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This is the king of risks I am talking about when people rush to marry who they do not know:

https://www.nairaland.com/269341/me-same-guy-slept-us

The longer the courtship, the more the risk is reduced.

andromida: @ Sagamite your wife has my prayers.

She aint gonna need it if her head is correct.

Keep it for your hubby.

armyofone: You stay for better for worst for gratuity or not forever till death do you part.
i love those line men
especially if reciting those lines with a rich bobo you know with fake tears, i love you baby,

You dey crase!

armyofone: lol, i know i know. that guy is something. don't be surprise he is calm in real life with 'fire starter' for chic

ronkebp: Yeah!!!! he is.....he has mouth on the computer only!!!!!

Yeah, yeah, yeah

I'm the trouble starter, punkin' instigator
Oh, I'm the fear addicted, danger illustrated

I'm a firestarter, twisted firestarter


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wmin5WkOuPw&feature=related

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Talk is cheap.

What would you do if an (ahem)...enchantress gets to you and offers you er... mind blowing ...??

You saying you won't suddenly see your old wife for what she really is? Especially a bore in the bedroom department??[/quote]My wife would not be a bore in bed and by the time I am FFFFFINISHED with her, I would be impotent anyway.

armyofone: and what do you mean by "quality wife"? a time in your old age that you should lay back and enjoy quiet time with your wife you are being selfish.
how do you know you are a quality husband? that she wasn't managing a "limpy and no tashi johnny?

what kind of quality you looking for in old age with your wife? s.ex? no more quality sex, love, food, time?
if the wife is not giving him quality se.x anymore, the can solve that by seeing a doctor/communicate. anyway, you never jam

If I am not a quality husband, is it not a good thing I leave her and go and find someone that likes the quality I have to offer then?

Yorisb:

Persin wey propose to someone he hardly knows, now is more bother about her being older than him.

If he knows such little detail bothers him, why did he not do his research?

deshclones: coming from someone that constantly faults the nigeria education system.....all i can do is smh for you man.........

Shake your head for yourself.

By the way, for clarity, I believe in sharing 50/50 after a marriage where the wife was a full-time housewife and the man never made significant money she can't easily make herself.

andromida: Have you thought if he is a good husband he would have stuck to his marital vows and found new ways of loving his wife.? btw its not the duty of a good wife to chain her hubby down and makesure he does not follow sweet sixteens it is his responsibility to himself first and then to his wife to acquire self discipline and self respect. Now sweet sixteen go cruise am wella for house. Am beginning to feel sorry for the man. The youngie will soon flee when his change finish and wahala too much. Where will that leave him?

Have you thought if she was a good wife she would have done enough for him to cherish and adore her by now to the point this could possibly not happen?

I know I will not dream of leaving a quality wife (that has shown me qualities I love) in her old age, but I sure damn will leave a fooool and no marriage vows shouting will stop me. I will tell people where to shove it.

What is lack of discipline or respect in being attracted to a beautiful woman?

If the youngie leaves, is it not better to live a happy medium life than a miserable long life?

I am really torn between

a) feeling sorry for them that their thieving rulers have degraded them to the point they act desperately to survive

or

b) saying good riddance, we need to reduce the population anyway so why not some fools sacrifice themselves, because when will Nigerian fooools ever learn.

A typical UK Black woman.

- Rude
- Selfish
- Head up her arse
- Parasite
- Moronic sense of entitlement
- Not that great looking

I will gladly smack her and all her friends where possible.

She would be a desperately sad soul if she ever marries your dumb arse.

Michky: Oya Lets go there Were! Wen i manage mess ur mama (even wen i cudnt bear d odour of dat hole btw her legs), she ask 4 abortn whch i refusd. Stubornly, she go do am. Unfortunatly, d drugs only disfigurd u. Dat na y i no gre acept u. Tel me, is she stil alive? I promise, I go use condo.m & cova my nose if she beg me 2 mess her hard again. I cnt stand anoda disfigurd bashtard like u. Oloshi buruku.

What a person!

You are still struggling to spell?

chaircover: Na lie. Sage travels chicken or beef class

That is only when my pilot is on annual leave.

marshpearl: coming to your place and you have'nt touched her yet?. .u need help cuz i think this babe wants to get laid and nt love

Well said, nigga. Are you sure you are not a graduate of my dating masterclass?

@ OP,

The girl wants to use you for one of 2 things:

1) Get laid

or

2) Enjoy your attention and money to boost her ego.

Now is the time to decide whcih you think is to your best benefit and stop wasting your time living a fairy world of being with her.

You wanna guess which of the two I would pick to help her with?

Answer (For Ladies): NO

If a woman is not making any unprompted contact with you, SHE DOES NOT LIKE YOU AND IS NOT THAT INTERESTED.

jennykadry: Answer my questions. I am not marrying a man who will miscalculate my own funds

Look at this gold-digger.

Ok! I will tell you.

One 2 bedroom council flat in peckham that I share with 8 people and 15 face-me-I-face-you apartments in Sagamu that I inherited from my ancestors (and which many relatives that tried to fight me for a share, over the years, have already died or gone mentally crazy because of).

jennykadry: How much are you worth Saga? how many houses do you have overseas and in Naija?

Know that in Sagamu we don't count wealth using your traditional monetary value.

I am worth 8bn bags of garri and I have one private jet. All stored in Sagamu.

Do you calculation on that.

Wislet:
as true as it comes

Wetin?

You never get over me yet?

jennykadry: WTF Please type in English. This isn't funny

I really do not know why people feel the need to write like an illiterate.

He is an utter person!

Michky: Dis 1 na small boy. Confirm!

You are a cretin. Confirmed!

Michky: & In adition, i av a question 4 evry1: do u av 2 love ur lecturer to get ur certificate? My point? Mariage is like school. U dont av 2 love it prior 2 admisn 2 guarante urself a degree. A guy noted in dis thread dat an arrangd mariage dint work 4 a lady he knows cos she loves sm1 else. Look guy, if as a student u dont do ur duty, u'l falter! As 4 me sha, Love is minor. Whats important in school is whats important in mariage: do ur DUTY and evryoda tin wil b good. E.g. As a man/woman, ur duty is 2 respect, love ur partner etc, u get it? Love who u marry. Case closd. (N.B.) If u mary boko, u'r on ur own o.

And this confirms you are really a proper person.

jennykadry: Wow you must really take this thread so seriously. You people think it is only women that lose out in break ups? Just so you know I have a lot of "toasters wealthier than my husband waiting for him to fvck up so they can have the opportunity to go down on both knees" . Cc and ify think they are the only ones that have toasters in this life, well sorry to burst their bubbles. I gat heaps Thank you very much

Second off I practice a profession that honestly if not for the Funds miscalculation curse placed on me by CC and co, I can do well for myself without a dime from my husband. Many Women these days hold solid bachelors, masters,phd certificates and still have a solid business On the side.

[Goes on his knees and raises one hand in the air like a good student]: No 1 toaster here with private jet packed next to his Mansion in Sagamu.

jennykadry: Third off I signed no prenup.

We go sign that one when we marry jor. Even if na juju I go use make you sign am.

jennykadry: By God's grace my husband and I will still be married in 70yrs time so we are stil in the honeymoon phase

God forbid bad thing. My babalawo says he would dedicate the rest of this year to parfuka it and you will be coming with me.

OAM4J: Yeah that is true for the current trend of things in Nigeria. But majority of the senior judges we have now are those that were employed in the 60s and 70s. Then there were no cheap charge and bail lawyers as we have them now. So most of those who opted for the bench then were Northerners.

In those days if you are a graduate not even as a Lawyer or Doctor or Engineer you know there are tons of employments with housing and brand new car waiting for you. No longer the same now.

I just looked at the way judges are appointed in the UK:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/High_Court_judge#Appointment

I believe Nigeria would have adopted the colonial master's old system and most likely not changed it to the new UK system. So I really think quota system and tribalism would have heavily played a significant part in why most judges are northerners and consequently virtually all CJNs are Northerners.

hannydarl: Ñ
Two scenarios yoUr son marries a woman who does not give a shit about family and home. She treats him badly and after thinking she will change for a long time he sees no change. decides to complain and then she says F you , hell I don't nEed all this monitoring I am leaving you and taking half your millions with me. Will you tell him to give her that money or you will argue for a fair sum for the kids sake.
Scene two, your daughter marries a guy who tells her she must quit her job and stay at home to look after the kids. She does everything to keep the home happy while he does little or nothing phySically or emotionally to run the home cos he is rich and thinks his money will keep her shut. If she gets tired and decides to leave will you not think its only fair for her to get as much as she can get from him? Hell if he was abusive like many nigerian men are then by all means let her get a million bucks for each slap, verbal insult and what Ever else she endured.

No!

I would think she should get what she worked for plus the opportunity cost of what she sacrificed.

It is not fair for her to get money she did not earn.

If he was slapping and she stayed with him, then she deserved the slaps. If she does not like it, she should have called the police.

OAM4J: This question has been answered before.

It will always go to the North because many lawyers from the North go for the bench while the ones from the South opt for the bar because there is less money on the bench compare to the bar. Its a case of the South cant eat its cake and have it. The reason you will also find more SANs in the South compare to the North.

Check the list of Nigerian judges, you will find more Northerners on the list.

I doubt that will be the only factor contributing to that outcome. I am pretty sure quota system will also play a part.

Secondly, I would be very surprised if their are more Northerners as judges. If that is the case, I would be interested in knowing the judge selection process and criteria. Surely there are tons of sounthern lawyers who would not find space in the lucrative part of the bar and would have to settle for bench as well instead of charge and bail work loitering. Pure Supply and Demand.

ronkebp: Because the "two shall become one", whatever the husband own belongs to the woman also and vice-versa.....now i know you do not beleive in the Bible or the Koran, as long as we are obeying the "be fruitful and multiply law" and "a man shall leave his family and clive to his wife and they shall become one" the man's gratuity technically also belongs to the woman, if the man is sweating; she is also sweating, if he is crying; she is crying, if he is rich; she is rich and if he is poor; she is also poor.

Abeg keep you sermons, my friend. All these does not apply to ifa people.

Two can never become one. Not in mathematics and not in real life.

The values of the bible or of other people's peception of marriage should not be forced on all.

I share in marriage, when the marriage ends, I take what I contributed minus what I want to give.

There is no way I will marry someone and then leave them destitute in old age. It is completely against my innate moral fibre. Even when I am retired, that means I most like have less than 17 years to live, she can have whatever money she wants if she was mostly a housewife, I wouldn't give a toss. I can't take it to the grave. If I was younger (and hence the marriage was younger, then I will think of ME).

That said, the man has already done right by giving her a house. What is happening here is some people think he should be forced to love her because of their ages.

armyofone: even if Sagamite doesn't believe in the bible or koran, the oyinbo law of where he resides must apply.

if you have been married for some years, the woman must get something if the marriage eventually ends.

in the UCMJ, i think it is half the time of his service. Automatically you get part or % of his retirement pay
in the Civilian justice system, not too sure how long to be married to get money but you will get money . The man can't run away with what you both worked for even if you were "stay at home" mommy.

ronkebp: He knows all these, that is why he is avoiding taking the step.....scary cat

See winches!

You know nothing. There are TONS of ways to avoid such and Sagasuper has the brains to execute the ways.

Una (with ya oyinbos) no fit get a dime of me.

cliveland: we do we have more cowards than men in naija dis days....

my old father perhaps in his late 65-75 years decides to marry a 2nd wife after my mum had slaved and spent her life time for 'US" and because he suddenly happens into some cheap money decides for a new thing not only will i THROW HIM OUT........in short my father could never in his wildest desires and dreams dared it.late now.

Maybe we should look this scenario:

a man marries a lady when they were young, they struggle to have kids as a couple and never had a blessing, however unknown to the man she had a back-up plan and had children with other men outside her matrimonial home and brought these kids home in one guise or another as cousins, nieces, nephews etc. And the man cause he never had any trained them all as if there were his, only for the woman now they into their old ages tells him that each of these kids are hers but for Mr. A, B, C & D who now want their children back..... meaning he toiled in vain.. perhaps they are all graduates now and secured better jobs..... of course we shall all proclaim her as an "ASHAWO"!!!!

How does your moronic analogy relate to the fact this man does not love his wife anymore?

andromida: A fact is staring at you people in the face and you all are refusing to see it. THE MAN DOES NOT OWN THE HOUSE. Is that so hard to see. I have seen numerous men marry another woman in their old age and the children still respect and love their Dad. what is obvious here is that the children have NEVER seen any value in the man. They have always disrespected him. We all know why children disrespect their parents.

We cannot know the extent the man went to, i imagine he called the children to come and carry their mad mum he cannot deal with it. Infact instead of keeping the other house he wants to move his sweet sixteen into the house when the kids and their mum have vamoosed. I imagine this made the kids suffer from temporary insanity it can happen to anybody faced with this kind of man. This is not to justify their actions but certain provocations can make anybody lose it.

I hear some men saying mayb 1st wife was never a good wife. Na lie. We know you men if she wasn't good enough he would have abandoned her since. He won't wait till now. Any man that will be this heartless was always heartless. i will propose that the woman kept the home together financially and morally and that the man was more of an absentee father which is why the children can treat their father thus. I have no sympathy for him actions have consequences.

Have you ever thought maybe if she was a good wife, she would have earnt his respect and she would have built a bond with him that will never make him think of taking a new wife?