rayralph:


The guy is not ready to listen to good advice or possible resolution.

He more interested in validating the thoughts in his mind.

PalestianIsrael:


Wow! Interesting. So because I reached out to you as per your gracious offer to unmask yourself based on personal experience and I replied with my feelings (or my own truth) and even told we’re seeking professional counselling and you ghosted me afterwards means I’m not ready to listen to good advice (or validating my own thoughts).

Sorry Sir, that someone who’s 50% of a union dare voice out his fear and trepidation.
1. Created an anonymous account
2. I took advice on physical separation to avoid a repeat.
3. Opened up regarding my fears
4. Listened to your personal account and experience

But God forbid that me that saw my eyes flash before my eyes should open up and tell you what doesn’t align with your personal view. You kept on pushing that I’m not a saint and madam is not all bad, even though I owed up to the causing emotional pain. You don’t know if I have ADHD or any condition which prevents me from fulfilling the emotional needs etc.

But because I must accept your advice hook line and sinker, even at the risk of OUR personal safety and long term viability, I’m thus “interested in validating my own thoughts”.

Well done sir.

PS - thanks all for your comments/suggestions. We will seek professional help (from a distance) and follow the process. May God help all of us.

PalestianIsrael:



First time…push and struggle.
Second time…slaps and blows.
Third time…madam brought knives saying I should make the work easier .


Need to get out while I’m still alive. Crazy world.

rayralph:


She’s probably feeling lonely in a strange country.

She’s all you have and most likely venting all on you.

Invest more time in supporting your wife emotionally.

Take time off from work, Travel together.

Christian or Muslim ? , seek counseling and pray together.

Don’t involve the Police yet


Why not start all over again with your wife, just like old times when you first met her.

PalestianIsrael:
Hi Elders,

Had to create a new account to hide my identity.

Need urgent advice. Domestic Violence.

I’m male based in UK.
Wife and I have been having arguments/fights.
Things have gotten physically unfortunately.
She says I trigger her by being on my own when we quarrel about couple issues or when I’m with my phone. She’s told me to leave the house. When I come back at night to sleep or when I’m using my phone/laptop around her, she will come and disturb me and start struggling with phone etc. She has smashed my phone.
I’m really confused. Please help!!!

BuildingProject:


Milk type no matter.
The most important is the milk to change the taste of the kolaq cause it is bitter(Agbo). And so that it can form a perfect smoothie and you can drink it in her presence without you questioned about the buildingproject you wan start. 😂🤣🤣😂

koonbey:
Audacity of Equality. Lol.
[b][/b]
Audacity that makes you hustle to another person’s country and say ‘how much does the average Brit contribute’.

Audacity that foreigners dare not claim in your own country and even you dare not claim in states that are not of your ‘origin’, often on pain of death.

The tone-deafness and arrogance in holding others to standards we don’t hold ourselves to is so astonishing, honestly.

koonbey:


Just one question, please: How does this policy violate the Equality Act, 2010?

koonbey:
Audacity of Equality. Lol.

Audacity that makes you hustle to another person’s country and say ‘how much does the average Brit contribute’.

Audacity that foreigners dare not claim in your own country and even you dare not claim in states that are not of your ‘origin’, often on pain of death.

The tone-deafness and arrogance in holding others to standards we don’t hold ourselves to is so astonishing, honestly.

koonbey:


As usual, the primary school insults instead of the one simple question you had to answer.

Peerielass:


You were rude with your [b]bla bla bla [/b]comment. It was totally uncalled for.

Everything you’ve highlighted above is paid for by both immigrants and citizens and like I said before, see the double taxation as you call it as the small price you have to pay to get British citizenship for you and your entire household. In 5 years time when you finally get BC, you will look back and say to yourself, yes it was worth it. And then you will Japa to Australia and start the whole process all over again 👍

To your other question as to whether it is fair? Nothing in life is fair - that’s why some people are born with a multitude of disabilities through no fault of theirs and others are healthy. Some are born rich and others are born into abject poverty and their entire life is a struggle. When life deals you lemons, you make lemonade and quit complaining.

Zahra29:


Here I am speaking for my "master" again, but do people know that the NHS was founded in 1948
It's not just immigrants putting pressure on the NHS.

{Then how is it the case that it is ONLY the immigrants that are being double-taxed to find the NHS? }


Fact is the NHS would struggle even from the British population alone,

{Does that not call for a critical appraisal of the system and an overhaul to make it fit-for-purpose?
Does that not therefore mean that the British citizens too should contribute their own quota to make it work?
Does that make it justifiable that the solution is to tax immigrants more, while not taxing Citizens?}

So it's not about blame or discrimination, but one of practical solutions.

{Practical solution is to gaslight immigrants?
To me, a practical solution would entail increasing UK exports. Improving UK manufacturing. Revamping UK industries. Investing. Getting a lo more of UK citizens to get off their back side and work.}

Or would you rather the other solution where you don't have to pay IHS

{I would rather have that I pay health tax only ONCE, not pay twice.}

Peerielass:


No need to be rude!

You are assuming this BC has a child lol. What happens to those that are childless either by design or choice or those that rarely fall ill hence never needing the NHS. What category do they fall into in your analogy? These are people that have been paying taxes since graduating from Uni at 22 and are now earning significantly higher income that precludes them from[b][/b] claiming any benefits. I bet they are more hard done in than you and your IHS surcharge.

See that immigration surcharge as the price you pay for all the additional benefit you receive for being in the UK. You can sleep with your eyes closed at night, no noise pollution, you don’t have to pay N1million per term to educate your children, 24hr power supply, excellent transport links, need I say more?

koonbey:


No, actually, the burden is on you as the person who asserted.

Justifiability is an inherently subjective term and there's no possibility of logical evaluation if you don't supply objective standards against which the actions in question can be judged.

But we all know why you cannot mention any countries, and it's because you know your arguments won't stand up to scrutiny if compared to what's obtainable elsewhere.

Therefore they hold no water other than as an outlet for whingeing, which you're entitled to and which is frankly understandable, so I'll dip here with a reminder that just because something is onerous or unfavourable to you doesn't mean it is unjustifiable.

Zahra29:


Not in all cases. For example if they had a spouse or partner who wasn't working a minimum number of hours, their child wouldn't qualify for 30 hours.

There's also a 2 child cap on the number of children you can receive child benefits for.So a British family with 4 British children would only be able to claim on the first 2. That's not fair on the family or children, but this is what was introduced by the Tory gov, along with other painful austerity measures on their citizens.

Peerielass:


In your own words, it’s a lie from the pit of hell that you do not have a choice in the whole process/outcome. You chose to come here and it’s the government’s prerogative to raise revenue anyhow they deem fit. Simples!

For your info and others who are not aware. Not all British citizens are entitled to benefits. With that £59k salary you used in your illustration, you will not be entitled to kobo from DWP. Benefits are means-tested which means your eligibility to claim depends on your level of income and capital including savings.

koonbey:


Compared to which country?

Nigeria? US? The Nordics with their broader social net but much higher taxes? Ghana? Canada?

You've not said anything other than show your salary, unless you can cite the countries where you believe there's better value for money in light of taxes paid/social services received, especially as an immigrant.

You people are making it difficult to engage this topic with your appeal-to-emotion arguments that lack any contextual facts and figures evidence, and that is making responses seem like one just wants to to bash Nigeria, which I am not, as the country has many good parts that I am immensely grateful for.

Anyway, as I said, name the country for your comparison and then we can evaluate if this is justifiable.

Peerielass:


Not sure what point you are trying to make here. Every tax payers money is pumped into NHS, Education, Welfare, State Pension etc irrespective of whether they are BC or immigrant. How about BCs who dont have children (by choice) or those that chose to educate their kids privately - should they begrudge the govt for using their taxes to fund other people’s children’s education? There are also BCs that have never used the NHS before. Some of these folks also can’t claim benefits (not even child benefit which is the easiest to claim) because they earn above the threshold for benefits.

If anything this funding analysi shows the UK government is accountable and transparent. Do you have any idea what the Nigerian government uses the tax payers money for?

Edited to add… when all the new immigrants on this thread eventually get their ILR and citizenship, then you will realise that the job of the guys at Downing Street is to screw you over with their fiscal policies and it’s irrelevant whether you are immigrant or BC, we all have a common enemy.

Lexusgs430:
Now some children in the UK, after the LGBT brainwashing lectures........

Are now deciding to identify as animals.........

Gburu ti wa fa igboo bayi ọ ...........😜😭😂

Viruses:

One thing with people that don't like Christianity is that they spread the word faster.

Please go on and on.

justwise:


Again you are an Alarmist, a closed minded one in that matter, any idea the number of Sexually Explicit verses in the bible? We encourage our kids to read it back to back if bible was writen in this current climate that book will be banned and the author will be jailed.

Efep:
Hello good morning guy's , I'm on the skilled worker visa and 🌞, I've been in the UK for more than three months nw , but my employer is yet to give me job 😔, is there anyway out, who can recommend any agency that I can apply to get job, I live in Greenwich.

lightnlife:
Anyone following the Nottingham story?

Horrifically terrifying!

It was even more disturbing hearing the suspect is a man from West Africa.

Teedol:
Lemonade/ Lemfi is showing exchange rate as £1=949.

Is their a more reliable app with a higher rate? Lemonade is very reliable don't get me wrong.

Lexusgs430:



Till they spring a surprise visit on you (does not always happen)........

And in your living room, is your flat screen on the wall, enjoying EastEnders.........

babajeje123:

Ha, do I have the liver?

Viruses:
How can someone avoid the avoidable with the use of this iptv?

It it by watching only Nigerian channels and avoid channels in the UK like BT Sport?

hustla:


They do, but not by hand

For instance, the first and only time i went to work at a care home, we used hoists; something like a mini human crane

That hoist thing to me is very dangerous cos if you do not take time to strap the patient in well, they can fall and hit their head

I have attached a picture of what it looks like

eyesaswide:
Hello All,

Who knows any company that can help me waybill stuff from Uk to Nigeria at a good rate.

Pacypatty:


Exactly.
The guy don remove mind.
Thanks