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tbvh, it's been a very good discussion so far on this thread.

ubunja:
but you guys never help other guys. For example How many guys give another guy a lift in a car?

now we are entering into another zone entirely... but this case happens very well.. guys help guys.. personally for me I find it very easy to helping a man in need than a woman in need. it doesn't change who I am.

most simps are more eager to help women (even when they don't need it) than men because they want to get along with them so they think the right way to go is by doing something for her. the intentions and actions is very different in this case. most men, prolly simps are eager to help women because they believe they can get the cookie or win her over through that way.

ubunja:
you missed my point....

And expecting compensation for services rendered has nothing to do with self-control but about knowing your Worth and valuing your time and abilities. You wouldn't call a plumber and expect him to have "self-control" and not ask for compensation. Why is asking a woman to compensate you wrong when I've abundantly made it clear if you're morallly unable to get sex then get something else?!

Nothing is free in this world. This "give without expecting anything back" thing is really giving "I don't value my worth and I'm to afraid to ask for what I really want" vibes.

of course I get you bro but lol that is not always the case @emboldened

it depends on your intentions on why you're doing what you're doing. if you're doing it in hope to collect something from them then it is something different. so giving something for free or helping someone is now translated to what you mean? must you always collect something back when you help someone either man or woman? it might mean that to you but not to me.

Tonnyray:
You ended up repeating exactly what I said in my last sentence.

alright... I only just emphasized on never take a woman's rejection to heart because I know how they are wired and what makes them tick.

ubunja:
I thought as much because if even myself I was doing something out of the goodness of my heart genuinely expecting nothing back it will sting to learn others are hitting that thing without doing anything.

So what's the way forward here...

that means you are doing it because you wanted to hit, so why don't you go straight to the point... you were expecting something in return in this case... if not, you won't be be hurt if someone else is hitting it...

and by the way, must you hit every girl that comes your way? what happens to self-control?

Tonnyray:
Truth.
However if 3 out of 5 women you indicate interest in reject you, don't just brush it aside, use it as fuel to better your person. No matter how aloof we want to feel, women are an important part of a normal man's life. Learn to use everything; both successes and rejections to achieve one singular purpose: capacity building that dovetails into wholesome (all round) self betterment .

yeah bro.. understood.. but I wouldn't stress on bettering myself solely because of women or taking a woman's rejection to heart because I know they aren't stable beings... today they may like you while tomorrow, you may be the one they hate the most. only my grind and hustle is stable... it doesn't matter if you're a better person or not, there will always be someone better and that someone better also has also faced rejection one way or the other.

only strive to improve yourself in all areas of life, most especially your career, not only women... improve your career, improve your lifestyle and smv will rise automatically and women will flow as well

ubunja:
if guys are giving without expecting anything back then it shouldn't be a problem when the same women go on to sleep with other men. There should be no hard feelngs and no feelings of betrayal.

sure bro. to each his own.

ubunja:
and that's true. No guy can be liked by everyone.
My point here is if a girl comes to you for favors learn to ask "And what I do get in return?!". Don't be out here being father Christmas dishing out your time and energy. You don't see women dishing puccy to every guy who wants it. They make sure they get compensation. Always mimick women and return their energy. Or it will be tears for you.

yeah bro. Cool. unless I'm not interested in the girl or don't really want anything to do with her.. but if I'm interested it's either she pay back in cash or kind .. sometimes you just give out without expecting anything in return. nice one bro.

ubunja:
the game is ruthless. I always tell people when it comes to these girls "sex first, any other business after", but people say I'm promoting hedonism. Look now you're salty another guy has gone ahead of you and tasted the cookie while you "bid your time ". And you'll be dumb to think he's the only one. He's just the only one YOU KNOW.
Women have only one thing to offer, and thats puccy, if you act like you're special and you don't want it, guess what? Guys with no shame who know their worth and go after what they want will jump you and hit it and you'll be left behind " still bidding your time". And it's not even about being thirsty but being clear with a girl that with you there's nothing for free. If sex is too immoral for you to get in exchange for favors then she better square you by doing you solid favours that may not include sex, but guess what again? You'll still be salty and angry when you learn other guys are getting that puccy while you get mere favours. So its just best to go for sex straight....but there's an art to this or else you come across as a perv.

nice one ubunja, but one thing men should always note is that, not every girl will fall for you, no matter your game or no matter how good you are. if you dey follow girl talk and she dey do anyhow, just forget about her.. it simply means she doesn't feel you.. no bother stressing yourself further.. real attraction have no stress or much excuses involved. if you know your aim is to get on with her, go with that hands on. if you know your aim is business, go on with that hands on. just go for what you want. and if she ain't giving you what you want, leave her.. shikena.

rejection is part of the game and it doesn't mean you're not doing things right or you're doing it wrong. rejection is part of the game. many men seems to forget that and feel sad when things don't go the way they expected. rejection is part of the game. rejection shouldn't make you feel less.. na lack of abundance mentality, lack of options and low self esteem dey cause that one. too much of expectations too from our end breaks our heart when things don't go the way we expected. shalom.

Degrezhaa:
Yes i am.
Thank you

hey man! I wanted to message you yesterday on this, but was carried away by something else. my deep condolences bro. I'm deeply sorry to hear that and may he rest in perfect peace.

Wonderfulman95:
I'm not insecured neither have I said I'm in love with her.
What shocks me is that I have invited her to my house once so we can chill & catch fun (sexually) & she declined & was forming that she may come the next day.
On the next day, she stylishly left hurriedly with an excuse & that made me feel that she probably doesn't wanna visit me.
I also once teased her that she should come & be staying with me since she is not comfortable squatting with her siblings in one room & I live alone.
Guess her response? She read sexual meaning into my offer & told me that I have evil plans ( sexual ) & she will not stay with me.
Those 2 incidents made me to foolishly conclude that she may be all these self righteous girls with no interest in sexual stuffs..
My only issue is that she was hidding her underground interactions with my snaky guy. At least she should have notified me about her interest inAkin since she knows we are close.

me I understand what you're trying to say... normally your friend suppose tell you, but saying the girl betray you is out of it completely.. did your friend Akin betray you, yes, maybe, because of you guys relationship together but you're only more annoyed and exaggerating because you sef like the girl and she nor gree for you, she gree for your friend... that was also the reason why you had to bring the issue of saying I helped him do this, I helped him do that, the guy is low in status, he nor get house and all those stories that touch... see ehn me I go tell you as the thing dey hot..

you are only annoyed because you sef wan chop the girl or maybe you don fall for am sef, you sef just dey form and wetin con dey pain you pass be say she nor gree for you, she con gree for your friend wey nor dey even do anything for am... nor be you go tell Bimpe wetin she go do naa... she doesn't want to tell you about him because she doesn't want to lose the friendship she has with you and the tutorials wey you dey give am... and for your friend, he doesn't want to hurt you that's why I feel he kept quiet about it, but I too feel he suppose tell you as e dey go anyways...

you talk say you get babes plenty... leave the girl matter face your life. girls plenty for this life. your friend should have told you sha, that's for sure... you registering a new account to post this shows how the thing dey hot for your body.. it also reveal what I need to know about how you feel for the matter.

Its not because your friend didn't tell you about their relationship that's really making you angry, and it's not as if you guys are dating or she's your girlfriend, it's the fact that Bimpe chose that guy easily over you despite you trying to win her over. just move on bro. women plenty and dey careful around the people you surround yourself with. trust no one most especially when it involves the opposite sex. don't let a woman be the reason for you guys to stop talking or relating with each other and always be prepared for betrayal from anybody, so that when the thing happen, e nor go too shock you.

Nyascobar1414:
una dey get strength and time oo..
Al these stress all for pu.c.cy...

The moment you cum, you gonna be like why did I undergo all theses just for this organ

naaah... you don't get the point. sometimes it is not only just about women or pussy. that's just what you see to it... see ehn, if you know your way around women, you'll know your way around so many things in life.

to always win against women, you have to be equipped with almost the same skills that will push you far in life. for example, the skills or knowledge you need to win against women are almost also what you need in life to be outstanding..

/ bold, exciting, confidence, ruthlessness, prudence, learning to dress smartly, self development, communication skills, learning about human psychology and like that...

it's not just about women bro.

I use to tell people that seduction is not moral.. it doesn't matter who the girl is or appear to be. seduction is lust. when talking to girls, don't just talk like someone who is like a friend to her will say..

some people will think that because she appears churchy or appear homely, they don't want to look as the bad guy or someone who just wants to have sex... lol wetin you wan con do before? so why not start then? why beating round the bush? you have to be able to speak or act sexual, or romantic to the girl you're trying to be with. it will help in the long run. she might pretend to be angry but that's what will make you seem different from the guys chasing her.. she will always think about how you made her feel or what you said to her. forget all about that "acting hard to get" scam ... na normal shakara thing wey woman go do be that ..

but a lot of men lack game and good communication skills. boldness and confidence is lacking in lot of men today. always remember, gaming women never stops even after you get married to her.

I think the problem with some men is that, they can't decipher the women looking for relationship from the women just looking to have fun.

If you talk about having a relationship commitment with a girl who just wants to have fun, she will friendzone you or just use you as her MEAT supplier, or backup. some women just wants you to hit, have fun with them for the time being. talking about commitment before she does is an attraction killer.

most modern women these days don't really care about being in a serious relationship until they have almost hit the wall or when they've hit the wall after going riding through a storm of dicks during their most fertile years. these girls nor dey smile again nowadays. open your eyes.

Wonderfulman95:
Pls, Ubunja, Martinez, CaveAdullam, Sajmark & other redpillers in the house, help me iron out this issue.

I'm a student in one of the private universities in Ogun state Nigeria.
I met a young girl & we vibed well initially, me explaining some difficult areas in Maths for her & even gisting with her.
I was still studying the girl cos she seemed to be churchy & decent both in dressing & behaviour.
In the course of my interactions, I made so many friends, both guys & girls.
This girl, Bimpe (not her real name) was forming for me when I invited her to visit my house, so I didn't ask her again.
I was still bidding my time to make sexual moves on her because I was distracted by so many other girls that I was chyking.
Now, among my guys was a young fellow called Akin (not real name).

nawa oo, why do I read insecurities in this your write-up.. you say you have many girl at your disposal yet, you don fall in love with this one.

Bimpe nor like you, but she like your friend, how that one take be problem. what I just saw that your friend did was, he would have told you about it. but saying Bimpe betrayed you is the biggest joke. she nor send you na. and saying you want to revenge and get back on her is screaming insecurities.

you're saying your friend can't even measure to your standard and saying you have even helped him in maths is another joke, what does that have to do with attraction? you saw her as churchy girl, that's why she forms for you. your friend didn't see her as churchy girl that's why she didn't need to form for him which makes it easy for her to get attracted to him. doing tutorials for them doesn't mean they will fall for you, sometimes it happens, and sometimes it doesn't. if you're the one that initiated the tutorial, there is a probability that she will friendzone you or won't find you attractive.

always hit the nail on the head about what you want from a woman you're with.

to buttress my point further, I will share the experiences that I've had with women...

illimitable men maxims says

"Women detest criticism and judgement in any form. even when intended constructively, they will misperceive an attack upon their reputation. women can't handle criticism. they ask for the truth out of ego and self-importance, but they cannot handle it. hence why people tend to use baby talk with women and sugar-coat things rather than telling it like it is"

another one says,
"Don't mention the red pill to women, just practice it. they will hate the ideas, but love the effects"

mentioning redpill facts to women, especially the ones you're attracted to will most likely make them avoid you because what they will refer to it is misogyny, hatred against women and all that, and women can't handle the truth, even if you mean well for them. this is why the people who are honest and nice with women don't get laid. women don't care about your honesty. being honest with the truth don't get them wet. by practicing it, you make it more likely for the redpill tactics to be much more effective on them. if you mention it to a woman who's woke, it will make it less effective on her and she will be able to prepare a counter attack. they will hate the ideas if you mention it to them, but will love the effects it is having on them. the moment you mention to them that this is what you're using on them, it won't move them anymore... the charm will spoil and no longer effective.

redpill is like kayamanta, as long as you don't realise that you're affected by kayamanta, it will continue to be effective on you

before I started posting redpill truths and tactics on my wall back then, there was this girl I got talking with online and she has fallen head over heels and already been planning to visit me, she even told me she had a boyfriend, me I nor kuku send am, she still says we have to meet. before she got attracted to me, I employed a series of redpill tactics on her which makes it easy for her to fall... lol I know my way around them. it was not long after I started posting redpill tactics for my friends (both men and women) for them to see and learn thinking I was doing something great, or showing my macho self , I noticed she started distancing herself from me, not replying very well and all that... as a redpill guy, I nor bother to ask her wetin dey sup, I just leave her in order not to seem desperate.. she commented on some of the posts when I first started but as time goes by she just ignores... I noticed that spoilt that chemistry we had from the begining, although we still talk but I don't think it will be possible anymore.

same thing happened to the women wey we dey vibe together before, the connection somehow reduced because what I was posting was kinda hurting to them... "like avoid damaged woman, don't marry a girl that's this and that, avoid non virgins, avoid hoes blah blah and all others".. it really dealt with the relationships we had together and even with some guys too. they started seeing me differently from that day onwards. and it wasn't like that when I haven't mention what I was using on them to get them attracted to me.

If people dont know that you're wicked, they will continue to associate themselves with you, but the moment they find out, they will avoid you, or use it against you.


in everything you do, always remember law 3 of Robert Greene which says "hide your intentions" and also remember the unwritten law in the laws of power which says "do not talk about the tactics you use".. this one dey very important especially with women. I call it the 49th law.

ubunja:
Truth or Fiction? Interesting nonetheless...

yeah bro, whether true or not, this is just a further proof of what the redpill has talked about... just typical female nature. pure intersexual dynamics..

JESHAL:
The caliber of woman you decide you commit to and settle down with has a big influence in your future regardless of the efforts you put into the works of your hands, commiting to the wrong woman can tarnish your reputation, damage you emotionally, derail your success path by altering your destiny.

this should be stamped at the deepest part of your heart in order to keep reminding yourself anytime you decide to commit. you're given the luxury of time as a man, rushing to commit might lead to your death.

if you like yourself, stay away from her. but if you don't like yourself, go and meet her.

Thanks @Cave. You explained it effortlessly.

fattprince:
Hoping I will commit, maybe but she once asked me if I want to marry her or just baby mama. I didn't answer, I just teased her. Then months later I told her I want a baby from her. So I don't know if she's hoping. Overinvested? No, though she sacrificed and provided for me at some point. Invested, maybe but over I don't think so.

alright. no wahala bro.

fattprince:
Not fair. You just didn't want to argue further, you know he's wrong. A girl chose me and even till now I still don't know why. She has a suitor that it was the guy's mum who introduced them and the guy disturbing her but still with me. It's only distance that is fucking us up. After not reaching out for like months and I feel it's ended bam she calls and then we talking again till ghost mode cycle continues. I'm sure she wants to end it due to my indifference attitude, she just couldn't. She prefers to hope that one day we will come together. I ain't marrying though

she was attracted to you because of something, only if you don't know what that thing is... the suitor disturbing her don't qualify for the kind of man she'd want that's why.. once a better option pops up, she will leave you. simply put, she lacks better options.

you might have imprinted your signature on her through the time you spent together which makes it seems hard for her to leave completely or the man she has been meeting ain't up to her standard she measured through you, so it seems she has nowhere to go, that's why she keeps coming back hoping you'll commit.

women rarely leave a man to stay with a man lower in standard than the previous man she was with unless she has no other options or has overinvested.

sajmark:
Women marry the type of men that you referred to, they don't necessarily simp for them. Most of the type of men you mentioned fall under the BETA bucks category and they hardly even turn women on.
Haven't you seen where a girl bills her rich boyfriend then go spend the money on her other broke boyfriend? I've seen broke boys that support and connive with their babes to go on dates with rich guys and then bring the money she got back to the broke guy.
I've also seen a woman that loves a rich guy but genuinely don't want to extort him, she will have a need for money but he's the last person she'll tell.

I will agree to disagree but just know that she didn't just love you bro. you must be offering or giving her something or doing something for her to stay... in cash, kind or whatever. she didn't just choose you bro, she saw something in you... and if you no longer supply or give her what she was attracted to in you, she will leave you.

sajmark:
100% true. Women simp too.
when it comes to simipng, men make about 70% while women occupy the remaining 30% of the Simping chart. Men naturally fall for girls too quickly and easily, a Man can go to church in the morning and like a girl or two, on his way back he might like a girl or two, later in the evening he goes out to chill and he likes another girl or two.
Unlike women that can like only one guy for years, this is why we said guys should look out for girls that likes or chooses them... A girl that chooses you will simp so hard for you.

yeah women simp but not for low value guys or someone who doesn't have a future or anything to offer them. but a man can simp even for a low value girl, damaged woman

chikasnight:
There'll always be simp men, and there'll always be simp women. The world can never run out of these people and the simp on the both side is always exploited. It's just left for one to chose which he want to become, help those who want and are willing to be helped and leave the ignorant to burn...

the thing is that, if things are still going well for you, or you haven't gotten burnt yet, you'll reject the redpill unless you were exposed early through upbringing, experience, or your environment.. you'll even defend the simping act with all your power. simping will seem rational to you.

getting unplugged from the matrix takes some special power.

Oshokhai69:
You were attracted to your dad as a child?

where is your mind drifting to?

odinson1:
What kind of A fetish is this?
This simpism knows no bounds,it actually happens in real life incase y'all were saying it's just a Photo. Even BDSM stuff sef many men dey like am. They love being submissive and having women control them,which Encourages this simping nonsense.
Ass eating,p$$y eating,foot fetishes and all other nonsense,were not apart of our culture and tradition. We copied them from the westerners and that is one of the reasons we have weak submissive men today

this is true... never underestimate the lengths a simp can go to just to simp.

Cheasystickylov:
in a house where the woman calls the shot, children are attracted to their father. Children are attracted to the simp in the home, because the simp in the home is the one that tolerate their bullshit All of you look back and see who you were more comfortable with as a child. This will tell you who was really running your family. If you were cool with your dad, then just know your dad was the simp and your mum was in charge.

lol this is not always true though, just some or few. I was attracted to my dad more as a child sef than adult.. and he was always in control.

it depends on how you relate with your kids... you don't get to be tough on your kids always. it actually spoils your relationships with them. you can still be in control without you acting like a simp. just don't overdo everything...

I've seen so many cases like this.

Jeon:
He's scared because of the previous terrible experience[s] he went through in the hands of Men in his past life.

I nor understand why you just nor wan get sense. when dem dey share sense for your area, e be like say dem send you message that time.
ASUU, you do this one!!

the mad man wan impress olosho

DonnyE:
I just got this for my Note 8T. Is it safe?

1) I'm not using your type of device.
2) I haven't updated mine ever since I bought it because of update issues, so I don't know about it.
3) I think some people have updated to this version (but different phone model) and it was good
4) tag atheist or genius to tell you more about it.
5) you can try to read update reviews on it online like gsmarena or some other forums like that to find out more about it. any decision you make, just tread safely.

JESHAL:
Hmmmmmmm

of course there's some degree of truth to this post... just like you shouldn't trust a girl's words but should watch her actions, there are some times her words reveal the kind of person she is or what she will do or capable of doing, same applies to clothing.

how she speaks, dresses also talks about who she is on an average level. you can use how she speaks and the type of dressing she wears most to judge her. she can't fake who she truly is for a long time. unfortunately, with time it will all be revealed. don't ignore even the minor signs.

remember a girl who thrives on attention and always making herself available on social media is one of the biggest red flags, and these type of women are mostly the kind who dresses inappropriately, whilst posting thirst trap contents on social media. you suppose don know wetin her type fit do.