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I remember vividly some 2 years back; I got along well with this lady, we got so close that she was expecting me to take our "friendship" status to a "relationship" status ......
So it got to a point she smartly asked me and I was so plain with the truth ;
I told her straight to her face that I wasn't interested in being in a relationship .......

The next question that popped out from her mouth was are u sure u aren't gay ?

That is the Q most of them throw @ u when u let them no about ur relationship status.

Well for me I just feel so FREE being single.

Once beaten twice shy.

I have been single for more than 5 years and have not regretted it in any way.

My greatest problem now is that I've gotten to that age where people expect u to have one serious lady around , but deep down I feel just ok the way I am.... @ least this way I know I'm free from any emotional troubles.

Once beaten twice shy.

jide4lagos: ABU, NATURALLY AHEAD.

Naturally ahead ke ?
All the way from zaria

solomto: wats the meaning of that,u like over doing things.

Now ur talking like my sister.

Beauty
Happiness
Honesty

candieangel12: Picture is old because RiRi has a new tattoo under her breasts and she is no longer keeping that red hair style. N if I may ask, how do u kno she is pinging?

Yep , it could be an old pic but she didn't raise her bosom for us to c if she's got a tattoo there.

I'm so much in love with this babe .

When ever I see her I just get goose pimples all over.
Oh Lord! chris brown really enjoyed sha .
Chai .

And to even think of the fact that all these old men have very long joysticks is even more annoying.

Why is he hell bent on destroying that girl's ministry ?

Y can he just wait a little, death is around the corner.
Immediately he dies at least he's sure of 7 fresh virgins.
Abi doesn't he trust all.ah again ?

Fidelcruiz: I wonder if that was supposed to be 2011 instead of 2001 because if its 2001 then she is ripe for marriage

Ripe u say
Oh goodness !

A 22year old getting married to a 70+ and u say she's ripe.
Too bad bro, too bad.

Kockane: Who is afraid? Definitely not me. Dunno wen peeps wld stop bad-mouthing bank jobs on this forum. 3 different banks offered your friends jobs and dey rejected em all? Who are deir fadaz, Dangote and Otedola? Oniro oshi!

obviously poverty has eaten deep into ur system that's y u'll take and lick every azzzz just do be in bank.

I pity u.

Believe u me, having a bank job in nigeria is almost on the same pedestal as having an insurance job.

Pressure from ur employers and no job security.

What's the essence ? Its better one takes a lesser paying job with more ample time for oneself.
This way u could even start up ur own business with enough TIME @ ur disposal.

"Just passing":
Naija Vs UK......it's really a tough one.

Based on personal experience ( I relocated from the UK about 2yrs ago )

Living in the UK :
Monetary Aspect:
Started off as a Graduate Engineer earning 28000/Annum ( This was relatively high as it was a multinational. Regular Engineering Grad Jobs/Coys would pay between 20 - 25K/Annum back then.
After tax/month , take home = 1900
Monthly Expenses ( Accomodation/Feeding/Transport/Mobile/Land Line + Internet/TV License/Clothes/Light entertainment) = 1300
Unforseen Expenses ( Parents,siblings,etc in Naija..... This might not be applicable based on parent/family financial status = 300
Total Monthly Expense = 1600 => Savings was 300pounds ( In actual fact I dont think i ever had up to that to save per month )

General Life ( +ves and -ves ) :
Same bus at same time every morning and evening containing same set of people with earphones staring at you. You start feeling like a robot after some time.
Light / Internet / Phone => Constant 24/7
That 1900 monthly income stated above is CONSTANT , no additional 1Pound will never come into your account from any other source in any month.
Time is money i.e You dont get to socialise a lot...many of your naija friends are on the hustle 24/7 - forget facebook pictures , na lie. After a while , if you are single you get very lonely unless you dey find oyinbo companionship. I personally did not like thier company.
You are not respected in the society - I got an education to be a respectable person.
You can move around at any time of the day and feel safe.
You and your next door neighbour might never talk to each other. ( A woman living in a flat next to mine died and I never knew till after 6months when my Landlady told me )
Thump your feet too hard while walking around your flat / play small loud music / TV => Neighbour complains or calls Police.
You eat well , smell and look fresh.
You can shop for virtually everything online and have same delivered to your doorstep + ATM Never "Swallows" your card.
Easy access to other European countries for holiday visits.
You will never build a house , you go pay mortgage for 2bedroom flat for the rest of your life.
Miracles dont happen ! Everything you earn is worked for except you wan turn criminal.
PEACE OF MIND

Living in Naija
Monetary Aspect : If I compare my present salary to what I would have been earning in the UK now ; I would say I save reasonably but not as much as I thought I would when I made up my mind to come back home. Having lived in the UK , one ends up spending more to maintain same living standards which one has been used to back there.

General Life ( +ves & -ves ):
Social life is great => Friends/family close by....weddings and things on saturdays , boys get your time on Fridays , etc
You need to have a generator + pay someone to switch on and off
You need security dogs => dem barking no dey gree person sleep for night...dem food na die
Folk wanna tax you at every instance.... u end up not picking calls from some numbers
Everyday is different => u fit see okada man dey fight bus driver on your way to work today , another scenario tomorrow
Some change dey enter pocket apart from salary
Spacious house + compound
Anything can happen ! ( deal dey show from nowhere )
You are respected in the society
Food is great
You can acquire land and build a house to your taste.
Your must buy and maintain a solid car because of road conditions and zero transport system.
NO PEACE OF MIND - BH/ALUU/POLICE/THIEF/VILLAGE PEOPLE etc

Personally for me , I think of running back sometimes. Nothing beats PEACE OF MIND.

I'm really inlove with this write up.

Make him come back na ; by the time hunger hammer am for two weeks he go takeofffffff back to jand.

Baba is not in for virgin in heaven.

He doesn't want wayo @ all that's y he desperate on having it on earth.

(He no trust al.l.ah again)
Hehehehehehehehe.

The vagina is only good to look @ in time of pleasure and not when its in distress.

So to me its a big NOOOOO make she carry her +

U guys saying yes obviously do no know what u are saying.

If u people see O.B.O expanding and one BIG head coming out of it u'll hate intimacy for life

DMainMan: [size=14pt][size=14pt] u c y Sharia is gud. if it were to b in a sharia state, d worst de would av done is to cut dere hand and that is if they are guilty with witness. But in a lawless christian dominated state, look at what happened. This is a proof of barbarity, violence, hatred, avarice and evil mongering among non muslims. u guys are bloody, scallywag confirmed terrorists infidels that killed your fellow christian uniport students.

No religion wil b accepted except ISLAM. While there is life, there is hope. I understand that the media are doin whateva it takes to ridicle Islam with fallacy but u dont have to fall to their prey anymore.

To know the truth about ISLAM, go to:
http://www.islam.com http://www.islamonline.com http://www.islamicreligion.com

For a free copy of the Holy Qur'an,
Go to: http://www.qurandownload.com

PARADISE AND HELL FIRE IS REAL. U WILL HAVE NO XCUSE ON THE DAY OF JUDGEMENT [/size][/size]

Oh ofcourse sharia is really good,
Keep cutting ur hands all in the name of sharia.

That's y I have no pity when I c u guys hovering around my street begging for alms with u one --- hand.

Just keep cutting ur hands , we christians are really enjoying seeing u people with one hand each.

maj007: It's quite unfortunate how m0r0ns like u come on nairaland and spit thrash all over on matters of which u know very little or nothing at all. Let me ask u these questions:

1. Is the present sponsor of Newcstle Utd (Virgin Money) not a lending institution?

2. Are the mentioned players not putting on the shirts bearing Virgin Money?

3. Is there anythin/proof in the post to show that the muslim players in newcasle are reluctant to put on the shirt bearing the name of new sponsor.

When u answer those questions, u and ur likes on this forum wld perhaps realise ur stupidity and stop ur nasty comments abt a religion u know nothin abt (other than media attempts at rubbishing the religiong by linking it with everything negative in politics, sports, etc.).

I AM SURE IF ALUU KILLING HAD HAPPENED IN THE NORTH OR MIDDLE EAST, UR LIKES WLD HV LINKED IT WITH ISLAM. Now that the community is a xtian dominated one; is it right to say xtianity is a cruel religion? I'll say no.

- I AM PROUDLY A MUSLIM
- WILL NEVER TRADE ISLAM FOR ANYTHING
- WILL PROUDLY RAISE MY HAND AND SHOW MY FACE ANYWHERE AS A MUSLIM

End of story......

Good !
Hope u have ur burnt scar on ur fore head to proof that u are a true and proud boko boy ?

ajibsca: Try Calculus autos, he is the man for the job . I preordered mine through him and I've been using it for months , no hassles. Pic included

Pls how much did u buy this from calculus ?
If ur not comfortable sharing the price here u could send via my mail add or naira land PM.

iwanchop: Newcastle as a club has its objectives nd i believe they r not based on any religious injuction.I'm also sure d contract signed by d concerned players has no religious preconditions.The players have also nt said they wnt wear the jerseys,so what's d noise about?That the sponsor engage in halal according to islamic doctrine has nothing to do wt those players.

Well spoken brother , well spoken.

Mr..Cork:
Muslim people need to be ship to mars.. cant stand them and that religion (no oooofeinsese)

Support the motion.

I'm very sure there'll be free display of igbo here for the choco lovers.

dabrake: . . . All in an attempt to be recognised . . . Erm, do you reside in Nigeria?

My thoughts too on this kobojunki fellow, doubt if she/he resides in Nigeria.

Kobojunkie: ^^ The above is reason why so many women come here complaining of heartache after hooking their man in marriage. @Poster, it is better for you to get out NOW that you are not married than to seek ways of getting out after marriage. If the man insists that mother or father has to be involved in it and you do not want it, better you decide now if you can handle such a life than marry him and live the whole of your marriage complaining an whining of how they seem to be in everything.

Absolute crap u have just written.
Unless ur not a Nigerian, mother-in-laws will always want to have their say in their son's affairs.

So how many about--to--be marriages would u advice the bride to walk out off

@ chikadile !

I doff my hat for u, really u did the best thing any lady in her right senses would have done.

I personally can't stand a stingy(male) friend----talk more of a spouse.
Like someone rightly said u just dodged a bullet that was heading for ur BRAIN, honestly don't know if u would have survived it. lol
Pls as u rightly said, folks from both families would put a whole lot of pressure on u,---- don't listen to their pleas .let ur decision be final.

I remember vividly when my younger sister was interested in one guy a few years back and decided to bring the guy over to our family house to see our parents(not engagement ) ; I recollect that guy came empty handed , (even ordinary bread) the guy no carry come.........
He was entertained very well by my mum and sis, even popsy opened a wine that he and the guy drank...when the guy left that day I called my sis and talked some sense into her, pointing to her what I observed in the guy , @ that point was when she opened up that it was his nature and that she hoped it was going to change after marriage. She even narrated one experience she had with the guy; that they were both going to see d guy's mum , after encountering a heavy traffic they both decided to go to an eatery to eat , when they got there all the guy bought was two bottled water and two meat pies for the both of them...........
In d end she poked her self in the brain over and over again to come to terms with reality.
Now I thank God for her that she's married to someone else and enjoying every minute of her marriage.

Chika just relax and take things easy, don't regret any action you've taken"for even God himself knows that marriage is meant to be enjoyed to the fullest and not it being a burden".

Be ur natural self and remain positive about life , SURELY , SOMEDAY U'LL SEE THAT SPECIAL PERSON THAT DESERVES U AND WOULD TREAT U IN THAT TENDER AND LOVING MANNER A LADY DESERVES .

WAM?:
I sincerely do not know. It's been one story or the other - and what makes it worse is that his attitude towards me has changed 360 . I miss him so much because he is my best friend and now he wouldn't even see me and limits talking to me. It's been 2 months and I still feel like I'm in a nightmare that I need to wake up from. I also had to write 2 board exams feeling this way- thank God I made it!

He wasn't perfect but I loved him and accepted his flaws . I was also at peace that I was in God's will. I have pleaded with him against the wish of my family and friends but at this point I would do anything to get my peace back. Things have not been the same for 2 months now- even though I have numerous things to be thankful for this year- I have not had the opportunity to enjoy them. I don't know how long this would last but one thing I know is I am exhausted. It's easy for you to say move on; its not the end of the world. I would say the same- that's the logical thing to do but the reality is different.

I am the girl who is always smiling, playful and happy but I find myself now in deep thoughts and tears rolling down my cheeks .My life seems like its slipping away- and It does not help that I just moved to a new place and started a new job. The worst of all the emotions I feel right now is that of betrayal- he sees the effect this is having on me and does nothing about it. Let me add that its hard but I still trust God . ( Theme song I trust you lord Donnie Mcclurkin)

Okay enough of my story- I smile because I can imagine the "smart comments" that would follow this post :-) gotta to love nairaland !!!

Frankly was really touched when reading this; not to worry dear some one special "who knows ur value is going to meet u in no time" and u both will be the envy of others ,including ur ex.

Just be strong and move on , it could be very difficult but not impossible.

toluxa1: ^^ Lol.
Well, I think Inspired Autos has earned himself a decent reputation here on NL. I also believe competition is good for business. Inspired Autos is nearly beginning to run a monopoly here on NL (not exactly though) so let the competition begin.

Yes bro, also saw it from the monopoly angle too;

*And seun as a sharp man that he truly is has decided to bring in some competition( which will ofcourse result to more adverts from different auto sellers )

If not bro I don't see why this should be on the front page.

Since morning wey dis thing don dey front page, e still dey struggle to enter next page, it leaves me wandering,

What part of the world is sokoto in

How did this thread find its way to the front page

If dis guy(auto select) spoils bizz for (inspired autos) den u no say kasala don burst be that.
Money wey dey enter seun pocketiii from ("PRIME CUSTOMER"inspired autos numerous adverts )go reduce well well be that.

Oya seun , commot this thread ENTIRELY from NL make dis guy no come spoil market for u and inspired

Siraleeyu: ISLAM! ISLAM! ISLAM!
We thank u Allah 4 guidin us (muslims) to d right paths, nd by decendin to us a constitution datz error free. May Allah giv us d courage to adhere to ur rules.

The right path and rules u say
What are they abeg
Isn't it to KILL, KILL and KILL

Really it is really appalling, how all of them could be so brainwashed ; they go on a killing spree all in a quest to mess 7virgins each for free when dey die.
What a promise.

Whilst christians are fighting for fighting for a nice dwelling place for the soul,

Muslims are busy fighting for virgi.ns when they die.

So pathetic.

Appears its only Zap. That Mo.h.h.a.m-MAD likes.

I suggest they leave england for a country like iran where they can display their stupidity for free.