ZUBY77:
My wife said yes several times in private before I pretended to kneel and give her ring in a hotel reception where it was only the receptionist watching us.
I don't like too much risks.

I have even introduced her to my mom and went to her place to give them proposal Kolanut first before the reception pretense .

I am too careful to be embarrassed in public.

But simps won't learn .

But if she had said yes several times in private why then the need to still put up a public proposal whether it's just one person present or not?

You went to her family with kolanut, introduced her to your mom, both of you were sure, what else is there? What is the essence or place of this public proposal? Since when did it become some sort of metric or standard? Why do people feel the need to seek validation? What bearing does it have on the marriage proper?

I'd appreciate it if you'd please just enlighten me. Thanks 🙏

kk2027:


This preaching would've been better if preached to the sperm donor that abandoned young kids with their sick mother. He's the one that needed to have mercy on the offsprings he brought to the world.

Now those offsprings managed to survive and are now being blackmailed to help the man. Because they're alive ba?

See, many men have taken advantage of this mercy preaching but when they abandon their families, their hearts are like stone.

Forgiving him is not the issue, even me I've forgiven him on op's behalf but you see that fruit he sowed, reaping is a must.

Upcoming deadbeat fathers must borrow sense. If you bring kids to the world, you're responsible for taking care of them. And these applies to both genders.

When the man abandoned his kids he was giving his attention to someone or some people. It's time to go to those he sowed and reap from them.chikena

He made his mistake, what's done is done.

My point and that of countless others who urged the young man/woman to reverse his/her decision in no way encourages other men to be deadbeats, nahhhhh.. We're saying neglecting the father won't make him any different from the father and the cycle will continue. What lesson are you teaching him when the man is sick and dying?

And you missed the most important point of my previous mention, Mercy and Forgiveness. I asked you a question, have you ever fallen short? If your answer is Yes then what makes you any different from that man?

My father also abandoned us. He wasn't a bad father, but he missed it. Many years ago when we met and spoke man to man i told him of how disappointed i was in him and how he failed as a father but i didn't hold that against him. Myself and my siblings look out for him, only our youngest find it difficult to forgive because he didn't really feel the impact of a father growing up. But that's life, he'll come around eventually as he matures and understand that it is better to not live in anger and unforgiveness towards others, for your own peace.

I specifically mentioned you because you quoted scripture. Meaning you're a Christian. And you can't be a Christian yet preach unforgiveness or returning evil with evil, it means you're not different from an unbeliever. Na Christ talk am, no be me.

Other people may have their views, which is ok too but a true christian will never see the need to recompense evil with evil.

kk2027:


He left the mother and left the children too? Mtchew

@bethanybethel dont let anyone blackmail you into anything you dont want to do.

The bible is clear that God cannot be mocked and whatsoever a man soweth, he reapeth

You're just misquoting the Bible.. Christ hammered on "Mercy". God is merciful and if He thinks upon mercy even when we deserve punishment then who are you to not forgive?

Or do you think you haven't fallen short? There's nothing, i mean absolutely no gain in being unforgiving and wicked, more so to a parent. If the young man doesn't help his father then he has set a bad precedent and karma will dish out same fate to him. You think the father doesn't already realize he did wrong and is paying the price?

If you're truly a child of God then you should understand the place and importance of Mercy and Forgiveness. So don't come and mislead people here. It will be wicked of him not to assist the old man.

If you continue to judge and punish a man for his past mistakes then even you can't be worthy before God, the singular reason is because you're not without blemish. It is that simple, there's no other logic to it.

capricornlady:
So apparently he was already dead when you saw him in the afternoon, it was his ghost that you saw, hmmm..really scary. Not sure you'll ever forget that last encounter you had with him.

Exactly the crux of the story, I'm sure many will miss it. Elder was already dead.

Shît is way more scary than it will ever seem.

R0LL0N:
One thing that surprise me is that Good people died prematurely while the wicked tarry to see old age.

Lol. My bro, such is the mystery of life.

But no one is good really, you can't say. As humans we're all tainted. You aren't different from those you think are terrible and deserve death.

Jeromejnr:


You still have a lot to learn bro.

So much bro.

Creamypie:
Human negligence and unforseen circumstances be the causes, not spiritual

The spiritual aspect of Op's story is that Elder had died before Op saw him that noon. He passed in the morning.

Shit is scary.

Ishilove:
Anyone who says the spiritual does not exist is very naive

Lol, Such people are one-dimensional in their reasoning. With little exposure and knowledge they'll be forming woke.

Mysterious world we are living in. It's deep.

The man na yeye and very irresponsible man. I no blame the wife for her actions one bit, na impulse and she be human, though i will never encourage such.

Don't even remember much, I was in primary 2.....

StrongAlphMale:


He's an Indian

He is British of Indian Origin.

But sincerely, I understood what he meant when he made the statement.... If not that we are currently witnessing a very tensed political atmosphere that virtually everyone is looking to score political points against the other, there shouldn't be any fuss there.

Rotten is worse than bad so that was obviously an expression of sort to drive the point that a terribly hopeless situation could be turned around into one that there could be atleast some hope of things getting even better.

lomaxx:
OMG. Why do we keep losing the good ones?

Just say Rest in Peace and pass...

How do you know he was good even though i understand what you were trying to say?

Urheadmaster:


Thieves probably never took away something that means a lot to you

It doesn't justify jungle justice, nothing does...

Y'all want a better society yet still think and behave like savages.

golor:



Or him get data .mk him check light of Yahweh assembly...

What about light of Yahweh that you've been disturbing everyone with?

I checked them out. Just one random dude and his followers practicing Judaism with a Reverend Kings kinda posturing. Nothing special there.

Samantha123:
She's right.. we South African women don't really care about a man with big bucks because from a very young age we were taught to be independent and work for our money.

Only few of the women are after rich men.

So even if you're just a security guard or a garden boy, when we love you, we love you.

Babes, I'm a former security guard and currently a garden boy

I'm not asking for too, just for your love

onuman:


Igbo kee you hateful mind there.
When you throw hate to the Igbo in Nigeria, and they throw your hate back to you, you call them haters for their reaction.
2023 presidential election is time for you to demonstrate that you are not hateful to the Igbo.
Yoruba and Hausa-Fulani, the two other legs of the tripod holding Nigeria have presided over Nigeria many times. Igbo has not.
It's therefore time to show you are not hatefilled by voting Peter Obi, the most qualified for the job, to succeed President Buhari.
After that, any other Igbo you see reacting to your tantrums, do what you like to him/her.

Abeg go sleep for one corner, nobody dey throw hate to you rather na una get beef with everybody...

You get the hate you give. Your ilks are filled with hate and bile, vengeful etc. Nothing is ever good if it's not yours.

P.S : This isn't a tribalistic comment but facts. Na una dey insult others, curse Nigeria, etc..

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Angelfrost:


So basically.... Peter Obi is the sole threat your Tinubu has to contend with?!!

If that's what you all and your Principal tell yourselves, then una never really serious about winning this election!

This is election season so what he does is expected. We also have those whose job it is to mention and demarket Tinubu here, they're almost on all threads and are obidients, they get the most likes for their posts too.

Even though i don't like how they all go about it, such has become very normal these days since 2014, it has become part of our polity.

Loyalists will find ways to demarket the opposition, there's no fuss there.

Make we hear word abeg...

Rozross:
This wizkid has over time shows through his actions that he doesn’t love this boy much and it’s heartbreaking that the boy has grown to realise that

The way some of you interpret things most times ehn, na wa...

Did you not hear in the said clip that the boy had earlier called the father? Also they were having a good laugh as the other suggested Tife may be asleep and wiz said he doesn't sleep by 7. The young lad missed the call, he probably wasn't close by the phone and would definitely give a call back.

Make una dey easy abeg..

Why she come resemble Tboss?

Congratulations to her and very happy birthday. 50 years no be beans.

Theunbothered:


She's pulling out every excuse possible from her anus to avoid doing her job.

That woman is known to be very lazy and deaf to the plight of Nigerians abroad.

As long as the people hold Nigerian passport it is her duty to bring them back, they will sort out who is a convict or not when they get here.

I believe your point is out of order bros.

Theunbothered:






Did you read the article?

They are already in custody demanding to be brought back so what exactly is the problem?

Did you also read that there's a procedure to be followed?

PeachtreeReside:



Im always glad when I read sensible responses that does not encourage bad behaviour.

Sebi, most want to japa. Why do we not make effort to behave in well mannered ways?

Simple instruction they won't follow and bring it to the Internet and lie boldfaced and without shame too.

Don't mind them. Agenda must agend na. Many Nigerians in the diaspora take bad behavior to a whole nother level.

I mean, I'm not a fan of the Fg but one thing i won't do is critique it unjustly. Not a hypocrite.

PeachtreeReside:
She said they did not follow laid down procedures and here you are all asking if they are Nigerians.


Let us learn to subject ourselves to laws, order, orderliness as well as good conduct.

We keep shaming ourselves with our bad behaviour and do not realise how a pariah status hurts us.

We don't want to be accountable yet we want full benefits.

The bolded says it all.

slimthugchimee2:






Even with the summary of the post highlighted so it could make it easier for y'all to read, you still can't read it

Shameful

Don't mind them. They're always in the habit of criticizing the government. Nothing will ever satisfy their ilks..

Esiem:
So it's better to abandon them?

That's not her point...

They should comply with the already laid down procedures for their evacuation rather than resort to media blackmail thereby complicating an already bad situation.

Wisetrue99:
Is this woman an ambassador or an enemy

What did she say that is out of order?

EndsarsReloaded:
Some foolish bigots mentioned Enugu and Umuahia and Abakiliki? Only hate mixed with ignorance can make one to say such fallacy.

How many state capitals in the SW can beat these 3 cities above?

SMH.

But you didn't see the bigoted fellow who first mentioned Osogbo and still claiming to be from Illesha whereas he's from the South East.

He did that because he wanted to troll just as he's known to taunt Tinubu and anything Yoruba here, some others from the South West do same to you guys.

When you want to condemn or criticize please do so fairly.

P:S - I am not in support of tribalism.

Arielle:

She didn't ask you. She can never ask you!

Blessing Okagbare, I'm sorry ma.

Artificial beauty..... Mbanu, I'll pass, tenks ..

gidgiddy:



The job of the security agents is to investigate, arrest and charge to court

Their job is not propaganda, arresting someone and recording them saying what you want them to say so you can put it on social media.

Whatever... Y'all have always maintained that IPOB/ESN don't kill or Igbos don't kill Igbos so nothing changes afterall.

When your people are ready and tell yourselves the truth then we can start from there. For now, enjoy the monsters you created.

P:S - I'm not heartless, not happy about your predicament but you people are refusing to take responsibility.