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Flocris: I am a 24year old lady, I finished my NYSC service october 2011 and i just got a very good job in lagos last month(may). Now, i am about to get married, my husband to be resides in Abuja and my traditional and church wedding would be comming up on september. My fiance said that i would quit my job immediately after the wedding and relocate to Abuja.
Considering all the stress, depression, troubles and anxiety that i went through when i was searching for a job, i dont think it would be wise for me to quit the job that i just got and relocate to Abuja where i will be staying idle until i get another job which i dont even know how long that will take.
I am thinking of canceling the wedding because i dont want to go through what i went through when i was jobless. But my best friend thinks that canceling the wedding would be a VERY BIG mistake, according to her, "husband is scarce". I am so confused, i dont want to quit my job.
Please, i need some advice from married and experienced people in the house. Which should i choose, marriage or my job?.

Bontee: That is just the way it is and i don't know why people are pretending like they are not aware of it, its a waste of time in the Nigerian setting to be debating how to change the name of a university that belongs to the government. Just do the consultation behind the scenes, announce the changes and if there is any opposition ( guess this is the first one in this new democracy ) then get the senate to approve it simple.

usbcable: Hello all.
This is to inform your all that I now have one more companion to wea rd the white jersey.
My wife gave birth to a baby boy.

This is the best moment of the season for me.

Sun, 20 May 19:59:00 2012

Dimitar Berbatov wants to leave Manchester United because he feels he has fallen out of favour with manager Alex Ferguson, but insists he would never join rivals Manchester City.

"My time at Manchester United is running out," the 31-year-old Bulgaria striker told bTV on Sunday. "I no longer feel like a valuable part of this team."

The Premier League runners-up took up an extra year's option on the former Bulgaria captain's contract in March despite him slipping down the pecking order at Old Trafford.

"I think I did well in the few opportunities that I received," he said. "But I am a little frustrated by the way this happened, I do not think I deserved it."

Berbatov, who is Bulgaria's all-time leading scorer with 48 goals, joined United from Tottenham Hotspur in 2008 for £30.7 million.

He was first-choice at Old Trafford until the latter stages of the 2010-11 season, when he fell out of favour despite being the Premier League's leading scorer.

The former Bayer Leverkusen striker was famously dropped for the Champions League final, with fringe player Michael Owen taking his place on the bench for the defeat Barcelona.

Berbatov stayed to fight for his place but, despite Javier Hernandez losing form and Owen barely seeing any action through injury, he is still mostly used as a substitute.

"I've talked 10 times or even more with the manager and he always told me there would be a place for me in the team. But after that I continued to stay on the bench," he added.

"But I have dignity and I stopped going to such meetings, it is clear that I'm leaving United. It's obvious that I have to leave.

"I'm looking for a new place now... I know I can still play at the highest level."

Berbatov has been linked in the media with several clubs from Italy, Germany, France and Turkey, but he said he would not join United's city rivals Manchester City.

"I would never join Man City, I am a loyal person after all," he said. "I had the opportunity to sign for City in the past, but I chose United."

Eurosport / Reuters

http://eurosport.yahoo.com/20052012/58/premier-league-berbatov-wants-city.html

Yujin: @Kobojunkie, did you miss the part I mentioned about enlightened minds and illiterates? Let me ask you another question; which of these crowd is prone to become violent while in the course of a protest- an organized union or a free for all, illiterate dominated group?

ritchboy: Cleverley, Fletcher, Carrick, Scholes and Pogba.

montelik: We have Ashley Young. One of the few things you can count on is his good efficiency from dead balls. It is not a pressing need as much as having deadly players on the end of the dead balls.

The midfielder I would give my right arm for this summer would be Ever Banega of Valencia. Though he still recovering from a lengthy injury, I would take the chance. In my mind he is a perfect fit (think Fabregas when was still in the EPL). The lack of suitors could help keep his price down. Though Valencia won't willing sell, a good offer should change that and we get a creative, goal scoring and fairly tenacious and hard working central midfielder/play-maker.

figures: I am actually crying because all these things are missing in my marriage. I have been married for 4yrs with 2 kids. If I try to talk to him he ignores me or says I talk too much. Mind u, I am the introvert here, he TALKS tooo much disclosing personal stuff to strangers. He hardly appreciates anything I do. Despite the fact that I work full time, I didn't have a house help until I was about resuming maternity leave for my 2nd child( he didn't want househelp). I did all the chores myself, he claims there is a washing machine dat I don't do much. He sits around and sends me on errands. He even says I am lazy sometimes. Since I had a house help I have been relieved. Always complains about about food and he cannot even cook noodles. Many times I regret marrying him. He changed completely. The area of finance is another kettle of fish. I make 90 percent of our income. I work in an oil company ( dis was just after we got married). I see this as a priviledge, so we have 1 purse. He access to my account and monitors my spending. I am not extravagant by any standard. My issue is not in buying clothes etc, he gets angry when ever I send money to my mum or siblings( dey don't know about dis). I am the 1st child and it is my responsibility to take care of them. I have 3 siblings and they are all independent. But once in a while dey need things from me. In fact dey give me more than I give them despite the fact I earn more than dem. If he discovers I sent money home, he sends money one distant cousin too. In fact I have concluded dat he does not love me. [B]I made greatest mistake of my life. [/B]Sorry for barging into ur thread op, I just had to vent. I have never discussed this wif any1.

Mcdondayan: My question is, is it by force to work for the lagos state govt? I think he shld focus on recruiting more docs who are willing to work in lagos owned hospitals. These guys deserve no mercy at all. Imagine how many pple ll die in these fedral hospitals because of "the solidarity strike"

Homar: Sevilla na dead club like liverpool their glory days are over .