₦airaland Forum

Do you really drive and how were you able to pass your driving test? That's what I'm interested in knowing.

Why do you want to marry at this point in your life? Please avail us with your reasons coz you're 30 isn't enough.

mjswthrt:
udo ma ogodo

Hehe, biko udo ma kwa ogodo na oyi erika. Nkea ika mu anya, ona chi echibe ebe ino ugbua?

Lwtmb, you no well walahi

Why e no tell hin girlfriend to join them for a threesomé beano, and teach bítch Ann a lesson.

mjswthrt:
EZE UMU anumanu

Obu eze nnunu nke mbu na alaigbo. Amaghi dim na igbo nwa banyi sef. Kedu?

pinceprinz:
Well, done it before and ima still do it again!

You lash am? Coz any thing less is just flirtation and dalliance not dating.

ivyT:
they like trouble because u resemble trouble and u are trouble itself..*goes to bed*

Drags her back to the 'living room'. No sleep for you tonight.

Tufanja:
This comment exactly illustrates why I wonder why Nigerian women are crazy about marriage. This is not a marriage but a prison. With as guard an immature man who thinks he can play husband.

If you frustrate a man, he can act like a not grown up child and respond in any possible way without even considering that he might be the cause of the frustration. But if you frustrate a woman...she should just shut up. #losersmentality

I like this. The last paragraph was apt. When a man is the problem all hands must be on deck to resolve it or he cheats but when the problem is the woman she's got no choice than to accept it and pray for her husband. A joke really.

Wristbangle your space don go.

EggovinMma:
Everybody has got a choice to make in life.
Each and everyone of us has got standards which may be different from the other.
Each time i hear of such sentence as "a rich man can be poor and a poor man can be rich", yet nobody is talking about another probability, A POOR MAN CAN BE POOR FOR LIFE! !!Why una dey dodge that one?

Marriage ain't a poverty alleviation programme,really? The main purpose of Man in marriage is to provide. He must toil the earth, labour to bring comfort to his home.A women who decides to work to help is only complimenting the man.


This attitude of some men insisting a woman must work clearly shows how lazy and incompetent they have become. Gone are the days when MEN know and play their roles as men.All I see around these days are bunch of lazy youths with utter stupid ego, looking for the easy way out by enforcing that women play both the role of a man and woman. These days, I'm beginning to feel more of a man than a woman. The stress from friends, family, now make me feelllike a family man.

Let the women choose what they want!

While I agree that a man should provide for his home and work endlessly doing so in a marriage I refuse to admit that it's his purpose in marriage. To agree so, it's unconsciously acceding that taking care of his wife is his responsibility, nay she's a liability to him.

Marriage and a woman shouldn't be a burden to a man, neither should it be a shelter for abrogating one's sustenance responsibility. A woman should work, just like the man, and support the home. Unless the man agrees otherwise. And she working it's not complimenting her man either, but the right thing to do, building on herself, career and most importantly having financial independence amongst others.

Any thing less would further deepen the culture of women who will become a pawn in a man's house who may assume they have control over a woman's life coz they are her sponsor and leaves divorcee women empty handed in climate where alimony settlements is a far-cry.

tosyne2much:
I trust you Oga Ronald... No one shares kitty-cat with u

Hahahaha lwtmb o. No one comes a thousand miles near my kitty-cat needless to share. I go shoot from all angle o.

The moment my woman decides to become Dasuki with her kitty and I find out, its the day she signed the divorce papers.

midehi2:
guy, if its business privacy, understandable, not when i see something like 'you have a lovely lips, can i come and kiss' or 'babe see your waist, when will i touch it' gadaaaam! is better i stay clear from his phone

Lol. Guys will always flirt whether in a serious relationship or not. We can't do without flirting and not like we always take it serious. Ladies too flirt and a guy should understand these things too.

Please even if you search his phone and see a lady text reads "thanks for today, can't wait to be with you again, you're a darl" don't take it serious until you catch him red-handed gbenshing.

Larryfly:
My guy, your prevention of STD is from that phone. Leave business and other private issues. Its from your spouse's phone that you ld know the kind of human being you claim you love. Its from that phone you ll know if the person you gave your heart to wants your head. Guy shun all this maturity talk, be smart.

You mean you give someone else your heart to keep? Why not destroy it yourself than allow someone else to if you don't need it anymore?

When we talk about checking each other's phone we always tend to think it's just about cheating. That's wrong. There are a lot more private contents people don't want anyone to intrude or know about them.

There are the business's aspect of it, nucleus family issues, and many more classified details that could have nothing to do with cheating and don't want anyone to know about.

Like someone already said, individualism should be conserved even for married couples. One shouldn't lose their total freedom and privacy just coz they are in a relationship.

This man really need to sit his ass down and focus on reviving the shoddy economy. This is not the change we voted for.

FTBOY:
so what of guys who don't cook like myself? does that mean no marriage for us smh for some people sha

No one said a man who doesn't know how to cook or don't like cooking shouldn't get married. They can marry and provided the wife is okay with it fine but what I was saying is that it isn't a man's "right" not to cook as anyone can prepare meals for the family. Just like cleaning and any other chores can be done by both couple too.

iAmCharis:
It's not an expression of love. It's an expression of konji


Some hypocrites a.k.a pretender emeritus spotted here.

Lol @ expression of konji. Don't mind these kids who know nothing about relationship and the 'taming' of conji. When they understand the reason behind exchange of nudes they would shift this their canting attitude aside. Exchange of nudes is here to stay.

Eebrahym:
Who else could he be referring to if not Bren Bloose

Maybe other team made in Nigeria crew who have bleached their destiny into abyss.

I don't think he's referring to Ben Bruce. Perhaps, he's referring to the bleaching community out there who are part of the promote made in Nigeria goods campaign.

But if indeed he's referring to him then that's petit and unwarranted. BTW, I thought the tweetnator is naturally fair?

DeMekus:
You didn't get my point. Among other things the African man was not supposed to do before now, I think the "stay away from the kitchen" rule should remain, if nothing at all, to show why we're different from the white folks. It doesn't take away the women's right to be respected. I, for instance, can wash my wife's clothes but can't force her to wash mine. I can sit and feed my baby too if need be. But I can never enter the kitchen to cook her meals; let that be my own dividend of being a married man.

You want to be different from the white folks when it's convenience to you and not when you realise it twinges you? No, it doesn't work like that mate. You're not solely responsible to decide what to do and what not to do in gender family roles, women are stakeholders and should be major player in family decision making.

Washing your wife's clothes isn't a big deal. If you expect her to wash yours, then you should be able to wash hers too. So, don't take any credit in doing so.

You said "I can sit and feed my baby too if need be". What do you mean by if need be in feeding your "own" baby? Were you supposed to do otherwise or you falsely assume feeding of a baby is solely a wife's role? Pal, the baby is yours and you have just as equal responsibility to nurse him/her same as your wife. Again, don't take any credit for it.

Being a married man doesn't mean abdicating your cooking responsibility to a wife. You were cooking and eating (I suppose) before you met her and so should still cook even after meeting her. And if you weren't able to cook before you met her that's your problem not hers. A wife is not a chef but a companion and in companionship there should be no gender roles.

tosyne2much:
Be like say Oga Toks 2008 sef like kitty-cat pass Prof Ronald 4lif

Don't get it? Do you mean I need to read this post or any piece for that matter before knowing that once I catch my wife cheating the marriage has reached it end?

Your reasons for men not to be in the kitchen are frivolous and utter nonsense. Anyone can be in the kitchen and fix their own meals and for the married a man can prepare family meals too just like the women can. That a rod is dangling between your legs is no reason not to be part of culinary duties.

When you come up with rational reasons then we can debate on them. For now, these and indeed any other reason(s) are cobblers.

DeMekus:
I'm also of the opinion that cooking shouldn't be a man's duty. A man can learn how to cook as an advantage to bachelorhood. But once he's married, the wife ought to take over immediately. It's not really about how they look in the apron. It is un-African; to hell with your civilisation.
My only problem is the way the Op addressed the topic.

It used to be un-African for women to work, earn their own money and contribute to the financial running of the home but that's not the case today. So, would you also propose women should stop working and return to their former role of housewives?

shaboti:
this easily translates to.. You have no self control. But thats fine since you mentioned that you dont mind a cheating wife either.

Depends on what you mean by self control. If that means not being loyal to one woman forever as in marriage terms and having a fling often then yes I have got none.

But if it means sniffing on anything on skirt on a regular basis without decency then I have got humongous control of my self.

And I didn't mean I don't have a problem with my wife cheating literally. That's only provided I don't find out coz if I do and put an end to it, then I have a problem with it. Or did you miss that part?

maleeks:
Thank you, but WU and Moneygramm dont disburse foreign currency anymore

Oh I see. How do you intend to reimburse the money back to the sender. Through WU or his Nigerian bank account? I think he should consider and receive the payment in same bank rates and it would be better you deposit the money in his local account coz WU or MG transaction charges will cost too much for you. There really has to be a consideration on his part.

ajebuter:
Bros, things are falling totally apart around PMB and you still don't see the fire on the mountain?

You think we hate him or something and that's why we wail?

It's time you face reality and that is: PMB doesn't have the magic wand to resurrect our comatose economy

It's not his fault, he just doesn't have it in him

And lastly, I wish him as much GOODLUCK as he wished the last administration

PMB is not responsible for squeezing forex, fall in oil prices is and the economy would not have been different were GEJ still in power. GEJites should give us a break. The man was a big time disaster.

maleeks:
Please can anyone tell me what to do, My cousin want to lend me USD5000 to get some things done urgently before next week, which i shall refund in three weeks time, my question is, if he sends it via western union or moneygram and the bank exchange it for me at the rate of NGN199, And what if i want to repay him, does it mean i will be paying times 2 of what i'd be loaned.... Please help me on this, or i should tell him to send the money through courrier and i should just go and change it at black market

Courier companies don't accept cash items so that's not an option. I thought it can be cashed in dollars via WU? That way you can then change it at black market rate.

And you can still repay him via same WU or Moneygram. Though at exorbitant sending charges rates.

elderstan:
So that exactly what is happening now, waooo I was a kind of coming to nigeria for holiday. But since its like that I won't again oooo

And why not? How does the naira fall affect your holiday?

sunnyt1:
This is the reasons why a lady/guy shd discuss at length with the partner, you can only know someone you talk with extensively. The opinion above says a lot about this person and the kind of future he wants for himself except its a kind of prank.

You wont stick to one partner your entire life and you dont mind if your wife flies around but if you get her, its the end of the marriage and she can do same if its the other way round. Haba

Wetin this one dey talk. You want to tell me how to live my life?

doveda:
Wow! Have you been a woman before?

I don't need to be a woman to know that women are generally more attached to sex emotionally as compared to men. On your knowledge of men, have you been one before?