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belshazzar:
the question should be what has happened to you for being unable to spot sheer brilliance of an Advice in a comment

ETHICALLYrlght:
If I were in your shoes, after her confession, I'd hold her tight, caress her body and kiss guilt out of her mind.

I'd cuddle her and if she wants more I'll give her the appropriate dosage for sexual healing.

You're not romantic, that's the problem.

When was the last time you went to the Cinema with your wife?

When was the last time you sent her a voice noice at work telling her, "sweetie, I wanna sniff your panties right now, pull it down gently with my teeth and worship your body which is the reason I still live".

Do you remember that period when your relationship was younger? When you couldn't stay a day without calling her for minutes if she wasn't with you? When you'd go for dates and tell her you'd buy London for her? When you made her forget there was any man in her life before you and so she accepted to be your woman forever?

Go back to those days. If possible, get her a wedding gown and yourself a suit and remake your vows in your living room. If you have kids let them be part of it. Promise to love her forever and ever and let her be your best friend who will tell you everything including when she uses the toilet.

If you went to the world's best marriage counselor who had saved first year marriages that could have crashed to reach 4 decades of joy and happiness, their recommendation wouldn't be different from mine.

If you follow my advice and it doesn't produce positive results, mention me and I'll deactivate my account.

Gentleman900000:
Good evening, my wife went to work yesterday and i was at home because it was my off day at work. She came back late and i suspected that she went somewhere but didn't confront her.

Few months back, i was going through her phone and saw she had some dirty chats with her ex and that one was saying he should find time for him. I confronted her when i saw this and she apologized that such will never happen again.

Today, we were both laying next to each other in bed and she said she have a confession to make. She said she went out to the cinema with a friend of hers. She even took a cloth along with her when she was going without informing me. She said she changed her clothes at her friend's place. I asked her that if anything happen to her at the so called friend's house that she went to without informing me, who will they call? She said she's not a kid that i should stop saying such thing. She's here apologizing again and i don't know if i should forgive her or not.

airminem:
Not your friend. It's you and that makes you a desperate dummi£ with no critical thinking capacity to make wealth or use your senses in a proper potentially positive inclination progressively...



You are just reasoning like a bandit

decatalyst:
It's a shame to read this nonsense you wrote!

You are a threat to the female gender and a danger to men as well.

See what comes to your mind first! *spits*!

So disgusting!

wiseoneking:
Just laughing at your question of been related to her. She did the first abortion without his consent, he did the second and the third and he was still aware of such, and went ahead to fix a wedding with her. If he wasn't rejected by this lady, this issue will not be coming out. He allowed his fiancee three times without his consent to three consecutive abortion? I have zero tolerance to abortion.

ebukajay184:
Earlier Thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7082006/nigerian-lady-assaulted-warere-beach


The management of Warere Beach Hotel in Zanzibar, Tanzania has reacted to claims made by Nigerian tourist, Zainab Oladeinde, that she was robbed and almost raped while on vacation at the beach last year, IGBERETV reports.

Zainab in a Twitter thread posted on Saturday said she arrived in Zanzibar on Saturday, April 16, 2021, for her birthday celebration on April 18. Zainab, who traveled alone, alleged that in the wee hours of April 18, an unidentified man snuck into her room and tried to rape her. She said over $1000 was also stolen from her. Ms Zainab also alleged that the Zanzibar authorities did next to nothing to help her as they accused her of lying.

In a statement released on Sunday 17th April, 2022, the management of the hotel said when the incident happened, it filed a report before the police. The management says the police report indicated that Miss Zainab's case was a personal one and was not a result of negligence on the part of the hotel.

Read the statement below.



https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=5156769894343397&id=170387809648322

The Zanzibar Commission of Tourism also released a statement regretting the unfortunate incident and that an investigation has since been launched.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Hahaha correct

It should be inserted as a clause or precondition into the marital vows.

ManOfSon:
Any man who cannot hold it together, cannot maintain sanity in the face of even the vilest provocation; if he thinks anger from a woman's verbal abuse is sufficient justification for physical violence - he should enjoy his life by himself, unmarried. Not everyone is mature enough for marriage. And marriage is not by force.

donleo92:
Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women. Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer in the hands of their wives. It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision. They suffer in silence. Timebomb.

Unfortunately, the Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counselling services. It's been mostly left to the church to deal with. What happens when the man doesn't go to church? What happens when the woman doesn't believe in spiritual intervention? These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husband. What kind of wives will they grow up to become? Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags?

We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long?

Recently, I visited a senior friend, an important man in the society and while we were downstairs gisting, the voice of his wife could be heard upstairs. She was spewing unimaginable bile against the man. She called him all sorts of unprintable names. Impotent, wretched fool, miserable man that was nothing when she married him, etc. This is a well respected man. A father of 4 children. She tore at his very core and mocked everything society respected him for. She said he'd soon crash and she'll be there to laugh at him.

I was so uncomfortable as I beheld the man. He was shrunken before me. He was deflated. He tried to gamefully continue the gist to distract me but it was not working. The woman's vitriol was a ceaseless torrent. Uncomfortable silence ensued. I excused myself and left his house.

I was really sad.

You want to know the truth? This is what most men go through in their houses. They labour and toil and build respect but when they return home, the one who ought to speak to the king in them tears them to shreds and tries to deflate their self-esteem. When they are outside, they try to act cheerful and happy but back home, they are shrivelled because the person they live with makes it a point of duty to verbally assault them.

A sad story comes to mind. There was recently a Nigerian Ambassador who was recalled because his wife released a story to the press that he beat her. She also released pictures showing fresh injuries on her body ostensibly inflicted by the man.

In a dramatic twist, their children came out to debunk the stories and said their mother faked the injuries to embarrass their dad. Grown up children.

A particular sentence by the 1st son saddened me. He said it was as if their mum woke up every morning with one mission in life: how to make their dad miserable. They said they were witnesses to how their mum constantly harassed and abused their dad and wanted the whole world to know that their dad was not who their mum was painting him to be.

Yes, opinion shifted on the scandal but the damage had been done. The Ambassador was recalled and nobody heard from him again.

A family is currently at odds with the widow of their son and brother. The wife was constantly verbally assaulting him. Nobody wanted to visit them because each time they were around, it was always quarrel and the wife would call him unprintable names. Even in their presence. When they try to interfere, she will give them their own. The man died recently of heart-attack caused by high blood pressure. He was in his late 40s. The family insists his wife sent him to his early grave with her verbal torments.

Our bars are filled with men who are afraid to go home to their wives for fear of what verbal torment they will go through. Men are finding every excuse to travel because they'll rather be anywhere than in their own homes.

Everybody is focusing on men as culprits in domestic abuse. Who is talking to the women?

wiseoneking:
Another story for the gods. You are bringing the issue of abortion here to tarnish her image like you believed she did to you. You accepted that she wasn't willing to have a child out of wedlock and you still engaged her in unprotected sex, even upto three times of pregnancies.You are confirming to the whole world that you are a murderer together with her? YOU ARE TO BE BLAME, you just use that as a cover up. Sexual immorality is bad. I strongly believe that you don beat that girl shegee. The girl may not be perfect too but beating someone's daughter/sister is unacceptable.

wiseoneking:
Another story for the gods. You are bringing the issue of abortion here to tarnish her image like you believed she did to you. You accepted that she wasn't willing to have a child out of wedlock and you still engaged her in unprotected sex, even upto three times of pregnancies.You are confirming to the whole world that you are a murderer together with her? YOU ARE TO BE BLAME, you just use that as a cover up. Sexual immorality is bad. I strongly believe that you don beat that girl shegee. The girl may not be perfect too but beating someone's daughter/sister is unacceptable.

wiseoneking:
Another story for the gods. You are bringing the issue of abortion here to tarnish her image like you believed she did to you. You accepted that she wasn't willing to have a child out of wedlock and you still engaged her in unprotected sex, even upto three times of pregnancies.You are confirming to the whole world that you are a murderer together with her? YOU ARE TO BE BLAME, you just use that as a cover up. Sexual immorality is bad. I strongly believe that you don beat that girl shegee. The girl may not be perfect too but beating someone's daughter/sister is unacceptable.

jrusky:
Oga biko keep quiet we are tired of men with no brain disgracing fellow men all the time.

Are you going to come out before I say you beat her? Even the beast called Peter Ochinahi demonic husband still denying touching her after so much evidence against him.

This is not the right time to go on defense in abuse case the death of Ochinachi still boiling people up so keep your explanation till later biko.

Your trap won't work she had dumped you and the is final go and marry your sister and turn her to punching bag.


First of all, are you married, your words show u lack marrital knowledge. Oga abi madam, listen to both of them before you crucify the guy. You dont leave in the same house with them dont conclude. Two people have given their side of the story, there is need for further information at this point.. see people lie so they can be seen as the victim alot of times. From experience, the first one to come out to complain lies alot, especially in marriages lets wait for further information.
Nonsense!!!

MadamVanessa:





God gave me the wisdom to quit mine since. Though blessed with two lovely kids, but I have no regret that I made that decision of leaving such a worthless idiotic marriage. Poor him, he's walking around with just one ball in his scrotum. I destroyed one with my fury kick he nearly died that day o.

kb83:
You don't understand international politics very well am sorry. You forgot the same sanctions were placed on North Korea for years and yet the survived to the point that the West does not have leverage over them today, sanctions sometimes is good, it helps you look in words and prevents over reliance on others, I tell you, if Russia whethers the storm of this sanctions, prepare yourself for a new World Power.

tunlex01:
This is likely a rookie CO mistake but don't fall for it.
Stand your ground that you will not be paying an extra dime and you need them to expedite action.
If they come up with any stupid appeal, reject it and let them know if this does not get resolved ASAP, you will be reporting them to the Ombudsman (Australian Competition & Consumer Commission). This should be your last resort.

soulamanne:
quote tunlex01 with your case..he will surely provide you with all you need to know.some other people can too but trust him to give you the best low down.it may take few days but he will surely respond to your enquiry once you quote it with his handle

Brendaniel:
If you know someone is stronger than you, try and negotiate first, I hate fighting defeated battles, That's the type Ukraine is fighting..

Brendaniel:
Killing Russia, whether directly or indirectly is still the same as killing humans that you're trying to protect, because everything still boils down to one party trying to dominate the other, Peace is only what the sports bodies should be seeking through diplomatic ways...

Brendaniel:
It is wrong, they should clamour for peace, would you cast a child away from the community because you found out his father was the robber that has been robbing the community and has been arrested, you don't make an enemy of such person who has no control over his father, you might only cause resentment and hatred in the child if you do so, instead you include him into the community and teach him to do the right thing, I expected the sports body to organize solidarity matches for the 2 countries and sue for peace and pass an order on all Russian and Ukraine players both club and country to kneel in respect in suing for peace with a banner or something , that would have been a lot better, this a war is very tricky one, sometimes you view a war from an angle you think a side is right and then only to view from another angle and think the other party is right, the best thing here is inclusiveness of the Russian players to sue for peace...

Brendaniel:
Cool, I like that, you see everyone there dancing without looking at the race of any player among them or asking if their president or country is at war, sports is supposed to be a unifying platform and every sport body that sanctioned Russia is causing division among humans and increasing hatred against each other...

Sports is not Politics and should not be involved in it...

BKayy:
Nope, that is not enough.
Recent events since 2014 have shown that the safety of other ethnic groups, especially Russians is not safe in Ukraine. So those that want to secede the Neo-Nazi country called Ukraine should be allowed to leave.

With this I support Russia and other reasonable countries that support the independence of Donetsk and Luhansk from Ukraine. I support Russia's decision THAT Ukraine must respect the referendum of Crimea in 2014 where 96% of the people of Crimea voted to be reunited with Russia.

Since it has to be this route. Ukraine must desist from Nazism and Western Imperialism that doesn't consider the decision of other nations they can overpower.

Mobil567:
yes

Guyman02:
GOTV CNN viewers already have a thread on FP claiming that they were killed after saying Go F...c yourself

I am happy I no longer get all my news from western media propaganda. I have even stopped watching CNN thanks to many people here that opened my eyes

Lalasticlala, mynd44 are you seeing what am seeing?

perambulator:
you can like him all you like but there is a 1991 agreement to which Ukraine and the west are signatories that forbids any further eastward expansion of NATO. Everybody is blaming Putin but most are ignorant of the facts. Ukraine joining the EU a or NATO (which they have been pushing for) goes against the agreement that ended the Soviet Union. Putin's motive for invading Ukraine is the threat of NATO on his doorstep. better to invade them now when they are not EU or NATO members.

many people comment out of ignorance!!!

karnafiu03:
Bros Americana, firstly, NATO wouldn't try to intervene because they no very well what Putin is looking for is WW III. US WorldPower is overdue and China is ready to take over should US try to intervene.

US is the real devil here because they know they can't handle Russia's problem yet they push Ukraine to faceoff with Putin.

Putin knows what is doing and d man is ready for any outcome. He already knows no one can match his power in combination with China, North K, Iran and his other allies.

darkstar6971:
Hey Nairalander pls I'm here purposely for advice.

I have a girlfriend of mine which we have been together for quit long time and we share everything together even reach a level of buying her an iPhone 11 while I'm managing my Samsung phone...

So one day some incident happened to me that led me to prison for almost 4 months yet for all this period this girl has never tried to pay me a visit...

After winning the court trial, this girl came to me and knelt down asking me to forgive her for what she did yet I have been forgiving her for the previous mistakes.

Guyss pls I really need advice. Is she manipulating me or is this love?