest that Legal and law abiding Nigerian Immigrants in the UK should not be treated as equals and Infact should not have ‘audacity of equality’ proves how you want to judge the British society using (your) Nigerian standards. 9 Likes |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 11:14am On Jul 17, 2023 |
koonbey: Again, you got it wrong. We are NOT holding the British/British Govt to NIGERIAN Standards. We are holding the British Government to much publicised BRITISH STandards. I think this post of yours summarises why you got it spectacularly wrong in this debate. It is not us who laid down the standards to the Brits. We are/were not the ones who enacted the Equality Act 2010. It is the BRITISH. If you can’t see that these policies make the British (Government) look like (the) hypocrites (that they possibly are) then I’m sorry. There is absolutely zero point debating this with you. Isn’t it interesting that even the best debater on this issue (my opinion) a certain @Zahra29 could not deny the unfairness of double taxation? 7 Likes |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 6:33pm On Jul 16, 2023 |
koonbey: You want answers to your questions, whereas you have done poorly in putting across your points, or answering other posers. |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 6:31pm On Jul 16, 2023 |
Peerielass: Bla bla bla was referring to the so-called 'mean-tested' whereas the example I gave was anything but means tested. |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 6:16pm On Jul 16, 2023 |
Zahra29: 2 Likes |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 6:00pm On Jul 16, 2023 |
Peerielass:No one was rude. You mentioned 25 hour electricity. And security. And Education. On the surface, that sounds like a good argument. But, You failed to realise that IHS is a line item. Electricity is billed separatealt. The immigrant pays for that. Security is a separate line item, the immigrant is taxed for that Education is a separate line item. Look at the two pictures I posted, the immigrant is taxed for that too. So… those things are not free.. The Health Surcharge is a line item of its own. And the immigrant is taxed for that, IN ADDITION to what has been paid already in IHS. Unless your argument is that DOUBLE TAXATION of legal immigrants is fair. Is that your argument ? |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 5:53pm On Jul 16, 2023 |
koonbey: Debating with you is pointless. Speaking so much grammar with no substance. Keep it simple bro. Is it fair that immigrants are double-taxed? Paying twice (or sometime 3x) for exactly the same service? Is that the idea of a fair, Global Britain? 6 Likes |
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by RalphJean: 5:50pm On Jul 16, 2023 |
Zahra29: Zahra29: Before you x-Ray the cap on number of children Etc. Do you agree that a tax-paying tier-2 immigrant who has paid double tax. Who works full time. Spouse works full time too. Whose wife too has been taxed twice. Yet Their one (1) 3-year old child that was born in the UK cannot access 30 hour per week of ‘free’ nursery. Is that fair? |
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