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Captaincee:
You all are confusing me wahalai..... If the guy was a caller, you all would say he is a lovesick puppy, not man enough.... Now he ain't calling regularly, he is a 'player, he wants only sex etc'

Ffs how do you all want men to behave?

001spice
waleadeagb
Chii59
LucyB24
RedPanthar

I didn't pin the blue on the man. I told her to find a balance with work so she can develop her relationship. I also made it clear the man should get angry and has the right to and he would return


I also believe a man considering a lady for marriage should not ask for her nudes. Guess what I won't even save my wife's nude on my phone. Never


I also said if he gets back she needs to know where he stays and whom he's associated with. Have I done wrong in any of these?

Thattallgirl:
Thanks again

It's a lovely piece and I'll love to add something little. To my understanding, men looking for a wife should pray for a prudent wife. And for every lady u come across, ask God to reveal her true nature to u. No matter how much she hides it just to get married, it'll come out. And look out for someone will similar beliefs and aspirations with you. So many men enter relationships and marriages and can't have an interesting conversation with their partners cos they have nothing in common to discuss. The husband can't talk about his work cos the wife doesn't understand it or care to understand, nor can the wife talk about hers.

This is just the little I can add

Woow.


Your brain is on fire. Wow


You're loaded


Wow wow wow


I love the salient points you raised. Just how. If many lovers follow this little tips you dropped, the world would be 1 degree saner and we'd have fewer issues


This part here " And for every lady u come across, ask God to reveal her true nature to u"

If only people would heed thus advice. I've asked God to reveal the true character of a few persons around me before and what revealed itself was disgusting

Ishilove:
You need to get prescription glasses as a matter of urgency.

As expected. Get your negative hateful energy off my mentions. I see way beyond words.

addexx:
You sir are an emeritus of crafting

Yes, but I left more important points out


1. She's living her place of. Comfort

2. She's going to his place of comfort

3. She sends her nuts, he's holding on to something

4. She has nothing to hold on to beyond feeling

5. She practically had SEX whether it's called sex chat with a total stranger

6. The relationship is floating in the air and isn't grounded

7. A man considering a woman for marriage shouldn't be placing strong emphasis on nudes, which means the two of them yes may have love between them have a mixture of love and lust at the same time

8. She needs to focus more on the psyche, behavior, how he processes anger, dissapointment


9. The relationship is on a fast lane


10. They both need to plan otherwise distance and separation would rock the boat

Nice piece


Cc Thattallgirl

MrJavaS:
Doesn't matter, just try and have peace of mind. He ain't the only man in the world

I ain't him bro

Ishilove:
Heh. This must be the most unrealistic 'advice' on the thread

Okay Madam. I spotted your subtle and discreet ENVY though

Shiooor

litaninja:
This guy.....you this guy.....lol. This guy, na guyman.

The boss is doing it deliberately so she doesn't have a relationship she thinks it's about skillet, I only opened her eyes nothing more

Cuppy that

lookingfly:
I am the guy you're advising her against..... I've read this so i will prepare and watch out for her antics

How did I advice her against you?

Tell me I want to know. Let's talk it out here

stephleena:
buhahaha

Restore your picture with the side eyes jooor. Missed looking up your profile just to view it and smile

Cashsteady:
Untill igbo's start replicating the same in their land.. we can't continue to be the father Christmas of all tribe in Nigeria. Almost every tribe are running to the west daily in massive numbers, overpopulating our cities and putting pressure on our resources why there own region is almost like desert.. The Yorubas are not even liked in igboland, they deny us job and houses but cry tribalism when such are done here.. enough is enough

Are you based in the SE? If you are, share your experiences

Question for you thattallgirl

MrJavaS:
I would have adviced you but I'm assuming that the guy is also reading this thread

That's the same fear I have. That the guy would see this thread and it is what would create problems between them

TeeFriz:
Thank you.
So much negativity on this thread. Funny how they could figure out the intention of the guy by what they read which isn't the full details of the love story between them.

That's the problem with the world. Too much toxicity. My fear from people like the OP who come to social media space of which I reiterate most times is be careful. When you come into public space not all counsels comes from a place of " healthy psyche ", many people aren't whole and by extension their counsels are purely negative and when these counsels are received without filtering by a discerning audience, it creates problem that weren't meant to occur in the first place.


How the thread manages to have 95% negative information is a direct indicator that the society isn't whole atall.


I hope and pray the OP is discerning enough to not take in too many of the negative information on the thread


Cc: LucyB24

OJURONGBE1:
In as much as you made salient points but you're indirectly setting her up to be fired from her job unless her role is so important that she's irreplaceable.

I felt this way too towards someone who i have been friends with for 5years after our meet at NYSC Camp . We talk on the phone almost everyday, she shared her deepest secrets with me , introduced me to her family members whenever she come to Lagos, that i had to tell her last year when we met how i have grown fond of her and would love to date her . I thought she felt same way from the tone of her voice and the beam on her face , not knowing she still had a thing for one of her lover, who she is secretly begging to give her a second chance at love.

Whenadies miss the age gap of 22 and 26 to build relationships at the expense of work they suffer along time for it. A lot. She needs to reduce the dependency they have for her at work so she can begin to cultivate a relationship

hismerhill:
May God bless you sir. Me I know say reasonable people dey this forum, they only comment when necessity requires. God bless once more

Amen

Thattallgirl:
Exactly! "Christ-like" unbelievers are meant to see every Christians that way.

And thank you All glory to God

E-hug

Thattallgirl:
Honestly. I don't know if there's a Bible verse in the new testament that Jesus called us God's servant or slave. He introduced us as God's children, heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ. People see God as one tall old man with white beards holding a scepter and ever ready to hit their heads when they fail. Whereas it is written that He'll never leave us not forsake us. Emphasis on the NEVER. Why didn't the scripture say He'll never leave us ONLY when we are doing right? It doesn't say that.

Again, in John 3:16, Jesus said God SO LOVED the world. It doesn't say "Christian world". He loves every soul out there. It's just up to us to choose to receive His love and flow in it, and watch as we're being led to do believe right and do right.

It's really a beautiful relationship when you see God as your loving and lovely Abba Father

Like Jesus would say, flesh and blood did not reveal this to you. You're blessed. Your knowing comes from a place of revelation, the revelation comes from a place of what we call, the burning altar of a thriving relationship. It's from a relationship with the right posturing with God that true understanding comes. That's where you are.


It's not as simple as plain knowing. It comes because you have a burning relationship that makes you function and flow In a place of knowing that He's a lover and bridegroom and not a punisher and emperor.


When people have better understanding and revelation, they begin to become more Christ-like, I admire your understanding

RussellUba:
Thank you.
Any idea how much it will cist to produce them?
The issue with that might be the time that it will take to have them produce cos they are needed urgently.

If it's urgent and know someone in Lagos tell them to. Go to Agege and buy them in that case. Before you visit multiple locations you should get it in bits and pieces

Dodgy title


If Buhari built the bridge then Buhari killed endSARS protesters

If it were Lagos Agege is the place to get them


Since the quantity needed is much why not have them produced and the cost factored into product sales

Thattallgirl:
Yes it is. Many have turned Christianity to certain laws and rules and doctrines you must follow to win God's approval. If this is right, Christ wouldn't have said He's come to fulfill the law. Christ introduced God to us as Father. He used "Father" more than He used "God". Jesus also said the way to the Kingdom of Heaven is by being like a child.

How do children behave with their loving fathers? They talk to them about everything, play with their fathers, believe everything the fathers tell them without an iota of doubt, and allow their loving fathers hold their hands while their fathers lead and direct them.

So that's my answer for you. That's the relationship we're to have with our Abba Father through Christ Jesus who is the Way, and the Holy Spirit is there to guide us concerning the laws, as it is written that He'll write His laws in our hearts. So, forget about the rules and doctrines and allow the Holy Spirit to lead you in doing right and having a beautiful relationship with your Abba Father. When you know how much God loves you, you'll be filled with love and naturally begin to love those around you and find yourself doing the right things.

That's what I believe our relationship with God is supposed to be.

Woow. So apt, it's divine


Too bad when I feel, see and hear God, God, God in people's discussions about God and I wonder Where's " Father ".

lereinter:
The guy is a fool

I swear down. It's an overreaction. Not considering he's making her worried sick. The guy no try

Mcslize:
He is angry because he has already spent money putting things in place.

But of a truth anyone will feel disappointed especially when you've taken your time to arrange things in place just for the comfort of the person that is visiting.

Another thought in the guy's mind is: he feels the babe was playing games with him. Like he feels she is not serious for the fact that she repeatedly asserted she was coming. And as there was change of plans, she would have inform him on time that she couldn't be able to make it. She informed him too late. That's where the whole annoyance is coming from.

A man that is mature in a mature relationship should not ghost his partner beyond 24 hours. Anything beyond 24 hours is subjecting the other party to emotional trauma and psychological trauma. If he reconnects with her, this is going to be one of the things she needs to talk with him about.


She may have ticked the boxes about the guy based on physical qualities but this issue gives her the opportunity to look beneath the surface


Anyone that ghosts me beyond 2 days is already considering getting out of my life. Can't tolerate people who make me worry

zedegit:
Agreed to pay isn't tenable. There's no guarantee he would. He could claim his having issues with his bank or even change it to kidnap or anything.

That op may even lose more money at gun point.

I think nairaland has featured such story before.

Involving money issues early in any relationship is even a no-no. One or two arguments, it ruins or colors the relationship

Godsgal:
I woke up this morning early as usual to prepare for work but was forced to stay back for a while cos of the heavy downpour. I was still a bit early so i laid down to sleep again. Minutes later, the rain subsided but i discovered i was already running late. I rushed out of the house forgetting my transport fare. Cos i was behind time, i chose to take the red Lagbus instead of going to wait for the blue BRT. I wasnt bothered about standing at all. I got inside the Lagbus and as expected, all eyes were on me(Odd one out, i guess).

Conductor strolled to my side and asked for my cash. In between trying to hold on to the rails for stability, I searched frantically for the money that was supposed to be in my bag. Chai. I was embarrassed. I Couldn't even raise my head. I kept searching. It later dawned on me that i had no money. I resigned to fate and waited for the worst to happen. SHOUTS and INSULTS.
I was actually in for a shocker when the conductor smiled at me and said; u don forget am abi. Chai. That feeling! I nodded in affirmative.
He smiled again and left. Oh God. Such a relief. I kept thanking him till i got down at my bus stop. Lol

Smiles

Leriebloom:
Uhrobo. Delta state

My sister

Speak with a lawyer

I can design all your company graphics.

Jodha:
I no understand yhu o...oga

Take am like that o. Take me as you see me

BaddieFreak:
None of you disputed everything I said simply because it is the truth. All you do is to curse and insult someone you have never met before. Yeye

Leave my brothers o

You've done well. You've earned my respect. Strong. Woman