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lonelypal:
am talkin frm experience

Opslag:
why should a plato.relationship move into romantic or even sexual relationship?simply means u aint got self control.

topup:
[color=#cc0066]if you have a platonic friendship with one of the women and a romantic relationship with the other, that is okay too.

obongyi:
Ndi Igbo siri na okuko na e ji otu ukwu a ga i mgbe o gara ebe di ohuru

When a chicken goes to a different land it stays with one foot

ifyalways:
lol
umunne,threadia na enyem Joy
Unu sorom kele chukwu,o mere m ihe di egwu.lol,o gozirm excess.onum juru na ekele
@all,weekend oma nu.unu bilitekwa na oge maka egwu boolu anyi.
Kashiff,sure,anyi ga e missikwa gi. ije oma,
Mortiple ,lol anom nma.dalu
rubi
Echelon,dede ka nka
Youngies,ole ije? i full ground

Octupus:
Windywendy,
I just stumbled into this thread.I find it amazing how you are spending so much energy trying to convince some people on the seriousness of infidelity and God's opinion about it.I guess your arguments are pretty sound and clear.

However,I want to make the following submissions:
1. ONLY a man who has trully had a personal encounter with Christ can stay absolutely FAITHFULL to his wife.This is a fundamental fact every wife needs to understand.If a woman is born again and her husband is not,she needs to understand this especially.Therefore,as she continues to wait on God to touch his life,she may have to put up with a few things.Unfortunately infidelity may be one of them!

2. An unredeemed man who has the financial resources and is not impotent,is INCAPABLE and I repeat,INCAPABLE of staying with one woman,no matter how pretty or good she is.This is because,by nature,all male creatures are polygamous.(If you don't agree with this point,it simply means to me,you are insufficiently experienced in these matters).This ranges from Lizards to Cocks,to Lions etc,who control territories of females.Unfortunately this tendency is also innate in homosapiens(MAN) albeit suppressed by social restraints. That such an unreedemed man has not been caught commiting adultery does not mean he is not doing it.Dont forget that even looking at a woman lustfully constitutes adultery.So one asks- When do you say a spouse has been caught in adultery?? Note that it is only a Spirit filled man that has the ability to flee from fornication.

3. Painful as cheating is,a wife needs to understand these facts before taking a decision to leave her husband on the grounds of infidelity.The question is,when you leave him,do you plan to remain celibate the rest of your life or do you plan to re-marry? If you re-marry,what's the guarantee that your new husband wont be worse than the first.And if your worse fears are confirmed,are you going to run off again.Now,counsellors will ask you: HOW MANY TIMES DO YOU INTEND TO RUN FROM ONE FAILED MARRIAGE TO ANOTHER? And if you choose to be celibate ,what is the gurantee that you can handle it without sinning against God?

4. I totally agree that adultery is a biblically acceptable ground for divorce but remember,you don't always have to apply this right especially when it may not be expedient for your situation.Past records of one's husband must be taken into consideration.I don't believe an incorrigible,indiscrete adulterer should be put on the same pedestal as a one time offender.This of course,is the same basis for judges in our courts commuting sentences or giving paroles or even outright acquittals to some offenders.Secondly,genuine repentance from the offender should be carefully assesed and considered.

5. One should be very careful not to say NEVER when it comes to matters of adultery.I fear so much when I people say "I will NEVER commit adultery". When one comes across the "RIGHT" person under the "RIGHT" circumstances,carefully schemed by the ever patient devil,will power alone may be insufficient to save.That is why the bible advises us to FLEE fornication.Dont wait to resist it,why? because we can't.

6. In summary,there is a place for forgiveness in cases of infidelity and I know countless marriages where wives or even husbands, have forgiven there spouses and the marriages have been TOTALLY healed and they have moved on as though nothing ever happened.If you consider all the points I raised above,you will see that it is an issue to be handled with a lot of tact and wisdom.Not one to rashly decide on.Some things ought to be weighed carefully before opting for divorce,which of course,is one's entitlement.Please don't get me wrong.Adultery is a serious breach of trust and must ALWAYS be viewed as such.

7. I WISH ALL OF US SAFE,TRUSTWORTHY AND BLISSFUL MATRIMONIES.

mantech:
If you are a man of conviction you wouldn't even seek for people's opinion you will just go ahead and do what you stand for.
"But Daniel purposed in his heart that he would not defile himself with the portion of the king's meat, nor with the wine which he drank: therefore he requested of the prince of the eunuchs that he might not defile himself" Daniel 1:8

The fact that you accepted the job shows that you wanted to work there but want a support from people to back up your embattled conscience. The battle is between you and God. Have you prayed to him (God). I believe God has a way of communicating with you His Mind.
Once there is a will there be a way.

Personally, I don't support Christian taking alcohol on the basis that you can drink and not be drunk. The question I ask is How much alchohol could make a person drunk - 1 bottle, 2 bottle, 3 bottle, 10bottle. You see there is no standard. A pastor that preaches drink and not be drunk will end up having drunkards in his congregation! There is no way you will continue taking alchohol that you will not be drunk for once.

After my graduation I made up my mind not to work in a tobacco or breweries company from the onset nor buy shares of such company. I have come across various adverts from british Tobacco and nigerian breweries of which I am qualified (I made a 2.1 in Elect/Elect) I just by-pass the page and kept on searching for other jobs opportunities. Today I have a good job with a good pay! I mean Six Digit Figure!

Once you decide to stand for something you will weather all storms.

mantech:
If you are a man of conviction you wouldn't even seek for people's opinion you will just go ahead and do what you stand for.
"But Daniel purposed in his heart that he would not defile himself with the portion of the king's meat, nor with the wine which he drank: therefore he requested of the prince of the eunuchs that he might not defile himself" Daniel 1:8

The fact that you accepted the job shows that you wanted to work there but want a support from people to back up your embattled conscience. The battle is between you and God. Have you prayed to him (God). I believe God has a way of communicating with you His Mind.
Once there is a will there be a way.

Personally, I don't support Christian taking alcohol on the basis that you can drink and not be drunk. The question I ask is How much alchohol could make a person drunk - 1 bottle, 2 bottle, 3 bottle, 10bottle. You see there is no standard. A pastor that preaches drink and not be drunk will end up having drunkards in his congregation! There is no way you will continue taking alchohol that you will not be drunk for once.

After my graduation I made up my mind not to work in a tobacco or breweries company from the onset nor buy shares of such company. I have come across various adverts from british Tobacco and nigerian breweries of which I am qualified (I made a 2.1 in Elect/Elect) I just by-pass the page and kept on searching for other jobs opportunities. Today I have a good job with a good pay! I mean Six Digit Figure!

Once you decide to stand for something you will weather all storms.

profteedav:
guys
theres no point taking these thing too far. i,m a staff of Nigerian breweries and i am almost certain that the guy should be one of the new sales executives.well let me tell you the truth if you don,t want to drink its better you just resign because it goes beyond just drinking. its just not the job for a xtian and i am really being objective here.i learnt all the 3 Bs in the job and now i am waiting for the opportunity to leave.If you are a xtian and you don,t want to toil with your xtian life just look forget the job.This is based on the premise that its a sales job, peace y'all