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carefreewannabe: You have made some very good and true points. I'm approaching my 30s slooowly and I feel like I'm getting better from year to year in every single respect of my life. Age doesn't scare me. I live in Europe and I'm so happy about it because it doesn't matter at what age you get married HERE, oyinbos don't give a damn about it. They are concerned about more serious problems than people's / women's private lives. It's only African men who constantly try to intimidate women with the age card.

And you are right, men differ concerning their values. I have come across a great number of men of different ages and from different cultures and men are very different. This "Men are polygamous by nature" and "Wives are to blame if the husband cheats" is typically Nigerian BS.

So you are saying Science is rubbish?

Science is just some Nigerian BS?

[quote author=soul_glo]You are insecure in your masculinity because for one I never attacked it. So accusing me of that is just you projecting. Yeah I can believe that because I do not see you mucking anything. You are obviously the muckee and not the mucker. Though on a serious note you need professional help.[/quote]Knowlegdeable, I understand psychology better than you, so end that lane now.

https://www.nairaland.com/1139188/why-men-no-longer-pursuing/23#13501821

Yes, all these girls are mucking me. It is men that end up being bitter at the end.

As my "knowledgeable" sister, can you please advice me to stop women boning me and leaving me?

Please, help me.

Merkki: Mukina2- Fat, dark, chubby, wears glasses, strict and religious

She is like a hippo.

Like if she can't see food without swallowing it.

rigormortis: do you wonder why.....when a guy doesn't hide the truth and speak his mind, some girls open their mouth and attack him in public, then sneak into his room at night and then open their blouse sit on youknowwhat and attack him all night


there is a scientific explanation..........

its called the NICODEMUS effect

She does not understand psychology half as much as I do.

And she does not know I have a PhD in Womantology.

Dictionary definition of "Normal":

1. usual; regular; common; typical: the normal way of doing it ; the normal level
2. constituting a standard

So, Yes, it is normal for men to cheat.

Why is it "normal"?
- Evolutionarily, they are built to seek sleeping with as many partners as possible, not stick with monogamy.

- Empirically, majority of them do cheat all around the world.

- Culturally, in majority of the world it is accepted and they are expected to cheat.

So when they cheat, they are responding normally as expected of men. So, it is usual, regular, common, typical and arguably the world's (and Nigeria's) standard.

People need to answer the question that was posted not another one they conjured up in their head.

If you go for an anthropology exam and they exam question asks you: "Is American culture the World's dominant and international-boundary lines cultural export"?

And you start saying things like:

- America is interfering with other countries government.
- America is bombing Muslims.
- Americans don't know anything about Geography.
- American culture is bad.
- etc.

You will fail!

[quote author=soul_glo]Some woman really mucked you up. You are angry and sad. Poor thing.[/quote]Awww!

So the next move is to attack my masculinity?

You are wrong. No, it is not just one woman that mucked be up, it is 113 women that mucked me up.

They all boned me and left me high and dry.

I am so angry and sad people are just using me to satisfy their sexual pleasure.

Unfortunately, he is not really that young.

mayten30: sighs!!!dem no dey beg poo to smell,no matter how hard you talk to a mad man he will never understand,i can see that men like you are not willing to stop ur bad way of life until life teaches u a big lesson,am done exchanging words with u!have somethings to do at the studio!!.

They can't force fucktards to be stuupid.

Is you saying "studio" another desperate attempt to look cool to girls?

mayten30: hahaha mumu so when people follow me its now a crime to follow back?check my followers and check people am following if they are not the same,well i don't have time to argue with u,this is a faceless forum nah so anyone can just come and say anything they like nah,but we know them behind the forum,we know their real life scene!!!

You are hor-ny and desperate?

You will not get anything. You will only work hard and get a pat on the back for being a real man.

mayten30: exactly!!!that is what you did to your daughter!!!!*and am sure your son will grow up to be like his dad!!wow what an awful generation that will be,a generation from a man that has dick brain.

You are a pure person!

Call the police on your Dad. Even in Nigeria he would be arrested for that.

Since you already said your mother does not love you, then I am sure she will not be helping you.

mayten30: why won't u guys like each other?una be the same thing nah,wife beaters,cheating husband,molesting ur own daughters,sleep with prostitutes 24/7 u don't have time for ur wife,you cannot give ur wife 5 naira but you are ready to pay 30k on ur slut!.

Are these some of the things you dad did to your mum that is paining you so much and you have become anti-man and pro-woman?

rigormortis: some people just come here and post rubbish in the hope that a nairaland lady will pity them and give them some meat to eat.....not realising that they wont even smell or see the colour of their pant.

girls come here and complain but at the end they will still give it to guys who are bold enough to say and act how they feel and not what the girls themselves want to hear............don't argue with guys like that bro...they are still wet behind the ears....what guys like us should do is help them keep their "angelic" girlfriends wet between the legs......stop trying to change them they have their purpose

I care about girls that I care about....saying anything otherwise will be a lie....but then let the guys like him do the paying for the ones you don't care about while you do the greasing....some has to be the mechanic...someone has to be the one to put the key in the ignition....I don't care about who bought the car


if I cared about all the girls in my life you think I will have 1 naira in the bank for her to even sing whether na one naaaaaaaira?

no sir, if I did that I would always be broke,...I"ll never have no daughterfukcing indo to smoke!

Abi!

Don't mind the moronic person!

Just look at his profile and see the list of people he is following.

The mugu is literally begging for girls to like him. And you are guaranteed they would not give him shyt but he will only make a lot of friends.

Well said on the bolded. You are not a real man. No one has made you a professional mugu.

mayten30: oga abeg leave road make real men contribute jare,i want to listen to the true real married men and not babies!!i want to listen to the contribution of the real men and not babies,contribution wey make sense,contribution that is positive and we youth can learn from and not contribution from one old senseless man!!if i be ur pikin i for don use bomb blow ur head off!!!agbaya!!!!!!lol

Leave road for mugus like you to beg for a pat on the back?

REAL MAN!

https://us.cdn3.123rf.com/168nwm/macniak/macniak1202/macniak120200010/12198537-a-picture-of-a-sexy-woman-dominating-a-man-over-white-background.jpg

Professional mugu accolade!

mayten30: And am sure u sef go dey pray make ur daughter marry good man whereas you the papa sef is nothing good to write about that is even if u have daughter and even if you have you might even be sleeping with her because its obvious you think with ur dick and not ur brain,so ur dick goes into any thing under skirt!!oniranu somebody.

person, stop stipulating what your father did to you and your sisters.

It is not normal as you think, it is called abuse.

mayten30: so because a man does not cheat on his wife now makes him mugu?or a man does not cheat on his gf now makes him a mugu?hmmmm i hope my fellow youths out-there are seeing what our so called old men are saying with their mouth,can u imagine he is even promoting cheating and he is even proud to say it!!!like i said before i don't pray any woman in this world to meet men like you because any woman that does has just signed a contract with big doom!!!

No.

A man is a mugu when he argues that women are Angels. That women are nice, considerate and basically faultless.

Only a person argues that. A person would also not realise I have not even mentioned anything about men cheating. I have only focused on his arguments about women. That is a mark of a pure person!

If women are so nice, they would not hate each other so much.

mayten30: yes of course my mum taught me that women are angels and they should be treated with respect!!so if ur own mother taught u to be cruel to women and treat them like dogs then no problem!!.,i pity ur wife and children that is if you have any though!!m

Ehen!

A perfectly trained real man mugu!

https://www.nairaland.com/1433735/ladies-attitude-when-breaking-up/1#18058258

I doubt your mum loves you as much as she loves her feminism.

I don't pity your wife, she has hit jackpot. She has found a professionally-trained mugu to walk all over and when she does, he would express his gratitude and give her praises. I pity your moronic self.

The day she finds an Alpha Male who would tell what to do, you will be raising kids that are not yours. So I pity "your" children because they might not be living with their biological parents.

mayten30: the truth is bitter ba?oniranu!!!and when they say men should stand up you too go wan stand up right?now i know why they say age is just a number!!!you just old you no get brain at all!because a head is big does not mean a brain is active!!ur head just big but no brain to find.

You are a person!

Shut up and continue pleading for women to affirm you.

A cretin that wants to claim women are angels that are considerate is too dumb to be talking about women.

Abeg, someone give him a pat on the back before he gets depression.

mayten30: Checking the comments of some men on this thread i see how some parents have added to the problem in the society it shows that some people lack moral standards,their parents did not teach them that they should think with their brain and not with their dick!!!or may be their parents even taught them but they just turned their back to the moral standards given to them,finding stupid excuse for cheating,i look at some men and laugh they think their wife is not cheating because of her looks or her age not knowing that a wife that do not cheat did that because she does not want to because she knows is very wrong and not because she feels she is old or because of her looks,there are many guys out-there that it is even married women that they even run after,go to to the internet,read magazines and so on visit sexuality section on nairaland u will see many guys always asking for sugar mummies and so on,so a wife that do not cheat do that because she does not want to cheat on her husband and not that she does not have an opportunity like some men are claiming here,i think when some married women tell their husband how many men ask them for a date weekly despite being married may be by that time they will know their wife was not cheating because they think with their brain and not with their vagina and not because of something else!!!!a GOD fearing man or woman should not cheat no matter what happens in the marriage,some people also think that when a married man does not cheat it means he is happy in the marriage,that is a big lie!!some men are not happy in a marriage but they still refused to cheat because they have the fear of GOD,man or woman wey go cheat go cheat if you like give him or her 20 rounds of sex every day that will not stop him or her,once the moral standards of a man or woman vanishes cheating will be in their blood and nothing can stop it except GOD.

What is wrong with you women?

Can you all come here and give this "real man" a pat on the back asap.

He is pleading and desperate for one and you are all acting so stingy.

[quote author=soul_glo]Well you wouldn't know because you can only go by what is your standard. What has been taught to you. I am in my 30's and I look better than I did in my 20s. I feel better than I did in my 20's. I am definitely much more comfortable with me as a sexual being. I am more knowledgeable of the world now than when I was in my 20's so you are not the one that will tell me A WOMAN how men react to me. You would not know now would you because you are not a woman.[/quote]Keep deceiving yourself that you look better in your 30s than you look in your 20s.

I can only believe that if you are telling me you were butt-ugly in your 20s and decided to do something about it in your 30s. If that is the case, you missed the opportunity to hit your aesthetic potential because nature has evolved for women to be at their aesthetic peak in their late teens and twenties. You can't disprove nature with your fantasy desires.

As that late/delayed achievement is likely the case, you sure are below my standards.

If your definition of your looks is "I am more knowledgeable of the world now than when I was in my 20's", damn right, I sure wouldn't be one of the men reacting to you.

Me and Lil' Saggy react to booobs, backside, face and figure drizzled with nice personality. Those 4 are synonymous with youth, not over-the-hill, my-time-don-pass self-confidence.

[quote author=soul_glo]The other part of your post confirms what I was saying about Nigerian men having the mentality of baby daddies. And since we are speaking of Nigerian men have you seen what the average 40 year old Nigerian man looks like? Please.[/quote]Cut the crap!

And those ugly Nigerian men struggle to get women?

Men's main mode of attraction is not looks, so whether they are ugly is of less importance than if a woman is ugly. You yourself would bite off your hand to have a chance to date these 40 year old Nigerian men that do not look like Tyson Beckford, so don't think it is Sagamite you can bring such argument to.

https://www.nairaland.com/1463544/guys-no-right-choosy/8#18579133

Sorry, welcome to real life. Nature is not politically correct. That na Oyinbo man-made concept.

[quote author=soul_glo]The same grace that men who have been raised with very high standards, those who choose not to reduce themselves to Hot dogs is the same grace that many women raised with similar values apply when faced with situations like these. In Nigerian culture it is pounded into a woman that not being promiscuous is a virtue. It is not the same for most Nigerian men. Many women who choose to not cheat do not cheat because they were raised to take pride in not being sluttish. It's part of what defines respecting your self. Being respectable. Nigerian men for the most part are not taught that but ignorance of that does not make you guiltless. What sort of logic is that. I know many Nigerian families were men with that sort of behavior are frowned on. It is virtually unheard of that one of them is carrying on with a woman who is not his wife or that he is paying young girls to sleep with him. This is some people's reality Sagamite. You will refuse to believe it because it is foreign to you. You simply don't know better. You honestly think that the age thing applies to only women.[/quote]Continue deceiving yourself (and simultaneously psychologically consoling yourself) that those men you described do not cheat?

Na Sagamite you want to use moronic "real man" training words to convince?

*Saga imitates in a high pitch tone* "Oh, men that don't cheat have been raised to high standards", "A real man worships the floor his woman walks on", "A man is not mature until he can appreciate his wife when she has doubled in size and her bre-ast is droopy"

Cut the crap, woman. I am not a real man. You will need to find a more logical approach and explanation to argue with me. Men cheating has little to do with being raised in high standards. Many men raised in high standards cheat. I have seen them.

[quote author=soul_glo]Keep thinking that until you are 40 and have driven away the woman of your youth with your immaturity. That is when you will understand that paying for sex every night becomes old even for men. People like you don't face reality until reality faces them. How many Nigerian men here in the states act the fool and then in their 50's run back to Nigeria and gets a sharp young girl who comes to the US and plays them like a fiddle. If it was so glorious being an irresponsible ho they would have no problem picking up an accomplished young vibrant woman with options here in the states even with their history. They cannot because they are just not worthy of that kind of woman. They are either left with a desperate woman or a too young woman that they hope they can control. What happens after a few years in the US. When she starts to grow into a woman and see that this thing that imported her is really not even in her league. They live separate lives. But she is much younger and she will live her life. Do you really believe that a man like this has a better chance at happily ever after than a man who nurtured his marriage and put his family first? Sure such a man can fall from grace. He is only human. But if his heart is in the right place like it should he will keep his marriage as much as his wife keeps it. Even you cannot say that a man who treated his wife like a sack to deposit his STDs has the same chances at having a faithful wife by his side in his old age. Players will play but lets see how much playing you can do once you clock 40. You're living in a fools paradise.[/quote]

Someone please marry me now!

HELP! HELP! HELP!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qOgT9Ifw6Io



Cut the crap, woman! You should be the one terrified about not getting anyone as you get older, not me. Worse still when looks is not your strongest point and many men are not into women in their 30s with "knowledge".

Nature is not politically correct and I am not a mugu real man, so don't be using lame arguments with me.

Luckily I can say I have never paid for sex. ......................Except you count the financial demands and expectations of a typical Naija girl as paying for sex. Yes, I admit doing that in the past when I was younger, but now that my interest in Naija girls is virtually non-existent, my bank account is a bit more healthy.

There are a significant number of women into older men. So it is common to see older men with younger women. The reverse is odd. When I hit 60, then I would start worrying about your "advice".

Fck your happily ever after. I don't need a woman to "share" (oops, another real man word ) my life with me to be happy. That is a concept for women. To me, it is merely a bonus if a perfect one is found, which is like finding a needle in a haystack and still having your fingers crossed for close to 50 years that it remains like that.

Actually, I suspect generously "sharing" my life with many women is what would make me live happily ever after.

"a man who nurtured his marriage and put his family first ..........." Please don't make me vomit. Cut this "real man" training crap you are espousing. This is Sagamite! You can't be using some moronic euphemistic adjectives, adverbs and verbs to influence me. Find a mugu man to train.

A man can perfectly bone all the fine girls on Earth till he is old, make some serious dough while at it, live it till late before he gets married to a young, sizzling hot babe and still live a far more fantastic life than the foool that married in his 20s, starting a life of unnatural & boring monogamy without experiencing the world/variety enough and "nurturing" his marriage only for her to leave with half of his worth because she can prove she was with him before he made it. Then the mugu "real man" would sit like a bitter mugu because he invested his moronic life and got nothing for it. But he was "responsible" sha (according to his real-man trainers).


https://www.nairaland.com/958447/many-married-men-unhappy/7#11087793

[quote author=soul_glo]This is so funny. Do Nigerian men think that after they marry a woman she would never see another man that she might think "I can put it on him" or that she does not have men that still want her even when they know she is married. It takes discipline on her part. There will always be a man richer than her husband, finer than her husband, more suave than her husband that if she was not married she would mess with. It takes maturity and grace to walk away knowing that the one you have at home is more than good looks or smooth talk.[/quote]Women? ........... Discipline? ............. Maturity? .............. Grace?

Cut the crap.

Majority of women don't cheat openly or at all because it is not in their best interest, not some "discipline", "maturity" or "grace".

How come they do not have the "discipline", "maturity" or "grace" when they were in their early 20s?

Let them create a pill that can ensure women retain their look at 21 for another 40 years and you will see their "discipline", "maturity" and "grace".

I can guarantee you that if that happened, the institution of marriage would become as ancient as the Egyptian Mummies within a few decades.

Men would be sacked and replaced as frequently as Patience Jonathan murders English with her grammar.

https://www.nairaland.com/1433735/ladies-attitude-when-breaking-up/1#18072016

"Discipline", "maturity" and "grace" me black arsse.

Tgirl4real: I mean put a ring on it men. If u must chop, u should be willing to pay na.

I only pay for fine dining, not owambe food.

Tgirl4real: lol @ Mr.President.


But, why do bad guys think they deserve good guys. Someone like Sagamite should be content with a bad gal that has been serviced by all and sundry.


@ Iheniobi,

Abeg come n debate.


https://www.nairaland.com/1481634/family-section-debate-please-vote/5

I am open to a bad girl.

I just wouldn't put a ring on it or give her commitment.

Man must chop.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=27xCAloVY7U

The Kylie Minogue case is a perfect example of what happens to good guys when they date a young woman in her prime.

In the late 80s when Kylie was in her teens and early 20s, she was a darling of the nation. She was famous and cute. She was also in a famous relationship with a good boy, Jason Donovan, which everyone went "awww, they look so good together" to.

Then she met a bad boy.

Guess what happens to the nice/good boy.

http://www.topnews.in/light/jason-donovan-tells-how-kylie-minogue-broke-his-heart-272

He got dumped and she went for danger and excitement that he (Jason) introduced her to.

She was cheating on him behind his back.

She went for a notorious bad boy that took her for a ride.

http://www.express.co.uk/expressyourself/179016/The-dead-lover-who-spells-trouble-for-the-men-in-Kylie-Minogue-s-life

And the mugu Jason is playing friends with her now. He is still playing nice guy.

Lesson: Young, attractive girls in their prime want a baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad boy.

Ogbeche77: Not that long, he's already been pronounced dead by his family

I knew he could not last long.

dabriggs: Buhahaha...what will I not read on Nairaland. People who know nothing abut human psychology dropping solutions.."Do this...if it doesnt work then do that.."
Just pray you meet a guy who has been wired not to see the beauty in another woman with the desire to conquer her and have her. Some of the men who do not cheat could also be that they haven't seen the oppurtunity or temptation strong enough.There are some environments you keep a man and he wont cheat.Same go for women.
I as much as you would love to ignore it men have a desire tohave sex,procreate,feel good about their bad boy status and test it if it still works,grew up in a society where their uncles, elder brothers, fathers, kinsmen had more than one partner and bragged about it like a conquest.
Cheating has also become more common for women today.They are catching on. They are bolder and breaking free from religio-cultural norms that used to keep them bound and restricted in the past.Norms that made men Aplha and women Beta.
The only thing you can do like a few wise people have said is to let him know how it hurts and affects you including the risk it posses; STIs, unwanted pregnancies, even more expenses in keeping more than one woman(bills), and family stress and strain etc. It is no guarantee that it would even work.However it is better to appeal to his logic. If you appeal to pity or get arrogant with nagging and tantrums you will be wasting your time.
ONLY A CHEATING PARTNER CAN CHANGE THEMSELVES.But it must take strong reasons and justifications with clear benefits of fidelity compared to cheating.

So freaking well said.

So I guess maybe we should give him 5 more months before he actually dies then.

[quote author=baby_123]You are desperate to have posted that video. SMH!!!

When you turn 45, i will see what you have to say. That is if frustration has not put you in hiding. [/quote]

When I turn 45, if I have problems downstairs, I will speak to me babalawo.

All things would be resolved with a Sagamu concoction.

[quote author=baby_123]baby_123:

Only Jesus succeeded in raising the dead. What is dead is dead. Viagra may work for a while, but see the side effects:

Indigestion Less Severe
Visible Water Retention Less Severe
Temporary Redness of Face and Neck Less Severe
Head Pain Less Severe
Nosebleed Less Severe

It gets worse, see link
http://www.webmd.com/drugs/mono-297-SILDENAFIL+-+ORAL.aspx?drugid=7417&drugname=viagra+oral&pagenumber=6

In essence, dont start what you cant finish with your wife. She is managing you, and you are cheating. When nature takes it course, na then jungle go mature for you. You go hear am in words, actions and everything else. Stay faithful, enjoy and appreciate what you have. Life is a lot less complicated that way [/quote]Gaddamn it!

And people have been telling me all this while to find Jesus, I have not listened.

A mistress must be Jesus then.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=34RHhA3Dy3c

*Saga wails*

Jesus, here I come.

I give my life to you.

Ishilove: Toh is Hausa for 'okay'.

Is it my imagination or are you sounding more grown up these days?

I actually grow older each day.

[quote author=baby_123]You guys have come to gang up against me again. You want to kill yourself with Viagra and all sorts? Sexual peak means she wants it daily. Obviously those men are in the universities in an attempt to wake up a dead snake. Those uni girls will collect money to massage the men, or counsel them like therapists. hahahaaha. So that the men can pretend that they are still hunks. Still doesnt change the fact that at a certain age, most men cant satisfy women close to their age. Worse is if they marry girls a lot younger. This is why i dont blame women who marry younger men. They are seeing the future. . Going by this post and the support of most men for this iranu, it should be perfectly normal for a woman to cheat when ED strikes now. Abi[/quote]Trust me, when those 21 year old girls come out in that mini-skirt with a body that is a sin, the snake stands up like a deadly cobra!

It would strike quick spitting a potent venom.

Ishilove: Toh :-/

What is tough?

I don't understand textspeak.

Ishilove: The question now, Saga, is are you willing to give your best in the relationship? You can't be looking out for your best interests without parallel commitment.

I give what I get.