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We have more virgin male than female now

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

You are one of the evils here in earth.. e be like say you think say naija na newyork. Continue your mind go dey soon. Rubbish..

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How do i send my small donation to him. Since i saw that video all i wanted was to bless him in any way i can

Giftlove11:
i've thought about it, but i'm still afraid if that would work without him, because even though a pastor pray for me am not sure if i can still make love with another person

Your own na to make love, make love, see ehnn.. that covenant not go brake.. ntoiii. Something tells me you are a bad person. Bye jore

Landmack:
I think CAN must look into this

Na she sabi.. i cant judge her... let my father decide.. if she intended this as mockery.. i laff cos hmm. May God almighty be praised. As i type this self, i dey ask God for mercy cos e nor easy.. God have mercy on us all.

Jaylynn:
Lol. Come check me, doc. I think I'm catching a fever

Wait for me.. post ur add..

Jaylynn:
Okay, I know I'm gonna get a whole lot from you guys. But y'all take it easy. My best friend's the one in this situation. And I can't even answer her question cx I know how much she loves them.

Roast with the feeling.. u are sick..

He lied. This is just his share.. they know what they are all doing. Nigeria wont do well in afcon

robosky02:
https://dailypost.ng/2021/12/16/i-was-surprised-by-my-appointment-as-eagles-interim-coach-austin-eguavoen/

Many guys have same story especially the good guys. ThIS WAS DONE TO ME TWICE.. SEE THE ADVICE MY NOW OLD ME WOULD HAVE GIVEN MY YOUNGER. ONLY IF MY YOUNGER ME WOULD HAVE LISTENED.. FEEL NO PAIN AND MOST IMPORTANTLY WASTE NO TIME THINKING ABOUT IT.. YOU WILL LOOK BACK AND SEE THAT YOU WERE LUCKY IN TIME TO COME.. MY BROTHER SUCH IS LIFE

visijo:
A study concludes that kids who snore do poorly in school.

Big lie..

ntrukpum:
Hello friends, my daughter is very far ahead of her peers (class mates and outsiders) academically and otherwise. She started school when she was 2yrs. 3wks in school she had already knw how to write 1 to 10, A to F (I mean write not just to read).

Now she is 3yrs and she does things extraordinary. She can write 1 to 200, Aa to Zz without anybody assistance. She does her H/W alone, can read and spell two letter words. She sings a lot. I wanted her to play at least one musical instrument b4 she turns 5.

Two yrs ago, I had this vision of grooming "exceptionally intelligent" kids btw 9-12yrs to study outside their normal school curriculum. I mean a 9yr old kid in JS1 answering physics and advance maths question. Am still working on it. But my child is just 3yrs old and i am begining to be afraid. Married with two kids, an average of 30k monthly income as a private school teacher, I think, I lack the financial resources to push my daughter to where she deserves.

I need proper advice on how to guide her now.

My child is 2 years and 6 weeks can eead 123 to 20 and can read abcd to z.. what does this mean.. to me this is normal

egopersonified:
This is the effect of generations of family life. When we start solving this problem from the cause, there will never be answers.

We encourage our girls to focus on being wife materials and mothers. We teach them how to cook and take care of the home while the brothers are outside playing ball, making connections and going places. He is taught that a man's place is outside the home. To bring home the bacon. To take care of his family and be the bread winner. Till we start to teach our kids differently, we will still get this same results till eternity.


We teach our boys to not cry, don't show emotion and he bottles it up till he has a heart attack while a woman will cry from morning till night, shout out all her frustrations and be relieved from that burden.

We tell our men to take care of this girlfriend so another man doesn't snatch her. So he does two jobs and a side hustle just to 'maintain' her.

Why can't we teach our kids that both parties should be equal contributors to the family purse? Why can't the first person home make dinner? Why can't the man take the kids to the hospital while the woman goes to sell her tomatoes? Why do we have men coming on nairaland to tell us 'I take care of all the responsibilities in the home and all she does is to fill gas and she is complaining when I boil ordinary water to bath'?

Till we begin to train ourselves as one and the same unit, men will keep dieing young and women will keep enjoying the fruits of both their labours.

U only trying hard to sound smart.. with all your lifted lines.. see they dont even buy gas.. u have no idea of whats going on out there....

I am so angry with this post.. how can you say that doing a DNA requires the consideration of the woman's emotional health, when the woman probably did what she did in a case the child does not belong to the man, did she consider the man.. you should be aware that the women think men are fools.. we know most times just waiting for the chance to strike.. before a man would do a DNA test, please heck, he has reasons and Suspicion because this women never stops doing their olosho business till death.. God bless good women out there

[quote author=Kobojunkie post=106218202]
So, you want to ruin your 15-year old marriage for the sake of your ego?
■ You go to market
■ Cook
■ clean the house
■ wash the children uniform
....
So you do these things in your own home and you expect what, a medal? The person that used to do them before, I am guessing your wife, she no be human being like you?

So your wife is interested in her career, and you are what? Against your "friend" doing well in her career or what? And let me guess, communication has degraded between you two and probably between your egos are butting heads at this point and rather than working on that, you are instead thinking of ways to end your relationship?

Look, no two marriages are created the same and no two individuals in a marriage are exact copies of themselves. You and your wife are meant to design your own marriage in a way that works for you, not go around comparing yourselves to others out there.
Die to your ego if you must and learn to grow rather than destroy your marriage over petty things such as what you listed here. [/quo

Abeg,, u never marry am sure of that.. u dey try wan make sense but u are saying nothing.. there is a problem here don't try to twist it..

Na she kill the boy.. e get why.. make I nor talk.. but someone way know like me go soon talk

Lovely..

Kobojunkie:
You have 5 kids and you want to abandon your wife so you can carry the load alone?

Or have your family members who advice you to abandon your wife stepped in already to adopt your kids as their own?

How long has it been since you lost your job?

Are you being honest when you claim the only thing you quarreled about was money for food cause that stories does not add up on my end...you don't quit a marriage because of the manner in which someone supposedly left.

See these women are something else.. my wife left cos I told her for three days not to use a Netflix login that belong to someone else.. someone she sent my apology to after she left the first time after I confronted her for taking from the family savings.. mind u.. she recorded my apology and sent it out claiming stupid reasons.. funny enough this time she went to my parents place.. her father even came to escort her out... I have had enough sometimes it's not about the man.. men a serious victims in marraiges but no one seems to see it or care... on no grounds should a woman that her bride price was fully paid should leave the house.. especially if her life is not in danger... in my own case I have been labeled alot of things... God u can't imagine..

Where do I stream this match live please help

I pray that it all goes away.. God got our back

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr

Yes that is the situation

Card readers dey malfunction for some areas

True but obaseki would still win.. Ovia north east is already togba.. Monitoring

This big daddy wait for your time. No one fights the lord and survives it. Forget the insult. The battle is for God. U get mind sha. If God really called these men, what u are enjoying is called his unending mercy. Be careful

Image123:
There are underlying problems in the marriage which the Lady is reacting to. Who knows how many nos the man has said to the woman only to bring this undiscussed unwarranted meeting up. Who knows how many faces she does not want to see talk less of cook for. This is 2020, even pikin now has some say in the family. You can't just go and finish discussion and party with church members then come back home to order your servants to carry it out and entertain your bros in the lord.

You guys are the agent of destruction.. trying to fix what’s not broken because it’s 2020. Make una continue o.

Wingarnium:
I pity your wife o. I'm sure u don't know how to cook. The wife cooks for the family and takes care of the home. She even cooked the last one while pregnant. And she says she can't cook this for some reason. And u are saying u will divorce. Do u think women are not human beings. Cooking for 20 people. Cleaning up after them. u think it's easy. And she probably has a job that stresses her and even kids. I repeat if u want a maid, marry a maid. U cannot marry someone daughter and want to enslave her under the name of marriage. Have sense o. I'm 100% sure you're not married. Heck you can even be a kid. What you need is wisdom. Your own mother and your wife are not the same people. Do not expect your wife to act like your mother. Thank God they don't force marriage now. Imagine someone marrying u as u are

Abeg shut up... abeg sorry o but u Dey talk rubbish.. what is enslave in just cooking and cleaning, the guy offer to help... I don’t understand o. Watch this woman will do worse things in future.. if she refuse to help the man wash his clothes no problem but to cook my dear even whites host friends all the time and just like the guy wanted to do help each other. You could see the man grilling the meat while the woman cuts the veggies as the case maybe.. onyinbo life nor go kill una.. even the onyinbo is retracing their steps while Nigerians are blindly running forward to nonsense.. now I know why this country is like this.

Longman180:
eyya baba,this really touch my heart.if she still Adamant before the meeting leave her alone,find somebody dat can help to prepare soup,.maybe cousin or neighbours then you assist them.dont even ask her to do anything on dat day,after the meeting she will come and apologize.just take it easy wit her.

Do what with the apology. Life sha

Am I the only one reading this and shouting? What happened to us o.. wait o. Na because of the church involved na I’m make these rubbishy talks. What if it was families coming? As in I don’t just get it.. wait so this is the mindset of the average Nigerians. God help o. Unbelievable, I can’t imagine the things am reading here. Some people even said the guy gave her trauma by his actions, some said he is forcing the woman. As in ehh. Well am consoled by the thought of the fact the the commentators maybe mostly unmarried folks or kids. The husband has done everything right from what we read. In short una good night

Nooil:
And you didn't see the wife has compromised once and it left her scarred for life. I'm advising the man on how to reduce her psychological trauma and you're here typing rubbish. Better receive sense o. Isi aki!

Which trauma again naa.. my friend u are a child, you know nothing about what you talking about. Go and play with kpangolo.. am done with u

Nooil:
It's your type that will get married five times and still end up lonely because you know nothing about human relation.

Are you serious? Five times? Lol well I see you and your degrees in human relations. If you only know one thing about human relations then you should know that compromise at times is essential in human relations... just go ahead... continue I pray your husband treats you like this. ISI Aku

This matter pain me sha, especially with the commentators.. well make I Dey go.. even the reasonable men these days doubt themselves because the evil ways are now the popular opinion. I see now that mankind has really lost it. As Christians, when they celebrate Christmas. How much food do they cook? Oh because it’s about hosting the church committee, there is an issue. When you are self centered and not accommodating this is what happens. A woman should always be happy to accommodate and ensure everyone is happy at home. For all u who thinks that by your wife cooking for an occasion at home is stressful, make una continue. My brother all I can do now is pray that God blesses you financially so that you would be able to run this home peacefully because this woman get issues o

Nooil:
Uyi says you're a troll, maybe. But let me advise. You told your wife to cook and serve a guest of 20 when she was 5 months pregnant.

Do you know why she accepted then? She was a new bride, eager to do whatever will please her husband. But do you know the effect that cooking had on her both physically and psychologically?

Now every time she remembers that cooking, not only does she remember how you were inconsiderate in asking her to cook for such number of people with her five months of pregnancy, she probably also have shivers running down her spine when she remembers the stress she went through.

The main reason why she is refusing now is the psychological stress. She remembers the cooking as unpleasant and stressful. And she is not willing to walk that part again.

What to do?

Apologize. Let her know how sorry you are for letting her to cook when she was heavily pregnant.

Let her know that you only need her to price stuff when you go to the market.

Let her know you only need her to add the ingredients to the soup.

Let her know you'll wash the pots and plates before and after cooking.

Let her know you'll buy her Coldstone ice cream (or whatever relaxes her) after cooking.

Let her know you're too broke to afford a caterer. Talk softly to women if you need something from them.

If you're too proud, go and hire a caterer.

I feel like insulting you but no need. When u marry do your own like that.

greatcrown:
Talk to the leadership of the group that your family is not ready to host them now. Let them look for another person that can accept it at short notice.

Tell them you will inform them when you are ready.

God help us o. See watin person suggest. God I will be more careful in life now. This world is not the same. Mind you this is not new o. This things are happening in homes all over women have become something else. What a world we live in. Don’t worry when u are married if you not married , your wife will do same to you so you can take your own advice. I am more angry with the commentators than the woman self. This life na God go deliver the few good people left. Please my good brothers never change because of this group of people who have lost it. Imagine!!!

TheLasyBuddha:
This just confirmed to me that you may not make a good husband. Do you think it's by prayers?
Read his concern again. This time do it without thinking someone has called you to comment.


Don't just jump into anywhere your moniker is mentioned.

Damn, na wa o. Prayer can do all things. And at this point he needs lots of prayers.