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WebSurfer:
I really got tired of friends because i discover at the end they are just very annoying and opportunist , or living lives i can't handle (girls, achohol, drugs) without making any impact on me.

Though i have some female friends but not really that close

having friends is not a bad thing bro. Learn to pick them wisely don't let them pick you. I am an expert at that since I have been on earth. I do not have much friends but the ones I consider my friends ate worth their weight in gold and diamonds. No jokes.

Currently I have a very very very close relationship with a guy who sells housing stuffs and together we are pushing some bad asss idea offline... Dude is street smart but I am the creator of the whole plans while he is the field Marshall.

So bro... You can have friends if you pick wisely. I have never really had much sad tales when it comes to making friends because I pick them myself.

I don't make friends easily and weird thing is that i can talk to someone for a year but would never ask their name or phone number.

WebSurfer:
It wasnt the one i engaged, im sworn enemies with that one, she wouldnt even attempt cos too much happened.. it was the one i collected my iphone 7 plus i gave 200k to buy another phone probably because i promised her..

Nevertheless, she came to cook but i didnt give her any attention so she left without any discusion..

Moreover its a sad thing i have only one male friend entirely here and he is departing for law school soon..

My decision to stay away from friends are also based on experiences i have had with them.. so its just me alone plus i hardly or barely go out.

It's okay bro. You seems like an introvert to me and if yes, I will say a bit of the problem is due to lack of exposure. You should please and please man up.

The world is dog eat dog... People will use you and continue to use you till you die because you allow them... Even when they had begged you at their lowest ebb that they need your help, they will cross the line and take advantage of you when you let them.

Humans are selfish...

There is nothing bad about getting a stunner... But if you must, please let it be someone that is working. There are many of them.

Personally an extremely pretty lady that is not working or striving on her own is a turn off for me. I can almost bet that these girls you have been dealing with do not have any job. They are flashy and pretty but do not have anything meaningful that fetches them income and that is why they depend on men to foot their bills.

Bro, look for a lady that has handwork... I have come realise that ladies in this category are bit more reasonable in thoughts and deeds. Stop looking for those ones that looks like models in musical videos or movies.

There is nothing bad about that... But let it be someone that is at least making effort to make her own income.

You can find women in Church if you attend any or you can drive to Mall and engage in some convo with ladies, even bank. Just go out more. Dude you are not ugly, you are dark, tall and handsome...so where is all the problems coming from? Self esteem and how you carry yourself or see your self.

I don't know about you but I am very sensitive person. If a girl wants me, I will know. always look for signs. They should be the one fighting to be with you and not the other way round and you can make this happen.

With all these money being wasted on girls who don't give a flying fork about you, don't you think it is rather good to invest the money in your business or your own house building?

If I knew you were gonna give 200k, I would have stopped you. That's too much for girl you are not even sure of bro. Trust me, you may think that giving her that money to will earn you respect but honestly that shiiit just sent you 200,000 feet below in rank.

That money is enough to mould quite a lot of blocks bro.

Forget what you watch in movies... Forget all the bulshiiit girls tell you about wanting a caring man... In most cases, they respect a guy that does the opposite.

Let me use my friend as an example... The one he was spending his money on didnt love him or cared about him but the one while the one he wasn't giving attention to cared more about him. He even told me that he has never given her a dime in more than 3 years but she kept coming.

I read here on nairaland some months ago that women will respect you more when you show them you have money but don't give them. It's true to some extent, at least 80% of the time.


I will rather even act like I am a pauper in my current state and I am a good actor at that. That's how one girl was rating me based on my phone... In fact, within 20 minutes of our convo, I knew she was not interested in me... And I did well to end things as quick as possible.

Love yourself more.

Only hook up with a girl who is interested in YOU.

babtaima:
WEAK MAN.
The moment you realize that you are not obligated to do anything for any woman until after marriage or engagement the better for you. Giving her that amount of money makes her lose any respect she has for you.. If you still continue this relationship then you're really a weak man.

he doesn't seem to understand it yet that much of the problem is him.

Phonefanatic:
The man without liver........lost me respect after backing out of the protest.

Tuface will sing different inspirational songs till he dies and our politicians will remain the same.
He must have gotten approval to shoot the video from one of the top military men who is embezzling funds meant for the feeding of those poor people...........A man steals billions meant for the masses, you know the masses aren't hungry because there is no money but they are hungry because the ones at the top embezzled the funds you still have to take permission from the thieves to allow you sing and inspire the the hungry masses to touch lives

Same thing UN and World bank is doing. If they want to help they should stop giving because we have more than enough to go round. Thieves will steal then come to you for money to replace what they stole and you gladly accept their request.

How do you think he rose to the top? Hard work? I laugh you.

iamleumas:
Please should I finish my NYSC before applying for the direct entry or not?

yes. Or you can apply why doing nysc

iamleumas:


I NEED YOUR ADVICE PLEASE!!!

Good morning dear nairalanders...

Please I'm currently studying Business Administration & I'm now in HND 2 (First semester)

Please what is the best way to convert my HND to BS.c

I don't want to make a mistake.

Thanks in anticipation...

go do direct entry and make sure you leave hnd with upper credit.

WebSurfer:
tears ran down my cheeks reading this bro.
i should have read it yesterday before sending her 200k to get another phone


i'll try my best from now on..
infact, i promised myfelf this after finding out that i told you last night,

she called this morning to come cook for me and all that but i'll try to keep her at a distance

though i already started talking to someone else but i'll take my time

you are really right about the girls i fancy, {the current is way more beautiful than the one i engaged earlier this year} always extremely too beautiful that i get warned, but i ignore.. not that i dont have girls come to me on their own (average looking) but i dont give a chance cos im used to pretty ones, maybe it makes me feel like im settling for less. maybe but its reality


I really thank you for taking your time to talk to me

i will try my best

Which one did you send 200k again? The one you engaged in 2016 that came back? SMH... You are just trying to buy love. You are buying love bro. STOP IT. STOP IT PLEASE. It makes you appear too needy and clingy and sadly, weakling.

See, women are smart. They are not dumb as dumb as we assume. They understand a man's emotion and they rule such men. If they don't understand you, they fear you.

When you are too available they abuse it. How about you tell that girl that wants to come and cook for you that you will be busy? How about you tell her you are not around and that would be less busy next weekend?

Look a girl once told me she does not understand me. The girl loves me to bit and I know it but I no send her. She has been angry because she hardly gets attention from me but if I beg her now I form one story give her she go accept.

I am sure she has other guys giving her attention but I know I am her top priority. Every girl is like that. They have that guy the so much want.

Cant you see these girls know your weak point and her preying on it?

You need as much male friends as possible bro to really groom you. Stay away from relationship as much as possible.

The average looking ones, yeah I know those too. It does not mean you can't get stunner but you just have to be everything a bit opposite of the current websurfer. Yeah., if that requires hiding your personality.

A girl I was even chasing late last year to early this year no send me and I stopped. While I focus on myself. In fact while at it then, my productivity level dropped. That's the effect of some of these girls with mami water beauty... She got that bad looking pretty face and fair skinned too. Her facebook account generate friend request faster than light and she accepts them all. In fact if that girl creates a new facebook account, give her like 1 month and she would have garnered over 3000 friends.

But when I stopped showing interest, what happened? Na she begin give me likes on my post more frequent than before. Even called me boss in one of my pictures uploaded. I had no idea as I was offline but a friend who knew about my relationship with her drew my attention to it.

Does this mean you can't get the girl you want? Certainly not. You can but I don't think you can achieve that with current personality.

If it's the girl you engage in 2016 that you gave that 200k, doesn't that send a message to you that it is not easy to find a guy that gives her money like you do? I mean since then to now, why hasn't she bought another phone? Doesn't that make you see your kind is hard to find? Or you think some ducks hasn't forked her all these while? Why didnt they buy her a phone?

They know your weak point and they are taking advantage of it. Sadly lover boys who like stunning beauty hardly ever control themselves. You have got to watch it bro... It is not their fault that you can't control yourself. Making such girls look like a demigod is your greatest weakness and undoing. Put an end to it all by being firm as MAN and watch, them fall in line.

If they offer you sex reject it... Reject them and make them feel they are NOTHING more than an ordinary human being. By the time you start making them feel like they are too special, you create problems for yourself. Why? Because every other guy does same... So they tend to see you as one of those whom they can lord it over. Can a god serve people who worship him? You make them feel like they are a god and you at the same time expect them to be loyal. You make them feel they are your master and at the same time want them to listen to you.

Things will change when you begin to make them feel there is nothing special about them.

WebSurfer:
Girls are terrible people....

They have masters degree in lying...

Trust me on this bruv...

I guess we have nothing more to do than to keep exposing them for the ones who are still guilible to learn.


Believe everything they say at your own risk

You wont believe a girl lied to me with her own's mother's health last week saying things was getting critical and she cant focus with her life lookimg very sadistic making me feel sorry for her and all that..

Only to find out just last night on her email ( she logged in with my phone) that she even had twice the said amount already on her account making it tripple balance.

And after thorough and careful investigation with her transactions, there was nothing like her sending money to her apart from a transaction she sent to a female counterpath to buy something. As we speak, i sent her to helo me withdraw last night so i saw the balance to confirm she has this money.

Brothers and sisters... my story again... just because i couldnt take chances with her mother's health to assist as i could

https://www.nairaland.com/4139549/yourself there you go now bro

IAMSASHY:
dnt mind dat dude, he falls in2 d specie of guys Dat thinks a woman wl luv dem bc of material tins, dey luv getting material tins from u doesn't mean dey luv u actually, stop Wat u gv 2 dem and see dia real colors, he is d one falling his own hands after he wl com here 2 tag all girls being d same. He needs 2 change his pattern. Use his brain and nt money

I am like him... it is not the way you see it. He is not trying to use money to keep them.It is just his ideology about relationship and dating, which is a woman should be taken care of. Trust me, guys like these make the BEST DAD / HUSBAND. What he fails to realize is that ONLY a girl YOUR ARE SURE OF where you stand or a wife DESERVE such treatment.

When they do not want you, they give flimsy excuses, roping the blame on you, subtly telling you that you are not what they want as if they are any better.

Hello Websurfer,

How are you doing today? I hope good.

As promised, I am writing this because of you after reading your lamentations for the past few days now. Funny enough, you created another one today.

I have been following you since last year after the engagement thread. We seem to share something in common...we are both lover boys, the kind described in romantic movies, the kind women claim that they want but I learned sadly rather unfortunately that in reality, they do not deserve this, majority.

Another thing I can deduce from your position and series of threads is that you are too soft, especially with women.

You like flashy pretty girls, you have good eyes for pretty women... I am same too. At least if your engagement pics is anything to go by, that girl there was really beautiful.

I have vowed I will NEVER marry a lady who is not above average pretty. Though I prefer really pretty face and do not attached much importance to the body as long as she is not fat but moderately built, tall slim with a bit of figure is a stunner, at least I am tall, just 0.2 less than 6 ft.

In fact a friend noticed and told me that I like girls who are very stunning (but he can not date or marry such girls for fear lol), which is true but sadly, as I found out, you can not handle such girls being soft... bro. When you add to the fact that they are center of attraction from other guys, you can imagine the pride and ego that goes with it.

An average Nigerian can not handle power or influence with humility, so how do you expect a pretty Nigerian girl who get attention from a lot of guys to be stable without being proud? It practically throws them into more confusion. Only the one who knows what she wants due to discipline and good home training can handle but they are very very very RARE!

And that is why you need to re-invent yourself. You are an entrepreneur and you need as much focus as possible. How about working expanding your business?

Just like me, you are quick to start spending money on a girl or buying her gift. I have stopped doing that when I discovered something...

The problem we have as lover boys is that we think being nice to a girl is all that we need to do make them stay and love us... ERROR 404. It is NOT. It goes beyond being NICE...

You have to, after making your intention known that you want her, step back and observe... FIND OUT WHAT SHE WANTS! FORK emotions, FORK her pretty face... I learned long ago that how you start a relationship with a girl is VERY VERY VERY IMPORTANT! If you start by spending money, they will abuse it, especially those ones with lots of fun loving female friends. ladies are their own enemies and they give bad advises to each other and how do you hope to cope?

You love her, you like her, you want to give her your best.. eh, bros, we have heard all that... what does she wants? Do you know what she wants? Look, you had better spend over 80% of your time finding out IF SHE WANTS you or what she wants to give than anything else. A lot of Nigerian girls are parasites, leeches and opportunist...

They do not want you and they will not tell you but will keep collecting what you give them. I learned this lesson the hard way. How can you buy that girl iphone 7? Did you find out if she is really worth doing that for? Bro, to be honest, the problem is not them, it IS you. I used to do all that... I even know a friend whose account of over 25Million Naira was reduced to nothing because of a girl who didn't want him and he kept spending and even bought Honda Pilot for her around 2014.

They always leave clues but we ignore them and the clues are in their actions. Frankly, if a girl does not love you, bros, there is nothing you can do. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING and no amount of money , as my friend later found out late, in the world can change that

Look, every girl has that guy they respect... any girl that disrespect you in any form is NOT FOR YOU, she belongs to someone else.

So bro, if you really want to stop all these cry all over Nairaland, you have to focus your light on more important things by finding out IF SHE REALLY wants you and what you want to offer, what she is willing to sacrifice for it. From all I have seen you wrote, bro, those girls are not interested in you. THEY ARE NOT! Find another one and kick that slowpoke who came back to wherever she came from.

I know you are focus, I know you just want ONE GIRL to call yours... but you have to know that your kind is also rare to come by and so, bury that nice guy... STOP BEING NICE. When they complain about being in need, feign deafness and even promise and FAIL. Trust me, you will gain some respect that way... than the one who succumb to their every demands. You are too nice bro. STOP IT! You are too soft... STOP IT.

It is not like you are ugly why let these girls keep taking you for granted... in fact start an undefined relationship with anyone you like... do not take them serious. Ladies like SUSPENSE.. give them overdose of it.

You are focusing too much energy on the wrong thing... In business every success obey one rule: Find out what people want, give them and watch your bank account swell astronomically and if you have little or no competitor while doing that, bro, you will be stinking rich!

Bro, you got to take it easy. Let me share my opinion...

WebSurfer:
Let me give you another example, after dating this last one for over 6 months, she just came to realisation that im just few months older than her and she cant end up with me.. saying its not about me but her self esteem in the future aand all that bullshit..

Not that shes just finding out that now

Since everyone decided to be childish, i did something i would never do before (collected back my iphone 7 plus) cos i felt used

i am going to create a thread because of you and will address issues... You can always comment on it if you wish.

tesppidd:
for every 10,000 that decamp to pdp, there are 100,000 ready to chant 'sai buhari'. say no to the return of pdp. the worst of buhari is better than the best of pdp. wailers must wail till 2035. NO TO PDP!

idiot, what is your real handle? Or moniker ��

TheHistorian:
Please...Shall we stop promoting "mediocrity" in the flawed perception of "luck"?

What exactly has this lady done to warrant her submission of CV to the Vice President.Did She present a wonderful speech during the VP's stay? Was it her mode of dressing?

I think it is time we changed how we reason in Nigeria!

lol. You are on a long thing o. Nigeria is irredeemable

nerodenero:
Lesson: inasmuch as poverty is extremely bad, I'd rather be contented with the little God has provided while acknowledging His awesome power for keeping me alive and well than sell my soul to the devil over quick riches.

I read book about quick riches. The author claimed the devil only fasttracks all the monies an individual would have spent say for 70years God has destined him to live. The Devil will now gather all and give you like 5-10years to spend it before he kills you.

If the above is true or false, the devil gives nothing for free. The Bible says; 'what shall it profit a man that gains the world and loses his soul.

you are in the wrong circle... CHANGE! TELL that bullshiiit to Bill Gates or Mark Zuckerberg

Abfinest007:
all these Nollywood actors they won't Invest but when sickness come now they will be looking for help from the public

shut up

doubleportion:
Is it the people that will do the signing on 25th October are the one that had started already?

the land has been mapper out. I am not a Yoruba guy but the person I visited showed me while we drive along the road this was 3 months ago

Marcelo290:
Let's even pray it becomes a reality and not some elephant project used to siphon funds.

It will be a reality. They have started already and last time I was there, I was briefed.

laudate:
And to the mod who banned me... Papa God sabi yah address! I don carry your matter go meet God. He will deal with you in His own good time, don't worry. You can't keep a good man down!!

lol bros. No mind dem

DeutschJunge:
Some things are just meant to be done by some certain people. I believe in knowing your lane and stick to it, dont dabble in whats not yours.
Butcher work i believe should be the hausa thing, they have been doing it for years they know the ropes, and the do it well.
Just like how i will not advice a hausa man to go into spare part business or yoruba man to forgo PHD and farm cotton and herd cows.

you are wrong... actually, this is how it is nation wide... every slaughter house is very DIRTY... and no, it is the yorubas that knows how to butcher this thing the most. The hausa only rear the cattle

TimeMod1:
Ambode is the wisest governor of Lagos since 1999. You're growing wings beyond your confines and Ambode is doing just about enough to clipping them

The idiot you quoted for this comment is even based in Lagos... according to his comment. Ask him what he is doing in Lagos, why not go to the east?

aolawale025:
Hand of Esau. Voice of Jacob
Someone is orchestrating the whole thing

The man na idiot. Something he should have just honorably resign than subjecting himself to all these humiliation.

He is asset that Buhari can NEVER find elsewhere. The records are there to show.

Henryyy:
Apparently the op doesn't. Why must it always be Igbo 90% of the time stirring tribal wars? Why? Is it a curse or what?Anyone who cant abide by our laws, is welcome to leave. The op is just a mischievious idiot.



When did yorubas attack IPOB/BIAFRA? I'm lost here, pls show me where and tell me when. Your fight should be with the coward Nnamdi who foolishly thought spewing hate speech would help you lots achieve Biafra. Thanks to Kanu, igbos are now one of the most hated ethnic groups in Nigeria. (This one is honestly not even my business because most of you are hateful as well) Own up to your shit and stop blaming yoruba for what we dont give a mess about. Why lumping the SS in your foolery though? Who made you their mouth piece?

they are lucky it's not someone like me that owns nairaland. I for Don ban their entire family since for every tribal war thread they create... They get like 50 years ban. Every tribal war inciting comment gets then 10 years ban. By that time their brain will reset...

8lngish:
what's wrong with Jehovah witness

they don't marry outside their church

months:
No, I want to learn French becos then i can relate with neighbouring Country, in case u have not noticed, Nigeria is surrounded by French speakers.

They are well over 100 million combined.

Imagine the trade benefits going to oil Rich states like Gabon.

People do things that yields benefit not sentiment.

so there is no benefits when you speak Yoruba? Well, I was just browsing through my favourite site(quora) and here is what a man said about people like you that create stupid threads or ask worthless Question

months:
Guy get off my thread please, u are just expsoing your ignorance here.

What is your problem. You do not want to learn yoruba which is an African language but you learnt to write in English which is a white man's language. You would probably love tHE idea OF learning french, Mandarin, Hindu,Spanish and Portuguese OR even Malay... FOOL!

months:
I am from Ogun State, from Abeokuta.

Whatever rocks your boat. I can bet someone pays your bills, your rent fees and all other bills that is why you have so much time on your hand to rant like rabid dog. I ask you again, what do you do for a living?

months:

Niaraland is a yoruba only site, is it not?

Is there anything that will surprise us in this country again?

Wen dey cannot win they call for Seun to hide material.

I am not a Yoruba person but an Anambra son from Akwuzu. Most of you irritate me and disgust me so much. Don't you have something better to do with your life?

Every Yoruba person here should call Seun Osewa and talk to him to clamp down on tribal wars. I am saying this for benefits of everyone because I have lost the actual relevance of nairaland since the owner has allowed this diseyto fester and linger.

I was talking to Sagamite via email and dude recounted his displeasure about the current state of this forum.

I believe someone here knows sagamite. He is a Yoruba man and he never fails to announce sagalicious sagamu origin.

A lot of people are not happy about this and trust me Seun had better do something about this otherwise someone to else will do the job for him.

You can see that IPOB noise has drastically reduced across the cyber space and a forceful similar action on here will deter people like this OP but encourage them to do something positive with their lives. Consider how long he has been replying everyone on here and you think this one has a job? Do not be surprised that you may have been exchanging words with someon in his or her 20s.

So tell me, why not just call Seun and talk to him as a Yoruba man to do something that will make people like this find better things to do with their life?