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stanliwise:
When it comes to woman choosing who to have sex with, it’s more of a double standard. The same lady in question will meet the one she wants for a husband and choose to deny him sex till marriage.

exactly...

Magnoliaa:
What a nice observation.

So this is you basically, in some words or other, saying that dressing doesn't necessarily correlate to behaviour.

Because I could have sworn that people (and men) like to equate modesty to good behaviour. They shame and castigate and tear down women who show their bodies, and conclude on their characters.

Now you've seen a good woman, or someone who assumes they are good because of how well they dress, and instead of you condemning the men, no. You still shifted the focus to the 'well-dressed woman' and what she might be doing wrong.

It nice sha.

Thank God we can now see that dressing in a way to cover the body doesn't necessarily confer morals on people.

yeah sure, it doesn't.. but that doesn't still mean you shouldn't dress well just because you have a good personality or character... most people will always judge people by the cover... if you're to do an interview and one person shows up in a suit and one person shows up in a boxer, who would you give your attention to? of course, you know the answer, it doesn't even matter if the man in boxer is more competent.. showing up in a boxer can also mean that he doesn't take the job he's interviewing for serious... if a woman doesn't respect her body, how do you want men to respect her or take her serious? they will only patronise her based on what they see alone (her body) while ignoring other aspects and such men are only in for nothing more than just fvcks...

Puss360:
You that is knowledgeable, thinks so little and low of women... Women doesn't have value in your side.. that's why u feel men are far superior to them...
But my dear, those women belongs in your circle... Go out and meet women of class u sef go know...
Have a nice weekend..

Women doesn't have value? When did I say that in my previous posts? Do you also lack the ability to comprehend...?

And yes, men are superior...

You said you're serious with your life, have plans for the future... Young man, that path you want to start treading will ruin the plans you have for that future...

Puss360:
The so called time that favours men and doesn't favours women are those women who are "Desperate for kids"...
Besides which one be men go chop me? Financially abi sexually?
Coz with money I can get any type of NSA sex....
So what is it exactly that husband can do that other men outside can't do?? Lol.
Abeg rest....

I like people that think like you... Naive and deluded... good for fun

Possible things involved...

1. She's not faithful (she's cheating)

2. She's keeping her options open..

3. There are things you don't know about her yet despite being with her for 7 months

4. Women are cunning, if she's smarter than you, catching her red-handed will be difficult..

When a lady is being unnecessarily secretive about her phones, it says a lot... Don't accuse her, still act naive, but keep an open mind that the relationship might end and not lead to the marriage that you expected and it might be for the best... Do not let emotions override your thinking ability... See things as it as not as you want them to be.. don't worry, she go lose guard one day and you go catch her, she might be erasing evidences for now so it would be quite hard.. asking her who she's chatting with will raise her defenses up and will make her change tactic... Just prepare your mind for anything, so if e later sup, e nor go pain you... And I hope you're not the only one investing in the relationship because if she later give you breakfast, na you the thing go pain pass...

Puss360:
Abeg rest... All these epistle just to justify the behaviour of a man... [b]Well, the good thing with life is dat no matter how bad or good Ur behaviour is, you will still find someone that is attracted to you...[b]
But if this how u always reason, I just dey pity the woman wey dey reason u

If that's your behaviour and mentality, and if you're a woman, men go chop you, dump you, use you, till you wash... And then, they will go for the fresh young ones... keep deceiving yourself... Time kuku favour men, let's see if time does same to you, sheybi women and men are the same abi? You eyes go soon clear..

Hypergamy...

Ask most women if they want someone younger and see for yourself... Being older is expected to mean more matured and experienced... And you would want someone you take as a leader to be older than you.

Women will only settle or stay with a young guy when she can't find the man that satisfies her hypergamy...

questions you should ask instead?

what's the purpose of the man visiting the girl's parent? introduction?

is it the first time visiting? or subsequent ones? are they expecting him?

if he's there for the purpose of introduction, the girl would have informed her parent of his coming and the time as well, so I don't think the man would be cutting grass by that time... they won't probably be preparing to receive him or welcome with food or drinks.... and even if he happens to be cutting grass, that would be stopped as soon as he arrives...

if he's just visiting without the girl's parent being aware of his coming or even familiar with him, I don't think collecting cutlass would be the next agenda, introduction would be first...

if it's subsequent visiting, the father himself will leave the cutlass to welcome him, and the guy would probably greet and give him something then take his leave... he doesn't need to collect cutlass for anything... and that doesn't determine if he's a good man or not..

if my woman is visiting my family for the first time, (of course, they would know she was coming) and my mom was cooking when she arrived, she's not expected to join her in the kitchen... that's not what she was there for... unless she willingly volunteered.....

Puss360:
Lols... So now ladies demanding sex on first date is now loose and tagged a slut....
But those guys that have sex on first and every meeting are now saints...
Lolz...
It seems NL guys are so insecure, they can't stand someone dishing out what they themselves are fond of dishing out to others....
If I'm attracted to you, I see no reason why we can't have sex on first date .. unless you aren't in the mood..

this is why most of y'll ladies are dumb thinking you're wise... a woman and a man are not the same and can never be the same... how men see women is different from how women see men... men will ask you for sex, the good ones and the bad ones... the wise ones among them (whether good or bad) will understand by that statement she made that she's not meant for keeps... he would think, "if she can have sex with me on the first date, she would probably have a high mileage... she's probably a hoe who have sex with men on first dates"... women are mostly judged sexually, men are judged financially or by his status in the society... you guys keep thinking you're on the same level as a man, that's delusional... some men will ask you for sex on first day or somewhere around just to test you, if you accept, he will fvck you and conclude in his mind never to take you serious... if you find nothing wrong in having sex on a first date, you be olosho... top level!

no matter how attractive a woman finds a man, she should never have sex with him on the first date unless she's a hoe or she's probably in just for the fun of it or nothing serious... a woman with standards and who goes for the real thing won't stoop that low... olosho nor get standards... for someone like her, anything goes... this is why they end up getting used and dump by numerous men and end up saying "mehn are scum" while they brought it upon themselves...

GreatAchiever1:
Just because she agreed and affirmed that sex on a first date means nothing and she is cool with doing it because it doesn't change her stance in a relationship, you have now elevated her by saying she is every man's dream.
She is not everyman's dream girl but every degenerate man's dream girl.

Hundred.

Barca didn't use their full squad and still pressing Madrid this way... smh.. this match might end in draw or something like that, but that doesn't mean Madrid is good atm... they were even lucky against Sevilla... other teams may be afraid of Madrid but definitely not Barcelona..

the dangers of greed and materialism... of course in as much as the girls are also to be blamed due to their myopic reasoning, lifestyle and unrealistic expectations, we shouldn't forget about the elephant in the room... bad things can also happen to good people... the real menace plaguing the modern world has to be dealt with... if not more people would be affected, innocent ones especially... also expect rise in kidnapping and armed robbery.. but since we even hail these internet fraudsters online and offline, tell me why they won't continue along this path.. you see musician and content creators buys cars and mansions just few days and months and you'll be like, shey na skit wey you dey drop na where you see the money??

there are so many things swept under the carpet that if we decide to check under that carpet, we won't be able to completely unravel what would be found..

this story has been recycled for more than 2 decades

pocohantas:
Don't ever marry. I dare you not to marry. You must remain single till death.

eeeh!! but what if she wants me to marry her

pocohantas:
This is Mr Logical's post on ritual killing. Does RELIGION and MORAL support it?

You suddenly become so moralistic when it involves marriage, but not crime?

Billions of men in the world and one 3rd world redpiller thinks he is their mouthpiece on marital affairs. If not religion and morals indeed!!

Mrs Poco, what do you want from me

pocohantas:
Religion, morality and consequences is against, ritual killings, drug trafficking, kidnapping, armed robbery, rape, yahoo,fornication, adultery...etc

Yet you and your fellow "most men" do it everyday. Not minding the consequences.

Nobody is forcing you to marry. Please don't marry, but stop using your personal/family experience to talk down on marriage. Go the babymama route let us hear word abeg!

wetin dey worry this one we dey talk about marriage, you carry kidnapping enter... you forget your sense inside your pant?? I kidnap you before? abi na rob I rob you? you nor fit go crime section go discuss that one...?? it seems being logical is not your forte...

and for the thing wey you talk for that bolded line, nor be you go tell me wetin I go do...

Samantha124:
So we're now talking about villages? You see what I meant?

You just keep proving my point... I'm very much calm with you, but you're busy fighting...🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

lol fighting , if you're bored, chat your boyfriend up..

garriAndsugar:
Lesbian Man 😂

you Sabi the game wella... he has turned the pussy whipped simp into a girlfriend... she just dey use the guy masturbate herself... I don't how you guys even do, she's suppose to be the one giving you MouthAction not the other way round... you're indirectly submitting to her... choke her with Mouth Gig, let her gag.. not you going down on her, never... it signifies submission and she won't respect you... pvssy is meant to be fvcked not sucked... I doubt if she's really a virgin, she's just manipulating you with the sex, na person like you dem dey friendzone for marriage.. you don't even know what you want or let me say you can't even say what you want...

lmao, if virginity doesn't say anything about character, does being a hoe justifies that... this is the lie you guys keep telling yourself when you want to blind yourself with illusions of pleasure... when you guys get burnt, y'll turn to nairaland crying for help... your eyes go soon clear...

Lol shey na after you don spend finish for wedding pepperezi you go con discover say she nor be virgin? You go cry tire... anyways stay away from fornication

Samantha124:
Then what stopped you from correcting me in the first place and tell me to check your statement carefully

And you expect any woman to settle for this your impatience and aggression? Go work on your attitude.

o boy.. which village are you from?

Samantha124:
I'm chatting to you nicely, but you're now giving me attitude.

Why are you Nigerian guys always so aggressive? Maybe this why your ladies end up with the bad guys because your attitude really sucks.

lol you're a joker? which one be Nigerian guys are aggressive you think I would buy into all these your chitchat... when next you read, read to understand... my message was clear enough.. lmao..

Samantha124:
So what you're saying is that they should go for the rich good guys who make legit money?

am I speaking Swahili? no, they should go for the rich bad guys who make money illegally...

Samantha124:
Are you telling me that if she went for a poor guy, the guy wouldn't one day end up being desperate to get rich overnight and use her for rituals?

come off it... women know good men, women can identify them, but instead they will rather use him or take him for granted... but you see the one with glaring shady deals, the one that's it's so obvious to them that he just wants to use and dump them, that's the people they will rather go for... as long as money is involved, they don't care who the man is... they don't even ask what he does for a living... greediness and materialism will still lead many of them to their doom..

another brilliant post... and those quoting, always read to understand not to attack or reply or trying to prove intelligence.. most of what you guys are saying are all included in the initial post.. you just clarified it further...

sometimes you just have to read, dissect or ignore...

Aimere:
I dislike being ignored, so he was doing that. I dragged him angrily which I immediately regretted, maybe I should have kept quiet
But I don't know how to keep things in.

don't do that next time... that would have triggered him because you will seem desperate and he will start taking you for granted.. sometimes show no reactions, and observe, and he will undoubtedly reveal the kind of person he is to you... just tread carefully...

you also need to be emotionally matured enough for a relationship...

ILoveFaith:
Sure about this?
I don’t think someone like Davido would recycle such underwears.

why not? lol cus he has money? see you

Aimere:
Thank you. He wasn't talking to me when I was trying to talk to him about his behavior at night, he was walking out on me so I drag him back furiously. I apologized though, but I didn't feel it was bad of me to tell him how I feel. I am a woman, women don't respect women nor know boundaries. So I felt bad having someone come from nowhere saying she's lonely, what if he wasn't here. I'm 23 though.

you're not wrong for saying how you feel, but I don't know what really ensued between you guys or how you reacted or if you're really telling the full story... but he was wrong for slapping you if unprovoked... he would have respected your feelings at least, till maybe you're away from his side... he wouldn't accept it if it was you.....

just study the kind of man you stay with, or else you'll keep getting used by men only to end up wasting your time...your love for a man shouldn't make you lose your respect...

he was in a all shades of wrong... people like that won't even take an inch of what they give out if they tables were turned... he even slapped you? unprovoked??

in summary, dump the idiot... or else, you'll receive more than just slap next time...

@op, apart from the sudden demise due to not having any kid prior to death, and maybe respect in some part of the world, the rest are irrelevant... if not because of religion, morality and consequences, most men would rather remain unmarried and just go the baby mama way just to have some kids... marriage doesn't benefit men in this modern century...

Carcholce:
The most important one is not even on the list.


What about free access to punna?

you're in 2023 and you still believe this? lol carry out a survey, and you'll be shocked the number of men that are in sexless marriages... many men are being friendzoned in the marriage.. the thing is most can't even speak out... don't be deceived, outwardly, they may look like Van Damme, inwardly, they may be another Will Smith... marriage or not, if you're a man who's powerful and has game, you go fvck, you go tire...

Solofresh2:
All this small girls will never learn

they won't and they will continue learning the hard way... sound it from today till eternity, it won't change a thing... sheybi na made men dey want? they want flashy lifestyle? hook up is their way abi? na flashy death go follow...

chiomzy86:
Hope u do help her to do some chores, so she can reserve some energy in doing d above ..women are not super humans

they are super humans, Hilda Baci is a perfect example... and also, men do more than that... the thing is, most "modern women" are extremely lazy and always full of excuses, in which most are unreasonable...