pocohantas:


Please read again...



How does that mean the woman is financially and socially higher, when we talking of two broke people. Is there any difference between the man in this story and his wife?

Georgekyrian:

Is this coming from a woman; exactly that same post got me insane last week about husband habouring 3 siblings at home letting his blood Brother to suffer just because he's a puppet of marriage, what nonesense. I love you @Klass99

mariahAngel:

I've always wondered the same thing...
I consider such men as weak men who cannot put their foot down.
Thank you.

pocohantas:


I didn’t miss your point. MOST women are married to men who are not in anyway socially or financially high, let alone HIGHER. It isn’t even an insult to them, it is the reality of Nigerian relationships/marriages. The one we see everyday, not NL.

frankyychiji:
LoL. .king Solomon! You prolly consort with local women hoping on your pocket for their meal tickets.

frankyychiji:
You don't take a charge of a woman because she's not your slave but patner. But truly the Op has time coming to NL rather than sitting his wife down to talk?


Ok OP, DNA or not, I advise you to keep the child because he's yours legally. Throw her away and you just might never have another to call you daddy.

SweetyMarvel00:

You think loving a woman will make you a slave or weak. That's the mentality most guys have. That I said I will love my future doesn't mean I should be a foolish person.

I didn't also say that there are couples without challenges, but the way they choose to settle their scores is what matters. It is the love the couple have for each other that makes them settle it in a mature way.

I am learning already Sir, not "will" learn. Thanks

BastardChild:

Just tell me what to do sir because am loosing my mind

SweetyMarvel00:

Sir I have experience. Morealso, you can also learn from the experience of others. You can also learn by resding. What we call experience simply means "knowledge". My post is an experience. It is true and not a zee world anything. I will never post about the death of my mum, if she was not dead. Who does that?

You see, I said in my earlier comments that it's a mindset thing and sure it is. Before you meet any girl, you have already presumed and concluded in your heart that she's a LovePeddler. And next thing is that you will start acting in a way towards her that will bring the worst of her... that is what she will reciprocate in return and most times, their tit for tat is the worse...

Just look at the way you generalised the last sentence of your comment. My elder brother is married to a bold, courageous and hardworking woman. Despite her rugged attitude, she worships my bro like hell because my bro loves and treats her dearly. How about that?

Let me reinstate what I said: if marriage is going to work, most of the times, it is the man that will decide.

Amb1045:
hope you have been in a relationship before. bro it's not Rossy. Even with all your best and honest life a lady will treat you like a piss of shit. I'm praying for you to meet a good woman, because the way you're sounding your heart has not been broken before

mariahAngel:

Na from your earliest comment I been follow na



To me, the guy na demon, the girl na b!tch

cococandy:
@bold, Yet you people insult women who prefer men that can provide. calling them leeches Etc.If that’s man’s primary responsibility? Why is it bad for a lady to expect that from a man she’s planning to mate with?

You can’t choose which side is which when it pleases you. Stick to one.

mariahAngel:


You tink say I get time for those male vs female rubbish?
Bad person na bad person period! Weda na man or na woman.
Don't be blinded by gender bias. See people for who they are.
What they both did was wrong, and they deserve each other.

Ybaby:


Nairaland nig Ltd

No go find work.

mariahAngel:


No one can steal who doesn't want to be stolen.

Na only ode dem fit steal
The guy na mumu!

Klass99:


And I wish more men, would take charge in their homes and put an end to stupidity/foolishness. Like, the front page story where a wife brought in, two of her sisters to live with them while unfairly harassing the husband's brother. My blood boiled when I saw that story, I felt like slapping the fool called man/husband in that story to reset his brain. I was like, what sort of weak and pussy livered men do we have these days?

This is bullshit, if a man intervenes he can put a stop to nonsense. All he needs to do is take certain steps that let's a stupid wife know, her BS won't be tolerated beyond a certain level. Withdraw your affection, tell her without mincing words your dislike for certain attitudes or threaten her with a separation or divorce and see her arrange herself well. Some women no dey like hear separation or divorce for their ear, e dey do them like armageddon.

mariahAngel:


Some men are devil's advocate who creep into families just to destroy them.
They come for one and end up with another.
As for the cousin, all I can say is you lose them how you got them.

pocohantas:


E go shock them. The world is bigger than their issues.

yvelchstores:
[s]to answer your first question, absolutely, I can, and I do!

Secondly, THAT I STAND FOR CHRIST DOESN'T MAKE ME A COWARD. I WILL NOT HIDE NY OPINION BUT WILL VOICE IT OUT LOUD!

And I suppose it is you who knows how to talk? Listen, gone are the days of presumed weakness of the church. Go play your cards elsewhere, won't work here[/s]

Ybaby:


@romangalactic

yvelchstores:
What can i say, your future wife has been blessed by God.

PS, most of the stupid replies u will get for this beautiful piece you have written will come from men and boys from dysfunctional homes, with no real sense of value to what you uphold.

Kudos to u, most importantly to your father.

truthsayer009:


Wawu, So you stopped driving for health reasons?

But seriously car is a status symbol in Nigeria & we shouldn't deny it, maybe not for you sha.

If my girlfriend drives a car consistently, I will be forced to buy a car & I wouldn't even pretend that it's not intimating. Not sure I will visit my in-laws without a car too, there is something called first impression, it's very necessary abeg.

E get as e be going with Lergidice Benz to go & ask for wife, nahh no fvcking way!

Yeah & also, there would never be a time where owning a car in Nigeria is not going to be considered as a big thing.

zmpp:


Poco has serious problem, I tell you. I have been a member of this forum for more than 14 years, but I have never seen someone who's more like a rainbow with seven colors than her. It has always been from one lie and controversy to another. Her problem is worse than narcissism. As you can see, she has changed the bragging story of buying an SUV with her money. She no longer bought it instead she gave her mother her sedan and took her SUV. Her lies continue.

pocohantas:

[s]Where is a brand new prado jeep regarded as normal thing? This is the reason Nigerians are using boat to Europe. When they reach the abroad, they’ll discover a good number of the people there can’t even afford a lot and live on credit.[/s]

lefulefu:
i think it will be wonderful if the time comes when owing a car in nigeria wont be regarded as a big deal
cos its embarasing riding a 1999 camry model or benz in nigeria and ppl will still be regarding u as a bigboy or a biggirl while in other climes using a prado jeep just fresh out of the factory is regarded as a normal thing.

pocohantas:


Thank you my sister. My car is a sedan, but I swapped with my mum’s SUV, since she prefers a sedan. I had people approach me, with or without cars. The stares in traffic on my way home from work were even embarrassing. Driving was just easier for me- a necessity, it wasn’t a status symbol. I took a break from driving for health reasons and now I just want someone’s son to drive me, while I press my phone and massage his laps.

mariahAngel:


Unnecessarily? Yes.
If you keep doing that, people will stop taking you seriously eventually.

Just give you opinion on your topics of interest and move on.
You can also interact with others on the topic by quoting them.

pocohantas:


Editing viewers to her and her clan after the update is a waste of time. Only subsequent updates would use that setting, not the one that is already out. Some of us even see deleted updates.

mariahAngel:

You keep mentioning people, and that ain't cool.



Guy, you too soft.
You no go fit handle me...

pocohantas:


Congrats to you babe. I was very sure I have seen the hiking picture on NL, never knew you are the lady. May God bless and keep your home.

Find a good man and treat him like a king. The negative comments here should not matter. What you both think and feel for each other is priority.

Happy married life to you two.