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AMCE:
Please, is it still available @Romanoff

Do you want it?

Dead on arrival.

The Obidient movement has over taken the Kwankwasiyya movement.

Smh.

Wahala for who dey stay for abusive marriage "because of the children".

By staying, you are ruining the lives of those children.

See ehn.

I just weak.

See the ugly faces of the perpetrators.

Rotfl.

Una no go kill person for this forum.

OlawaleBammie:
U dont get it

If i say i am broke, not that she has more money than me in general, just that at that moment she has a disposable monies than i did.

Romanoff, if i should marry u today and i tell u that i am broke, not that if i should go to my vault i wont see money, just that they are not disposable.

My principle is clear, there is part of my money i save, and there is this one i spend to run the family, the moment i exhaust my disposable income, i switch to my woman.

So your woman should only have enough to support you but she must never be richer than you?

Beverlyjean:
U need throw sentiments away and face reality... 3 reason a man throws his wife out if the house

1. She cheats
2. She wants to kill him
3. She is constantly unsubmissive

Getting married is not the problem... staying married is

This is not true.

There are other way to make your grievances known. There's dialogue, there's counselling.

Those three reasons are not enough to throw your wife out. If it's not fixable, get a divorce.

So what if reason number one is why Funke threw her husband out,una no go still talk?

OlawaleBammie:
dont mind Romanoff

They are looking for that perfect man, imbecilê, didirin, amukumeko, that gentle guy to subjugate.

Power is power
Money is power
Whoever has it takes more responsibilities so also,
Whoever has it controls the piper

Wen ur wife has it, automatically she's above u, even if she's down to earth, commitments here and there wont allow her to habe ur tym the way u want, thereby causing friction in ur marriage

Smh.

So your sisters too shouldn't have more money than their husband.

Omashe o.

Beverlyjean:


@ Romanoff... this is exactly my point ... supporting people like funke will only make alot of women unmarried...

I disagree. Supporting men who throw their wives out over little disagreements didn't stop women from getting married enmasse every weekend. Did it?

OlawaleBammie:
No, i saw her as my helper ma.

So why can't you see her as your helper when she has more money than you while you are still the leader?

OlawaleBammie:
Yes, i am a leader cus i have the means to provide for my family, and my woman, support me as well.

Do u know the funniest tin eehn, wen i am broke my woman is always at alert to provide solutions.

There was a tym i went broke for about a week, my woman was more than happy to take the mantle upon her sef, do u know why?? She knows i always provide even beyond her expectations.

If i call my madam and tell her i am broke ooh, she wil just smile and rub my cheeks and tells me, oga go to work and i wil go, wen i come back from work ahe would have found a way to make meals and other tins.

Then the moment i get buoyant financially i pay her back all the money she used to run the house, and the ones i wont pay i would just tell her i am not going to pay this, her reply would be.. ahhh ika nie, ole and we would laff it off.. lobatan.

But say a con dey leave for my wife house and be changing diapers for kids just cus i have a good self-esteem....mba, rara, only ur sons can do dat as advised by you. My parent no teach me like that.

That is why i gave the blessings above to ur male kids as wished by you the mother.

So the time she was providing, you saw her as your leader?

Beverlyjean:
Jjc wasn't insecure...look where it landed him... this us what most men fear , that y they avoid marrying successful women

How can you tell?

Same man that was rumoured to have been unfaithful.

I can't say much for what broke their marriage till I get all the details. JJC's post wasn't detailed.

Wande22:
Romanoff just for the asking
If your sibling wife tells her husband "your business is not realistic but mine is" what will be your response/advice
PS. The husband is into what's on my signature while the wife is into production

It depends on how she said it and if she has done her research to arrive at that conclusion.

Connected1:
You have spoken well, but you only did so for yourself and those women you mentioned above.

You don't know how evil some women are, you can marry a good woman today but all it would take is one bad friend to spoil her mindset, I am sure you will call it evil if a man chases away a suspicious friend of his wife, things dae happen.

I have seen women throw out their husbands from time immemorial, this is not the first time, not all women are virtuous dear RomanOff, you need to understand that.

I know you are trying to encourage men to marry financially stable women, but it's not advisable because if she had bad manners before she became rich then she won't control it if she marries a man she's richer than but if it's the other way round, she would be pretentiously submissive.

That's the main reason elders advise young men to marry women from good homes and forget about beauty.

Men throw out women out of their matrimonial home far more than women do because such men pay the rent or own the home. The women are learning from the men.

Men will put out their wife and sometimes their kids over a disagreement.

We must learn to treat our wives the way we would want them to treat us.

OlawaleBammie:
Aunty me, so how will u provide ur thorough leadership wen u dont have money and other basic resources??
How wil i show love to my innocent kids? By changing the diapers, washing their school uniform, taking their baths every morning and night while their mother is out their working her ass out to buy them new uniforms, diapers and toiletries abi?
Pls how do u care for the family wen in reality ur wife is the one providing majorly everything needed, and still in the night u would want to lay the poor woman down and choke ur gbola tru her orifice, is dat how ur man has bn taking care of his family?? Nawa ooh



See madam, aji sebi oyo laari, oyo olee se bi baba enikankan.

Woman will always be woman and Man will always be Man wen is comes to family issue. Woman hold the family together while the man go out to provide what it takes for the woman to hold the family. The moment the man is incapacitated he himself knows that he has failed.

See enof of this argument, i just have one tin to say.



I pray ur sons will find themselves in jjc shoes wen they grow old, but thier wives wont send them out of the house., They wil be treated same way funke treated jjc, Amen. sebi its jjc that is not submissive, ur sons will be more than submissive to their respective wives in those wives houses. Ase!!!

Sebi that is what u want na

So you're a leader cause you have money?

So your wife having more money than you makes her your leader?

You better start praying for your own sons to value themselves beyond what they can provide so they don't get suicidal cause they are broke.

Kajaard:
Well said Romanoff. I have known you to always have a fair head and not being gender centric, so I was very surprised when some posters were referring to you as a toxic feminist, lol

I guess they misread your earlier post.

Na them sabi. I'm not a feminist. Never have been, never will be. I'm a humanist.

Treat your wife the way you'd want her to treat you if the tide was turned.

OlawaleBammie:
If i may ask ma, what are the roles, i mean the important roles these men u re talking about play??

Leadership, love, head of the family altar, provision within your means, support, care for the family, a haven for your wife and kids after a long hard day.

Money cannot buy these things, well, except provision but like I said, within your means.

A virtuous woman would support you happily cause it's your family, her money would be our money. Your money would be our money.

I don't know where you people see the women you date or marry o, but y'all have to sha do better. Leave sex aside and focus on things that really matter.

Connected1:
No man admires his poor self.

If a woman caters for a home for more than a month, forget it, she will throw you out like this, unless it's your house then she will frustrate you with naggings and insults.

I just pity unmarried ladies supporting this nonsense, in this hard economy, if all men wait to be financially stable to their taste then a lot of single women will never get married because by the time a man becomes successful, he will go for younger ladies.

There's no healthy self esteem without money, your decision won't even be respected in family meetings, your wife may even make your children see you as a weakling.

The truth is that the institution of marriage is dying rapidly with all these jargons of events happening and series of useless advices here and there, I don't think many people will be going to the altar even if the economy is balanced.

I'm it saying a man should not be financially stable before he marries. But even if that happens, his wife can still be more successful than him. Why should that emasculate him?

No woman should have to dim her light or not become ambitious so her husband can feel like a man.

Ngozi Okonjo Iweala get husband, Madam Folorunsho Alakija get husband, Madam Ibukun Awosika get husband.

Imagine if the husbands of these women didn't let them shine cause they were insecure.
If you treat your wife right when you have money, if you don't treat her like a subordinate but an equal when you have money, if you love and respect her when you have money, if you care for her like you should and valued her opinion when you have money, what the tides turn, that woman will turn up for you.

The only women who become monsters after their husbands go broke were probably waiting to have money so they could get back at their husbands for all the times he maltreated her.

Some of such women even wait till old age.

Be your wife's friend, her support system, love her like you should, she would not become a monster just cause she's richer.

My husband is my business manager, lol. If he's there when my clients come, you need to see how he gives them inflated prices. My clients don't like meeting him when they come.

If I get a job that pays triple what my hubby earns now in another state, he will resign and follow me for the job. He won't ask me to turn it down.

If he gets a job that pays him up to what he earned in his former job, he'd take it and we'd be happy.

His worth is not tied to his pocket, as much as he loves a good life.

Evolutionlove:
Which money mtcheeew. Asif you can spend the money on men without Nagging on him up and down. Who needs your money sef. Getat..

But if I do giveaway you go collect.

OlawaleBammie:
the truth of the matter is ur first paragraph, even bible confirm it.

Bible said a man should and must provide for his home that is why the wallet of a man must be well built.

Self-esteem without wallet is not self-esteem ma, its a forced admission of failure.

You wil never see a virtuous woman happy if she has never helped her husband financially. But u ladies of today no kuku know that one, yours is to lay down and pamo jo bi eku eda.


A man need money to take care of his wife and not the other way round, a woman need little (tho she can have more) to support her husband (that is wat make a virtuous woman.


How do u want me to have a right self-esteem wen my wallet is not capable of taking care of me, my wife, kids, mother, father and u as a friend??


Madam u be married woman, i need u to talk sense out.

Let ur man be broke for a very long tym, let the workload shift to u, by then u can come to me and analyze what self-esteem means.

Like I said, a man's value isn't tied to his bank account.

Are you telling me that your wife only submits to you cause you have money?

If I'm to go by your last sentence, i spos to done leave my husband tey tey. That's all I'll say about this.

Your woman's submission shouldn't come to you cause of the money you but on how you treat and value her.

See, I've see quality men. Men that I wish my brother was like. Men that I wish my father was like. Men that are assured of who they are not cause of their bank account but cause of the role they play.

I'm not saying these men were outrightly broke but the wives of these men earned far far above their husbands.

Those are the kinds of women I sort marriage counseling from before I got married to know how they made it work. How they managed financial issue in their home and I can tell you, the oldest of these couples have been married for 15 years.

The husband is catching up to the wife now due to her contribution and support and the wife is still doing very well in her business.

When you open eye to marry, you won't be praying for your wife not to be successful or for her not to be more successful than you because you're insecure about your headship. That's Wickedness and witchcraft.

This man use to ba a lavish spender of his money, his wife helped him curb that by managing his finances, encouraged him to set up his own company and invested in it, that's business is worth a fortune today due to big government contracts.

The woman is the most humble woman I know.

Beverlyjean:
U dont do sarcasm with God ... alot of wealthy young women can't find a man cos men are afraid of jjc type situation... we sudnt make fun of this cos it will still backfire on we women

Any rich virtous woman will find a husband.

Forget all these things.

OlawaleBammie:
Forget thunder, thunder no dey partial

I talk am yesterday that that ur statement have some sinister undertone but no evidence to prove it so i locked up

But now the evidence is glaring..


I am only thankful to God that ur husband is well to do, if not only God knows what u would have done to him.


I have said it long before i grew, many women are submissive not because dey wanted to but because their husbands are well to do more than them so they have to click in for financial stability

Let the game switch, let majority of them have financial prowess than the man and see the man suffer an everlasting ridicule. Shioor

It's sad that a man's worth is tied to his wallet. It's why a man feels emasculated once he is broke.

Only men with a healthy self esteem know that their value and headship isn't tied to how much is in their bank account.

I know women richer than their husbands with godly homes. You will never know unless you're very very close to them.

Beverlyjean:
Don't test God just cos u wanna prove a point... supporting what she said is blasphemy... dont allow God's wrath fall on u ... she herself already looks like someone that is receiving her own punishment... better go ask for forgiveness

Like I said, the sarcasm didn't get to you.

This is not Abuja. The building on the left looks like the balconies of the world trade center but then, there aren't so many high rise buildings situated in that area.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Get ready..
TIME FOR WAR..

I am indabhoski pahose.

BloomingDale:
Yes o. Return back to him papa house for proper training.

Na so all these men dey do these days, liability without submission.

Arrant nonsense, this is a no simp zone.

BloomingDale:
Very good. If your husband ain’t submissive, throw him out. No time for rubbish.

Rotfl.

Abi o. Husband that you married with your money.

Na to send am straight to him papa house make e go collect home training.

Lwkmd.

Any one who watched the video would see it's sarcasm

I like how this gender equality thing is treating us.

If it was the husband that threw her out of the house, our men will hail him for throwing out an olosho.

But the table has turned now, see cry me the atlantic o.

Men can't really take what hey dish out.

All hail gender equality.

All hail women with money.

Mention me with insult and watch how Thunder from Sango, Amadioha and Thor will fire you and your generation.

Radarada.

Women done suffer, you get money, problem, you no get, you be liability.

Shior.

Uncle, leave that wise girl alone and go after a co fornicator like you.

I use God beg you.

Newborn27:
Can you please, send me a PM on nairaland to enable me trace my email account....I can't remember my email address...I've tried logging in it ain't working.

Thanks

Sent

Newborn27:
I've sent a PM

I'll respond now.

Newborn27:
I'm using Free basics to surf nairaland only....I can't guarantee my prompt response via email.

We can use mention since we've got nothing to hide....when our conversation is becoming confidential...we can use WhatsApp.


I'm really grateful for your response and would be happy if I can get a job and relocate through this....I'm not desperate....it can be next session or next year....they should just have me in mind.

Email will be better so I can always remember you. I don't give out my number on public forums.

Whenever you can, send me the PM, after you've done that, give me a mention.