₦airaland Forum

spice123:
My brother, I hardly comment on issues on this simply because of wrong perception but I will share my own experience.
My wife chats with her ex from time to time which I am fully aware right from the time we started dating till we married (her ex is married now). I've equally had a WhatsApp call with the guy in one or two occasions (friendly talk). I've come to build some rapour with him.
When this guy came to Naija I and my lovely wife went together to visit him. You see eh, everything in marriage is maturity. As it is we're planning vacation to the States sponsored by this guy. I'm a PROUD SIMP but I'm still in control.
With the way you're going with full blown Alpha male attitude, you will loose your wife. Thread carefully!

Mindlog:
Reason I laugh when I read here, suggestions by some Nairalander that if a woman's family is proving difficult regarding marital rites, the guy should sharply impregnate the lady, that would force the lady's family to agree to his terms, sha no be for my side....no pikin is a "bastard".

They do that in my hometown as well...It also serves as a measure to reduce bride price.. .

Your side got a really beautiful tradition... Especially given someone an identity.. That is the best gift ever ... When a man or woman knows that he or she has a root.. That confidence will always be there..

I wish all Nigerians can adopt that honestly...I hope it doesn't fade with time as technology is disturbing the peace of many nations around the world..

Mindlog:
At least from my own part of the world, traditionally no room for baby mama, the child belongs to the man who married the mother or bears the name of his/her maternal grandfather. The girl will be married off from her grandfather's home while the boy, will also be eligible to inherit land within the family.....End of Discussion.

Mindlog:
It is a fact. Though a painful reference, Davido had to bow to tradition by hastening Chioma's bride price in order to bury their son

Reason it is important for those who are #team baby daddy, to investigate where their intended babymama is from before setting out on a fruitless journey.

So Abuja marriage has consequences

Mindlog:
Where I come from, even if the DNA results shows that OP (though a fake story) is the biological father, he can't claim the child, even if the marriage of the woman in question ends with the husband and he moves on, the child will bear the maternal grandfather's name, be it male or female.

JONNYSPUTE:
...... This is a very difficult matter I must say.
I don't even know what to tell him but in whatever or however be plans on going about it. He should understand that lots of people will be affected.
May God grant him wisdom.

JONNYSPUTE:
......I think you are right on this. But mind you it's not going to be an easy task for him forgetting the matter just like that.

You are correct... But If he knows how he can do it without hurting anyone, he should do it... but I can't really see an easy way here...

Even if he conducts a secret DNA, and it turned out to be his,.. will he show up at their door step and say Hi I want to take my daughter?

immanuelsize:
don't mind that op. When he was enjoying rita via skin to skin and flesh to flesh, he was happy. Now, he want to destroy a peaceful family because of his passed mistake.

Middleborn:
Does that mean that I would forget about my daughter, my flesh and blood and let her be with a man who is not her father?

Klass99:
Ify Belgium, you are just impossible but our divergent views on the OP is not a problem.

The violence didn't interest me as much as your comment, I couldn't resist the urge to yab you .

My holiday was good I hope yours was too.

Some of us need to be careful because It seems that a lot of you ladies bought Pepper spray and are majestically moving and waving it around on every section ...Peace talks no dey for 2023 agender I guess ...

lukency:
Two penalties in a match! This referee hate Chelsea
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No he doesn't... But incase this season's humiliation becomes too much, U guys can advise the owner to consult FC Porto..and ask where they got their Baba from.. get him and place him on monthly salary like Porto

baralatie:
Thursday Fulham vs Chelsea

Were they supposed to be scared of Fulham as well?.. I didn't get your point

Angelfrost:
Arsenal and Man United have been down this road... They should chin up and take heart!

U are right..Who can ever forget about Arsenal of previous seasons... The memory is still fresh

Klass99:
At the bolded .

When I tell you to stop smoking Igbosere weed and try Osogbo weed instead, you always say I don't know what's up. Now see what Igbosere weed has caused! I have Chukwuka on speed dial, he is my dealer and he can get you premium quality weed, so when you haze and you are high, you won't be misyarning like this.

How on earth can you say this Richy? Insults go beyond words like idiot, stupid, fool, bastard etc. A person can thoroughly insult you, a group of people or an institution even without using any of those words, but meanwhile they are being very insulting, condescending and derogatory in their speech/conduct.

If my former boss sends you one of his strong worded emails, you will know your intelligence and entire lineage has been insulted in that mail without him using words like dunce, brainless or useless. This deactivated OP was no better and in no way cordial or mature, dissing a group of people like you said in another post, is tantamount to insulting them. A diss is an insult.

To make matters worse you now said a smart individual has exited NL, how na? I can't stop laughing. Your definition of smart and my definition are worlds apart, but then again we smoke different brands of weed so that is understandable.

I'm glad you were late for the vawulence opening ceremony... Good a thing you arrived When the celebrant have already left the arena..

Honestly Klass, We might be of different opinion but every individual have it's different side that wasn't pretty...

Apart from his negativity towards women.. He is smart and some one that any individual can chat with on this forum and you have a sense of feeling that you were communicating with an adult...

I don't go to romance section that much...So I might not know the havoc he may have been creating there..I only read Roman topic that made front page...and the ones that he posted that I read were not bad... He got something upstairs and we can't take that away from him...Maybe it's me because I like smart people a lot.. so that could be the reason I felt bad for him leaving..

By the way, how was your holiday? U haven't even dropped your holiday bags, you were already on the vawulence ring