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[quote author=Miss_Ife]Wow, you guys write too much now, I can't even follow up with the posts, when I see the length of the write ups I just don't have the strength to read everything.

Pls, just be kind to let me know if anybody gets hurt/changes mind or if sagamite/harakiri are getting married [/quote]My dear...when i just get to the page, i will just read one paragraph....and go to another thread .
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jay bee: My friend is 31 and dating this guy who met her 4months ago, she was heart broken and out of relationship for over a year and God brought this guy her way who is in madly in love with her and really wants to take it futher in no time but he's restrained with money.

My friend is working and praying that her guy gets a good job as he is hopeful too. but now she's pregnant and confused what to do, should she keep the pregnancy as the guy is not dennying it and telling her not to fret but stay calm while they think of what to do next, though everything falls back to money, or should she do away with the pregnancy and rather take her time to plan with the guy on having a good start? she's bothered about dissapointing her parents and what people will say. please can you help post this for peoples candid answer if they were in her shoes? she asked me and ernestly i don't know what to say.

PS: From an anonymous Nler

Tell your friend, to go to the court with the guy...they should do a small court wedding with friends and family...do the normal traditional wedding rites...lobaatan!!!!all this will not cost him more than 200k....

So it is my turn, will just appreciate him anyways even if he will not read it, as he does not come on NL....

This is to my Onitemi, my heart beat, my sweetness, my love, my trouble...
I thank you and appreciate you for all the values of love, understanding, patience, individuality, responsibility, integrity, loyalty, enjoyment/fun, honesty, dignity, influence, generousity, persistency, discipline, optimism, dedication and so on you have brought to our union. you are indeed a good man [to an extent though] . I love you and cherish you, even if i don't say it always....

lastpage: If you are going to "accept and respect" Biblical quotes on something, then you MUST do same in ALL THINGS!
Now did the same BIBLE not say:
1.) A man is the "head" of his family?
2.) That a woman is A HELPER (NOT an EQUAL!) to her husband?

See, if we all respect and abide by "The Word", things would be very easy to manage!

We cant "pick and choose", only where and what suits our position.

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BTW: There is nothing wrong in working your socks-off, for your wife......The only problem is if you have "an ingrate" for a wife......and from the days of the garden of Eden, that has been the way of women (God dont blame me, blame my husband! )....at least most women sha

FYI, it was the man that blamed EVE, not the other wayround.

Chei!!!! see as all the men come-scatter for this thread....lol....sisi-kill you are in trouble...

You are right poster.....the truth {from my own point of view} is, everyday is a new day and it comes with it's own problems....do not think for once that your wife does not appreciate what you do....some women just use that line when they are angry but i am telling you, the next minute, she is on her knees praying for you....do not take it to heart, she really appreciates everything you do, no matter how little.

Johndoe100: Where did you get facts from? Lies, damn lies and statistics. I could spend a while pointing out why these "facts" don't make sense but I will just say this, all the so called facts are generalizations at best.

You know you can carry out your own survey....it is easy....type out a questionnaire with maybe...hmmm!!!! 15-20 different questions, infact re-write the above and give them out to a crowd of 50, do the analysis, after you've gotten the result, share the results with us...it would be nice to learn new things daily...

it is well dear!!!and this too shall pass.....when you wake up in the morning keep saying to yourself " this too shall pass". don't over stress yourself over nothing, just sit down and think about how you can comeout of the problems and work towards it, thinking and feeling depressed will only harm your health.

taryour: lol. I pity my fine face oo. Koni funny rara if dat kain tin happen,i can only begin to imagine d 4 40 race i go pik dat day...

You know when something like that happens, and you are faced with "all muscles", just take a step back and yell " you are not even ashamed of yourself, you want to fight a rat like me.....so your plan is to kill me ehen!!!! it will not work oooo, God will not allow you to carry out your enterprise ooooo""....scream so that the whole world will hear...i tell you, that person go shiver begin to reverse... .

I tried it when i was in secondary school, my mouth will not rest, if to say that babe grab me that time....my enemy own for don finish....as i began to scream, the lady just kawa!!!! and i was laughing...that did not stop me from insulting and abusing her again oooo...i too get trouble.

why didn't anybody tell me that we have this post here? anyways!!!! i saw a similar thread for the men, so the married men on this thread are indirectly saying they have no reason to say "thank you" to their girlfriends. wives or fiancees", i go fear oooo....

Nice!!!!!!!!!!!! THE TRUTH AND NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH........based on facts!!!! i love this....

i will give it a try ooo, because i kinda do body wraps...and the smootheness of my skin after the wrap last for like a month, but it costs a lot....will see if i can get it on Amazon....Thanks for the info....

queensmith: did kim k really do that? Damn the woman is desperate

Not too sure, just read it here from a poster....if she did, she knows what she will get in return...that lady is so expired!!!

taryour: hahahahaha, me na gentle lady o,anytime anywere. E-fight no fit put money in my pocket na so wots d point getting into it,d person at d oda end of d computer sef fit be one small pikin or even dwaft,or pesin wey no get brain at all. If i go fight at all na face to face o my sister, oju ni oro wa.... Shikena!!!

Naso....na your type they will beat finish and lock you up in the wardrobe, oju loro wa indeed....if the person you dey e-fight na one rugged, ajegunle, omo-tiiti---kind of chic, by the time she shows you the yams wey dey her leg...you go run...i don't do face-face fight, only with my hubby ...but anyother, ontop computer i carry go all the way...i don't want anyone to scratch my adorable face or break my nails....i spend time in the spa biko...and it cost money!!!

fellis: The thing is tiring.
They want young, hot, fresh girls and at the same time they don't want girls that have worked for a long time, are a bit old and so no longer need their money.

Well you can't have your cake and also eat it {or the othe way round, who cares} you will choose one, money or babes

chuksonu: All the previous relationships I have been in b4 I've bought expensive phones,designer tops,quality shoes,perfumes,Iphone,Ipad,B,B ,even laptop.All I've ever received were singlets,handkerchiefs,stockings,greeting cards and I love you's.I consider this as unfair.Henceforth any girlfriend should be ready to shower me with expensive gifts.Kim kardashan spent a whopping $750k on Kanye west.What about me?.Abi na only love,boxers,singlets,handkerchiefs I deserve?.

Kim Kardashian spent that much because, she has the money and will get back in 3 folds what she spent on Kanye. If you want a lady to spend big on you, go for the classy ladies making millions, stop settling for university babes, they have nothing to offer.

taryour: ol'boy see heavy laff dis early momo,ronkus don kill me with laff. Eiya pele shogbo. My own hubby dey nairaland ooo *winks*

Little wonder , you dey do good girl...on this forum...good wifey... , my hubby prefers to be counting money than typing.... so i am free to jump, chat, insult anybody...the day he catches me, that day,,bye-bye to NL niyen!!!

Beowulf: A female colleague just told me of another caper that ladies pull. When you force them to give you their bb pin and inist that they confirm your request there and then, they gladly do that only to delete you sharpish once your back is turned

When dude gets home and decides to "ping" his new target, even google can't help him in fishing her out among his contact list.

This is funny......had to laugh!!!!

shymmex: But you're in love with me, stop lying.

"inlove" is a strong word, how many men have you killed for me?? how many lions have you captured how many oceans have you crossed?? how many bridges have you built when you do all those and still counting, be sure to have my affection

Did...all of the above....Na all the men person go love equally??

There are the specially ones, you give them special treatments, the not-so special would be treated, not-so specially, and the not special at all...o!!boy!!! not at all.

This is part of the reasons i wished my hubby was on NL to appreciate me, i know he has millions of reasons to say THANK YOU, to the one and only Ronkelistic poyoyo!!!!any other is a counterfeit,a prototype...omolangidi!!!! ....

Brixtonyute: Nah, not that. Just too many betrayals in my life, and it's basically difficult to anyone again. Trusting people almost cost my life on several occasions, and everyone I've ever trusted let me down. I mad myself who I'm today, I had to fight many battles, won some, and lost some; but trust always betrayed me. Hence, why I'm so messed up!

OH!!!!!i know were the problem lies now, it is not your fault that you feel this way, circumstances have led to that..But not trusting someone and having it show that you really do not trust is a bigger problem. You should deal with people differently and never think that everyone is the same, you cannot 100% trust someone, whoever does that is digging his/her grave unknowingly....but give anybody you are in a relationship with or friends with "the benefit of the doubt" and wait and see what the person will actually 'offer'. It is just crazy to live one's life in fear...it steals happiness and one's peace of mind away.

deneut: am d guardian of life,


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hmmmmmm!!!! akiikaaa!!!! deep!!! good for you though....guardian of prize!!!

Brixtonyute: To everyone:

Have you ever heard about the fear of the unknown? The fear that keeps you in a state of being scared of everything and everyone. Life isn't rosy for everyone, some were born 'great' and others achieve 'greatness'. If you had to live through the murky waters, I have to pass through growing up, then you would understand my story..

I'm the rose that grew out of concrete!

so what were or are you afraid off? that she was going to break your heart eventually or run away with your money?

So Deneut, what you do is guard this thread abi?

Are we still here people?!!!!!!!

Akiikaa!!!!!poster this is deep.....love the title though....

dayokanu: I also wish you well on yor visit to your husbands office

Thank you oooo jare, my hubby does not care for trivial things like this, we would just enter the bathroom and do one round....lobaa kpari!!!

dayokanu: When I get married, I would marry a secure woman, Who has a job and is busy not the lazy housewives who have nothing else to think about aside gossips and random thoughts of whom husband is cheating with, who doesnt need to tiptoe to my office neither do i have to do the same cos I 100% would trust whom I marry.

If I have any reason not to trust her it must be based on factual stuff not because she is in her office with her colleague or boss, not because she sat next to a man in church, Not because she came home at 7:35pm instead of 7:30. Lobaatan

Good for you!!!!! i wish you well.

dayokanu: First, whats the Big lie?

Second going to visit your spouse in the office is highly unprofessional, Unless its a mechanic workshop, bakery or Carpenters shed.


Why would any engaged woman go to her husbands place of work when she has her own job. What would she tell her employers she is going to do for 2hours? And what reason would you give to want to see a man you saw 5hours ago and told you he was going to work

Do they have visiting day in office?

What the woman did was absolutely wrong. If you must go visit your husband at work, wait at the parking lot or at the reception, How can she demand to come into the office, Next thing she would ask for his work computer password to ensure he isnt on dating sites.

NONSENSE

Whatever....whenever you get married [that is if you will], confine your wife to the walls of your kitchen and bedroom...infact do not let her step out of the house....because you do not want any woman "spying" on you or visiting you in your office....Abegiiii....better go to your village and pick a wife that you can order around and who does not have a mind of her own, who has to take permission before she does anything. Lobaatan!!!

dayokanu: The thing was that the wife did everything that could possibly be done wrong. And everywhere I have worked NO single employer would want you to bring anything that happens in your home to the office. I have several colleagues and I have never seen any of their spouse before except in unofficial gatherings like clubs or end of the year party.

Your employer dont care whether you have a wife, or 100wives, whether you cheat or you are a monk. Your employer dont care if its a relationship between a man and a woman, You can as well have a relationship with a zebra, As long as its outside of work No one cares. The workplace is strictly for work and nothing else. And that should be respected.

I would never go and check my wife at work unless she needs me there urgently. Is this a nursery school that you can just walk in to check your daughter? This is not about respect its about an insecure, uncivilised and immature wife. She can write to her husbands employer to sack all the female staff to ensure her man isnt cheating, But since he might meet women on his way to work, church, shop etc maybe she needs to tell her husband to sit at home 24-7 to ensure he isnt cheating.

She needs to get a job, Thats the disadvantage of having a full time housewife who has no job, All day she is engrossed with who her husband is with every moment of the day when her other womenfolks are at work thinking of providing solutions to the economy.

Imagine anytime she decides to go to her husbands place of work they should open the door for her and give her couch, She can also start checking the staffs underwears to see which one has her husbands trade mark cumshott

WHAT NONSENSE

It is a big lie!!!!!!! having a job is not a reason not to visit your hubby in the office, i will continue to say it "THERE IS NOTHING WRONG, IN A WIFE PAYING HER HUBBY A LUNCH, PERSONAL OR EMERGENCY VISIT" in his office. MY mum never used to go to my dad's office for anything, whatever they had to discuss about would be done at home, and my dad will never stop complaining that his wife never comes to his office to say hi. Some men are just full of themselves, if my hubby was the president of a Nation, i would go and pay him a visit in his office...whether he likes it or not. He has no say in that.....if he embarasses me this much in his office, he will hate the day he said "I DO " to me.....