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WackyJ1: Sagamite i need your trainin course. Can it be done online.. I wanna take the fight to them.. To become Dynamite...

Not yet composed as I never even born.

I still have, at the earliest, 18 years to compose it before I need it.

You will get snippets of it on NL though as I give my views. Good thing you are following me.

[quote author=Subomi-luv]Before you write epistles, learn to read first and understand what i wrote. I did not mention anything about getting her back. If you do not understand simple English then that is ur problem and not mine.[/quote][quote author=Subomi-luv]Blimey, does this shit even work? Well I guess some girls are different. It will only affect her if she still has feelings for him but if not you are rather doing her a favor.

Its much better avoiding the whole confrontational thing since she was the one who broke up with him. The begging, shouting and all that ish she won"t have to deal with esp leaving it at her friends place would be the ideal situation. Point 2, rather makes the guy look bitter, childish and weak.

If you really want to get someone back, the best way is to handle it with calm and . As if you could not be bothered what she does/does not do. Be friendly and nice.

There was this one guy I dated a few years back. I am type of girl that does not have time for nonsense or games. I dnt have a bit..ch fit/ shout or argue. If I am fed up and need to leave then that's it.

So it was his birthday and we were supposed to go out but he said "he was sick" so will be at home. Fine I went out with my friends as another girl had her birthday too. I met the so called sick bf with another girl. I bought them both drinks. Wished him happy birthday and that was that. It could have been just as easy to pour the drink on him but being calm and nonchalant hurts more than shouting and getting all aggro and revengeful about it.

The calm collected way always works. When you act all mad and bitter. It shows that she has the upper hand. Have just given you a very important tip so as "much" as you think you know women. Maybe that shit worked for the ladies you dated but it will not work on girls like me.[/quote]

Chiadikaobi: What if dem carry gun?

That no be fraud, that na armed robbery na.

And no be say I go they carry money with me.

Sheybe na cheque I go plan give them. Or do money transfer.

Thorgan: Nice thread,I think you should ff sag's opinion.And if I may add there is nothing like real men or you are a boy not a man;it's all just psychological manipulation that ladies use on some men(learners) to get what they want.
And I still dn't know why ladies like defending s+upid attitudes of their fellow ladies on nl.

You will be surprise a lot of dumb men fall for it and take pride in wearing that badge or being patted on the back as one.

Real man my arsse!

WackyJ1: 1. He is not advising the OP on how to get the girl back, he is advising her on how to get rid of her in the way that would hurt her most.

She knows but somehow wants to spit that stewpid real-man training doctrine.

WackyJ1: 2. All you have been saying that in bolded there about you being different, you know the ironical part? I is what most if not all girls would say on nairaland, there is no lady you'll meet they'll ever admit that many ladies act inn a certain way. Remember that i said it earlier in this thread and you have just proved my generalisation right, so how are you then different?

You ladies refuse to admit that guys meet girls from different walks of life and made their inferences based on their experiences with the female folk, ofcourse humans are different and are likely to made different inferences, but when you see guys agreeing on the same point, why do you always want to take the cheap way out by saying you're different or all the girls he's been with are the same?

Somehow every girl would always claim to be the one that is different and mature.

You hear such rubbish like "where do you see these kinds of girls" when you expose their BS.

Majority are claiming they are not like that but all the ones you meet are rarely never not like that. That is why I said earlier in this thread:

"Never believe what women say, believe what they do."

"Women have an infinite capacity of breaking their own word."

[quote author=Subomi-luv]Blimey, does this shit even work? Well I guess some girls are different. It will only affect her if she still has feelings for him but if not you are rather doing her a favor.

Its much better avoiding the whole confrontational thing since she was the one who broke up with him. The begging, shouting and all that ish she won"t have to deal with esp leaving it at her friends place would be the ideal situation. Point 2, rather makes the guy look bitter, childish and weak.

If you really want to get someone back, the best way is to handle it with calm and . As if you could not be bothered what she does/does not do. Be friendly and nice.

There was this one guy I dated a few years back. I am type of girl that does not have time for nonsense or games. I dnt have a bit..ch fit/ shout or argue. If I am fed up and need to leave then that's it.

So it was his birthday and we were supposed to go out but he said "he was sick" so will be at home. Fine I went out with my friends as another girl had her birthday too. I met the so called sick bf with another girl. I bought them both drinks. Wished him happy birthday and that was that. It could have been just as easy to pour the drink on him but being calm and nonchalant hurts more than shouting and getting all aggro and revengeful about it.

The calm collected way always works. When you act all mad and bitter. It shows that she has the upper hand. Have just given you a very important tip so as "much" as you think you know women. Maybe that shit worked for the ladies you dated but it will not work on girls like me.[/quote]What utter rubbish!

How would it make him look childish and weak?

So she sounds mature to you?

Why should he be friendly and nice to an ediot?

What part of stoically is not calm and collected to you?

Why do you feel you can chat this kind of crap to me or where I am?

I look like a freaking "real man" to you? Or I look trainable to be one?

Wu Zetian: I don't understand how supposedly grown men can gather together just to talk sh1t about the opposite gender, It's vile and disturbing! Eww...

Really, lets be frank. It is your ish that is vile and disturbing.

Miasma!

[quote author=2s£xy]

Have you ever noticed how girls look at themselves, either both or just one without the other noticing that she is being gazed at ?

I mean the typical eye probing searches from head to toe...

I often ponder why they do this... It does not matter whether they know each other or not, but most times it's when they don't know each other.

Jealous creatures [/quote]It is not their fault, it is an evolutionary thing. They are programmed that way.

That is why I never get annoyed. I just risk manage the situation to my own advantage and best interest.

WackyJ1: wonderful!!! Simply wonderful, took me some time to realise that this is what they do, when you're with them, they would seem so emotional, sincere and crap like that but in their mind they don't really care, if you fall for their games, they would forget you the instant they walk out the door.

OP Resist the temptation to accept her back if she begs to come back any time soon, she is not really sorry, she just wants to
1. Find out what is it that made you so readily dismiss her
2. See if she can get you into her again so that she can dump you hard

Never believe what women say, believe what they do.

Women have an infinite capacity of breaking their own word.

Why? Because they hardly ever feel they should have responsibilities. It is always the man who should have responsibilities because it is only the person that has a responsibility that can ever be blamed. The most frequent defence of women is to transfer blame to the man by claiming to be "naive" and "vulnerable".

https://www.nairaland.com/1433735/ladies-attitude-when-breaking-up#18042331

Take it as a fact. Women always know what they are doing, they only play "naive" when it is to their advantage and they know they have no logic to stand on. Then you see person "real men" running to their rescue like White Knights to argue on their behalf as "protectors".

If I had time, it would just be fantastic fun to patronise these scam artists and have fun going along and laughing at them when you pull out the very moment they think they are about to get their first cash.

Arsenate: ^^wooow. Excellent. I wish I learnt these earlier in my life. Girls are such cruel emotional manipulators. Better late than never, though.

There is a reason why they tend to never like each other and are extremely weary of each other.

Sybellah: [size=3pt]i do not think that the length of courtship has anything to do at all with a successful marriage[/size]

How long did you court for before marriage? 3 weeks?

Sybellah: Lovely

Two crazily hot girls.

jeffp: I took the phone to repair yesterday ..and bought her a small phone yesterday to use until d phone is fixed...after 3 hours...we got into argument because i didnt pick my calls...wen she was calling bcause i was sleeping...and wen i drove to her house.. she told me to get out of her house..,..i didnt ..instead.. i petted her..and made sure she was happy...as i got home ....i sat down..and realized dat she will never respect me in her life.. d see finish don too much.,. dis morning.,.i sent her an sms telling her..it is over... she replied..saying.. i am a coward...that i should come and tell her to her face. i jiust ignorned d sms and didnt reply back.. she has sent another one..dat she wants to come and pick up her stuffs.. still i didn't reply....

Now back to the tory before the ugly hoodrat with diseased & smelly ish interrupted.

The reason she wants to "come and pick up her stuff" is because you are ignoring her. Now she feels you have some control and you are dumping her without as much sweat as her ego needed. She wanted you to beg while she dumped you so she can carry her head high and tell all her friends.

I can guarantee you 1000% when she comes to pick her stuff, she would either start an argument or do something physically/attitudinally to provoke you into an argument just to get the satisfaction that you are upset about the break-up. Not because she gives a hoot about you or the relationship, just to massage her ego. Note: When a woman stops loving you, you are worse than her shyt!

I have said this a few times on NL:

https://www.nairaland.com/293032/taking-50-wealth/1#4168241

Either:

1) Ask her what are the stuff and then tell her you will drop it for her.

2) Or let her come and get it.

For (1), what you should do if she agrees is get all her stuff and then don't even take it to her house. Take it to one of her friends and tell her to help you hand it over. Don't warn her or her friend in advance that is what you are going to do. Just drive up to the friend's house and say you are traveling and X told you to pass it over to her to help her keep till she picks it up. Then text your ex (don't call, that is too polite) that you dropped it with her friend and she should go there and pick it up.

That would avoid the argument, is sufficiently rude to a rude cun*, would let her know you have no respect or regards for her, and would make it difficult for her to boast to her friends that she dumped you while you were crawling and begging. She would be pissed but ignore her phone calls and her angry texts. Don't show emotions whether anger or ridicule.

For approach (2), tell her to let you know when she is coming so you would be at home. If she does not, do not open the door for at least 15 mins. It she does, pack her stuff and as she knocks, open the door and hand it to her and close the door without saying a world apart from "here they are". Don't let her come in.

It is important you do not take the argument bait. When you refuse to fall for the argument/shouting bait, she would play the emotional card because she can't leave you feeling you dumped her and you do not give a hoot. She would start crying and trying to tell you that you are a bad person for the way you are treating her. Waiting for you to be dumb and start petting her. The temptation is to complain about "What about how she has treated you?", but you are wasting your time arguing with someone that is definitely not interested in logic, fairness or respect. She would never agree with you, all she is interested in is an argument and manipulating you. Ignore her and tell her, in a moderate tone, the door/gate is still open for her to exit. Don't say it angrily, don't say it rudely, don't say it with passion, don't say it mockingly. Just say it stoically.

Watch how it would bite her for months and years to come that you can cut her off in a second permanently.