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it's true, but if that what's hold your relationship together, if your relationship is based on "as long as money nor finish for my hand, my wife nor go leave me", I'm sorry bro, you're not in a relationship... and believe me, you'll die before your time because you'll keep chasing what's not chasing you... I know all women love money, but if the woman you're dating is overly money conscious or her love for materiality is up the scale, you should probably let her go... and if she can't in anyway help you free your burdens once in a while, that's not a woman you should be with... that's a leech...

signs of an inexperienced man, whining over a lost spanner... I would never quite understand the reason why a man would be whining like a pvssy this way... these modern men are fvcking weak!!

the girl you're probably giving yourself sleepless nights over is probably riding another dick right now, that's even if she hasn't been riding it while in the relationship with you... you said you saw red flags in her and you called it quit, so why whining like she is the one with your soul? na people like you women dey show shege later for marriage simply because "you couldn't live your life without her and chose to ignore the glaring red flags" and y'll disturb the internet later with "hide my identity, I caught my wife cheating.." you're fvcking weak man!! get yourself over and face the most important things in your life! stop whining like an unfed infant!! these women don't care about your fvcking feelings!

you're probably pained because you invested your life in the relationship as most simps does and I don't blame you, the illusion of love had you in chains and blocked your capacity for logical thinking... now your eyes are opened, but I don't think they are quite opened yet, because you sound like someone who centers his world around the woman he's dating... I pity you bro because if you don't delete that mindset, you'll cry!!

and I don't usually understand why people are quick to bring redpill when something like this happens... redpill doesn't say you shouldn't love or respect the woman you are in relationship with, it states that you shouldn't let emotions blind your eyes, worship women, or revolve your life around a woman so as to satisfy her... it tells you not to ignore red flags, use common sense and tread carefully when you're in relationship with them... it also teaches you to expect nothing and expect everything... it makes you stay on alert... I would never see a logical reason why a man would be crying over a pvssy when he has the power to marry or date as many as he wants... the day you discover the power you hold as a man is the day you get free from the shackles of the opposite sex, for now, keep living in your delusion and keep crying over spilled milk...

why do women feel the need to flaunt or publicise to the world when they get their man something?

pansophist:
And such men without discipline destroy it for men with discipline.

Lots of women are genuinely shocked when they see that a man can appreciate their beauty without necessarily being interested in entering the place. Such men are not what they are used to, and it saddens them when they can't have leverage over a man with the implied promise of sex.

You need a small experiment? I go give you one. Open another moniker here on nairaland with f tag, then find one random realistically looking female pics and add as your dp, then start commenting randomly to attract viewers.

You go get PM you go run. Simp plenty, o kpor gan. So when you see a very broke woman saying he can't be with a man without a car living in lekki, just know that it is men like you that made her ego swell like a ballon, and think showing up with body is enough.

you spoke nothing but facts! there can never be shortage of simps...

pansophist:
With proper discipline and self-control, you would realize this before the act. You will know which sex will end in regret, and your self-respect will triumph over any pleasure you will get from sex.

the real problem is that most men lack sexual discipline... imagine working hard just to get sex... sex that you both enjoy, smh.. the manipulated man thinking he's the conquerer not knowing it was just part of the game...

men date down, women date up... only a man can marry a lady who has nothing to offer, women don't unless she absolutely has no other options or just looking for a sperm donor...

Rukevwe999:
Polygamists, una dey try o. Simplify your life and marry one woman. E get why .

lol I use to tell people that it's not in the amount of wife you marry, but the type of wife.. you can have more than one wife and have more peace of mind and happiness than the person with only one wife... if you marry a bad wife, prepare to get your life ruined...

you can have more than one and your family will be fine and stable than those with one, it all depends on the kind of wife you marry and the foundation on which you built your relationship, not necessarily the amount of wives...

Kipaji:
Thank you man.

A great way to foster inclusion and unity is to impose that on the kids. There are three kids' bedroom in the house and they will be mixed. That is, we won't have the bedroom of wife1's kids and those of wife2's kids etc. Plus, all the kids' bedroom are in my building.
Also, all the kids will eat the food prepared by the wife of the day. If this Tuesday, for example, wife2 is cooking. Then the whole house will eat wife2's food. Wife1 is strictly forbidden from cooking something else to give to her kids on the side. One wife is not allowed to take her kids out and leave the rest at home. Plus, they will all go to the same schools, celebrate ceremonies together, treated equally.

I want all of my kids to see themselves as brothers and sisters, not step-brothers and step-sisters, or half-brothers and half-sisters.

exactly..

Kipaji:
Thank you Reminderz.
But I currently don't have any plans to bring in a third wife. What would be the use of a third kitchen, then?

like I said it works as a psychological trick... btw, make sure you engage your wives in things or activities that makes them relate with each other, don't let separate kitchen means they won't have to relate with each other... learn to encourage love in your family... eat together, cook together and go on a date together... give them tasks that would involve them both...

yes, if you can afford it fine... if you can make it 3 also, then do it, makes them wonder if there is a third one in the picture... and also make them satisfy you and bow to your authority...

Puss360:
Lols.. if sex doesn't destroy this generation of African youth, then something somewhere has to be wrong!!...
Why the so called emphasis on "No-sex" before marriage..
As a man, or woman, sex shouldn't be your priority in looking for a life partner...
Being the best sex partner doesn't guarantee the best marital life....
Sex is just an activity... For pleasure or for procreation...
When you see a potential date, just flow along with the person, check for attitudes, manners and character..
If they suit you, then go ahead and marry her.. If she says no sex, then think about it ...
It's not a must you agree, but if you do, it should be for a good reason... Afterall after wedding, you all can have countless sex.....

Besides, when a girl you are dating demands for sex too much, you men will say "noooo, I no fit marry this one, ashiawo dey her eye"....

at your first emboldened message, sex is not just an activity... na people like you cheat for fun and open legs for whosoever, because you don't take it as anything... sex goes far more than just what you mentioned...

at your second emboldened message, this is the scam that most men became a victim of when they got married, especially those who that got married without having any sort of intimacy with their partner... most people think marriage is a free subscription to sex, lol they are in for a rude awakening... most married men are having little to no sex, the ones having lots of it are those not married or in any other serious commitments and those that don't take relationship serious...

btw, no sex till marriage should only be agreed with a girl whom you're 100% sure of her purity and of confirmed virtues and character... a non-virgin girl doesn't hold the rights to ask another man to wait till marriage for sex... this is why bride price is only prescribed for virgins only...

when I say virgins, I don't mean bløwjob virgins, romance virgins and the likes... I mean pure virgin in body and soul... back in the days, men have no problem waiting for a woman till marriage because they know they will get what they bargained for... but these days, most times when a woman is making you wait for intimacy (even if you don't intend to have any type of intimacy with her), there's 99% probability that she's having it with another guy or she's saving you as a backup plan in case the man she's seeing jilts her.. she's only using you for your resources because she sees you as a naive guy and a simp who's new in the game... the decision to wait till marriage for sex should be a decision that you made not her, unless she has the aforementioned qualities of a virtuous woman, if not, prepare to get your heart shattered...

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Superboy12:
What I want to ask isn't related to this thread.

I saw one dating advice you gave one guy here on NL and I was impressed. I gat dating issue too I wan ask u the solution and I no wan bring am for public for here. I wud appreciate if u can help

don't worry, you don't need to reveal your identity or reveal intricate details, and by the way, there's nothing new under the sun... there's higher probability that someone else has also faced what you're currently facing in your relationship... so go ahead...

Superboy12:
Reminderz
I sent you an email. Kindly respond brooo

I can't reply to mails, tell me what you want to say here or quote me on a dead thread.

you can only deceive yourself for so long, you can't deceive nature... these people are mentally unstable...

this is not new, it will only keep on spreading faster... the most dangerous thing any man can turn out to be in this age and time is to be a simp and assume these women to be innocent...

if it happens consistently and without change or the effort to change, then yes, it's enough reason to end a relationship...

so this is 2024 and you still spend heavily on girls that you aren't married to and don't give a fvck about you? when una go wise...? so you're still trying to impress girls at your age? on top wetin? sex? wey two of una go still enjoy? na una type dey cry later when dey cheat and even the sex sef una nor go see... before dem use you, you better use your sense...

I will repeat... the guys fvcking these girls, the guys making these bitchhes wet and the type of guys these bitchhes impress aren't taking them on dates...

VinnyBaba:
So does it mean that RESPONSIBLE Parents whose Children Later became Wayward,
they didn't give their Children Good Advice?🤔

no not really, most of the times, parents of rich kids never used iron hand in training their kids.. since those kids were born with a silver spoon, they were given lot of freedom and leeway to do what they want... they have everything they need without working or suffering... now this is where the problem comes...

since they haven't experienced the other side of life, they get too relaxed, get spoilt and invariably enter a stage that will be too difficult for their parents to control... this is why they end up as gangsters, drug addicts and the likes... children, at that tender age, are like women... give them too much freedom and watch them destroy themselves...

if you're a rich parent, you'll need to train your child the way of the trenches, the way of the streets... you'll need to engage them in activities that will open their eyes into the way of the world... that way, they will truly understand the reality of life and also make them realise that life is not a bed of roses... but most rich parents don't do this.... they do everything and provide everything the child will ever need, the child then end up growing up bad because he has never suffered for anything or know what it's like to go through pain... here, changing environment or adapting to situations would be like a suicide mission for them which is not supposed to be assuming they went through that training when growing up...

who else saw Reno Omokri's post on DNA test.. mehn, this will be the first time I will get disappointed by that man's post... totally out of line.. he was saying that even if you discover you're not the father, you should take care of the child and that being a father is biological while being a dad is psychological (I don't remember if that's how he puts it)... he was now using Moses as an example that was raised by Pharaoh, and I was like how was it the same scenario of paternity fraud... this man here was totally out of line and talking nonsense, no wonder he turned of his comment section for that particular post...

Pharaoh adopted Moses, he did not assumed Moses was his child or by his wife giving birth to Moses... and who later led to the end of Pharaoh? still Moses... if you're adopting a child and raising that child, it's different from believing from the onset that you're the father of that child and finding out later that it's all lies... what if you even found out that none of the kids you fathered are yours...? now that's total heartbreak...

Even Reno that is talking, if he later finds out that none of his kids is truly his (assuming), I'm not sure he would come out to write that nonsense... if you've never been shot, you would never understand how gun wounds feel... I would be glad to adopt a child and raise that child, than raise a child as the sole owner only for the true sower of that seed to show up later in the future... I don't even want to imagine the heartbreak and the effect of that psychologically... In summary, Reno didn't make sense...

Men are truly the endangered species...

chatinent:
We are all strangers on this platform and the only relationship we've got are opinions.

And yes, his cartoons are not irrelevant. You add to his point now because the illustrations don't favour you so you feel it's irrelevant.

before you reply to someone, check again if the person you're replying to has his/her brain switched on...

you've already seen the handwriting on the wall, you already know what to do.. this would be an addition to the cases of wife cheating, so this is not new... and you're saying your child? how sure are you? have you done a DNA test?

before you confront her directly, act as if everything is good... do a secret test on your child, if you confirm that it's yours, take him and hide him somewhere for the time being, maybe in your friend or family's friend home... then divorce the bitchh... but know that you would have to plan if you would be taking your child along or putting him under the care of another who you would be very sure will take care of him... if it's not yours, another heartbreak for you... hope you don't die after investing all your life in the relationship working as an advanced slave...

if the child ain't yours, you already know what to do, send the hoe and her child back to the street where they belong... I don't even need to ask if your story is real because even if you just posted it for cruise, it's what I've seen happen over and over again... men will keep falling victim...

the op sounds like the typical feminist who spends her youth as a cum bag for the bad boys and ends up being an evening newspaper while getting angry with men who goes for young and fresh virgins instead of a used baggage... I hope you heal...

why should I go for damaged goods when new ones are available? so is it the old and damaged ones that don't do tiktok or social media?

you said you've been hustling since you turned 18, I get, as for some or most men, we were made to experience life early... even as low as 16... the question I would like to ask is, what did you do? what's the nature of your job? did you in any way go to school or learn a marketable skill? did you have any hand skills you learnt?

what about any of your family? is there no one to help? sometimes you might just be hustling, living from hand to mouth without building for the future... all the hustles you engages in simply only caters for what will get into your stomach for that day and not for the future... sometimes we claim we are busy working, but the work we do aren't making us productive or helps us in developing ourselves... what can you do? since you're 26, you're still quite young, you can still press the restart button and learn a skill or trade...

engaging in crime to get riches might seem to be an easy fix for all these suffering, but at the long run, the end won't justify the means and you might end up regretting for the rest of your life, and that's if you don't even lose yourself in the process... so my brother, there's still time, don't lose hope, keep toiling, seek connections and very soon, breakthrough will happen...

poshestmina:
Your stupidity is inbuilt bro.
No,you don't sound like them 'Alphamales' ,you sound like a kid from a very dysfunctional home with a dysfunctional and bitter brain.

Whoever gave birth and raised you did a very a bad job.

this is not the first time you'll be masturbating on my post... it's like you abstain from sex for a long time looking for my post to ride on to give yourself the maximum level of pleasure... I hope you also squirted on it...

did I just see him kneel down? wtf on top marrying second wife?? people wey don marry 5 wetin make dem do? why did men suddenly become so weak? when you let a woman into your life, do it in the position of authority, not weakness... she's under your care and under your authority, stop behaving like a pvssy...!! behave like the man you were meant to be!!

well, that aside... since we have more women than men, invariably, the number of single women are much more... why don't women support this than making their husbands have side chics instead...? most women would rather prefer their man to have side chics than getting another wife, in which the former is even more dangerous and risky... why? probability of spreading STIs, divided attention, men spending more of their resources for the sidechics than wife, increased stress for the wife and so on... why don't women support each other and let their single friends enjoy what they are also enjoying?

EreluRoz:
If men were decent there'll still be a lot of virgins around but they went far as enticing women with money just to have sex and everywhere blew ballistic and this same men are craving for virgins everyday as if they are deserving of one.

You can't eat your cake and have it.

if they didn't put their product on the market, men wouldn't patronise them... if you not willing to sell the goods, why market it? you have the option to sell or not to sell, but you chose to sell...

many prostitutes chose their way because if they didn't sell the only thing they have to offer, how do you want them to survive? so why blaming the people patronising the product, why not blame the people making the product available in the first place...? if a beautiful lady chose not to have sense and also lazy, then her body suffers... women are the gatekeepers of sex, they can choose to say no to these men, yet, they open up anytime at the flash of money or material stuffs because they come from the same lineage as Onana...

not everything has to be done to impress others especially women... and why should you impress? live your life privately, that way you'll enjoy your wealth more free from the eye of enemies or frenemies as the case may be... do not jeopardize your safety because you want to impress those who don't give a fvck about you... don't be unwise...

instead of you to be happy for your father, you're here asking if he doesn't have shame? do you expect him to be lonely, depressed, sitting on a rocky chair while he breath his last? he wants to enjoy the rest of his life and you're here whining thinking about his sexual performance... at least he has achieved and established, what else do you want him to do?

and you said maybe because the woman is after the riches? shey dem tell you say women dey date for fun before abi? Oga, if you don't have anything to offer them, women will sideline you... even if you're 100 years, you can still get the best of women... this why we always say that women are not going anywhere... time is kind to a man... you shouldn't be worrying about him remarrying at that stage, you should only be worried if he's been taken care of and living his best life...

in a world where people patronises anything, even a cow will call itself the president... I don't blame you, I blame the idiot...