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dayokanu: You are an employee in that office and what would happen if your employers know you are receiving wife, mother and grandmother during office hours?
If she didnt have the courtesy to tell him ahead that she is coming then she needs to wait until he is ready

How do you know he was entering another person in the office? Did she catch him on top of her? Anytime a man is in a room with anyone with doors locked he is fuckingg right? Even if na the mom, boss or coworker
You talked about due process, what due process did the op follow in this situation

Dayo...stop potting on the wrong ball, stop saying all this because he is a man....this is a relationship between a man and a woman, this is a married couple and i believe every employer/company understands situations where a spouse has to see her hubby or wife. There is absolutely nothing wrong in going to see your hubby or wife in the office, stop making excuses that are not there. If the man cannot respect his wife in his office, how the hell is she suposed to accord any form of respect to the hubby in her own office. Whether what she did was wrong or not, you settle it at home and tell her when she should visit you in the office, but you first and foremost....respect her infront of everyone!!!!

maclatunji: Unless this story has been doctored. This is not debrief's ex-husband although the stories are similar. Debrief had a child with her ex, OP here doesn't have children. OP, sorry O. Like you have said, young men should be responsible, not for anybody else but themselves.

May God cure you of your ailment.

She was pregnant with the second, couple of months ago, she must have put to bed....since we are not seeing much of her online anylonger..

Sagamite: I am not romantic, I CAN BE sweet. (functional phrase dey there o)

I would take the girl on the plane over the wife.

Wife was, at best, very average in everything about her and the girl on the plane was 2 notches above her in looks and had more fashionista style.

Now i see a reason for his taste and pick in a girlfriend, we don't know why he married his woman in the first place, these are part of the reasons why we say, some men marry for the wrong reasons, now when their eyes clears, that is when they will notice the lepas or be unhappy in their marraiges, why don't you marry someone you will still be comfortable with in the next 20-25years..and stop going for vain qualities

Poeple like Jay-Z, decided to marry the person he thinks he loves and cherishes, will the marraige last? we don't know, with all his money, fame, prestige and personlaity, he still stoop low to "put a ring on the finger" he still signed those "dotted lines", Now that is a man who is not afraid to take major steps,even if it will not be in his favor in the long run.

Obama...might have married late, but he is still cruzing with his wife, infact he is getting older by the day, while his wife is looking much younger and prettier, if he had not seen any genuine reasons to marry with all his havard education, he will not have ventured into it.

dayokanu: An office is not his house or bedroom, Someone else owns that office and employed your spouse to do official duties in the office not to entertain family and friends.

The employer isnt paying her husband to be entertaining his wife in the office, If your boss sees you entertaining your family during office hours In most cases you get a warning or a sack.

If the husband is sacked for entertaining her, she would be the first person to abuse him of being jobless

And who is talking about entertaining a spouse here, no one says he should buy her chivita and crackers and have her cross leg in his office, all i am saying is that the guy should have excused himself, talk to his wife either telling her to go home that he was busy or have her wait..except if it was an emergency. But leave her outside on purpose is a NO-NO....no amount of arguement will change my reasoning....As long as i am in my office, i have sole authority in that office, i am the boss in my office, now it is left for me to do ethical things in that office, the guy cannot open the door for his wife, but he can be "entering" another lady in that same office that is neither a bedroom nor his house....

dayokanu: The same courtesy didnt tell his wife to call him before coming to the office, but that courtesy is now telling the husband to go out of a meeting to meet a wife. That courtesy must be very selective.

Taking a leak is a natural thing that people do, Going to meet a wife in an office place is something considered very unprofessional. This was a wife you have a night to see and you still spend official hours to be discussing what?

Dayo, i can't always call my hubby that i am coming to his office, why should i clock in first anytime i have to go and see him he is my HUSBAND!!!!! this is not a boss to surbodinate kind of relationship.....all those men having extramarital affairs, how many times have their girlfriends called the men that they were coming to visit them, especially in that Naija setting?

If a man does not have any skelteon in his cupboard, why would he insist that the wife calls him before she can visit him in his office

^^^^^^1st off....my hubby can come into my office anytime he chooses, we talk on the phone almost everytime, and when we decide to go to lunch together he comes and picks me up, sometimes he brings some documents to me to sign asper our business, since i am also a signer on our "joint account"...and so on.....

My hubby cannot bang on the door...because due process [like Coogar said] had been followed...all he has to do is wait for me, moreso the door to my office is transparent[it is a glass door], so you can see what is going on. Now< this poor woman did not have an idea of what was going on in the office,and even his secretary might have helped her knock on the door, i feel it is just rude to ignore her and just keep mute in the office, especially if she did not have an idea of what you were doing...on opening the door eventually, the guy was all tensed, shaking and adjusting....really?

The office is private enough, by having a four wall and a door....what will be so privately said, that i can't say with doors unlocked [ i am not saying closed door ooo but locked door]

dayokanu: So if you are having a meeting in the office, you would just get out of the meeting and go down to security to meet your insecure wife and later come back to the meeting?

That shows your client or whom you are talking to that you are not serious with the business. Thats the height of it. In meetings where your phones are expected to be off or in silent is where you would be rushing out to attend to a wife?

To ensure that her husband isn't cheating Maybe she should be following him to the office and sit on his laps throughout to be assured he isnt cheating

Dayo courtesy demanded that he reached out to his wife, how long is it going to take you to excuse yourself?? in what meetings are excuses not allowed? if you could excuse yourself to "take a leak" why can't you excuse yourself to quickly say a sentence or two to your wife??

dayokanu: In your current office now, Can you husband walk in and demand to see you?

If its a one man office its different but in a corporate environment, In most cases you wont get beyond the security.

there are several confidential information lying everywhere in an office and not somewhere family members should be barging into

What next, The pepper seller would come into the office, the grandmother from village too would come for family meeting in the office

My hubby comes to see me when it is very important and yes he comes into my office, when i have a client he would be told by the service rep, and he will quietly take a seat and wait till i am done with my client, whether it is a man or woman. And no quarel...i have even never locked the door to my office when i am in the office, it is opened...before one of the clients would jump on me, moreso if the client harrases me, it will be my world against his. So precaution has to be taken.

Goodmorning everyone!!!

Logs for yesterday:

35 minutes cardio insanity....found it on you tube, it was all about muscle building....i saw wenH!!!it helped me loose all those tigght joints...nice one.

breakfast...a bowl of cereal...

lunch would be boiled plantain and sauce....

don't know what the dinner would be yet...

coogar: 1 - it's an office!
2 - the man was not expecting his wife
3 - due process should be followed
4 - the man was trying not to disrupt the conversation he's having with the mystery girl
5 - they could be praying in that 30-minute interval.
6 - a cheating husband would not wait 30 mins knowing his wife is around.
7 - et cetera, et cetera!

Naso...prayer indeed!!!!....so the hubby did not know that his wife was waiting at the door during the due process that was carried out, his secretary did not tell him using the intercom? he did not hear the knock on the door....due process my arse..... .

Great job!!!! everyone and to all who have contributed....this is me hugging you all ....God bless.

coogar: they could have been discussing confidential matter.
the man said he likes to lock the door in his office...he has been
doing that before...the op's problem was finding a girl there.
if she had found him with a guy, would she think her husband was gay?

she might not think immediately that her hubby is gay, but subsequently that thought will erupt....okay!! he likes locking the door....why did it take him 30 mins to open when he knows his wife was waiting?, why didn't he excuse himself, quickly appraoch the wife and ask her to take a seat that he was going to be with her in a couple of minutes that he had a clent??. All that little gesture, just shows respect...he utterly embarrassed her by keeping mute in satying still in his office till his "so-called " client was ready to leave.

coogar: that's because your dad owns the office or he has the highest authority there.
in an office, due process must be followed. check with the secretary if the
person you're looking for is on seat...the secretary then asks if you have
an appointment and she then calls your host to acknowledge him of your
arrival. i don't think my wife should barge into my office just because it's
mine. simple courtesy demands her to wait like other peops.

By the time his secretary and other peeps see me coming upstairs.... they would be like..."oga pickin" don come oooo, how are you maa..bla bla bla....there is no unnecessary due process, i walk staright into my papa's office, sometimes he has clients or customers and i sit in the other office, until he is done. And the same goes for my sisters and mum, Anytime we decide to go into his office, we have free access...

if the guy was not an authority in that office, why was the door locked, how come he was the only one in the office with a customer, who is female

I tire for all these outfits and make-up.....

dayokanu: Its called an office, and family members are not allowed to barge into any office anytime they want.

Which office do you know where your wife, mother, children can just walk in anytime they want?

In many offices I know they wife wont even be allowed to get past the security guard

Oh!!!! i used to walk into my father's office anytime i wanted, and there was no padlock on the door....till now....why would an office door be locked when someone is in the office...what is it supposed to be, a room it is an office, where he should be meeting clients...and not entering them.

Sagalu...what was your analysis of the wife you saw in the picture, is she close (appearance wise) to the girlfriend he was flying with?

And so because you kiss, hug and do lovey-dovey stuff in public,does mean that you are romantic?

Deneut...no probs, come and rub it nah!!!!am going into the shower with a bucket of grinded jalepenos!!!!

Tashaluv: il remove those eyes, maam

OUCH!!!!! it hurts......

^^^^^ comeover.....if you have the liver ....

****peeping*****

argghhhhh!!!! they are still here....off to take a shower.....brb. .

^^^^Funny....i am off to exercise...catch yah tomorrow....

She looks lovely, all she has to do is maintain it....i am so loving her new look....

Tame..

Tasha...you want to receive some cane?, come-on go bed, it's past your bed time.....and if you reply, you will face the wall!!!

Exercising [in the next 30 mins].

^^^^^^ I am trying.....

Enjoying!!! [a cup of tea, that is]

Meow!!!!!

Goodnight, then sleep tight

shymmex: ^^^What happened to you?

Monday wahala!!!!.....was busy at work like crazy.....

Thanks Tasha..for congratulating me, will share some with you,

Experimenting