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Besthelp01:
I will advise to wait a little bit while you venture into something different and once it starts to pay off, you can then leave.

ZiiVentures:
Writing.

I'm also learning character design and animation.

SangoOlukosoOba:
Please shut da fvck up


Must you always find something stupid to say?

Passionate888:
how much and where do you plug it in?

odimbannamdi:
Thanks for this detailed expose. Much appreciated.

Which car scanner would you advise one buys to be able to scan car issues by himself?

kennosklint:
calabar girls can run

FanOfMyself:
I personally prefer Ford, Chevrolet, et al to all these Toyota, Honda, Lexus wey full everywhere. But I have a question, how much is the cost of maintenance of ford compared to brands like toyota and lexus? Also how available are the mechanics with enough experience to take care of it.

sulm:
Gazuzz and other guru....

Please I just got a pilot 09, when the car is cold, the transmission dip stick does not show any level, but when hot or gear engaged, the dip stick has oil on it beyond the hot line.

Pls is this normal? If no, what kind of oil can I get for pilot 09 transmission? Do I top up? Or drain and refill new oil?

nacozee:
Please what do you guys think about thermostats in Nigeria. Is it okay to run your vehicle without it or does it have any adverse effects on the engine?

Am wondering since it is a device that can fail, what if it's better to remove it so you have no overheat in case it fails

zed7:
You have been so abused by toxic women you now feel its normal. Of course a woman expressing herself is different from what the OP is claiming.

There are a million decent women with self worth out there, the problem is most of you are damaged and naturally seek damaged women also. Like attracts like.

Goldencheese:
Thanks for your reply. The issue is this simple, you have the privilege of knowing who your girlfriend or fiancee is now. If you cannot put up with her manipulations anymore, call a meeting between two of you, could be outside of your house and discuss things with her. Let her know how you feel about her, the murmurings, the tears, the need for cuddling and all that. Tell her the kind of woman you want. For example, you made an important point, after working and coming home to rest, you expect to meet your significant other making the home bearable and a delight to you and not one that you have to start petting when you need to rest yourself. Let her know the vision you have for your family and that there is no room for someone that behaves like her. This communication is important so that both of you can save yourselves the time and look for more compatible partners. This world is not difficult. But keeping her and giving her the impression you will go ahead to marry her and then at the same time suffering in silence won't do any of you any good. That is how I would have reacted. Why should a young woman be murmuring? Did she live with old people? Those are issues to correct in time, and if they can't be corrected, you should know what to do because you seem to me to be an Alpha male.

Wishing you both the best in life.

philo04:
Who can assist me pls....is there anything i pressed

Demigod22:
I totally understand your frustration but never go physical on her. Whenever she is crying and talking, just pet her and when she is strong, try and explain to her about how that behavior affects your psyche.

feezay86:
Taliban has taken total control of the country. This would have happened during GeJ, Boko haram jihadists would have taken over the Government because the North was totally in support of it.

samsegs:
There's something she want u to do for her,, u know ladies and their fragile emotions... If u can't bear it, just find something amusing to tell her... U can be like,in a funny way, "see ur wide mouth,cry cry baby"...no need for domestic violence

GTCO:
Even as a girlfriend there is no woman that doesn't nag. Every woman on Earth nags, it's even worse when she is married.

@Op make her understand categorically that you despise someone trying to manipulate you by crying and talking at the same time.. tell her you will need a break from the relationship... (Just to strike sense in her brain)
But don't dump her... Every woman nags

Queenslander:
Macho Man,
Why in God's earth would you lay your hands on her?? That wasn't necessary, one bit..
I mean, who gave you that right??
You have to apologise to her,. And ask her for forgiveness,.
She's crying cause she's hurt and
she really needs you to listen to her,.
she wants you to be a better man.. not taking her for granted!! Work on your relationship boy,. before you destroy it!!

Goldencheese:
Marriage no be a walk in the park. If you feel you can't cope, when she sobers, call her attention and have a long talk with her about your relationship with her. It could be that you've not been listening to her feelings. When there's no communication in a relationship, anytime there's a crisis, the weaker party, which mostly is women will pour their hearts out. You have to train yourself to listen to their words. If she is manipulative and it is something she does, it is bad but if she suddenly opens up and it is one of the rare times she does, omo, you need to sit up and listen if you value that relationship.

And why would you slap a woman? You never marry you dey slap her? Omo, you go slap tire o. Never raise your hands against your significant other. I learn patience through my woman. Before I got married, if I see say you be drama queen, I go just withdraw but if a woman is good to you but because you don't listen or create room for communication in the relationship she voices her concerns through her tears, if you love her listen to her. Tears, emotions are not bad o. If you meet those ones wey their mind be like stone, you will thank God say your own they cry o.

The tears of a woman are priceless. They remind you of our common humanity, vulnerability and emotional commitment. They could be used for manipulation, too, but if they are not, they are priceless.

zed7:
In your marriage perhaps. In healthy marriages, it's not.

At OP, life is too short to be with damaged or unhappy people. Most people are in toxic relationships, they see the signs yet choose to ignore it and end up being miserable in marriage.
Anyone that can't give you peace and happiness should not be in your space not to talk of being emotionally entangled with them.
Since you're complaining, she isn't for you. She will find a man who would t mind her type of drama, there is somebody for everybody.

EmptyGarden:
Absolutely normal in marriage... But where that slap come from? You neva even marry you don begin slap, i wonder wetin you go do when you marry o, 'cause women talk no dey finish o, as I'm writing this sef my ear dey pain me.

Tokskob2008:
A lady talking and crying at the same time simply means deception and manipulation...

ikorodureporta:
Like the positions you held and trainings you've taken