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FaithBrain1994:
Achieve is spelt achieve

Ok noted. But u get the scope sha? English is more of understanding and communication than u show.. believe me u speak and write better than an English person. Nigerians! We like wahala sha.

FaithBrain1994:
Check your spellings and stop causing confusion.

technically partially correct. E done archive everything.mybe it should av been archived

Ebukaboss:
18

Then talk it over with her. There is nothing to worry about. My only advice to you is to set your priorities right. Having a girlfriend at 18 is not bad but hope you not sexually involved with her. I guess that's what the look means.. for her to walk pass means she is an enlightened woman. The eye mean say nor go carry disease oh or bring pregnancy come house. Be open to her and talk about it with her when she gets back. Na mother she be after all.

Ebukaboss:
This morning me and my girlfriend went to eat at a shoprite, after the eating moment i stepped outside... I saw mum and i was shock so me and gf greeted her... She didn't anwser us when i looked straight to her eyes.... She shake her head and eye me with bad looking.... Before she comes back
pls guy tell me what she meant,even me i don't understand

How old are you b4 we can advice.

I just feel that this is a lie... I maybe wrong though. But my instincts never lie sha.

neonly:
Me I would live to see my mum at least once in my life time she died during my birth

Am sorry, I feel ur pain. U are special. I av been in pain for sometime now. But the pain u feel is something I can relate though not same.

Fahvvy:
How do you forgive him?
By forgiving him na ...

Marriage is not relationship o that you can brezz in and out as you wish ...
Marriage will test and stretch you farther than anything else will ..

On a more serious note...
It's clear and glaring that you don't consider yourself as a team? ...

Let's look at your write up ...

I have always helped him in his house projects,might not be much 100k,50k,20k when need be,I never siphoned my money to myself,as a young lady I envisioned my pretty little family on my head,(3 children, handsome husband and pretty wife with a fine car living happily)

Now to the main problem,I think it all started when he told me he has seen a genuine plot of land that "we" should buy it together,I told him no,I want the land all by myself I have money to pay for it,( just want to have something tangible for myself alone) he said no problem.He sent me an account number of the seller I sent 600k to the seller."we" did the necessary documents and everyone was happy.

So even when "two have become one" you still act as if you guys are not a team ...

The only time the word "we" appeared there, it was because it was suggested by your hubby ...

So while he sees you guys as a team, you see yourself as competitors ...

Until you change your mindset, it's best you don't go back ...

I'm not trying to excuse your hubby's actions, however, if you intend to go back with this mindset of unforgiveness, disunity and distrust, just be prepared for everyday quarrel ...

And that too will affect your kids ...

God will bless you. I have been shouting reading some comments here. The man messed up. But you know the truth, he will still use that 200k on the house, I mean anything that concerns the home. From all she said that woman is very toxic.. I mean why buy a land outside your husband. U can buy a car a business and all but a land? I maybe local with my reasoning but the civilisation u all talk about has made women lions in homes.. Don't go back u here, when u hear people call that child u want to give birth to outside your husband's house a badtard don't complain. No matter what u say, u got pregnant outside his house. Women what do you people really want.

Just recently I read about him. Wow life, na only God get the time table.

AyePappy:
OSU I am 110% for Nigeria's total dissolution and I see you igbos as the architects of modern day failed Nigeria.

So unlike your fake Afro Zionist Biafra movement, I am more of a nationalist than the Judas goats hired to indoctrinate you fools into Zionism under the guise of a dead and buried fake Biafra Igbo expansionist project.

Igbo are the cause of all of Nigeria's past , present and future problems so it gkadens me to hear yorubas whipping your ass and Hausa raping your women.

Now GTFO my mentions.

You need to be arrested. I wish we were in a country we're thinks work. U should be traced. U are capable of evil things cos of hate. U re to me an illiterate despite the fact you can write and read. Good luck though. I pray u find love and peace. U av never bled b4 I suspect.

bhella10:
Where is operation sweep today?

Ask tulubu.. if u know u know

DearDealz:

PERFECT!

Actually , This is the man THAT DEVELOPED LAGOS!!!

Even as a military administrator, He performed much better than Tinubu!!

WHO REMEMBERS OPERATION SWEEP?

Oil dey ur head.. 33thousand liters

Solofresh2:
There is this lady friend of mine. We have been friends before she even got married and she is aware of my single status. I have decided to remain single until am ready for marriage.

So she told me how her husband has been maltreating her and she told me her husband is cheating on her. She told me she has always admired me but don't know how to tell me.

Though I noticed this but decided to overlook it. She said she wants a tight relationship with me and I should keep it secret, telling me she finds me attractive. I was just surprised because I never expected her to say all this.

However, I told her to resolve the issue with her husband and talk things out with him but she seems to have lost much interest in her husband who she has two beautiful girls with already.

Sex is not a problem for me as I know where to get it, but having sex with a married woman is a no no for me.

What do you guys think over this issue?

In comedians voice,, RUN

What's cancian level to info gathering. Baba rest, America nor be ur papa village, My take is that God is with them when God leaves th then u all can do ever u like

U lie, don't bother, u know nather, u think say d world na ur village?

Omeleyi:
Zelensky or whatever your name is
Bon US and make peace with Russia. Whether you like it or not, Russia will still be neighbouring your country till thy kingdom come. By the time they finish your country men maybe you will be ruling trees, your family members and the remaining surviving animals.
Wise up zelensky and go sign peace part. Vawulence and being strong headed will never pay you

I pray no one fights u in ur house for what ever reason and all you can do us run. It's very painful that people have to suffer like this because of one man's madness

DanielPat01:
I don't but I have seen and know people that behave exactly like him. Even far worse. One gift I have is reading people. I don't need to live with someone for 3 months before I will be able to discern what you are capable of doing.
Seeing you visit someone for just 7 days would make know your basic bad character. From the OP write up statement is truly who the guy is. Even if you ask her now she will confirm.

Please, stop showcasing yourself. Yes we done hear say u be seer. The fact is they both acted wrong. It all started with the girl.

faithfull18:
So, I am reading comments here from men saying they are doing a woman a favour marrying her and I laugh.

The comments are long and I really don't want to quote anybody.

Ladies, a man should go all out for you, even the men in the Bible did. Little details matter. @OP, but for the distance, I wish you guys were in the same Physical location maybe it could have turned out differently. What would it have cost him to apologise? Does it make him less manly. I doubt the guy was fully committed to marrying you. Guys want good marriages as well as ladies. Nobody is doing anybody a favour marrying anybody if you are a quality person.

As a lady, na them go dey rush you, they just may not be the type of people you want to be in a livelong relationship with due to career, lifestyle, convictions, age, location and a host of other reasons. That's where these men get it wrong, men aren't scarce as they paint it here.

Good, quality, responsible, disciplined and truly godly men are the hard to find ones.

Women of same quality u mentioned is the hardest to find. The lady is an ika woman from delta state, that is how they are,even the men self

Gabless:
I am 28 years old, a graduate of one of the university in South West. I work as a contract staff in a bank.

I met this guy about a year ago through my best female friend, and the journey started. I took him to my parents and he also took me to his parents too, and the wedding preparation started.

We were suppose to do family introduction but my parents says there is no need considering some logistic reasons. Although my mum has her reservation concerning him. But since my father has no objection I think am good to go.

He has sent money for some preparation since he is not residing in Lagos. The problem started after I went to idumota with my aunt to buy our engagement clothes. It was my aunt that drove me to the market. When we returned, my fiance called me, we talked for some times, but he couldn't appreciate my aunt for her kind gesture. Although my aunt didn't say anything that day but she wasn't happy. My dad also complained that he has been rude to him. The same goes with my mum.

The last straw that broke the Carmels back was when he was arguing with my aunt over the phone. He did not know I was in my aunt's house that particular day. I wasn't happy at all, thinking that if he would not regard my parents how would he treat me after marriage.

So I confronted him the second day over the phone, telling him that I'm not happy about the way my parents where complaining about him, and that attitude of him is creating fear in me. Instead for him to be a little remoseful and even call those people and apologize, he was arguing with me, still in my aunt's house.

So I told him, maybe we should put the preparation on hold thinking he would at least try and apologize to them. He just said, is that what you want and ended the call.

Everyone was surprised. He didn't call back it was his mum that called my mum, she didn't even persuade them to stop me from taking such step, and the guy too didn't call me for like too weeks until when I called him and he said he wasn't interested in the marriage again.

Actually, I wasn't happy and I have been downcasted since then, but on the other hand, May l ask this question does this guy really loves me?. Is he really mature enough for marriage. Is it all my fault? Please don't insult or abuse me. I just want to know if it's all my fault.

I suspect u are from agbor delta state.

Kobojunkie:
You bore this while you were dating her, even married her with it, and now you suddenly can't bear it anymore? I put it to you that your wife isn't the problem here.

I put it to u that you not married... shhhh

Let's go there.

So 90% of d road in the north is good? How is this a lie? I just don't understand Nigerians and how they twist facts like my wife. Na wa o

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OnionBandit:
Nonsense!

You have every right to protest peacefully but not to infringe on other people's human right. The government needs to equip our gallant troops with enough teargas and koboko

Kaii.. a nigerian wrote this or a Niger republican? If u don't understand what is actually going on just keep mute. Must u talk.. How do we enrich the minds of Nigerians again. We are our biggest problems..

ifechiluru892:
the hate you Yorubas have against the Igbos is out of this world. And I swear igbos don't even carethe hate you Yorubas have against the Igbos is out of this world. And I swear igbos don't even care...

The truth is the yourobas abi watin then call am, av no issues with ibo abi wati them call am. Outside this country, u need to see them.. it's only a personality difference not a tribal difference. We too dull to notice. Please any man who will try to devide this country has already failed. Let's leave the past to d past.

spearman:
ALL SOUTHERNERS ARE SECOND CLASS CITIZENS IN NIGERIA EXCEPT FOR IGBOS WHO HAVE ZERO CITIZENSHIP BECAUSE NO ONE WANTS THEM.
WE ARE BREAKING UP NIGERIA SOON AND THEN NOMADIC IGBOS WILL KNOW THEIR TRUE MASTERS

The pic may not be what it seems, stop causing problems. Tinubu nor be pickin way fit grab like that. I support obi but abeg make una stop to dey devide nigeria. I hope someday we all find peace

Militant1:
I will try to be brief and straight to the point.

My wife stays up late (11pm -12 am) every blessed day.... That's the problem.

We live in Lagos and have 2kids, 3yo and 8 months. My wife was working before but left the job when she gave birth. There is a job waiting for her when the baby is 1y6mnths, therefore she is a stay at home mom.

We live on the mainland but I work on the island so I live home as early as five. In our house we have all the amenities you can think of; 24 hrs light (NEPA plus inverter), running water, gas, 2 washing machines etc to make a home 95percent comfortable but my wife can't seem to cope and it started when we had one child.

She doesn't wash my clothes, my office shirts and suits are given to dry cleaner to arrange while my other laundry I do myself every weekend with the washing machine.

When I get home by 7pm or 8, that's when she now starts rushing to bath the kids and prepare dinner, so we eat by 9 or 10. Before the kids play play and play, by 11pm we are still awake. Sometimes I go to bed by midnight and have to wake up by 4am to go to work again. It's impacting on my health and my work. She will sleep by 12 am and wake up by 8 or 9am the following day.

I have tried to beg and appeal to her. If I eat out and come home to just sleep, she go dey vex. If I just come home shower and sleep the kids who have passed their bedtime will be playing and when madam is ready to sleep they won't agree to sleep. She will beat them, guess who they will come crying to- daddy that just started sleeping and has to wake by 4am, I will now pet and pet till 2am before kids sleep.. I have advised her that kids have a bedtime(8pm). When I man up and off the tv by 9pm and tell everyone to go to bed, she says I am disrespecting her. She reports me to her mum.

Worse still our sex life is horrible... We have sex like once in 2 month.. At 35 I am in my sex prime and can Bleep everyday but she doesn't seem to care about me because she is always tired am I pity her so I don't demand sex so much.

I fully understand stay at home is not easy and I help her when.

I tried to create a schedule for her.

Wake up by 6am
By 7 she suppose don clean finish
By 8 breakfast should be ready for her, kids
9-10am bath herself and the kids
10-12 do any other stuff in the house
12-3pm rest, watch movies, chill
3-5pm... Do whatever she likes
5pm boil water and bath the kids
6pm she don bathe and bath kids
7pm... Food don done... Everything dey freezer
8pm we eat
By 9 everyone goes to bed and we knack 1hr

I throw the trash every day
Na me dey go market buy foodstuff
On weekends I clean the house
I wash my all my clothes
I provide all the finance in the house
I satisfy her on the bed when we naka. She begs me that she's tired
I buy her gifts, drop 3k for her everyday
Why should we have a house help when she is a stat at home mum (for now)

So what's the problem..


Mothers, are my demands too much?
Mothers, please when do you close your kitchen and go to bed?
Are you still awake by 11pm every blessed day.
Am I crazy?

Please advice me.

I have begged her, pleaded, shouted, done everything. Sometimes I intentionally come home late (10-11pm) thinking that the kids have gone to bed but my first child will be watching cartoon.

Please advice me. I am going crazy, Lagos is stressful

Not too deferential from my case. Baba. There is nothing u can do. Except u want the home to brake. They never listen, u re always wrong and have nothing to say. U see her mum, she wld have help advice and encourage her o. But no, let me say this and it's the best thing u will ever hear. Pray and pray again, again pray and pray again. After that try to make sure u continue to do the best. After that if it does not work, Bleep it get a girl friend. I mean a sharp girl friend. Money na problem, I know get another woman by the side. The only who can help in this matter is God. See them nor dey hear word. Get a sharp side chick cos in the end the marraige go still brake. I hope I spoke my mind. I pray u don't listen to me sha. I like peace, but in the end this is the only option we have. May God heal ur home.

TheNiceGuy:
U lack manner of approach.

U need more to learn

U lack what? U that spoke without facts lack manner of speech. U b big ode

david22uu:
ASUU IS ACADEMIC STAFF

HE IS NOT ON STRIKE, HE HIS BEING PAID
I think the bribes he received from students has stopped

This is corruption that fought back

MY OWN THINKING

Please just shut up.. speak only of what you know.

baby124:
. Be like you de apply for British visa. No waste your tears. Their whole family thinks they are more human and or better than you. They don’t give a damn about you, only your country’s resources.

Who told you this? Your mental enslavement is getting the better of u..
This woman must have done something right to have lived upto 96... if u understand life u go shhhh

Joshua999:
No it won't she died peacefully at 96 and Britain are proud of her keep defending your tribe

Oga read and understand.. this is not about tribe but humanity in general.. I am proud of the queens achievements as a human

israelmao:
Though I'm not in support of someone wishing his fellow human being excruciating pain or death but who can refute or dispute the facts she put forward about British Empire?

Nobody is disputing anything but she is now to me worse than the people she is accusing. Her words shows that she can kill the king if given an opportunity because of the past. This is a symptom of a sick person. Most psychos don't forgive.. she should be watched.

Joshua999:
Trash why don't you findout first ..she's wrong simple

Find out what? How my great grand or fore fathers was abused? God forbid.. it's in the past and will not continue the circle by hurting another person with my words all because of the past.. trust me, her words will hurt Harry's children too even if u don't care, it's painful. Stop the circle child.