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As much as I like Fashola and believe he will do very well as president,however, I will only lend a support to him in the presence of fairness and equity.
Nigeria is a very complex country and people's allegiance are most often than not tied to their regions and tribes first before any other concern, hence the sharing system and culture in Nigeria.
It will be grossly insensitive for our yoruba brothers to at this point-after they have let OBJ use their slot as president with the support of other regions to be clamouring for another shot when there are seriously some other regions yet to use their turn.
I mean, this whole thing goes beyond fashola and his good heart for development, it is not like Fashola is the only person that can move Nigeria forward, there are as well excellent administrators from other regions too who have been able to utilize their meagre accounts(both fed and IGR) to achieve very worthy developments in their states. Enugu state and Rivers always come to mind. I am even more awed by Enugu's. Am sure if they have thesame access to cash like Fash they will equally do excellently well like Fashola even better as they wont need to look over their shoulders for a Tinubu like Uncle Fash does.
Before anyone begins to drum support for anybody, let justice and fairness be their guard, an Igbo presidency may not seem imminent now because of political calculations and considerations but in fairness and considering other regions sentiments, Fashola will be president after other regions too have been given thesame opportunity as was given his region. I would rather he is appointed to serve as a minister in the government by then to keep him relevant till the time when he will be better positioned to be president thab go against people's sense of fairness and equity, I realy want him too to be president but on fair grounds.

Seriously, I have lost faith in many of these so-called men of God. Last time I got angry arguing this same issue with a member of the church, at a point I thought I was arguing with a programmed robot as he kept missing the pointing and continued to aimlessly quote the bible to support his claims.
My question is; how does owning a jet help you win souls for christ, is it not out of place that you are going to convince people in remote areas to accept christ (as often claimed) in a private jet? A private jet in the Remotest part of the world, does it not sound stoooopid?
How many of these MOGs are in any elaborate programs that show young people how to succeed after school, work with government and give skills to poor people. Even the white man with all his greed and vanity had missionaries who where dedicated to the development of people's welfare, they had quality and heavily subsidized schools, they created vocational centres and the likes to better the way people live.
Today all one sees in all these new generation preachers is vanity, imagine somebody giving us a list of MOGs with private jets like it is competition, that is the latest fad now, acquiring flying toys.
How about putting that money to heavily subsidize school feez and other payments at his University or is it the church's so that ordinary members can get thesame quality education. What exactly is the benefits of being a member of all these new happy-feel-good churches exploiting our collective expectations of things getting better. Is it the very kool and hip soundbites from them about prosperity and stuff, if that is all there is to being there then I could as well quit my membership and listen to rap music am sure I will get original lines to give me that sunday placebo.
These pastors are as vane and extremely materialistic as any criminal politician, their sense of fairness is warped, they all lose it when the money starts rolling in, the geedy beast in them begins to come on strongly like a designer outfit, they may try to cover it up with preachings and misquotations but a discerning mind still will know.

[quote author=High_Chief link=topic=680475.msg8450209#msg8450209 date=1307137439]KoloJunkie shut your mouth[/quote]hahahahahahahahahhahahahahhahahahahhahahaha, I must confess that was funny!
"Kolojunkie" is that the name of a retard or a Mo'ron?, tehehehetetehehehahaha

Jason did you say points? Dude you only cited one million reasons why "you" think it will not work, am not the type of person to argue aimlessly and endlessly just for the sake of it.
You have got know cogent points just speculations and manufactured excuses, am not in a contest to have the last say, you can do that with the jobless junkies here.
If you have got some real cogent points to debate, I will oblige you but petty talk? Count me out, bro!
And yeah dude, you still need to get laid for real, you are fast becoming dull and unimaginative unlike when you first started. I remember how cogent and articulative you used to be with your points(especially when accused of being pure Yoruba even when you claim to be edo/yoruba) not this wild guesses and weak arguments devoid of facts and common sense.
Dude, make that call and ask her over mehn, you are losing your MOJO!

Jason you seriously need to get laid jor

lucabrasi:
@rhymz
your surmission couldnt be more on point,moreover education is one of those peculiar sectors that does not need a whole lot of overhead once salaries are paid on time.teaching aids,equipments to be used in the state owned and funded schools dont need to be purchased again once it has been done and could be used multiple times .

it is instructive to note than indigene of imo state have absolutely no problem with the man's pronouncement,so i am at a loss why people keep on going about it,if you notice all through their comments they have not shown any reasonable reasons for their attack other than the fact that the man seemed to be in a haste to declare free education

exactly my points too. They have not shown any reason besides the gists the little demons dancing alanta on their shoulders is whispering to them in paranoia.
Imagine some people arguing like they are more privy to classified info on the state than Okorocha the state governor.
Reading through Jason's very petty post is enough to conclude these people are just here for straw-man arguments than for any intelligent debate.
His arguments have no substance just "ifs" and "but", you know somebody finding a reason to discredit something.
The other one is a loose canone. . .lol. .her arguments are junk argument dont take that one seriously jare. . She already has a reputation for arguing like a toad. . TeteHeheh.

jason123:
Guy, you simply have to say you disagree with me. It has nothing to do with Igbo or Yoruba state. I said the same thing about Amosun ( Ogun state governor). Those are my views on this free education thing that both Governors (Rochas and Amosun) are feeding us with. To me, I think it is not sustainable in the long run. For free education to be effective, you need a long term plan, good foresight, and clear data about your people. Its not only about announcing free education and pumping money into the institution.
For example, in the 50's and 60's, Azikwe tried the same thing (free education) in the East, but it did not last for a MONTH. Not that the East did not have the money to finance it but there was no planning, they just hurriedly did it and it failed.
Now, do they have any plan? Do they have a credible state data??

Secondly, people that are shouting this free education thing usually compare Azikwe's and Awo's era to this era. During those era, corruption and embezzlement was at its minimal. Right now, if you pump money this, most of the allocation will simply be siphoned and little or nothing will get to where it is actually needed. Now, do these states have enough revenue to take this into account??

All in all, if it's possible for them to achieve it, then good luck. But the above is my worry.

Like seriously, are you trying to manufacture excuses where there are none? You almost sound like you dont want it on whatever merit. What are all those excuses you are concocting to make a point, dude!
So you are saying he just woke up from a trance and declared free education? What plans and data are you talking about even after I ve shown you figures( culled from imo state government website). Dont even try to act like Awolowo embarked on some extremely complicated and elaborate education program that took sky rocket scientists of Yoruba extration to organize and implement. And what is all that talk about corruption not being in government during his time, sorry sir, you are not talking to a toddler in Nigeria history here.
You even had to lie that Zik tried to implement thesame thing in the east but failed and attributed stuff to some super I.Q Awolowo possessed. You just like to play subtle jingoism abi?
My statement about some people being prejudiced because an Igbo state is involved was not directed to you but like white on rice you felt the need to claim it was about you, so we can in turn digress and start the usual childish rant about your tribals having super-brains while others are poo like you are trying to do with your endless rants.
Infact, on the other hand, may be it was meant for you, wear it mehn, it so fits you!
Jeeeeez, what a laughable attempt at hair splitting. Guy go and get laid jare, you are not thinking straight at all.

Part of the problem Aregbesola has is self-inflicted, I would rather a free education policy that is easier to sustain than his 20,000 job creation which means every month you pay millions in salaries to people who are not doing anything productive besides the fact that they ve been employed by the government to do jobs that will bring no revenue to the state coffers. That is the main reason he wont get comissioners because he just created a bigger problem to solve another one.
I still continue to affirm that free education is a sustainable policy that is not as expensive as these whiners here are trying to show.
Government is not paying anybody's school fees, basically, they are going to fund those aspects of education that were being funded by the meagre school fees that were hitherto being paid, improve on school facilities, get more school materials, bring in initiatives to promote better educational standards, get more childrien enrolled, especially in rural areas. It is not like the entire budget of the state will go into it, already both primary & secondary schools in Imo state are heavily subsidized, making it entirely free will only need a little bit more money that can be cushioned by the conversion of the state's security votes and prolly increasing efforts to generate more IGRs in the state. I repeat it is not rocket science and it is more sustainable than creating out of no where jobs only to pay people every months for unproductive labour.
People that say it can not be done should not stop people that are doing it, period!

Nice one, especially with the closing of gate at 7:45am. Nigerian Civil servants are part of the problems, they have very bad work ethics. Imagine giving such excuse to a bank manager whether im no go kick ur ass to d curbs.

What exactly is the basis of this whole arguments; is it that free education is an unrealizeable policy given the federal allocation to the state or that the new governor is not being sincere(which is not a fact but an opinion).
I am begining to feel some people just criticize cos it is an Igbo state, after all a similar policy was also announced in a SW state, how come the governor is not getting a heat? Na wa o.
Awolowo was able to give an entire region free education without anyone questioning his motives or financial abilities, now a state governor is about to do thesame thing and all these closet tribal haters are here foaming in the mouth in disguise of having an opinion and painting all kinds of weird scenerio in their feverish mind. To the extent one Jason123 dubiously and conveniently reduced the number of people from an entire region that benefited from awolowo's free education policy to be minute compared to prospective beneficiaries of just a state that has anounced thesame policy. What a maneuvering lier!
Currently, Imo state has the following:
(i) No. of Government owned Secondary Schools = 309
(ii) No of Government owned Primary School = 1245
(iii) No of Tertiary Institutions owned by State Government =3
(iv) No of approved private owned Nursery Schools in Imo State = 158
(v) No of Privately owned Primary Schools = 132
(vi) No of approved privately owned Secondary = 139
(vii) No of approved privately owned Vocational Schools = 319

Total enrolment for secondary school in the 2003 school year was 486,026. Enrolment in technical colleges and vocational/commercial colleges for the same year was 122,650. Total number of teachers in both primary and secondary for the same was 96,711.
In the 1996 school year. Imo State primary school enrolment was 561,214.
Give or take lets put the prospective beneficiaries of the policy at a million plus teachers inclusive and bearing in mind that the policy is for childrien in primary and secondary schools, so what is the whole brouhahaha about. Imo state gets about 3billion naira from the fed and almost 600million naira IGR, what exactly will it cost to educate a million childrien if there is decent management and well planned budget for such.
People should stick to facts abeg and stop whining about the man's gestures to show his commitment, none of you malavolent whiners live or have ever been to the state, yet you lots like to argue like you know the politics and policy history of the state like the back of your hands.
Imo state is going to do what it needs to do get up, you all can go and drink cyanide for all we, Imolites care.

What exactly is the basis of this whole arguments; is it that free education is an unrealizeable policy given the federal allocation to the state or that the new governor is not being sincere(which is not a fact but an opinion).
I am begining to feel some people just criticize cos it is an Igbo state, after all a similar policy was also announced in a SW state, how come the governor is not getting a heat? Na wa o.
Awolowo was able to give an entire region free education without anyone questioning his motives or financial abilities, now a state governor is about to do thesame thing and all these closet tribal haters are here foaming in the mouth in disguise of having an opinion and painting all kinds of weird scenerio in their feverish mind. To the extent one Jason123 dubiously and conveniently reduced the number of people from an entire region that benefited from awolowo's free education policy to be minute compared to prospective beneficiaries of just a state that has anounced thesame policy. What a maneuvering lier!
Currently, Imo state has the following:
(i) No. of Government owned Secondary Schools = 309
(ii) No of Government owned Primary School = 1245
(iii) No of Tertiary Institutions owned by State Government =3
(iv) No of approved private owned Nursery Schools in Imo State = 158
(v) No of Privately owned Primary Schools = 132
(vi) No of approved privately owned Secondary = 139
(vii) No of approved privately owned Vocational Schools = 319

Total enrolment for secondary school in the 2003 school year was 486,026. Enrolment in technical colleges and vocational/commercial colleges for the same year was 122,650. Total number of teachers in both primary and secondary for the same was 96,711.
In the 1996 school year. Imo State primary school enrolment was 561,214.
Give or take lets put the prospective beneficiaries of the policy at a million plus teachers inclusive and bearing in mind that the policy is for childrien in primary and secondary schools, so what is the whole brouhahaha about. Imo state gets about 3billion naira from the fed and almost 600million naira IGR, what exactly will it cost to educate a million childrien if there is decent management and well planned budget for such.
People should stick to facts abeg and stop whining about the man's gestures to show his commitment, none of you malavolent whiners live or have ever been to the state, yet you lots like to argue like you know the politics and policy history of the state like the back of your hands.
Imo state is going to do what it needs to do get up, you all can go and drink cyanide for all we, Imolites care.

I would rather people made objective statements here based on available facts and not speculative scenerio and emotional need to support a particular sex.
I have read the accounts of both Mr & Mrs Wigwe plus that of their son, Nelson; it is important to keep in mind the kind of characters that both the man and the woman have portrayed, both of themselves and of eachother. It is very obvious that the woman is temperamental, petty, obsessive & extremely paranoid to a fault.
As for the man, he is no saint, apparently he has got mistresses outside hence the wife's paranoia.
However, the woman's excesses can't be excused on the basis of the man's infedility as she too did thesame and even had the guts to bring her lover into the family house against the childrien's wishes, it is obvious she is selfish and only cares about herself and nobody else, at least, her husban never had a live-in girlfriend while all the nonsense happened. I mean, how can a "married Igbo woman" be so insensitive to the feelings of her childrien & her entire family and bring in a live-in boyfriend to the family house all because the little devils on her shoulders tell her that her husband is probably cheating on her while he is away on assignment even though she is the reason they live apart, ALU!
I ve seen my parents have very heated arguments and even throw accusations at eachother, that is something that happens in virtually every family, we as kids mostly stay out or sometimes shout everyone down when it becomes too loud. When they settle, which always happens, we mock them at times, my mum for instance, has a very strong personality, you can hardly intimidate her and my dad who is a very outspoken person sometimes find my mum overbearing and they clash with heated arguments but one thing they never did was get physical, at least not in our presense.
I will never support either of them to hit each other. While in this woman's case she is more concerned with herself and what she can get from the man by criminal scheming, my mum always put us first and the family when making her arguments with my dad, she is not about what she wants to get from anyone.
Even I as a teen back in them days seeing some of those arguments, I sometimes see reasons with my dad and some times my mum. For Nelson to be this bold to state painfully with honesty that his mum is not a nice person and a schemer shows how outraged the childrien are by their mum's character. It speaks volume, I'm surprised that even though they had lived with their mum for the most part of their lives, she still could not get her childriens support to corroborate her stories. Unless my mother is a very bad person I am not sure I can be courageous enough to do what Nelson did, Again, it speaks volume, the woman obviously was all about hersel.
And let the male feminists here stop kidding themselves with all that politically correct statements of how they can never raise a finger on a woman no matter what, that claim is easier said than practised.
Let me give you a brief account of an incident that happened to me in a public transport in lagos.
Me & my lil niece were trying to get to the back seat of the bus in the process my niece unknowingly hit the woman's breasts. Little after we had settled down in our seats, the woman started causing in Yoruba language, my lil niece was not even aware the woman was actually cursing her as she did not understand the language. Me on the hand understood what she was saying & angrily ask to know why she was cursing by then she had turned directly to my lil niece & was about to get physical with the lil gal, thart was when it dawned on my niece that the woman all along was cursing her. Then the lil gal just as I was enquiring asked; what did I do to you" and this woman's response was a resounding slap across the girl's face plus very annoying invectives towards her parents.
I got so angry that I warned her never to try such a thing again in her life, by then my niece was already crying and people in the bus were already reprimandind the woman's act, the woman turned to me, dared me(prolly because she was significantly older than me), I told her in clear terms that if she tried what she did again or even point fingers at me, I will do to her what she just did to my lil niece, she flared up and was all up in my face cursing and daring me, I shoved her back to her seat. She stood up & almost hit me, I dudged it & gave her a resounding slap. A serious fight ensued, she held my cousin's dress but this time the lil girl hit her with the water bottle she was holding. Almost everyone in the bus was in support of what had transpired, they separated us,me and my lil niece even had to change our seats as she still wanted to fight us. It took threat from others to calm the mad woman down.
It is easy to come out and say shit about hitting a woman but me I ve always maintained that any woman that can be bold enough to slap me or even make such attempts on me will get a dose of it from me because I will assume she is guy like me too.

RESPONSE TO
ALLEGATIONS OF WIFE BATTERING
AGAINST ME, DR CHIJIOKE WIGWE,
BY MRS TESS IYI WIGWE AS PUBLISHED
BY
THE STAR NEWSPAPER ON 26TH MAY
2011
Background
I married Tess Iyi Wigwe (nee Oniga)
under native law and custom on 9th April
1978. The girl I married was famous for
her temper and fighting ability. With my
gentle and unassuming nature, I honestly
believed that the sharp contrast in our
characters could neutralize and
complement each other. It was a grave
error of judgment.
I joined the Nigerian Foreign Service in
April 1984 after teaching at the University
of Jos for some years. My first posting in
1986 was to Tokyo, Japan. I was in charge
of Commercial and Trade Matters. One
night in July 1988, I took my female
colleague from another Embassy out for
dinner. It was actually the first outing.
After dinner, I took her in my car in order
to drop her off at a train station. As we
drove through town, a car which I quickly
recognised as mine (I owned 2 cars) and
being driven by Mrs Wigwe pulled up
beside us at a traffic light. Mrs Wigwe
hurled air freshener bottles and any other
objects she could find in the car to hit us. I
later came down from the vehicle and
explained to her who the lady was. But
she did not believe me and instead chased
me through the city shouting abuses at us
and throwing objects at us. When I got to
a train station, I opened the door and let
the lady out. Mrs Wigwe abandoned her
car in the middle of the road causing a big
jam as she ran after the lady. She caught
up with her and after interrogating her,
seriously assaulted her, and beat her so
mercilessly using the woman’s umbrella
that the woman passed out. Mrs Wigwe
fearing that the lady was dead fled the
scene taking with her the woman’s hand
bag. Good Samaritans took the lady to
hospital where she spent one month in
intensive care. I was made to pay the
woman’s hospital bills. The morning after
the attack, Mrs Wigwe traced me to the
Embassy where I had taken shelter and
took a huge stone and smashed the
windscreen of the car to pieces. Mrs
Wigwe never admitted to taking the
handbag and its contents. However,
months later, the wife of a colleague with
whom she had left the handbag,
confessed. This gross act of violence
visited on an innocent woman, so angered
the Nigerian Ambassador and the entire
staff that it was decided that Mrs Wigwe
should be punished severely to deter
other wives with such inclinations.
Accordingly, she was suspended from
post for 3 months and repatriated to
Nigeria by the Embassy in October 1988.
She spent a total of 6 months at home
coming back only in April 1989 when my
posting came to an abrupt end following
the decision of the Ministry of Foreign
Affairs to recall over 150 officers
worldwide who had spent 24 months and
above at post in the wake of the
structural adjustment programme of the
government of the day.
That premature recall had a serious
psychological impact on my very young
family of 4 and I decided to take a one
year study leave at own expense
ostensibly to pursue a post-graduate
diploma in journalism in London, but
strategically, to insulate our children from
the disruptive effects of the unpredictable
posting policy of the Ministry of Foreign
Affairs. I therefore took my family along
with me at great cost. When I left England
in February 1992, I left my family behind.
In 1993 I was posted to Warsaw, Poland
but my family remained in London for the
sake of the children’s and Mrs Wigwe’s
education. Having learnt a bitter lesson
from Tokyo, I unilaterally decided that Mrs
Wigwe must not live with me at post in
Warsaw. Instead, I encouraged her quest
for higher education since she had only
secondary education when I married her.
She graduated from Middlesex University
in July 1998. I paid her fees through
university from 1993 and law school. At
the end of my posting in October 1998, I
returned to Nigeria. The family, now well
established and settled, remained in
London. Between 1998 and 1999 I made
regular visits to the family. In November
1999, Mrs Wigwe visited me in Abuja and
we travelled to her home town. We had a
very serious misunderstanding. We
returned to Abuja and she travelled back
to London. When she returned to London
after two weeks, she informed me that
she no longer wished for me to come to
London as previously planned to spend
the Christmas and New Year holidays. All
my efforts to reach her by telephone, fax
and mail were unsuccessful. The situation
continued until 2002 when on transiting
London en route New York for an official
assignment in July 2002, I discovered that
Mrs Wigwe had brought her male lover, a
Nigerian of Yoruba tribe, to live with her
and the children in the family house. The
children told me how they had bitterly
resented her and her lover. But she
ignored the children and co-habited with
her boyfriend in the family house for close
to a year. To all intents and purposes, we
were still husband and wife; we were not
even officially separated! It was then I
knew the reason why I had been barred
from visiting the family since 1999.
Consequently, and bruising from the
humiliation she had bestowed on me and
the children in particular, I hastily
remarried in December 2002. I married
my colleague in the service whom I had
not actually known for more than six
months. By mutual consent in December
2006, we decided to separate amicably
and to remain friends which we are to
date. As the marriage had no children it
was quite easy for us to part. I remained a
bachelor.
Following my nomination as ambassador
in September 2007, I called Mrs Wigwe on
phone to offer her an olive branch and to
ask her to join me, if she so wished, to
associate with my new appointment. It
was another grave error of judgment.
Although I never intended that we should
live together under the same roof again
as husband and wife given our
antecedents and the coldness of feelings
that mutually existed between us after
many years of separate lives. I was only
prepared for her to have a sense of
belonging and attachment to my new
status considering also that we have 5
children together. I thought the honour
was due to her. She accepted and
travelled to see me in Abuja in April 2008.
Our first encounter after many years,
proved to me and I guess to her, that we
could truly no longer call ourselves
husband and wife. Nevertheless and much
to my shock and deep apprehension, she
decided to take a leave of absence for 3
years from her employer in London to join
me in residence in Nairobi. She insisted
that I should take over her monthly
expenditures in London including an
ongoing mortgage for the family house I
had myself helped her to buy in 2004
after she was on the verge of losing it due
to lack of funds to meet her housing loan
requirements. I did this in spite of not
being married to her. I did it for the sake
of the children. I could not contest her
decision to come and live with me in
Nairobi thus I let her come. But, it was
clear as crystal that our differences and
her mistrust of me and our mutual dislike
for each other’s company were insoluble
but above all that our long evaporated
love would never come back. Thus, we
have been living in separate bedrooms
connected by an inner door that is firmly
and permanently locked from her side of
the border. We decided to live with as
minimal contact with each other as we
could manage. Because she often refused
to open her door, we developed the art of
communication by notes pushed under the
door. She liked it so much as it often
allowed her to state her endless money
requests without having to justify them.
We hardly engage in conversations except
when she needs money. Our irregular
engagements in the act of conversation
often end up in a quarrel. In public we
manage to present a united front but
those who are close to us know that we
were only putting up appearances. We did
fairly well and were just longing for the
end of my tenure as ambassador so that
we could resume forever our separate
lives. That long hoped for time is nearly
with us and hence the deep anxiety on the
part of Mrs Wigwe who for 3 years has
lived in reasonable comfort and financial
security, with a Mercedes Benz car and a
driver to complement her status. The end
of my tenure would mean a return to
financial stress and anxiety for her. Mrs
Wigwe is in a desperate mood. I am
reliably informed that most of the GBP
1,700 mortgage (about $2,800) that I
have to cough out every month from my
meagre Foreign Service allowance and
remit to her account in London through
my Barclays account in Nairobi, was
allegedly misappropriated by someone
she trusted in London and that to date the
mortgage in London is in tatters and Mrs
Wigwe has suffered a loss of GBP 10,000.
Besides this loss, Mrs Wigwe claimed that
she had lost $6,000 in cash from her
bedroom in 2009 and most recently
another $3,000. The houseboy then in
2009 was accused of stealing the money
from Mrs Wigwe’s 24 hour locked
bedroom. The servant pleaded his
innocence and the money was never found
and police abandoned the matter and we
sacked the servant. The latest theft of $
3,000 again from her heavily locked
bedroom sometime this year remains a
mystery. She did interrogate the new
servant and even followed him to his
house to interrogate his wife, but nothing
came of it. Mrs Wigwe is in a desperate
state financially. This is the motive for the
onslaught against me in a desperate
attempt to tarnish my image and
reputation and to get monetary
compensation that will restore her big
loss and sustain her for a long time. That
is why she has carefully chosen the words
she used in the story that appeared in the
Star where she was talking of spine and
paralysis. Mrs Wigwe is an avid watcher
of the television channel Crime
Investigation. She hardly watches
anything else. She had obviously practised
and rehearsed her lines and actions for
months in her premeditated assault on me
on Wednesday 11th May 2011. Concerning
her wish for spine injury that would lead
to paralysis, I can only pray God to please
graciously grant her wish so that she may
truly know what it is to have spine injury.
ALLEGATION OF WIFE BATTERING
On Thursday 26th May 2011, the Star, a
Nairobi based tabloid, published a story in
its front page with photographs showing
a badly bruised face of Mrs Tess Wigwe
and an allegation that I, her husband, had
inflicted those injuries on her face. It was
alleged that I had beaten my wife because
she had responded to a “note” from me
requesting to be served food. It was
alleged that I had so beaten her that she
suffered injuries to her spine and she was
in danger of being paralysed. Many other
allegations dating back to many years
then followed in her premeditated attempt
to build a solid case against me, including
the foolish allegation that I used to bring
women to the Residence in 2008 and the
blatantly false information that she left
me in Nigeria in 1999 and went to
England to study and live.
RESPONSE
In response to these allegations, I wish to
state quite categorically that I did not beat
my wife and that I did not ask for food
either in writing or verbally. What
happened that fateful Wednesday night
was shocking to me and clearly fits into a
pre-planned mould cast by the avid Crime
TV watcher, I had returned home late at
night after attending the launch of a new
product, Go Places, by Kenya Commercial
Bank which was held at the Hilton Hotel.
As is my practice, I went straight to my
room and began to take off my jacket. Mrs
Wigwe matched into my room shouting on
top of her voice (that is how she speaks to
me) that if I knew I would not be eating at
home, I should tell her so she does not
have to prepare any meals for me. I was
stunned as indeed I had been eating
regularly every day when I come home
from work. I took it for a joke but I saw
she was going on and on and would not
let me put in a word. Her loud voice
attracted my daughter Ada who came
over to my room. Upon sighting my
daughter I told her to please convince her
mother that I had been eating food I met
in the fridge every day at least for the
past two weeks. Mrs Wigwe was taking
none of that and insisted and before I
knew it she was abusing me and calling
me names. I naturally got angry and told
her that if she were indeed taking proper
charge of her kitchen then she would have
noticed that I do eat what has been
prepared for me. She took offence with
my comment and became agitated when I
asked her when or what has prompted
her sudden interest and care for my
welfare.
In her characteristic manner, Mrs Wigwe
lunged at me to slap me. I tried defending
myself and indeed my daughter came in
the way and as we tussled and jostled
around the door to her own bedroom
where a massive wooden shoe rack was
standing, Mrs Wigwe received a cut. Once
she felt blood on her right side of face,
Mrs Wigwe used her right hand to rub the
blood and smeared her entire face with it.
She ran into her bedroom and produced a
camera and in the presence of my
daughter and I, Mrs Wigwe photographed
herself, taking two to three shots. She
was shouting that she had got me, and
that the whole world was going to see her
bloodied face; that she was going to send
the picture to Abuja. As my daughter and I
tried to push her into her room to prevent
her from coming to fight me, my
daughter’s hand was caught in the
bedroom door and she gasped in pain.
Mrs Wigwe also grabbed her phone and
called her friend Yvonne to come and take
her as she had been injured and bleeding.
My son Nelson, who also joined in the
effort to restrain Mrs Wigwe, offered to
wipe the blood but Mrs Wigwe refused.
With camera in hand, Mrs Wigwe ran
downstairs and outside the building and
for the next one hour was hurling abuses
at me and shouting obscenities about me
and my family and friends. It took the
combined efforts of the Security Guard,
the Cook and my son Nelson Ikenna to
hold her back and prevent her from re-
entering the house which I had now safely
locked. In frustration that she could not
re-enter the house, Mrs Wigwe who
claimed in her report to the Star that she
had suffered spinal injury, managed to
wrestle with three able men and finally
broke loose to carry a flower pot to
smash the big glass window of the room
we use as gym. She carried the flower pot
and threw it at the glass window,
shattering it. Not long after, her friend
Yvonne arrived and together with my
daughter they drove off. No ambulance
was needed to convey Mrs Wigwe to
hospital. Mrs Wigwe did not first rush to
the Police to report the incident and show
her injuries to the police. Mrs Wigwe only
reported to the police on 27th May! That
speaks volumes. She went to the police
after people had begun to doubt her
story! The first wave of shock when the
story first hit the headlines had begun to
give way to sombre reflection and
analysis. As the children and house staff
began to contradict her story, she decided
it was time to make a statement to the
police. She began to focus on her dual
citizenship and what the British
government might do for her.
Yvonne later sent me a text message
saying Mrs Wigwe and daughter had been
admitted at Aga Khan Hospital. I sent Mrs
Wigwe a text in the morning advising her
to get much needed rest. I also wanted to
go and see her but she bluntly told me to
keep off and to await a letter from her
lawyer and to watch the news for what
was going to happen to me. I had advised
her to take the period to rest properly in
hospital having noticed that since January
she had lacked proper sleep following the
devastating news of the alleged
misappropriation of GBP 10,000 by her
trusted friend and the“theft” of $3,000
in-house. Of course, she was not aware
that my son Nelson to whom she had
confided about the loss in London had
intimated me I had sworn to secrecy
before not to divulge the information. I
continue to pretend ignorance of what
has been ailing her and almost confining
her to her bed for months. In addition, my
son had also informed me that while I was
away on consultation in Abuja, Mrs
Wigwe had told him that somebody had
hinted her that I might have purchased a
house in Nairobi. She had said that she
was investigating it and if found to be
true, will engage the services of a lawyer
to ensure that her name was appended to
the property. She thus began calling my
staff in the Embassy but got no positive
response. She quizzed Nelson and found
out he knew nothing of any such
enterprise. She could be scheming to lay
her hands on the property if it is indeed
true. It is instructive that on the night
when her spine was broken and she had
severe waist pain, Mrs Wigwe
remembered to mention the house issue
among the tirade of words that were
flying out of her mouth like a practised
actor. Her greed would not allow her to
note that she alone owns the house in
London and in her village which was built
entirely with my money while serving in
Tokyo. Considering the odds staring her in
the face as my tenure in Nairobi draws to
a close, Mrs Wigwe is in dire need of a
way out.
My daughter Ada was discharged from
hospital after several x-rays revealed no
damages to her bruised hand. Mrs Wigwe
remained in hospital until Saturday 14th
morning when Yvonne sent me a text to
say that she had been discharged and I
needed to pay the bills. I was in church
when the text came and I went straight to
the hospital and paid the bill of ksh
27,800 (about $330) and even took her
x-ray result. She had only taken the pain
killer prescribed for her and had not taken
the x-ray result. Her spinal injury was
miraculously healed within 3 days. From
hospital she went straight to Yvonne’s
home and remained there. I travelled to
Abuja on Wednesday 18th and came back
on Wednesday 25th. When she heard
news of my travel, she returned to the
Residence as I was to learn later. As I had
locked my bedroom from the front door, I
was shocked to discover that my drawers
had been ransacked and 1 (one) Rolex
watch, 1(one) Accurate gold watch and
1(one) gold ring with precious stone had
been stolen with their cases. Mrs Wigwe
is the only one with a key to the
connecting door to my room. She
prevented me from keeping a spare. Only
she has absolute access to my bedroom
and she enters there at will including
when am fast asleep. Why did she have to
remove those items if not to sell them and
make some extra cash from them?
Secondly, when I entered the pantry next
to my bedroom, I noticed that 1 (one)
trunk box and over 10 (ten) empty
suitcases belonging to me had
disappeared and the room was desolate.
The trunk box was full of my stuff but she
had recklessly emptied them and
forcefully repacked them into the other
two boxes. I asked the houseboy who
confirmed that Mrs Wigwe had packed all
her personal belongings into the suitcases
and locked them in the store downstairs. I
went downstairs and noticed that she had
removed her pictures from the various
room walls. In spite of all these, I found
Mrs Wigwe very much living in the house,
locked up as usual in her bedroom!
On the same day that I had returned to
Nairobi having flown with the night flight
from Lagos, I went to work and a little
after 11 am I received a call from an
unfamiliar number. It was a man from
Radio Africa, publishers of the Star. He
mumbled something about a letter with
very bad photographs of a woman sent in
by a woman lawyer in respect to my wife.
I was shocked but I told him that I recall
that Mrs Wigwe had sent me a text on
12th May saying that I would soon hear
from her lawyer. She had also told me
that she was going to send pictures
around. I instantly denied inflicting any
such injuries as he was describing and
requested him to call me back so we could
set up a meeting to discuss the letter since
I who was supposed to be the accused
received no such letter from any lawyer.
He hung up. The following day, very early
in the morning, I could hear movement
from Mrs Wigwe’s room and I could hear
that she had ran downstairs and back
upstairs. As I went into the bathroom, a
friend called me and advised me to check
out the Star newspaper. I ran downstairs
to pick up the newspapers of the day from
the front door only to discover that Mrs
Wigwe had earlier picked them and
returned to her room.
When I finally saw a copy of the paper in
my office, I was aghast at the strange
photos of Mrs Wigwe and her“battered
face” and worse still to read of severe
injuries to her “spine” which according to
the report could leave her paralysed! I
was also shocked that the story of how
the argument started had been
shamelessly and fraudulently altered. I
was shocked to read that my two children
took her to hospital. I was shocked to
hear that I had beaten her up in 2008
because I had brought women to the
Residence. And many other concoctions of
our story over the years completed my
day of mystery and entry into the world of
absolute scandal and blackmail, with
intent to extort money from me.
CONCLUSION
I affirm on my honour that I am not a wife
beater. I affirm that in the many years
that I have known and lived with Mrs
Wigwe, she has always been the
aggressor. That Mrs Wigwe is prone to
using her fists first rather than engage in
a debate or an argument to prove her
case. If anyone is guilty of violence in my
home, it is Mrs Wigwe. If anyone is a
victim of domestic violence it is I. I have
lost many spectacles over the years
following Mrs Wigwe’s direct hit on my
face. I sleep every night afraid that she
may enter my room and stab or strangle
me in my sleep. I am for this reason half
awake all night. I do not take phone calls
when I enter the Residence. Every call I
take is suspected to be from a woman
who must also be my girlfriend. So even
for official calls from colleagues or from
my host government or my own
government, I have to go downstairs
where she cannot hear that I am making a
call. On some occasion when I would have
fallen asleep and had forgotten to turn
the television set off, she had stormed
into my bedroom with lights blazing, to
accuse me of making a call. On such
occasions, I normally summon all the
humility and composure in me to endure
the unwarranted interruption of my sleep
in order not to provoke an argument. Mrs
Wigwe removes the photographs of
people she does not like from the album of
official events organised by the Embassy.
She had also asked that DVDs be edited to
remove the people she no longer
considered as friends or people she said
did not greet her in a respectful way or
people whose affinity to me could not be
sufficiently established. Most recently, she
abused officials of the Association of
Nigerian Women in Kenya (ANWIK) and
prevented me from attending the Nigerian
Family Fun Day on Easter Saturday 23rd
April 2011, organized by the women
because she was angry that ANWIK which
is registered with the High Commission
did not consult and get her approval
before approaching the Embassy. The
women had apologised and pleaded and
even bribed her with a free special dress
which she had accepted, but in vain they
pleaded. On the day of the event we were
not there and my colleague from Ghana
had to stand in for me!
On the level of public conduct, Mrs Wigwe
has so intimidated and assaulted many
people in Nairobi, men and women and
staff of the High Commission alike that
the High Commission no longer holds
dinners, luncheons and other mandatory
functions in the Residence. If in doubt,
please ask around Nairobi. Mrs Wigwe
has assaulted and abused so many people
at public gatherings in Nairobi that people
fear to greet me when we meet at public
functions. Mrs Wigwe hardly supports me
in my work. Although she struggles to
have a copy my weekly programme and
quarrels when my staffs forget to leave a
copy for her, she often criticises me for
attending too many functions. When
people commend me for the work that I do
she feels offended and often complains
that I am the reason why people don’t
notice her. I have tried in vain to
encourage her to do more social work or
to consider doing a post graduate course
in any of the universities in Nairobi, as a
way of keeping her occupied and fulfilled.
But after three years living in Nairobi, she
has not added any educational value to
her degree.
On relations with staff of the Mission,
Mrs Wigwe is a constant irritant. She
considers herself as the ambassador and I
her weak deputy. She calls staff and
directs them on what to do. She
intimidates the local staff and threatens
to sack them and when I refuse to do so,
we quarrel.
Mrs Wigwe is in dire need of psychiatric
examination or what religious persons
may call spiritual deliverance, but over the
many years and on each occasion when I
or those close to us have advised her to
do so, she had always ended up insulting
us. But this woman needs help. Every
woman who shakes hands with Dr Wigwe
is a threat to Mrs Wigwe. Even my female
colleague ambassadors have not been
spared. Mrs Wigwe’s ten finger nails are
painted and coloured differently ranging
from blue, red, brown, and gold to yellow.
A different colour and pattern for each
finger nail. Everybody sees something
funny in that especially for a woman her
age and status, but only Mrs Wigwe sees
it as most fashionable and chic.
Mrs Wigwe is desperate seeing that my
posting is fast coming to an end. She
badly needs money. She set me up and
used me as a pawn by destroying me
knowing that we were never going to be
husband and wife again after Nairobi.
Our coming together was only for the
sake of sharing in the glamour and glory
of high office. That was the motivating
factor for her uncharacteristic concern for
my welfare on that night of the 11th and
that was why she refused to believe either
I or her daughter and instead proceeded
to generate an argument using
provocative language. She had obviously
concluded that Dr Wigwe must not be
allowed to leave Nairobi with honours on
his back. That was the plot and she found
a willing accomplice who introduced her to
a woman lawyer who is a friend to the
Editor of the junk newspaper otherwise
called the Star. That is how the Star has
come to champion this fake and
fraudulent story in an attempt to help the
friend of a friend in her most difficult time
of financial ruin and imminent suicide.
My daughter, Adanne and son Nelson
Ikenna, had stormed the Star newspaper
offices to protest the falsehood the Editor
so shamelessly carried in her paper. The
Editor had confessed to my children that
she and the lawyer were actually friends.
Two quality newspapers in Kenya namely
the Nation and the Standard had refused
to carry the junk story. Nelson has further
made a comprehensive statement to the
Diplomatic Police, where he had met the
Residence Security guard (name withheld)
who had witnessed the actions of Mrs
Wigwe on the night of the event and had
struggled in vain with the Cook and my
son Nelson to restrain Mrs Wigwe, with a
“seriously damaged back and spine.” Mrs
Wigwe had coached, coaxed and incited
him to misinform the police about what
happened in order to make her story
credible but fortunately for Truth and
Justice and fortunately for the millions of
men like me all over the world who are
silently suffering and living under the
Tyranny of a Woman, who are Living in
Bondage, who are emotionally and
physically abused and assaulted on a daily
basis by their wives, who are forbidden to
bring their relatives to the house, who are
forbidden to bring visitors to the home,
who are impoverished by gluttonous and
greedy wives, the Christian and God
fearing Guard refused to be intimidated.
May the Truth prevail.
Violence against Men is real and must be
stopped. The stereotyping of men as being
responsible for domestic violence has
gone too far and has damaged
permanently the reputation of so many
good men. Many men have lost their lives
or have been forced to commit suicide
because of over domineering and
manipulative women. The female
predators move on with glee to their next
victim. Mrs Wigwe has proven beyond
doubt my long held beliefs that“Truth is a
lie repeated three times,” and another
which says that “He lies often who cries
often.”
CWW
Dr Chijioke Wilcox Wigwe
Dated this 30th day of May 2011 at
Nairobi, Republic of Kenya

Some people just like to seeth with subtle tribalism and malevolence sha,
The OP was only giving his version of what he heard the governor say, there is no official report on that. If you know Rochas very well you will understand that he is a people oriented person, he is very savvy with words and passionate with his new job.
He understands very well the people's commitment to his emergence as the governor, Imo state people remain the most expectant people since the end of the elections, he knows there is no room for excuses. Already, there is deadlock at the state assembly over attempts to thwart plans to overturn those die-minute spiteful decisions made by Ohakim to cause problems for the new government.
Unlike many states, Imolites are very educated and understand clearly what is it they expect from Rochas, they are realistic with their expectations and do not expect him to do the impossible.
One of the things Rochas has going for him is his seriousness to want to do somthing and his understanding of the problems of Imo state.
Nobody is expecting him to embark on say, Eko atlantic kind of project for now until the pressing problems of Imolites are first attended to. He is realistic and very media savvy too(which is a plus anyway) plus he is not a joker like some people want to make us believe by all means. I am from Imo state and at present, in Owerri, I can tell you there is an overwhelming sense of duty and expected performance in the air, everyone has their ears to the radio, newspapers and TV. This is not a story of mere talks and 3D drawing, this guy is busy as hell meeting Imo state stakeholders and making plans to start putting things on ground. Already, there is delegation(my Uncle inclusive- a retired MD with FIRS by the way) with a proposal on how to increase the state's IGR. A poster made reference to security votes, well that already has been pledged to the the free education program. Enough said, people should afford the man the benefits of the doubt, wait and see his actions before rushing to condemn. If Fashola can enjoy thesame praise and worship for both work done and about to be done, I see no reason why Rochas should not get his dues.

fnep2smooth:
With d level of education u people have, u guy still think like people who haven't see d 4wall of school,  People say he use is private money 2give people free education not forgettin dat d money is from charity, pubic donation (new yahoo yahoo) usin it 4its own use, deceivin imo people with dat. They say "give a man power and u will know who he is" ohakim really try even more than some state gov did by doing clean n green which rochas is usin now, 10 thousand job 4 graduate which my own blood brother got and so many people who i know and heard of,  etc. Go 2 US or UK n talk abt free education, people will start givin birth any how believin dat d government will train them, b4 this declaration of free education imo people are on it. Primary school pay only #50 for pta fee, jss1 -3 pays #700 for pta n other stuff. Its only ss1 -3 dat pays #2,800 as school fee so tell me is that not free. Wat people are sayin is just 2paints d guy black. The 10,000 letter you people said he gave 2days before leavin office are 4those who haven't been postered to their ministrys cos my brother got is own last year december n they put him in level 7 check out. 2me imo state is among 8 to 10 state top state in nigeria so why carrying false rumor for this man. Rochas will do this, rochas will do that lets watch n see how he will bring las vegas to imo state even river state, lagos state etc allocation and revenue is 1,000 more than imo state have not think of turning there state to las vegas,  Peple who live by rumours!!!

who is this Mo'ron running wild because his brother got a phoney job from Ohakim.
On the other hand, my younger brother bought into that Ohakim 10,000 jobs and as I write, he is yet to get any job, so what the hell are you talking about with your misspellings and incoherent gibberish.
Why employ labour with no plans to make them productive, just pay people every month for being in the ministry even though their labour is not productive. Is that not a dumb populist policy that will only fatten the already over stretched budget of the state.
Even Rochas said it that most of the productive sector of the Imo state economy that would have gainfully employed people in a productive capacity and ensure the payment of their salaries are moribund and a lot of them are subjects of litigations, take for instance AdaPalm, Concord Hotel and so on, they are all struggling with one problem or the other.
Pushing people into the state civil service is an unproductive policy that will fatten the state's expenditure, monies that would have served better building facilities that should attract investment.
Before you open your filthy mouth and spew hokum make sure you understand what is it you are on about. How old did you say you were again? You swell with so much ignorance, go and read a book, get laid or sth, politics is not your thing.

To doubters, It is very possible to give free education in Imo state, at least to secondary school level. During his campaign when he was challenged by his opponents to tell them where he would get the money to run a free education program, he told them he was going to use the state's security votes-which hitherto has always been squandered-to fund it.
And who says imo state only needs to affordable schools? Free education as well will infact, yield better results than a subsidy which some may nor neccessarily see the effect.

People should understand the politics of the free education programme before rushing to call it "sensationalism" or impossible.
Let me give us a brief history of the politics of Imo state, when Rochas was campaigning for the position of the governor of Imo State,most part of his campaign hovered around free education, that was the backbone of his campaign.
Ohakim who had earlier argued in a debate that it was impossible to give free education to Imo people, suddenly decided to anounce a free education program at all levels and even extended it to imo indegenes that are not resident is in the state just to pit Rochas against the people.
Rochas never claimed that he was going to give an absolutely free education at all levels-of course he knows that is impossible with the meager allocation and IGR from the state.
However, he still re-iterated his commitment to giving free education to Imolites and even said his government was going to send a bill to the state house of assembly to make it a punishable offence not to send a child to school.
The man is serious and should be given a chance, already there is a crisis in the state house as opposition members are set to upturn the very spiteful policies taken by the out-gone regime of Ohakim 2wks to his removal from power. Already the state house has been shut and the speaker under a lot of pressure to quit. I believe this government is going to be active and like I said before, I like Rochas' maturity in handling the calls for ohakim to be probed. He dos not have to show that Probing Ohakim is going to be his aim, let him do it fine but we are more interested in what he is going to do next to move us to the next level not make Ohakim another aimless obsession.

Unlike Ohakim that likes to run his mouth without caution, Rochas has that political savvy of Obama, the heart of Fashola and the trust of Imo people.
Free education is a realizeable policy as long as it is well plamned and budgeted for.
Imo state is known for its educational stance and education has always been very dear to the hearts of Imolites.
And I like the way he is not wasting time talking about Ohakim or how he is going to probe him(even though we know he is surely going to do it, giving the recent avalench of policies taken by ohakim to pit Rochas against the people of Imo state. But we understand his antics.
I will also advice that Rochas sgould not neccessarily fall for unworkable populist policies that will creat more problems. We ve heard how some state govt have given unproductive jobs to 20,000 youth or even the defunct ohakim invisible 10,000 jobs; job creation should be left in the hands of the private sector, what government needs to do is to provide conducive environment for inestors to come in by building a better roadnetwork, bridges, expanding Imo state roads and massively supporting agriculture.
It is folly paying people money for unproductive work done like is seen in some states, funds are limited and there should priority.

My Joe
The fact still remains that there is'nt any shred of evidence to support the born gay myth.
There are billions of public dollars and tremendous political power resting on the public mis-conception regarding the origins of sexual deviancy, and therein lies the reason for this departure from reason.
Gone are the days of ethics in science, nowadays most public policies and opinions based on "science" are merely junk science fashioned to serve political purposes.
The fact that homosexuality has  become so prevalent in certain societies like in the west-where there are legislations and powerful lobby groups to protect the act compared to other societies like in Nigeria where it is seriously frowned at and there are no laws or powerful lobby groups to support it indicates that widespread homosexual practices has a behavioral and societal component. If we allow homosexual behavior to be accepted as merely one more alternative and accepted lifestyle, we are running the risk of having our own societies degenerate into a sexual equivalent of the west. Not very savory models to emulate.
If homosexuality is not a matter of indulgent preference then how does one explain other sexual deviances such as paedophilia or bestiality?
Obviously, there is a strong possibility of either an abnormal psychosocial development or a delayed one like many researchers on this subject have hypothesized. And  I think in a lot of cases that these deviancies are indulged with full consent of the will and see nothing wrong with the behavior.
I have read extensively especially on the works of Laura .S. Allen & D.F Swaab on the anatomical structure of the brains of both homosexuals & heterosexual males as it relates to their sexual behaviour.
Swaab concentrated on the hypothalamus region called the suprachiasmatic nucleus(SCN). In the homosexual brains he examined, a small portion of the hypothalamus, termed the suprachiasmatic nucleus (SCN) was found to be twice the size of its heterosexual counterpart.
And in a separate research Laura Allen found that the anterior commissure (AC) of the hypothalamus was also significantly larger in the homosexual subjects than that of the heterosexuals. This differentials in their brain anatomy they hypothesize may be responsible for their differing sexual orientation.
However, the problem with their results is that both the SCN & AC  are not involved in the regulation of sexual behaviour, this makes the size differentials results highly unlikely.
The most discussed research by Simon Levay for instance got me confused a lot of the time, especially with the complexities of his samples which included gay men that died of AIDs. He did not explore the probable effect of the disease & antivirils on their brains.
He did not say anything about the sexual orientation of his supposedly heterosexual males and some gay men brain segments were more "male" than some of the heterosexual men's. The whole research to me, seem more like a confusing mix of a pre-defined motive to make excuse for such preference by making it a prenatal sexual differentition of the brain, yet that remains to be seen by his results.
One thing is obvious though, there seem to be a deliberate attempt not to find solution to the problem of homosexuality especially in the west where it is heavily supported by regulations and presented not as a mental disorder but as a congenital disease that should be tolerated.
I have read somewhere about some kind of aversion techniques and its moderate success in turning homosexuals to heterosexuals, why not improve on such researchs unstead indulging homosexualism and making cases for them like they, homosexuals are not interested to be cured they would rather be queer than make any attempt to change.
And finally, another possibility is if sexual preference can actually condition the brain to adapt to a certain a sexual behaviour due to constant expsoure to same-sex and its related activities. These are possibilties theat have deliberately been ignored by gay right activist in their quest to gain more recognition.

@My Joe
Most part of this resrarch are based on hypothesis and conjectures not any real fact. Mostly, the research was only based on the assumption that homosexuality is an entirely congenital disease as opposed to whether it can be aquired without any congenital connections.
I find most part of the research especially this parts: ( Men with the active and women with the passive form of acquired homosexuality. Such men look masculine and possess male-type sexuality. Correspondingly, the women possess feminine features and female type of sexual behavior. "Their pathological attraction to the opposite $ex forms also on the basis of conditioned reflex, usually at the juvenile age."
Exactly what scientific proof do they have that their homosexual attraction possibly emanated at juvenile age and was on the basis of conditioned reflex and not triggered off by say, the environment or exposure to non-pathological factors that could have triggered off the attractions.
When they say conditioned reflex, they did not tell us if the factors that conditioned their reflexes are pathologically acquired or prolly a genetic disorder that only began to show its effects at juvenile age.
All these are just conjectural and hypothetic explainations, they leave many questions unanswered.
My point is while yes, it can be argued that some men have characteristics regarded as typical of a woman(effeminate males) and the women vice vesa(tom boys), that still does not form the basis to argue that every effeminate male or tomboy female is most likely going to be gay at some point in their lives. That appears to be the argument of this research, they have unwittingly and conveniently avoid telling us wether it can be aquired by mere curiosity and conditioning of the mind as opposed to the fancy "conditioned reflex" they are telling us.
After all, there are cases of people who had hitherto thought they were gay, only to try it and switch back to being heterosexual since they just did not see the point of their sexuality ambivalence.
I still stand on my argument, there is no such thing as homosexual genes, may be a dis-order, fine! But the former? That will remain anybody's guess.

monkeyleg:
@Sagamite,

A young man coming back to Nigeria with partner is not as big an issue as that which plagues us right now "corruption", and like I keep saying, this is not a problem as Nigeria as a society would naturally take care of if. Funny enough, there might already be loads of people who fit your description that coming into nigeria everyday.

So how many of those enlightened Nigerians have actually pressed for corrupted politicians to be tried and jailed? How many? Most would shut their mouth up, not wanting to face up to the threat that comes with tackling this issue

Mehn I can't believe that Nwa Afor like you will make such a careless declaration that an Igbo young man taking a fellow male as his second half to meet with his parents in the east is not worthy of discussion. Nwanna, ima kwa ihie wu alu-that such a man could be bold and brazen to bring his gay lover to see his family in the village-whatever happened to your sense of decency and customary accepted values. Do you know the kind of violence that brainless act could spark. If homosexuality was inconsequential as you would like us to believe how come recently, was it in kenya or so, there was a wildly publicized media attention on a gay couple who tried to do thesame rubbish by marrying each other in the African country. They almost got killed and I think they almost got jail terms for such. Are you saying there government and people should not have taken decisive steps to nip such rubbish in the bud, may be they should have waited until they solve all their so called "pressing issues" before dealing with that sociatal malignancy.
Do you know increasingly hedious homosexuality is?
I can't even count how many times my elder sister was disturbed by this bunch in different occassions.
No need acting like it is not a problem my brother cos it is. This efulefus are getting brazen by the day and it is only logical to condemn botj them and their acts cos they are inseparable.

Come'on ekt_bear, what fact do I need from a straight person I have always known who recently turned gay.
I dont know how the social systems in the west works but I can say without any fear of equivocation that a majority of the people down here in the act were not born that way, nature never made them like that.
Have you been to our boarding and secondary schools? Do you know how much of such habit a new entrant there can pick up? Not to talk of our Universities where we have some very popular gay groups with enviable access to , who make such habit look very attractive and fashionable to wanna-be(s).
Well, I may not have written evidence to show that homosexuality has almost nothing or very little to do with genetic make up but more to do with the product of ones environment and value system; however, I have personal experiences and stories from the horses mouth to prove my case. And pls, i would realy love it for you to show that there are scientifically proven cases of homosexuality in human genetic make-up.

[quote author=ekt_bear link=topic=675698.msg8395723#msg8395723 date=1306400351]Man I highly doubt that. Think about it for you. You as a kid, were your sexual attractions defined by your parents? Or by the female friends you had in primary/secondary school and saw on TV. . . or some sexy teacher you had in secondary school? For me it was the latter. My peers at school and the tv I watched has influenced the type of girls I like a lot more than pretty much anything else.

My suspicion is that for most people their sexual orientation is something they are born with. And if influenced by those around them, peers are likely to have a bigger influence than parents.[/quote]Let us get this straight, a majority of the people indulging in homosexuality are into it by virtue of nurture and not neccessarily nature.
Most of the ones I personally know, most of them women, did not start out as homosexuals. Many of them have thesame line of story, the lure of peer pressure and sheer curiosity occassioned by what they have seen in movies and porn movies.
With the proliferation of porn in our media and increased access to forein TV programms-it was only a matter of time before we start seeing the effects of these things. It is folly to even try to argue that homosexuality has continued to grow because "all of a sudden we are begining to realize some people are born with homosexual genes"(there is no emperical scientific proof to that, just some random western sociologists explaining stuff away ) come on, being liberal with the scourge of homosexuality is the west of saying you cant be them you join them. Thesame nonsense must not be allowed here.

[quote author=ekt_bear link=topic=675698.msg8395545#msg8395545 date=1306398605]^-- Hehe. Me, if I were a poor orphan I'd much rather be adopted by two rich gay dudes than some poor straight couple.

It isn't as if being raised by those two gay dudes will change you from a heterosexual into a homosexual. And much likier for the two gay dudes to invest in a great education for you than two poor folk

Gay German lawyer + gay Igbo dude, or some random poor straight couple in Nigeria?

Which one would likelier lead to a better life for you, as a poor orphan boy/girl?[/quote]hmmmm. . If dem give you chance eh. .hehehe
Anyway, either way such a kid will be fcked up no doubt. You forget when it comes to sexual urges, it is a thing of the mind and pictures in your head. As a kid growing to see such an anomaly, you will most likely ve a fcked up sexual orientation. Might even be swinging both ways without qualms.

[quote author=ekt_bear link=topic=675698.msg8395298#msg8395298 date=1306396048]@Sagamite: I understand your POV and used to think the same way for a long time.

But nowadays, I'm of the opinion that two mutually consenting adults (at least in theory) should be able to do whatever they like that doesn't hurt anyone else.

Pretty doubtful that this will be the sentiment of most Nigerians for another 50-200 years, though[/quote], mehn I am one of those Naija that do not want to see people get brazen with such nonsense as is seen in the west, no doubt there are some of them here in Nigeria but they dare not start getting funky and jiggy with it here in the full glare of people or they will get their asses pimped with super glue and aradite.
Imagine how fcked up the kid these two weirdos will adopt, growing up and watching their supposed parents both males kissing and fingering eachother every now and then in their presence and being romantic ish.
God help the human race with this kind of strange twist.

[quote author=bk.babe97y link=topic=675698.msg8394480#msg8394480 date=1306377355]Hhahahahahaha. Why should this be in the Romance Section? lol

Ibo men are gays, oooh Im so surprised. . . . NOT!

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P.S: I got a hunch this could be JustCash.


http://lindaikeji..com/2011/05/gay-nigerian-chika-nwafor-visits.html[/b][/quote]let Amadioha impregnate your akunakuna AKATA Momma with a human Octopus that will bring her nothing but sadness and disgrace like you have been doing to her.
Because you are a gay, u now wanr to wish it on Africans, usu rakwa gi there, aturu awusa.
Keep talking and waving your faggoty dick on every African thread Nigger, the next hole you will be getting will be in yo head, I ve got your medicine, American Vagabond!

uche nana:
shame on a faceless forum

what do u even know about me

one thing I know about you is that you are insanely ignorant and always talk out of point like a typical Hausa Mo'ron that you are.
Our ppl have a joke about abokis: they say take an Aboki to marks & spencers, change his clothes, clad him in designer shirts and troussers, spray him with a designer perfume and then bring him out, it wont take a second to spot him out as a typical aboki-from his accent to the way he reasons like a toad you will just tell it is him.
Just like Justcash found you out as thesame Mo'ron that keeps swaping monikers but cant even use discretion to conceal his stooopidity and utter lack of intelligence. Dis wan na real donkey, go and get busy, chase cows or sth!

Whoever this eeediiiotic Nwafor is, Amadioha tufio kwa gi ike there, which part of Igboland is this nwa alusi from? Talking about his matrimonial home and his gay partner eating bitter leaf soup as if the rest of the villagers dont matter. God help them the two of them get carried away and start kissing and handling in the full glare of the elders and villagers, he will surely know the difference between europe and Igbo customs.
What an abomination and a curse to such family. Seriously, I will never love a kid that will openly come out to tell everyone he is gay and that we should understand him. Fck him! I refuse to understand you, stay closet and learn to know your limits with such an ignoble act, if you want to go all in my face with such despeakable behavior and disregard for other straight men's sensibilities be ready to get the Osu treatment, including your loving family, bunch of acursed weirdos!

That Lotus gal deserved what she got jare, her own too much, she needs anger management class jare!
And why was that Southafrican going on and on about her not knowing the rand and shit, na Dollar? Na wa o, me gan I know of the damn currency but I never see am too, does it make me ignorant, proud SA mofo.
And dat chic, Karen I just like dat babe, very playfull and fun-filled. The guys are so fake, when that lotus gal was busy explaining herself in defence of her knowledge about the rand, the guys were busy mocking her and acting like they were following her argument. It was so obvious, scheeew!!

Whats up with all the vitriols against GEJ like people wish him to fail. Come on guys these are just speculative reports.
Why will GEJ put pre-requisites such as not having any controversy or electability and having integrity only to want to cut corners in Bankole's case. Was he more influential to GEJ's re-election than say; the governors-whom reports have it that they dominate the ignoble list and for that GEJ is flirting with the idea of dumping the list.
So, I think it will do us good to wait and see than speculate and unwittingly wish GEJ fails to prove a stoooopid point. Issues have gone beyond such parochial leanings, everybody should lend a support than pull him with destructive criticisms that only boost personal egos.
Even I that voted and supported GEJ, I'm not too happy with his posturing with many issues lately, especially his reluctance and seemingly lack of serious political will to take decive steps but I still understand I have to give him the benefit of my doubts.
No need wishing him to fail and propagating fears in people's mind, we all can't afford to see him fail.

@FirmKY
Dude you are doing exactly what the Igbo leaders did in supporting GEJ, lending support on the basis of sentiment and not on real pragmatic political agreement that will further our cause.
Enough of that pandering and pampering, obviously, GEJ is only interested in those regions and people he considers as powerful threat than in showing any iota of independence of mind and ensuring equality.
Your claim of him needing OBJ and hence his reluctance to show displeasure at his belligerance is laughable, what exactly does he need OBJ for?
The entire southwest is not even in the hands of PDP, if the man was so powerful, how come he could not even win one state for the PDP in his region. OBJ is as powerless as a cockroach, it is the Nigerian media that makes him feel so powerful and myterious, they credit him with some fictitiuos political genius like he has shown any laudable political finesse in handling issues besides dumb, brash use of force and resort to corrupt, high-handed means.
Tinubu will trample on him any day in a power struggle in the SW region, that old general is overrated, his style of politics is so stale in the Nigeria of today, no wonder even his own people oppose him vehemently.
I dont mean to insult you, but your analysis on issue is at best childish and passive too.
We jeopardise our chances of emerging as V.P in readiness for the bigger picture in 2015, JEG needs to understand that a bird at hand is worth two in the bush, he seems to want to conquer the unforeseen even if it means sacrificing his allies. May be he, GEJ will take us seriously, when we leave sentiments aside and root for our gains like others are doing with him, may be only then will he learn to make his decisions based on priorities.
He seems to be moved by threat rather than common sense. Since he belives satisfying OBJ's ego is more important than being fair and realistic to understand that performance is also paramount to choosing who should get what especially as it concerns the party.
How exactly can anyone rationalize that a region the party has no control over is going to get such an exalted position as against another region that gave total support to the party.
And bros pls stop talking like our politicians are the only ones complaining you make it sound like they dont have rights to voice out their displeasure in the open, all that talk about SE chieftain washing dirty clothes outside shows you do not understand the intrigues of the report, you make it sound like they went to press to issue threat. Abeg learn to argue without those needless stereotyping of a sect, everyone is lobbying, the Igbos are no different stop sounding defeatist like we should be begging where others are demanding, that sounds lame biko. It is you who is reading meaning into what Igbo leaders are saying which is not different from their counterpart, every goddam section of the country is making a hell of noise, stop taking special interest in what
igbo leaders say.
Guy you need to be more realistic with your expectations, we have gone past the era for begging for little things, now it is a demand. Learn to talk that way, we are not the only ones demanding. Power has never been a business of begging, you demand it and work for it.
At this point, Igbos need to be more concerned with themselves than with what is going to happen to GEJ if we leave him, he already is taking care of himself sacrificing allies and trying to appease everybody to the dentriment of his allies.
My dad always says this; i will only help a friend that wants my help as friend but I wont say let us exchange situations just to ease my friend's burden. For what na

Dbanj and label mate Wande Coal are
presently at loggerheads over whose
album should drop first.
According to our sources, trouble
started with the ground breaking,
commercial success that trailed
Wande’s debut album, Mushin to
Mo’Hits, released in 2009.The album
propelled the Mushin, Lagos-bred
young man from just being a backup
singer for the crew to a substantive
music star but with scant
opportunities.
The success of Wande’s debut was so
huge that D’banj’s album, The
Entertainer, which was released
months before Wande’s, reportedly
suffered a slump in sales.
But things fall apart, when the
demand for Wande at shows and
concerts dropped considerably while
his statutory proceeds from the little
that came were either withheld or
handed out to him as piecemeal. To
underscore that he was no longer the
beautiful bride, a source alleges, the
standby generator in the Maryland
house was moved to Lekki. In fact, he
did not benefit from the presidential
windfall that came the way of D’banj
and Don jazzy unlike what would have
been the case if things were right,
“the source adds.
Wande’s friend who spoke on
condition of anonymity say though he
knows he is being stifled and
deliberately denied of cash, he is not
particularly bothered because he still
gets enough to keep body and soul
together.
What they say is Wande’s major
grouse now is the seeming refusal of
his label bosses Don jazzy and Dbanj
to push any singles out or help him
work towards the release of another
album. It was further revealed that
Wande has been neglected for the
past one year or there about and that
there is no effort whatsoever to help
him release another album much less
a single.
Wande who believes competition in
the industry is getting stiffer, and he
needs to drop some singles to stay
relevant, is allege to have plan for life
after Mo Hits as he has reportedly
incorporated his own record label
(Black Diamond)

I'm so disappointed at GEJ. This man will never shed himself off the strangle hold of OBJ, IBB, Atiku & co.
He is so ready to sacrifice Igbo interest to save face with regions that dont even give a damn about him. I'm almost begining to regret my support for this man.
He fails to remember that Ndigbo gave him enough confidence not just in words but in action. Besides, the SS which is his region, no other region gave him the kind of support we gave him. We even spite our own ambitions to ensure he emerged as President. His Party PDP got a wholesome support in votes from the SE region yet he did not see any need to argue for our case given his position when his party leadership surreptitiuosly schemed us out of relevance in their appointments to the extent of giving speakership to a zone that is in the hands of opposition. What a disrespect! Not even one person from the SS region has openly said anything about this injustice to people that considered them brothers even after they(SSoutherners) betrayed us in the past.
Now there are reports that it is even the Northerners that are pushing for the SE to get the speakership position.
GEJ and his SS brothers ve got to be the most stupid and clueless politicians in Nigeria if they fail to read the handwritings on the walls of our political scenes, is it not obvious there is a scheme here?
The present chairman of the PDP is from the North, he and other northern PDP strongmen in the NWC understand the impact of SE support to Jonathan or any serious bonding between the SE and SS; what did they do? First, they capitalized on the love-hate relationship or rivalry between SE and SW plus OBJ's greedy desire to have the SW retain the position-to forestall the SW from joining in the burgeoning southern relationship-they agreed to give it to the SW to keep us at loggerhead with the SWest while we question the basis of our support for GEJ and the new found relationship with the SS people. While all these play out, they on their own part will be the ones to come to our rescue against the supposed enemy, SW. And possibly we will begin to hate the SS for not reciprocating our support.
All these are playing out because GEJ and SS politicians lack the courage and political savvy to read the handwritings on the wall, they dont even understand who their friends are.
GEJ is a serious lame duck with no serious personal resolve to do anything. I like the way the Yorubas are busy looking out for their own. They understand tribal politics than we, ndigbo.
I guess Ndigbo will ve to be forced to sever their relationship with the SS, they obviously are not worth the sacrifice. "My mamma say pikin wey call her mamma, she go call am pikin".
We dont ve to have to leave the party just yet, let us wait and see at least, until after d swearing in.
But let it be known, Ndigbo leaders must never make any concessions again on the strength of brotherhood but on the basis of strategic benefits and importance.